Holy cow! Updated!

[achase123]

Talk about a wave of interest from match.com. Right now I'm communicating with four different people and I can hardly keep track of them all.

Two happen to be in the same town where I used to live. My aunt lives there and it's the one place I would definitely consider moving too. I really miss it there. I told my aunt I'm going to have to take a trip up there and plan the dates for both in the same weekend.

Another guy is a correctional officer in a prison. We talked on the phone last night and he was really nice. He lives 1.5 hours away though so that would be difficult.

The last one if kind of flakey so I'm not sure about him. I might meet him for a drink or I might skip it entirely.

Seriously though, it feels like a full time job! I cannot imagine how some of you ladies do it!

Updated: one of the guys who lives four hours away (the HOTTEST one) is coming TONIGHT to go on a date!!!

[turtle1120]

Use a spreadsheet to keep track of them and keep all the details straight.

I'm with you - I've never been able to juggle multiple people at the same time. Talking to two people at once makes my head spin.

[makncheez]

I at one time (shortly after my divorce) was dating/talking to like 5 guys at once. It was so hard to keep track of everyone! It only lasted a short while for me...I just couldn't keep up.
I also sent you a PM. :-)

[stephbfan]

Sept 24, 2012 10:50:57 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

Use a spreadsheet to keep track of them and keep all the details straight.

I'm with you - I've never been able to juggle multiple people at the same time. Talking to two people at once makes my head spin.

I would say, its tough at first. I agree with Turtle, make a spreadsheet with all the information and then read it before any date or every time you talk on the phone with one of them.

[naeljun]

Good for you. I can't even get one guy.

[bowies]

Back when I first started dating, I complained about how difficult it is to have multiple conversations going with different people and my mom offered me some advice from when she was dating - only date multiple guys if they have different names. She was juggling 3 and 2 shared a first name. She said she'd spend the first few minutes of every conversation trying to figure out which one she was talking to. My mom was a player.

She ended up marrying one of the same-name guys. He's my dad. I wonder if he knew there was another one of him hanging around at the very beginning...

[prettyinpearls]

That's awesome! Looking forward to hearing what happens with these guys. KUP!! And yes, keep a spreadsheet!

[chrissie3416]

Good for you! Enjoy it !

[achase123]

Sept 24, 2012 10:55:57 GMT -5 naeljun said:

Good for you. I can't even get one guy.

Well, let's be clear. I haven't met any of them yet so technically it could all fizzle out within seconds of meeting because I know that's how online dating goes.

Although one them from my aunt's town (C) is HOT. Smoking hot. Like he's so my type physically. He's got a full beard and a sleave on one arm. So at least I know there will be chemistry. He seems really down to earth too.

And thankfully they all do have different names.

[achase123]

Sept 24, 2012 10:53:44 GMT -5 makncheez said:

I at one time (shortly after my divorce) was dating/talking to like 5 guys at once. It was so hard to keep track of everyone! It only lasted a short while for me...I just couldn't keep up.
I also sent you a PM. :-)

PM back!

[5kg8rgirl]

Hey Achase,

It is completely exhausting, I feel like it is getting to be a part time job. I am actually talking to 4 different guys from match, (dating 2 currently and talking to 2 others) before that it was 5. I had to ditch one of them, b/c after a couple of dates I wasn't feeling it and he had almost the same name as one of the others (separated by 1 letter and they both had 4 yr old daughters with almost the same name.) YIKES. Honestly, I probably need to meet the other 2 and do some Survivor style house keeping because I can't keep going like this. The 2 I am seeing are so hot though. Decisions, decisions...

[Deleted]

I think it gets SO much easier once you actually meet them. At that point you have a face, personality, etc. Yeah, still a little bit hard to keep details about their lives straight, though. No matter what, I always read through our chain of messages before responding to anything new, just to remind myself of what we've already covered.

This is also part of the reason I am a fan of meeting up fairly quickly after you start to talk/message, as I know a lot of others are. Chances are, out of 4, you'll end up eliminating 1 or 2 right away.

[achase123]

Sept 24, 2012 12:54:27 GMT -5 @tee72 said:

This is also part of the reason I am a fan of meeting up fairly quickly after you start to talk/message, as I know a lot of others are. Chances are, out of 4, you'll end up eliminating 1 or 2 right away.

Oh definitely. What makes it hard is the distance thing!

[Deleted]

This is how I felt with online dating. And this time around I've made some rules for myself. 1-2 emails back and forth (and I keep them fairly short, just enough to decide they are a cool person) and absolutely no texting/talking on the phone. Then it's time to meet up. I really don't get all of this communicating before hand.

[turtle1120]

Sept 24, 2012 11:02:17 GMT -5 prettyinpearls said:

That's awesome! Looking forward to hearing what happens with these guys. KUP!! And yes, keep a spreadsheet!

I was totally kidding about the spreadsheet. Hopefully you can find time to meet up with them soon so you can eliminate some of them.

[hainesherway]

There were times when I was talking to 4 or so guys on Match at a time, and I kept a powerpoint slide on each one. Hey, my memory is not as good as it once was!

[heavenly]

Lol! Many irons in the fire!

[blackkitty]

I just re-joined match as well. Have 4 guys right now that I am talking to.
I hope to narrow that to 2 and ideally one!

[achase123]

Sept 24, 2012 14:36:56 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I just re-joined match as well. Have 4 guys right now that I am talking to.
I hope to narrow that to 2 and ideally one!

Seriously! My luck probably there will be none! Oh well, it's fun getting that much attention!

[blackkitty]

Sept 24, 2012 14:59:42 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 24, 2012 14:36:56 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I just re-joined match as well. Have 4 guys right now that I am talking to.
I hope to narrow that to 2 and ideally one!

Seriously! My luck probably there will be none! Oh well, it's fun getting that much attention!

Stop with that negative attitude Missy!!
I am having a lot more luck this time around. I think it definitely has something to do with me being happier and in a better place than when I was dating before. Makes a HUGE difference!!

[achase123]

Sept 24, 2012 15:08:29 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Sept 24, 2012 14:59:42 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Seriously! My luck probably there will be none! Oh well, it's fun getting that much attention!

Stop with that negative attitude Missy!!
I am having a lot more luck this time around. I think it definitely has something to do with me being happier and in a better place than when I was dating before. Makes a HUGE difference!!

You're right!!!

And ITA with the idea about them coming to see me....my question is; how do you arrange the hotel thing...it seems kind of awkward but I definitely don't want them thinking they can stay with me!

[udscoobychick]

When planning the date, I'd suggest an afternoon activity and casually mention "that way, you can drive back before it gets dark."

[achase123]

Sept 24, 2012 18:33:36 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

someone from the internet is driving 4 hours to meet you on a monday night? that seems really really far.

It is really far. But we're meeting at a restaurant. It's not like I'm going somewhere alone with him.

[Deleted]

Wow that seems really crazy...I wouldn't even communicate with someone that far away.

[achase123]

Sept 24, 2012 18:54:41 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Wow that seems really crazy...I wouldn't even communicate with someone that far away.

It is...kind of. I used to live there and it would be a place I'd definitely consider moving back to. The only reason I moved back here was because XH and I got engaged. I have family there too. I'm kind of just here...because I am. If that makes sense.

[liubotflittyfud]

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