I forgot to add, bourbon. Not drinking excessively, but I'm enjoying getting into bourbon, watching videos about it and reading about it as well as finding a small community in England to connect with about it.
There was once a restaurant on Westbourne Grove called Tiny Robot that had the best boozy vanilla bourbon milkshakes. It was the only time I ever saw bourbon in London. The restaurant is gone now though.
The popularity is growing. I'm part of the British Bourbon Society which actually has get togethers at a whiskey bar or two.
My @@ went on our back to school lunch date (Indian takeout bc pandemic) and blasted Queen while we stopped through 2 red lights at the chik fil a. That was soothing.
Lol, same. I’ve read 117 books so far this year. Most light, fluffy, and/or smutty. (and chocolate 😁)
Any books you can recommend for light and fluffy?
I have been sleeping a lot, buying expensive Harry Potter lego sets and trying to find an organization to volunteer for that understands my limitations due to MS.
not OP, but I've been reading everything from Elin Hildebrand for light and fluffy. They're well written and enough of a plot to be interesting, but nothing too deep.
Reading, even though it’s taking me long we then normal to finish most books these days (I’m currently working my way through Brenda Novak and Susan Mallory).
Talking to my dogs, a lot.
Daily texting with my BFF and monthly lunch dates.
Sleeping when I can…and being grateful for Venlafexin twice a day.
Eating carbs Cleaning up work issues to stay busy Avoiding most news outlets Mentally telling myself it can be better in terms of coping and the world being less horrible
I've started to run again. I used to run a lot like 8-ish years ago. Then I stopped because of plantar fasciitis. But I was out for a solo walk one morning and I gave it a try. Wooo endorphins!
I also signed up for a masters swim class after learning to swim this summer.
So I guess I am working out to cope?
We (MH and I) have really gotten into lego during the pandemic. He is doing mostly Harry Potter and I bought the Saturn V rocket.
Post by redheadbaker on Sept 7, 2021 8:31:30 GMT -5
I think I need to talk to my psychiatrist. I'm ... not doing well with all the posts on Facebook about Texas. I seem to have no self-control and can't stop reading the articles, the comments, etc. I posted a long stream of not-quite-coherent thoughts about my experience with pPROM and an abortion, and haven't really posted much since.
I made myself get out of the house yesterday, and while I was out, I passed the cemetery where his ashes are interred. My husband used an alcohol wipe to clean his glasses, and the smell of it put me right back in the OR.
Yet, I don't know what my psychiatrist can do. My meds are already causing high blood pressure and my primary care doc wants to me ask about lowering my dosage.
Post by picksthemusic on Sept 7, 2021 9:05:26 GMT -5
I just started doing 'diamond art'. I picked up a couple of kits at a local craft store and I'm sort of hooked. Not sure how deep I want to go with it, but it's a fun distraction for now.
I didn’t have an answer because I’m just…not coping well.
I listened to a TEDtalk tonight by a new favorite author, Adam Grant. It helped me understand how I’m feeling a little better and gave me some things to think about and action to take…and it’s not eat better, sleep better, and exercise. Because when you’re stuck, doing those things is hard. I’m not depressed. I’m stuck.
I found some CBD related gummies that help me relax in the evenings and let go a little bit.
But the day itself is just a grind. I've been thinking about going back on meds, but I really don't have the time or money to make that happen.
I used to cope with alcohol. Now I'm coping with food and it's just not the same. Probably because my ED is constantly judging me for "needing" food when I'm just sitting for 8+ hours a day.
I read in the mornings, and that's a nice escape for a bit. But I don't think I'm actually coping... just grinding it out and trying not to think about how this is all life is and how much life I have left 😪
ETA: I do try to hold onto small, joyful moments. Little things that make me feel okay even for just a few seconds. I constantly work to redirect my thoughts to better places and remind myself that I have not always felt like this. I know I'm in a much better place than I was a few years ago so I practice gratitude for that. I have lots of tools from therapy/rehab that I actively use. So I guess that's coping?
breezy8407 , My bike arrives next week..... I was a DIY rider for 18 months. I had to do it when they dropped the price again.
I should probably prepare everyone in my life for how obnoxious I am about to become talking about my stats and PRs lol.
Everything burning down and eddy is just over here talking about her epic ride this AM. :-)
Well, I am here to talk about it with you anytime. Ha. (H is concerned I won't be able to sell my current bike. My confidence in saying it will sell easily might be misplaced, but here's to hoping.)
I wanted to report I got my peloton bike yesterday and LOVE it. And I sold my echelon in four hours online. I also got asking.
I didn’t have an answer because I’m just…not coping well.
I listened to a TEDtalk tonight by a new favorite author, Adam Grant. It helped me understand how I’m feeling a little better and gave me some things to think about and action to take…and it’s not eat better, sleep better, and exercise. Because when you’re stuck, doing those things is hard. I’m not depressed. I’m stuck.
Yeah, I just feel MORE guilty when I'm constantly canceling my gym classes because I'm just too tired to even consider it. And food has clearly been bringing me comfort these last 18 months...
Well, I am here to talk about it with you anytime. Ha. (H is concerned I won't be able to sell my current bike. My confidence in saying it will sell easily might be misplaced, but here's to hoping.)
I wanted to report I got my peloton bike yesterday and LOVE it. And I sold my echelon in four hours online. I also got asking.
DO IT!!!!
Nice! Thanks for sharing I can't wait. I am hoping me not ordering the second the price dropped won't come back to bite me with shipping delays like there were last fall and winter.
I just started doing 'diamond art'. I picked up a couple of kits at a local craft store and I'm sort of hooked. Not sure how deep I want to go with it, but it's a fun distraction for now.
Diamond art kits are one of the things I picked up last year and should really get back into it. It's such a calming, mindless activity. I loved just zoning out to it while watching TV. I love creative hobbies like quilting and sewing, but just haven't been able to focus enough to do a project. Diamond art is such a low stakes art project.
Post by cattledogkisses on Sept 12, 2021 9:03:48 GMT -5
This might be just a weird me thing, but giving my house a thorough deep clean helps me de-stress. For me my home is like an outward extension of my mind: messy house, messy head.
I rearranged and zhuzhed up our guest room this weekend and it looks so nice and makes me happy.
Post by macmars45 on Sept 12, 2021 11:26:40 GMT -5
I cut twitter out entirely 2 weeks ago and I started seeing a therapist. (He's vaxxed which is saying something in my red city.) I'm taking a break from talking to one of my sisters who said some shitty things to me about covid. She apologized and I accepted but that doesn't mean I'm magically okay and things can be normal between us immediately.
I’m taking things day to day and trying not to look too far ahead. I’ve stopped listening to anything on my way to or from work.
I’ve also finally gotten fed up/angry enough about how disrespected the district is treating teachers that I’ve decided this is my last year. In the past, it’s been, “If I find another job,” but with teaching contracts, there is a very narrow window in which to find a non-school job. I’ve decided to just take a leap of faith even if I don’t get a school job. I just won’t do another year after this one.
That makes me feel better, because even though it’s scary, I know I’m taking control.
As for everything else, trying to cope with the microcosm while dealing with a really stressful microcosm means I just shove things to the back burner until they push themselves forward.