I got the signed preliminary divorce and child support papers yesterday! WOOT! Soon-to-be ex is staying in the home through Dec 1 but has already given me his official share of the monthly expenses and all of the month's child support funds. Out of the blue, he also offered to pay off my Macy's card yesterday.
I'm financially on my own in December but I will refi the house and my student loans under the new forgiveness options. I should be okay after that gets done.
Bernadine - That's exciting! I'm sure you'll really love it.
I took next week off from work and I'm SO excited to completely unplug! I'm feeling burnt out, but not from the work itself. Anymore, I really despise managing people. I have one in particular on my team who is so mentally exhausting. I don't think I'm cut out for this anymore. Or maybe I just have a low tolerance for grown ass adults that can't find a way to get along in the workplace (even though we're still remote). Trying to manage someone who is often passive aggressive and IMO disrespectful is putting me over the edge. Even after numerous conversations about it, it doesn't seem like this person "gets it". It's like there is no self-awareness. I really need a break from it all.
I can’t wait for the concrete to dry so we can walk on our steps! At least there are steps now, my husband was convinced I was going to walk out to my death all weekend when they were gone but the concrete hadn’t been poured yet. But I’m not the one who kept heading to the front door when I left the house!
My goal today is to journey to Costco and get rotisserie chickens and bread so I don’t have to make much food this week. I’m over it and have so many vegetables from the CSA to use up.
We still haven't booked tickets to visit H's family for Christmas. I'm not bringing it up because it's his family and I'm annoyed that it's just assumed we'll always go to his family for Christmas even though I don't even care about going to visit my family. It's the principle!
Totally random, but sometimes I still think about how terrible the VIP actors were in Squid Games.
I've been going to the same hair guy for 13 years. They recently downsized at my salon to half the staff and he's fully booked all the time because of it. I had to go to someone new at the same salon for the first tine in 13 years a few months ago. He came to say hello, and it was just awkward. Now I'm due to go again and he's booked until after Thanksgiving so I had to book with my new person again. I feel like I'm cheating on him or something, lol.
I miss my little dog so much. It's so quiet with only one dog left. Lola was really vocal and would grumble at us if she wanted something and we weren't quick enough to do it. I had a very quiet shower (she loved licking up the water from the shower floor, little weirdo) and nobody was grumbling at me while I made DD's lunch (she got a carrot stick every morning before breakfast). She just had so much energy and life left in her, I can't believe she's gone.
It is so lonely with only one. We had 3 just a few weeks ago! We are already talking about getting a puppy. Our friends need us to watch their dog this weekend, we always watch her when they are gone, and we are really looking forward to it.
A Delta Airlines CSR on the phone a month ago told me that my airport is getting a direct flight to X location in February, but when I try to find it to book, I can't. I don't know if that means he was wrong, or you can't book new routes this early, or what.
A month ago I posted about a fundraiser at my kid's school where at a certain level they got a field trip, and then at the next level they got to bring a friend on the field trip.
DS really wanted to go, so we scrambled to meet the field trip level, then he actually used his own money and bought most of the stuff needed to get himself to the "bring a friend" level because he is starting to have friends again after almost 2 years and it meant a lot to him.
Anyway. The field trip was today.
1. They provided the bus assignments at the end of the day yesterday. DS and his friend were assigned to different busses. He didn't tell me till 9 last night, and the trip was at 7:30 this morning, so there was really nothing we could do about it.
2. The entire trip was 3 hours on the bus (1.5 hours each way) to go on a 45 minute tour. DS texted me half an hour ago that they are already headed home.
Oh jinkies, that's so disappointing! And how dumb that they would assign two friends to different busses! When the WHOLE point of the second level was to bring a friend.
A month ago I posted about a fundraiser at my kid's school where at a certain level they got a field trip, and then at the next level they got to bring a friend on the field trip.
DS really wanted to go, so we scrambled to meet the field trip level, then he actually used his own money and bought most of the stuff needed to get himself to the "bring a friend" level because he is starting to have friends again after almost 2 years and it meant a lot to him.
Anyway. The field trip was today.
1. They provided the bus assignments at the end of the day yesterday. DS and his friend were assigned to different busses. He didn't tell me till 9 last night, and the trip was at 7:30 this morning, so there was really nothing we could do about it.
2. The entire trip was 3 hours on the bus (1.5 hours each way) to go on a 45 minute tour. DS texted me half an hour ago that they are already headed home.
Post by killercupcake on Nov 2, 2021 10:04:56 GMT -5
There was a confirmed case of covid in the daycare class I drop DS off with in the am. Of course he has a stuffy nose and a cough now so we got him tested last night. Both he and DD are now home until we get a negative result. When that will be? No idea.
Oh, and H is out of town for work this whole week. So it’s just me. Taking more sick days. My assistant principal is super understanding thankfully.
I’m pretty certain it’s not covid but I can’t risk being that parent. Ugh.
Post by mysteriouswife on Nov 2, 2021 10:19:06 GMT -5
H and I took yesterday off since the kids were out of school. Today MW is pissed at vacation MW for poor planning. I don’t know why I didn’t think about it being end of month/beginning of mew month when I took a rogue day. Since EOM landed on Sunday it rolled to Monday. Opening of Nov. is today. 🤦🏻♀️
I have 3 female dogs, but the middle one is the Queen Bee. Sometimes she doesn't feel like getting out of bed to eat, so we bring her food to her and she will eat it laying down. There is nothing wrong with her physically, she just has us wrapped around her finger.
I decided yesterday after weeks of agonizing over the decision to host Thanksgiving at my house. Half of my family isn't vaccinated (though at this point all of the unvaccinated adults have had Covid except my brother), including my father who has Stage 3 Lung Cancer. I was worried about him being exposed at my house and then me feeling guilty about it, but ultimately, if he as a nearly 70 year old man cannot take the proper precautions to protect his health, then why should I worry so much about it?
Both kids are home for a teacher workday, and it's weirdly feeling like the first days of the pandemic where I'm teleworking and they're just around. At least this afternoon DD has play rehearsal and DS has a playdate.
I'm stalking my county health department website for updates on 5-11 COVID vaccination. I'm hoping for at least one option to get DS his first shot this weekend. 🤞
I'm getting my COVID booster in a few minutes so 🤞 I don't end up feeling like hot garbage.
Also, I got some not great news about my dad yesterday. TW: Cancer - He has metastatic prostate cancer that has moved to his bones. There are no more treatments left for his cancer and now he's in a clinical trial which is where we learned about the bone mets. Until this week he didn't have pain but...now he does. What does that mean? I mean, I know it's not good but if anyone has experience in cancer that has metastasized to the bone, I don't have anyone else to ask. Friends who read this anyway with a family member who has prostate cancer, just know my dad's was always aggressive and we've had 10 years fighting it so don't be scared by this. Prostate cancer is livable.
circa1978 I'm so sorry. I have a friend who's dad had a very similar experience. Prostate cancer that was incredibly slow growing and wasn't impacting anything and then, it suddenly was in his bones. I don't want to give you anecdotes about meaning and time, but I'm thinking of you ❤❤
I just booked our NYC hotel and this is rich living LOL. I splurged because we're just staying one night and I'm really excited to eat at all the bakeries I want to try.
One bummer (I'm the worst), is that kid is coming with us. My ILs are out of the country through Christmas and I don't feel comfortable having him stay overnight with anyone but them.
DH bought an Echo Show for our kitchen. There's a setting he enabled from work today that tells us what's inside packages that have been delivered on our front steps. Awesome. DS (8) is home, and had fun reading 3 of the gifts we ordered him for Christmas...!
DH bought an Echo Show for our kitchen. There's a setting he enabled from work today that tells us what's inside packages that have been delivered on our front steps. Awesome. DS (8) is home, and had fun reading 3 of the gifts we ordered him for Christmas...!
circa1978, I am so sorry about your dad. I have no experience with this, but I am thinking of you and your family.
jinkies, that is some real bullshit. I think I would complain to the organizer and let them know that splitting up the kids was so shitty. I am sure they didn't do it on purpose, but they should be more aware to avoid it for next time.
circa1978 - First, I'm so sorry about your dad. It wasn't prostate cancer, but my MIL had a very aggressive form of breast cancer which in a matter of months of being diagnosed, it had metastasized to her bones. Her prognosis wasn't good. It all just happened so fast. She was diagnosed in Sept 2019, had chemo Oct-Dec and she had been feeling really good. Then suddenly one day she couldn't get out of bed on her own. She fell once and couldn't get up another day. We took her to the ER. It's all a blur, but they did a bunch of tests and determined the cancer had spread to her bones. She went into hospice care at home since there was nothing else the doctors could do.
Since it was breast cancer for her, I don't know that it would be the same experience with prostate cancer. Is palliative care involved with your dad's care? They're a good resource for understanding what you're dad is experiencing and what they think next steps are. I found them to be more helpful to me (for both my MIL and my dad) because they were able to talk in a way that wasn't so clinical. And like hospice, they are so, so caring and were extremely helpful to us in understanding WTH was going on.
I forgot how quickly the days go by when I'm doing training. I had a 2.5 hour session this morning and can't believe it's almost 1 already. I haven't done much of that lately, but it's definitely the most fun and engaging part of my work so I should make a point of scheduling more of it! This fall has been weird, I normally would be doing more of it anyway but somehow stuff just didn't get scheduled. I've been out of the office a ton this fall so that didn't help.
I am feeling the best energy/pain wise since I have felt since my surgery 2 weeks ago. Today I noticed I was walking quickly around the office, which I haven't really been capable of without feeling it. I am super happy about that. I have a busy weekend planned and was starting to worry that I wasn't going to be up for all the walking!
@psugrad, no, there hasn't been any mention of palliative care. He's in an active trial for prostate cancer that has metastasized so he's been monitored closely but the hope was this could prevent progression. I don't know if the pain means that isn't happening and it's a trial so we won't know until January I guess? My parents also keep everything on a need-to-know basis, so I have no clue.
We already knew it had spread from the scans but the pain doesn't seem like a good sign.
DH bought an Echo Show for our kitchen. There's a setting he enabled from work today that tells us what's inside packages that have been delivered on our front steps. Awesome. DS (8) is home, and had fun reading 3 of the gifts we ordered him for Christmas...!
Same thing happened to us with one of David's birthday presents.. He was so adorably smug "oh, by the way, thanks for that sweater you got me for my birthday." But, he doesn't know what his big present is, which is Hamilton ticket. So, jokes on you kid!!
I'm participating in my company's hackathon in December and they sent us a link to snackmagic.com where we can spend $45 making a snack box that will get sent to us the day before. There are so.many.choices!
ETA: Wait a minute. These are all hipster snacks. What if I don't want vegan plant-based gummy bears? lol
I just can't stop rolling my eyes at the Rich thread. We GET IT, there's more to life than material things, but it's also ok for me to think that it would be fucking awesome if I could afford an indoor heated pool in my house.
“With sorrow—for this Court, but more, for the many millions of American women who have today lost a fundamental constitutional protection—we dissent,”