Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Dec 1, 2021 19:43:10 GMT -5
Yeah, if he's producing more trash than his own bins can hold, then he needs to get another bin. We pay per bin and size of bin where I live so you can upgrade or downgrade as needed. The sanitation company will drop them off at your house for you.
He's just being cheap and/or lazy and it would bother me for sure.
If it was once in awhile and he only did it after my bins were at the curb and my garbage was clearly out, I probably wouldn’t care. My neighbor and I do this with each other, actually, but it is a pretty unspoken thing that we just check the bin and throw our extra stuff in in the morning before the pickup. That way it’s clear that the other person’s trash is already in there.
However, I’d be so annoyed about over filling it the night before and a storm blowing it everywhere, so I’d shut this down and tell him he needs to order and pay for another bin.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Dec 1, 2021 19:58:35 GMT -5
I'm perplexed at how this wouldn't bother *everyone*. "Hi, I'm Dick. Our household makes TOO MUCH garbage for our bins. Instead of (a) making less trash or (b) leaving stuff in my garage for next garage pick up day or (c) looking into getting another bin or (d) taking it to the dump myself, I HELP MYSELF to my neighbor's trash can. And not only do I use it without permission, I routinely make a mess and fill it the fuck up."
my brain is just exploding at the moment, don't mind me.
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However, I think it would be easier to get your H to change his behavior than to confront the neighbor. Tell your H to absolutely under no circumstances bring the trash to the curb until it has everything in it that you need it to. That way, if your neighbor does throw stuff in there when you aren't looking, at least you have already used all the space you need. If he puts a ton of stuff in and makes a mess, go over and tell him about the mess in the moment and ask him to clean it up.
I'll be honest that when I saw this thread title I thought "are you my neighbor" because for the first time since we've lived here, I put some of our recycling in our neighbor's bin last night lol. We were OOT last week so weren't able to put it out, so not all of ours fit in our bin, and it was almost 9:30pm and their can was half empty and already set out. It did not occur to me that they would have put it there if they weren't done with it. I wouldn't make a habit of it, but I also don't think something like what I did was a problem and I would not care one bit if my neighbors did the same if they needed it someday.
ETA: Ours is through the city and there is no limit on how much you can put out, and we live in a townhouse so everyone's cans are right next to each other for trash pickup. I think if not for that I probably wouldn't have put mine in someone else's - how awkward to walk in front of someone else's house to do that.
I'm perplexed at how this wouldn't bother *everyone*. "Hi, I'm Dick. Our household makes TOO MUCH garbage for our bins. Instead of (a) making less trash or (b) leaving stuff in my garage for next garage pick up day or (c) looking into getting another bin or (d) taking it to the dump myself, I HELP MYSELF to my neighbor's trash can. And not only do I use it without permission, I routinely make a mess and fill it the fuck up."
my brain is just exploding at the moment, don't mind me.
I'm here. No follow up questions needed. Supreme asshole.
I'm not even okay with it if my can is at the curb. I don't want someone's trash associated with my home. And if it falls over and makes a mess while the collectors are handling it then you're considered the asshole. Nope.
Post by dancingirl21 on Dec 1, 2021 20:11:23 GMT -5
I would be losing my fucking mind over this. But I’m exactly 0% breezy. Get your garbage out of my garbage cans! Imagine if one of his bags leaked or something. Who cares if yours isn’t full? IT’S YOURS TO FILL, NOT HIS.
What would I do? At first probably very passive-aggressively give him eyes when I see him and not roll my bins to the curb until the morning. And if that didn’t work, ask him to stop doing it and suggest that he contact the city for an additional bin.
Post by archiethedragon on Dec 1, 2021 20:14:08 GMT -5
He shouldn't be making a mess or putting trash in the wrong bin but I have done this on a number of occasions. I don't think my neighbors mind but maybe they are cursing me out behind closed doors.
We got an extra trash can so we’re not this neighbor. We have Waste Management in our area and we’re able to get another can for like $4/mo or something. We don’t always overflow one and need the second one, but I’d rather have it than not. We’ve also told a couple neighbors they can toss extra stuff in it if they ever need it…but I highly doubt they would ever do that if we hadn’t offered it first.
You unlock them on garbage night when you put them out.
Very interesting! But knowing DH he'd forget to unlock it
This wouldn’t solve the issue though right? Because when the H out the cans out at night he would unlock them and thats when the neighbor puts the trash in anyway.
Very interesting! But knowing DH he'd forget to unlock it
This wouldn’t solve the issue though right? Because when the H out the cans out at night he would unlock them and thats when the neighbor puts the trash in anyway.
Unless I misunderstood?
You would have to unlock them in the morning before the trash men came.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Dec 1, 2021 20:36:02 GMT -5
I’ve definitely called out a neighbor for doing this at a place we used to live. No. We pay for this service. That whooooole fucking can is ours. You want to use it? Ask. Don’t just shove shit in. That is some real fucking entitlement.
It was basically the exact script posted earlier - Stop using our trash cans for your trash. If you’re running out of room, you need to get another can. Please ask should you decide to use our cans again. We are keeping an eye on it.
The end.
It’s actually against the law in my state to do this without consent.
If it's already at the curb I don't care. BUT our trash company will pick up stray bags/large items that fall out or get blown out or whatever. And we have a number of raccoons in our neighborhood so when the single lady next door only has one bag and our bin has room, drop it in there, why do I care? We are in a townhouse community though, with 6 houses per row, so usually 2-3 cans are so are all side by at either end of the row, so no one would care.
Your scenario where the trash guys won't pick up a random bag and your neighbor is filling up your can before you've finished filling it? That would drive me crazy. I'm not sure if I would confront them or not but it would definitely drive me bonkers.
One time though our neighbors had someone house-sitting for them, the housesitter filled up our trash can after the trash guys came before we had pulled it back to the backyard. I promptly put it all back in the neighbor's trash can lol.
I'd be super annoyed. Our town does yard waste pickup, but not trash. There are a couple of competing companies that do it privately, and we pay for the service. Your bins don't hold enough? Pay the trash removal company of your choice for a 2nd bin. Using a neighbor's capacity without asking is taking advantage. Making a neighbor clean up after your sloppy ass is worse.
...and then he's trying to be all sneaky like about it (does he think you don't know??). For sure he doesn't deserve the non-confrontational treatment. However, I am also non-confrontational so I do get it. In reality I would send H to talk to the neighbor. But if I had to deal with it myself, I'd make/find/create some space in the garage and just start keeping my bins inside except when they go out on trash day.
However, I think it would be easier to get your H to change his behavior than to confront the neighbor. Tell your H to absolutely under no circumstances bring the trash to the curb until it has everything in it that you need it to. That way, if your neighbor does throw stuff in there when you aren't looking, at least you have already used all the space you need. If he puts a ton of stuff in and makes a mess, go over and tell him about the mess in the moment and ask him to clean it up.
I'll be honest that when I saw this thread title I thought "are you my neighbor" because for the first time since we've lived here, I put some of our recycling in our neighbor's bin last night lol. We were OOT last week so weren't able to put it out, so not all of ours fit in our bin, and it was almost 9:30pm and their can was half empty and already set out. It did not occur to me that they would have put it there if they weren't done with it. I wouldn't make a habit of it, but I also don't think something like what I did was a problem and I would not care one bit if my neighbors did the same if they needed it someday.
Her H doesn’t need to change his behavior here. Lol. He is 1000% not the problem.
However, I think it would be easier to get your H to change his behavior than to confront the neighbor. Tell your H to absolutely under no circumstances bring the trash to the curb until it has everything in it that you need it to. That way, if your neighbor does throw stuff in there when you aren't looking, at least you have already used all the space you need. If he puts a ton of stuff in and makes a mess, go over and tell him about the mess in the moment and ask him to clean it up.
I'll be honest that when I saw this thread title I thought "are you my neighbor" because for the first time since we've lived here, I put some of our recycling in our neighbor's bin last night lol. We were OOT last week so weren't able to put it out, so not all of ours fit in our bin, and it was almost 9:30pm and their can was half empty and already set out. It did not occur to me that they would have put it there if they weren't done with it. I wouldn't make a habit of it, but I also don't think something like what I did was a problem and I would not care one bit if my neighbors did the same if they needed it someday.
Her H doesn’t need to change his behavior here. Lol. He is 1000% not the problem.
He's not! But she mentioned in the OP she didn't want to make waves or cause problems with the neighbor, so I think it would be easier to to just avoid the situation from happening in the first place. It sounds pretty inconvenient to bring the can to the curb before bringing out the trash anyway!
If it were someone walking their dog tossing a tiny bag of dog poop wrapped in a bag I wouldn’t care, but if it were a neighbor using my bin semi regularly without asking, that’s a problem. At least ask for permission, I’d probably say yes.
I don't want someone's trash associated with my home.
Anyone who has ever taken criminal law and read California v. Greenwood would agree with you. You don't need a warrant to search a trash can at the curb. Clearly he's using your cans to hide the evidence of his meth lab. (j/k)
If it were someone walking their dog tossing a tiny bag of dog poop wrapped in a bag I wouldn’t care
I do.
I care about this more than any other trash. It is so fucking rude. Dog poop smells awful. We don't have a dog. We keep our cans in our garage between taking them out to the curb. I don't want my can and garage smelling like your dog's poop.
I wouldn't have lasted this long without saying something.
Where we live, if the lid is even creeping open a tiny bit they won't pick up trash or recycle. They won't pick up bags or anything outside of the trash cans. Many people have 2nd cans. One time I went to put in one more bag before work and the next door neighbors had FILLED our can with dirty diapers and I had noplace to put our trash. I talked to the husband later and it turned out it was their teen son who had no clue he shouldn't use other peoples' cans. But they hever have again.
Do you have a fence or gate you can put your cans behind? We have to keep our cans out of view during the week per the asshole HOA. Our gate is locked so no one could get back there to it. I'd put the trash cans out the morning of trash pick up.
If you want to be PA you could always tape a note on the top of your can that says "hey neighbor at 1234 Maple St! Did you know if you can't fit all your trash in your can you can order a 2nd one? Call Waste Management at 555-5555!"
No. We very rarely have too much trash for our bins. We either save it for the following week, or ask a neighbor that we are friends with if they have extra room in their bin.
We’ve caught people putting their dog poop in our empty bine AFTER the trash was already picked up, and my husband about lost his shit.
ETA: Can’t the neighbor just pay for a second bin?
The dog poop in trash bins and paper yard waste bags is a whole other situation around here
And yes, he lives in a million dollar house (I do not), he can pay for another bin
This seems so entitled. I would be pissed but I’m not sure how I would deal with it.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Dec 1, 2021 21:44:22 GMT -5
So, hey everybody, a PSA: stop changing your perfectly fine and normal behavior to accommodate the entitlement and poor behavior of others. This is not the answer. Yes, it’s the path of least resistance. But stop allowing other people to be absolute shit heads.
I'm perplexed at how this wouldn't bother *everyone*. "Hi, I'm Dick. Our household makes TOO MUCH garbage for our bins. Instead of (a) making less trash or (b) leaving stuff in my garage for next garage pick up day or (c) looking into getting another bin or (d) taking it to the dump myself, I HELP MYSELF to my neighbor's trash can. And not only do I use it without permission, I routinely make a mess and fill it the fuck up."
my brain is just exploding at the moment, don't mind me.
Maybe mrsd2006, should give him a copy of Wall-E for the holidays this year.
Post by goldengirlz on Dec 1, 2021 22:21:01 GMT -5
I said I don’t care about small items because the truth is, I’d probably never even notice. But people have raised good points about caring on principle. So I’ll change my answer to that.
But I’m coming back to this thread because I don’t understand why people are going through the mental gymnastics of coming up with passive aggressive ways to stop this guy instead of just calling him out on his bullshit. I like to think of myself as fairly non-confrontational but this is a time to let your inner Karen come out. Like what’s going to happen if he gets annoyed or defensive? Unless there’s a legitimate reason to worry about your safety, who cares if he stops waving at you?
ETA: Maybe I’m just non-confrontational by NYC standards. Ha. I’ve definitely told neighbors when they’re in the wrong.