I just got an email from a publication for in house lawyers. The subject is “You Can Watch Your Employees Pee in Ohio.” Certainly grabbed my attention.
Post by supertrooper1 on Sept 3, 2020 10:05:03 GMT -5
Beau's 2nd grandchild was born on Tuesday. It's strange to think that I'm dating a grandpa, but then again kids I went to HS with already have grandkids too.
We are down to the wire with potty training DS2. He needs to be potty trained in two weeks or he can't go to preschool. DS2 definitely knows the mechanics of going on the potty, but will wet himself if we put underwear on him (even with reminders). When he is naked for baths, he will tell us if he needs to go. He wants to be a big kid and go to school like DS1 and DD, but he is also a stubborn one when it comes to new things. DH has been mostly in charge of the potty training since I've been working so much, but he gives up after less than a day because he doesn't see any progress. So I've cleared my calendar and I'm giving it one last mighty try this weekend with the 3 day method and hoping for the best. I will take any and all advice that you guys have!
polecat8, I can help with the stubbornness, but if they know how to do it but wet in the underwear than I agree having them run around naked is the way to go, and easier when it is warmer outside. When we did the 3 day method with DS, it was terrible because he didn't know how to release the muscles, so at least he has that mastered.
After the 3 day method, to re-inforce, still have them run around bottomless as much as possible when you are able to. Lots of reminders and rewards. I remember reading somewhere if they were at a certain percentage rate of going in the potty versus accidents, to keep going. I can't remember what that rate was, lets say 65-70% at the end of the 3 day method, keep going. Even if that rate means they are still having accidents daily. We had 1-2 accidents a day for several weeks. Then it went to 4 accidents a week, then 3, then 2, then 1- you get the idea.
I just got an email from a publication for in house lawyers. The subject is “You Can Watch Your Employees Pee in Ohio.” Certainly grabbed my attention.
Talked to DD's teacher last night. When I told DD who it was I got the WTF look. Then after 60 seconds of shock she was like she teaches 5th grade does that mean I'm in 5th grade?
polecat8 , Flat our bribery. We used M&M's for DS and then DD didn't think those were enough, so it was mini Reese's. You got more if you pooped in the potty. Which had led to M&M's at my house being called "potty candy" forever more.
186momx , Teachers at our school are shuffling around a lot. DS got a teacher who has never taught 3rd grade. But has been the gifted teacher for 10 years? Who knows, she seems nice.
Not sure if this works, or just for us. We took DS to the store and he saw this big wheel motorcycle. We said you pee in the potty and don't pee in your underwear anymore and you can have it. He was good within the week. Similar with DD, except she had continued issues at night, which were out of her control. My kids need big bribes I assume.
rere- DD wanted a Snackeez. You know, that cup with a built in snack bowl in the top. DS wanted a Dream Tent. My kids are motivated by As Seen on TV crap apparently. But bribes totally work for day training.
Food bribes didn't work for either kid. DD wanted to go to Billy Beez when I was 7 months pregnant, so of course that was what finally motivated her. Huge pregnany woman trying to climb through play tunnels. DS bribes didn't work at all. He just needed someone not in our family to tell him what to do. So Alexa told him every 15-30 minutes to go potty, and he listened to her long enough to figure it out.
My random.. we moved into a new office building. I love it. They did a better job with the design than I would have ever imagined. Buuuuuuuut.. they're not allowing our personal artwork to be displayed and they're bringing over the artwork from the other building and supplementing it with new stuff. IT IS REALLY FREAKING AWFUL STUFF. AWFUL. Like.. if they hang it in my office, I'm going to cry.
k3am, ugh I'm sorry. If they hang them up can you make a complaint that it gives you a headache or you work better with no distractions on the walls. I would go with white walls over those paintings.
No bribe for DD she really wanted to be with the big kids. polecat8, can you just say if you want to go to school like sibs then you have to use the potty otherwise no school.
Random question, a co-worker knows that some work is harder for me to do at home and was trying to work around that, but inevitably gets it to me like 5 minutes before my work from home day. I am assuming because her schedule is getting away from her.
How much work would you do on this on the "harder" work from home days as opposed to the easier in person days? Typically I was waiting until my next in person day, but with the holiday that pushes it back. I thought I might make a token effort on high demand stuff. I'm always on top of things compared to others doing the same work, but they have the tendency to think the work is more urgent than it actually is.
polecat8, toy bribes never worked for our girls - they wanted instant gratification every time. We did the three day method with all of them over a long weekend and never looked back. They got a skittle for potty and chocolate for #2.
waverly, I have things that I go into the office specifically to do - because if I do them in the office, it takes me 20 minutes, if I do them at home, it takes me an hour or more. So.. they wait. A client sent in something today a few minutes before I headed out.. and it will wait until I'm back in the office next week.
If your job is much like mine, lives are not at stake if it's done a day or two later. I do have some stuff that comes up when I'm not in the office that lives aren't at stake, but businesses are, so those ones, I suffer through.. (I'm looking at you PPP loans)
I think the guy in charge of office artwork reads this board. I just got the heads up that they put in a special request to have my personal artwork hung up and I'm dancing a happy dance. I've had my own pieces leaned up against the wall, hoping that they run out of vomit art before they get to my office. They are nothing spectacular, but they are a million times better.
Apparently my office has been used in all of their promo pictures for the board and everyone "likes my style". (To be fair, it's the best decorated office on the floor. It is.. also one of the few that's not still in boxes.)
Post by sandandsea on Sept 3, 2020 19:38:13 GMT -5
I just got an email from the teacher that she is unable to mute DS in Webex so there is background noise and he’s having hotspot connectivity issues. He is using district provided devices as promised and provided by the district.
I’m annoyed. While I want to know and help ds learn, I feel there is nothing I can do about this. He’s at a DL support site and they don’t have internet capacity for all the kids as the kids are supposed to have district provided hot spots.
These seem like district/school problems and responsibilities that they need to figure out to make distance learning feasible. They’ve had 6 months and it’s subpar at best so far. 6 hours of live synchronous class time for 8 year olds with bad connections, tests that don’t load and have incorrect answers, systems crashing weekly, etc. and we have to do a second supply pick up day because they didn’t have everything we needed when the year started. We have been in class more than 3 weeks so this isnt first week bugs.
I’m trying really hard to not complain to the teacher as I know they’re trying really hard and care about the kids. But I’m getting more and more frustrated with the situation. Aside from taking a leave of absence and throwing away one of our careers, hiring a private tutor to homeschool him for $60/hour, or some other drastic measure what CAN I do to fix this?
We have asked the distance learning site to upgrade their internet and have offered to buy a modem/WiFi/ etc for them (even though it’s not their or our responsibility). Is there anything else we can do? I’ve been taking lots of deep breaths.
sandandsea I had a separate post that got eaten, but at this point, I’m labeling distance learning somewhere between “meh” and “leaning towards failure.”
We are 3ish weeks in, and DD has had one assessment and two assignments due (one video of what their favorite color is, one “write something”) - neither graded and no feedback. They weren’t able to get WebEx to work properly yesterday or today.
We have zero idea of what she should be working on, if she’s meeting expectations or lagging behind. Our teacher hasn’t responded to emails or text (via district texting platform). All I want is communication to let me know if we’re doing okay or not, but it’s apparently too much to ask.
I.. want to help, but can’t, since we aren’t getting the tools to help. We’ve tried to be patient and understanding and not overwhelm the teacher, but I don’t know how much longer I can be hands off.
sandandsea does the district have a tech person who you could contact for help. We were told to get district devices so if we had problems the tech department could help us. This is tech problem not a teacher problem, not a kid issue, and not a parent fix problem. My DD wont have a silent work space and I'm guessing 95% of the kids won't either.
k3am I think it is time to voice your communication concerns to the admin. 3 weeks and no response to email is just wrong and would never fly in the business world.
waverly if it isn't life or death or deadline due date (grant) it can wait until you are in office again.
sandandsea and k3am ITA with 186momx - both of those issues aren’t acceptable and the district/teacher should at least be willing to communicate and troubleshoot with you.
Yes. The district has IT and has “helped” By providing a group hot spot and have now washed their hands of it. The background noise thing baffles me. It’s Webex, we all know the host can mute all so idk what setting is messed up there except that it’s gone down several times.
Synchronous instruction will now be recorded and I’m terrified about my sons behavior. It’s bad enough that parents will view it real time. I know kids who can’t access learning during the day will need options at night but I’m panicking. He is currently awaiting evaluation for ADHD but he’s a very little guy, just turned 5. Pretty significant emotional dysregulation. He will be at daycare and I have no idea how they are going to be Able to handle all of these kids. I can’t get him to sit and attend on a laptop for 10 minutes with our psychologist of 6 months and that’s 1:1 with an established relationship.
How will daycare mute and unmute him when he is called on? He will have headphones. That is...if he keeps them on. Will the teacher be handling his behavior? Daycare, with their 14 other kids at various grade levels, class schedules and different schools, even? What will parents think, given My role in the actual school?
This is going to break me, this public viewing of him. 3.5 hours of synchronous instruction per day. It was going to be less but some in the public pushed for more more more.
Parents are able to opt out of recording but I don’t know what that means for the teacher. Does that mean she can’t say his name? Redirect him? Just not show him on screen? Does that mean he can’t turn his camera on? Then she can’t even view him? I have sought clarification from the district but they JUST announced they will record today. School starts Tuesday. Parents haven’t been notified of this yet. Teachers have to record the entire synchronous portions, even kids questions etc.
Before I was considering taking leave bc they were going to make us work from the school building, Which they didn’t end up mandating. I’ll be home alone working, w my 4th and 6th grader.
But now with my little guys issues, I’m considering taking leave, and bringing him home and just focusing on him and my 4th grader. But I don’t get a sub. All of my work remains piling up, and more importantly I would be leaving two schools worth of kids and teachers and families without support during a time when they need it the most.
We are virtual until mid October at the earliest. Then hybrid for...?
campermom I bet all the other families will also be drowning in this mess and not bat an eye about your kiddo.
I understand that you think his poor behavior is a reflection of you and your parenting but also an extension of your professional self, but I’d try not to let yourself get weighed down by that pressure. Dentists kids still get cavities. Teachers kids still flunk subjects. Doctors kids still get strep throat. Etc.
Yesterday I heard there was an incident at our feeder high school where someone on WebEx (unclear if it was a student or a hacker) started loudly shouting racial slurs. WebEx got shut down for the rest of the day, leaving kids at home without instruction. 🤦🏼♀️
Yesterday I heard there was an incident at our feeder high school where someone on WebEx (unclear if it was a student or a hacker) started loudly shouting racial slurs. WebEx got shut down for the rest of the day, leaving kids at home without instruction. 🤦🏼♀️
My sister (6th grade) and neighbor (5th grade) have both had multiple issues with students logging in as a fake name and being inappropriate. It’s definitely an issue, but the teacher should be able to eject/mute the offender vs shutting out the whole day.
sandandsea, I’ve been in web ex seminars where I am muted the entire time, so IDK. However if they are having problems they could try Google Meet or Zoom. I know Web Ex might be the mandated software by the district. I don’t know why she is e-mailing you since both issues seem to be a schooL issue. I would recommend she reach out to tech at school or try a different platform.
We are doing OK here. DH has spent a lot of time and probably money upgrading our internet and the teachers are responsive. The nanny is expensive because we had budgeted less than $100 a week for aftercare, but ultimately she is less than $20 an hour.
—Back to my other question, nothing in my job is life or death. That’s one of the things I like about it!
campermom- all I can tell you, as a parent, there is no way I’m watching my kids recorded lessons, so I would never see it.
If you get a diagnosis and feel like sharing, being open with your colleagues could help.
Otherwise, even if I do watch lessons and one kid was all over the place I would feel like oh poor Kindergartner. K is hard for virtual learning. I’ve said it before, knowing what I know now, and if I were home with them, I would think strongly of not enrolling for K and doing a mini homeschool instead. Not suggesting it specifically for your case, but it just seems K in general has to be hard with e-learning. DS was oldest in his class- missed the cutoff by 5 weeks, so he basically did K twice. Because he was too advanced for pre-k, so I guess you could call it early 5’s then K. We are not mandated by the state to enroll them until age 6 / 1st grade.
Would he do better in the daycare early 5’s program rather than e-learning K?