He's funny and sweet. Also really sexy. Unfortunately he's not a great conversationalist. He might be the longest story teller of all time and isn't go great with reciprocating questions. To be honest, and I've told you this before, we don't have much to talk about. I can't tell if he's boring or just shy though. I don't know what happened between our awesome first date and the following ones.
I find that people that are long winded story tellers and not good with reciprocating questions really are just so into themselves and don't give two shits about the other person. That's been my experience (like with the fireman I just dated). Do you think that is the case with him? Does he seem interested in getting to know you?
He's funny and sweet. Also really sexy. Unfortunately he's not a great conversationalist. He might be the longest story teller of all time and isn't go great with reciprocating questions. To be honest, and I've told you this before, we don't have much to talk about. I can't tell if he's boring or just shy though. I don't know what happened between our awesome first date and the following ones.
Ugh. I always feel like when the first date is really good, you have great expectations for the following ones, and lots of times it doesn't go that way. Don't judge TOO much by the first date. I've had a lot of REALLY great first dates and then I keep hoping for that same feeling as I keep seeing them. Generally it never happens.
Also, if you don't have anything to talk about that's not a good sign at all. It's very important to have a physical connection but it definitely gets old when that's all there is. I remember this with XH. I was so physically attracted to him I blocked out the fact that we had no communication. I would tell him about my day and he wouldn't even respond. It was the most maddening thing EVER. It was like being alone in a relationship. I was talking to hear the sound of my own voice.
I find that people that are long winded story tellers and not good with reciprocating questions really are just so into themselves and don't give two shits about the other person. That's been my experience (like with the fireman I just dated). Do you think that is the case with him? Does he seem interested in getting to know you?
Good question. No. He barely asks me anything. Maybe he's relationship stupid like BR was. The man never asked me how I was. E and I have great banter but aside from that, there's little depth in our conversations.
I can overlook the not-having-sex thing, I can even put out the yellow flag on him staying at XW's house while she was OOT, but the red flag is waving loud and proud over the fact that your conversations suck.
Or, to put it another way, he was connecting more with his XW than he was with you while you were out last night. He might be ready for hooking up, but he's not ready for a relationship yet.
I suck at coming up with questions to ask people. I know I'm supposed to, and sometimes I'll sit there thinking, "What can I ask?! I am interested in this story/person/topic, but I just can't come up with any questions! Gah!"
I would definitely bring up the phone thing, but in a fun, casual, "Let's just ignore the rest or the world!" kind of way rather than an "I was feeling neglected" kind of way.
It sounds like you need to get to know each other a little better. Maybe it's not going to work, but I wouldn't write everything off too quickly.
I can overlook the not-having-sex thing, I can even put out the yellow flag on him staying at XW's house while she was OOT, but the red flag is waving loud and proud over the fact that your conversations suck.
Or, to put it another way, he was connecting more with his XW than he was with you while you were out last night. He might be ready for hooking up, but he's not ready for a relationship yet.
Listen to this :Y: There are plenty of fish in the sea, you have absolutely no need to "settle"
EH texted me quite a bit yesterday while he was out with DD and his GF and her DD. But he was being a douche bag and fighting with me. It is not unlike him to take my call or reply to my text while he is out with his GF though.