Hugs mama. Re: trauma, I don’t know the timing, but could it be the pandemic, at least in part. I don’t feel like *I* am processing it as trauma, but our kids are getting trauma screening when they return to school. So i think many kids are processing it that way, even if it doesn’t feel that way to them.
Post by Monica Geller on Aug 27, 2020 12:42:43 GMT -5
Oh Kat! ((Hugs)) I haven’t been on in a couple days with school starting, but you know I’m in the neighborhood if there’s anything I can do for your family! please PM me.
Post by InBetweenDays on Aug 28, 2020 9:35:18 GMT -5
I don't know how I missed this thread. I'm so glad she felt safe coming to tell you how she was feeling. You are an amazing mom. Hoping this will be the help she needs, and hope you have someone you can talk to as well. Big hugs.
I'm so sorry that this is all happening. It's really wonderful that your DD was honest with you and you were able to be with her through this and work on getting help. It's got to be hard when you are working to do the right thing and make things better, but the "help" isn't actually helpful. I hope things look up soon.
Big hugs, mama. This is a lot to handle. You're doing amazing and I'm so glad that she came to you and was honest about her struggles. That says so much about her as a person, and about you guys as parents.
Post by thatgirl2478 on Aug 28, 2020 18:37:40 GMT -5
I'm so sorry your daughter and your family are going through this. I'm very proud of her though. She recognized that she needed help and she reached out appropriately.
That is one brave girl you have. Is there anything we can do to help, katfco ? I know this is so hard on your whole family. but, I'm sure it's weighing on you in particular. Be kind to yourself, and do make sure to talk about it (when you're ready). I hope you both get a better night's rest tonight.
Post by sunshineluv on Aug 30, 2020 15:22:26 GMT -5
katfco, she has continued to be in my prayers, you too. I am so proud of you and how amazing of a mom you are. It sounds like she is getting the best care. I would have never though OCD from the things you have described, but it makes sense now that you say it. I really really hope that when and if you get a diagnosis you get a path/plan for the future. Knowledge is power with this stuff. Love and hugs to you.
Oh, BIG hugs katfco . I have OCD and it was misdiagnosed as depression when I was a tween - that is very common. My specific manifestation involves health (mine, my loved ones) and harm coming to anyone or anything I love. Thoughts of harm coming to people you love or yourself are very, very common with the disorder. Most of OCD - even the cleaning, orderly variants, come down to, if I don't do this, X might happen. I've totally had the home invasion obsession.
I can recommend a few books to you as her support person, one of which is Imp of the Mind.
The good news is that while OCD is a lifelong condition it IS treatable with CBT and meds. I hope she's feeling much better soon. For me, just being diagnosed and realizing these "bad thoughts" were normal was a huge relief. There are a lot of famous people and celebrities with OCD - with a teenager, that might be a good place to start, letting her know that these thoughts and anxieties happen to a LOT of people and it doesn't have to be debilitating or make you feel like a bad person or freak. And she doesn't have to be her diagnosis - it's just a health condition like anything else. It's going to be OK and it's going to get so much better from here!
Post by formerlyak on Aug 30, 2020 16:35:54 GMT -5
The OCD is definitely treatable and very manageable.
Re: the alarm, would it make her feel better to put one of those window ones in her room. DH used to travel a lot for work and when I was here alone I’d worry about someone getting in so much that I couldn’t sleep. Those little stick up window alarms where you can switch it on and then if the two connectors are moved away from each other they ring gave me a sense of security.
Sending you hugs and good thoughts. I have a daughter with OCD. Her OCD diagnosis was when she was about 7 and she is 11 now. She was just diagnosed with anxiety before that time. Feel free to pm me if want to talk or anything. I can also tell you about a few FB groups I am in that are helpful.
So glad she’s in a place where she is getting help!
Oh, BIG hugs katfco . I have OCD and it was misdiagnosed as depression when I was a tween - that is very common. My specific manifestation involves health (mine, my loved ones) and harm coming to anyone or anything I love. Thoughts of harm coming to people you love or yourself are very, very common with the disorder. Most of OCD - even the cleaning, orderly variants, come down to, if I don't do this, X might happen. I've totally had the home invasion obsession.
I can recommend a few books to you as her support person, one of which is Imp of the Mind.
The good news is that while OCD is a lifelong condition it IS treatable with CBT and meds. I hope she's feeling much better soon. For me, just being diagnosed and realizing these "bad thoughts" were normal was a huge relief. There are a lot of famous people and celebrities with OCD - with a teenager, that might be a good place to start, letting her know that these thoughts and anxieties happen to a LOT of people and it doesn't have to be debilitating or make you feel like a bad person or freak. And she doesn't have to be her diagnosis - it's just a health condition like anything else. It's going to be OK and it's going to get so much better from here!
Feel free to PM me.
Would you happen to have a list or poster of those celebrities with OCD? I would love to show it to my daughter.
The OCD is definitely treatable and very manageable.
Re: the alarm, would it make her feel better to put one of those window ones in her room. DH used to travel a lot for work and when I was here alone I’d worry about someone getting in so much that I couldn’t sleep. Those little stick up window alarms where you can switch it on and then if the two connectors are moved away from each other they ring gave me a sense of security.
this is what I was going to suggest as well.
I agree that a deadbolt for her room is a bad idea. You can use the window alarms on the door too, but it may be more annoying than putting it on the window.