If it were someone walking their dog tossing a tiny bag of dog poop wrapped in a bag I wouldn’t care
I do.
I care about this more than any other trash. It is so fucking rude. Dog poop smells awful. We don't have a dog. We keep our cans in our garage between taking them out to the curb. I don't want my can and garage smelling like your dog's poop.
I hate those assholes. Don't be one of them.
We DO have a dog and it still drives me crazy when people put their dog poop in our garbage can. Carry that shit home and dispose of it in your own bin!
We live on a city lot with an alley so our yard waste and recycling bins are always at the "curb" (in the alley). We pull our garbage back to our house because we'd otherwise end up with upwards of 40 bags of dog poop in there. We live on a very popular walking route and so. many. people dump their dog bags in our neighbors garbage. We've even had people put it in our yard waste (which the city doesn't allow) until I posted a sign on the bin.
Suffice it to say, I'd be livid if someone was putting their garbage and recycling in our bins without asking us. I'm pretty sure we have to pay extra if our garbage can doesn't even close all the way.
We have four kids, nextdoor neighbors have none, and one of the many times I was standing outside my house in the dark trying to stuff recycling into our bin - they said I should feel free to use theirs. But even then I have never done it, because I'd still feel weird about it.
Does this person have the option to pay for a larger/second can in your area?
Post by turkturkleton on Dec 1, 2021 22:35:39 GMT -5
You're spending a lot of time and mental energy on this. Politely (but firmly) asking your neighbor to stop putting his garbage in your bins is not a confrontation. It's not aggressive to tell someone to stop doing something rude.
Being able to healthily resolve conflict is an important life skill, and this is a great time to practice. There are no stakes here--either he's clueless and has no idea this is bothering you, so he stops once you tell him, or he's an entitled jerk and everything stays exactly the same and you can stop worrying about his opinion on anything. You don't mention being worried about him being violent, so I can't see the downside.
Or make your H do it. It's annoying and sexist and complete bullshit, but if he seems like the kind of guy who would listen to a male neighbor making this request but might yell at/be a dick to you about it, it's fine to delegate this one and tell your husband why.
Oh wow yeah this is bizarre. I would never consider doing this as everyone has cameras these days so I’d feel like a tool. Which is how I should feel if I even considered cramming my trash in my neighbors bin without saying a damn word no less!
I’d send my H over as I hate confrontation and just have him say politely “please stop putting your trash in our barrels, thanks!”
Post by newnamesameperson on Dec 1, 2021 22:54:29 GMT -5
I'd inwardly be ready to lose my mind the first or second time. By the third, I would probably do everything I could to make it impossible for him to utilize the trash cans. Also, I'd say something...
I'd say something. Probably have your DH go over and talk to him mano-a-mano about the problems it's causing.
My neighbor puts trash in my can weekly if she only has one bag to keep from having to roll out the bin; she's on the older side and isn't moving as fast as she used to. I put my sticks and pinecones in her yard waste trash can when it's at the curb. We are both cool with it and have talked about it. She's also a good neighbor in general. I told her as long as there are no baby diapers or pet poop, I'm good.
Post by wanderlustmom on Dec 1, 2021 23:35:24 GMT -5
Yes I agree with a lot of others on this, it's not okay, ever. Unless he were to ask you and you were fine with it. I would go over and talk to him and ask him not to do it. I don't want people putting trash or recycling in ours. I clean it every two weeks, I pay for it and don't want anyone else's trash or recycling in it unless they ask and then I can decide. I would be really angry
Post by rachelgreen on Dec 1, 2021 23:37:43 GMT -5
Yeah, he needs to be told that he’s causing issues and needs to stop. And if you’re fine with granting permission when he’s in a pinch, let him know that but don’t leave it unaddressed.
Because I can’t not tell anecdotes:
We are on a corner and there are about six of us neighbors who routinely use each other’s bins when we have heavy trash or recycling weeks (especially recycling because they only collect every other week). We have a group chat and even though none of us care, we all *still* send a “using your bin tonight Ross, thanks!” And then because we’re all still Midwest nice, usually go and pull the cans back in for them because of the favor, lol.
Once a month, he does this. And in two instances, it has caused a problem. While it would irk me a bit, I would let it go. Its not worth any mental energy. I have had people use my recycle bins, and I use other peoples when mine are full. When its in am alley no one seems to care much but they font over fill them either.
Maybe this was answered, but does it bother your H? he is the one who cleaned up after them in one of the examples and he doesn’t take out the trash before putting out the bins. If I were to say anything, it would only to ask that he please don't overfill them and break down boxes. And if the other guy did fill them to the top before adding mine, I would just take out my trash after its picked up in the morning.
It would bother me that he never asked, but had he asked, I would have had no issues with it. My neighbors have asked to use our bins a few times and I was fine with it. We let them know that if there is space in our bins when they’re at the curb, they’re welcome to throw stuff in there anytime they need to, and no need to ask again. But if they just did it without ever having asked, it would be annoying. And I would definitely ask them to clean up the garbage if it spilled and it was theirs.
Once a month, he does this. And in two instances, it has caused a problem. While it would irk me a bit, I would let it go. Its not worth any mental energy. I have had people use my recycle bins, and I use other peoples when mine are full. When its in am alley no one seems to care much but they font over fill them either.
Maybe this was answered, but does it bother your H? he is the one who cleaned up after them in one of the examples and he doesn’t take out the trash before putting out the bins. If I were to say anything, it would only to ask that he please don't overfill them and break down boxes. And if the other guy did fill them to the top before adding mine, I would just take out my trash after its picked up in the morning.
Did we read the same thread?
they probably put their trash in their neighbor’s bins.
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You can talk to him about this is a number of ways that’s “nice”. If being nice about it pisses him off/ makes him a bigger sick, then that’s on HIM. He’s just a dick.
He may have done it once in a pinch, you didn’t say anything, so he assumes you don’t care. But you do - so the sooner you speak up, the better. If he’s not a total ass, he’ll say “my bad” and won’t do it again
If it were someone walking their dog tossing a tiny bag of dog poop wrapped in a bag I wouldn’t care, but if it were a neighbor using my bin semi regularly without asking, that’s a problem. At least ask for permission, I’d probably say yes.
I personally don’t give a shit about this but people in my neighborhood lose their ever loving minds about it so we always carry our dog shit back home or to one of the doggy waste stations. I don’t really get it, but we respect their preferences.
I said I don’t care about small items because the truth is, I’d probably never even notice. But people have raised good points about caring on principle. So I’ll change my answer to that.
But I’m coming back to this thread because I don’t understand why people are going through the mental gymnastics of coming up with passive aggressive ways to stop this guy instead of just calling him out on his bullshit. I like to think of myself as fairly non-confrontational but this is a time to let your inner Karen come out. Like what’s going to happen if he gets annoyed or defensive? Unless there’s a legitimate reason to worry about your safety, who cares if he stops waving at you?
ETA: Maybe I’m just non-confrontational by NYC standards. Ha. I’ve definitely told neighbors when they’re in the wrong.
I am non confrontational too, I will avoid talking to anyone about anything if possible. But I guess that doesn't include calling people on their outrageous bullshit. I was so enraged by this I couldn't even respond yesterday. LOL I'd sleep outside next to those cans if I had to to catch them doing it and tell them to walk that shit right back to their own house. The cardboard?!? "Your garbage is strewn all over the front of my house. Pick it up." I'd be out there in my pajamas checking that can every pick up morning and if I found anything else in the cans I would take it and throw it across the street at their house.
I bought a bouquet of flowers for my neighbor on my way home last night. I have literally been wondering if I can leave them outside and text her because even giving someone flowers feels awkward, but seemingly don't care how crazy I look over garbage!
Post by Captain Catnip on Dec 2, 2021 8:35:01 GMT -5
I'm surprised that people would be ok with this. My mind goes to insane extremes about it but like... What is he's a serial killer putting body parts in it! Or drug remnants that he doesn't want associated with his trash. Etc.
If it were someone walking their dog tossing a tiny bag of dog poop wrapped in a bag I wouldn’t care, but if it were a neighbor using my bin semi regularly without asking, that’s a problem. At least ask for permission, I’d probably say yes.
I personally don’t give a shit about this but people in my neighborhood lose their ever loving minds about it so we always carry our dog shit back home or to one of the doggy waste stations. I don’t really get it, but we respect their preferences.
I've been noodling on this because initially my response is "I don't care either". But when I think about it more - if someone puts their bagged dog poop in my FULL cans that are sitting at the curb to be picked up, no, I don't care. It will all be gone w/in a few hours. Whatevs.
But if the cans have been emptied and I haven't had a chance to move them back up to the house? Yeah, I think I'd be annoyed. Poop sitting in a trash can, even bagged, has the possibility of being punctured/opened, or.... what have you. I don't want someone else's dog poop potentially stinking up my trash cans or the area by my house. MY dog's poop is one thing, not someone else's....
That being said - most of this is "on principle" because really, chances are I'm not going to notice someone putting their poop bags in my trash anyhow!
Are you not allowed to have a bag or two outside of the bin on trash day? This is what we have done or we just wait until we have room.
I would say something. Is your trash service private, so you are paying for it, or county run?
We are not. If our lid does not close, we are charged.
That being said, there are 4 houses on our end of the road and we all have the same, minimal trash pick up (every other week). In the houses are 2 single people, DH and myself and a couple with their disabled adult son. The last house has the most overflow, DH and I next. The 2 singles always have space. As both are elderly, DH and I and the other house help them out however is needed (blowing leaves, shoveling snow, walking dogs, etc), they have no problem if we occasionally use their bins for our overflow.
For the most part, we all share trash cans and recycling. However, this is has been agreed to by all parties. If the trash can is by the road and there is space, it can be used. In addition, since we are in travel mode these days, if one of the other houses want to use our trash cans for their overflow, and haul it out to the street and back while we are gone, help yourselves. It is paid for and they are not going to refund our costs, so someone may as well use it.
I am dreading the day where the 2 elderly singles decide their houses are too much to upkeep because we all have a nice set up and everyone gets along.
I personally don’t give a shit about this but people in my neighborhood lose their ever loving minds about it so we always carry our dog shit back home or to one of the doggy waste stations. I don’t really get it, but we respect their preferences.
I've been noodling on this because initially my response is "I don't care either". But when I think about it more - if someone puts their bagged dog poop in my FULL cans that are sitting at the curb to be picked up, no, I don't care. It will all be gone w/in a few hours. Whatevs.
But if the cans have been emptied and I haven't had a chance to move them back up to the house? Yeah, I think I'd be annoyed. Poop sitting in a trash can, even bagged, has the possibility of being punctured/opened, or.... what have you. I don't want someone else's dog poop potentially stinking up my trash cans or the area by my house. MY dog's poop is one thing, not someone else's....
That being said - most of this is "on principle" because really, chances are I'm not going to notice someone putting their poop bags in my trash anyhow!
Our dog's poop goes into a special trash can that lives in the garage and minimizes odor (repurposed diaper dekor) until trash is put at the curb. I'd be really pissed if someone put their dog poo in our can after trash pickup.
I was curious what people would think because I have a neighbor who does this too!
I've always thought it was weird, and DH doesn't care. The one difference is that he's never caused us any inconvenience by causing the issues you described. But I still think it's weird not to ask and pack our cans. In your case I'd say something since you're having to clean up after the guy and what not.
I will just never get over the audacity of people to touch, use, come on to, etc. other people's property (ETA: without asking) like it's no big deal. I don't care WHY they're doing it or whether it actually impacts the other person at all, but just in principle. You have your own yard, your own trash can, alllll your own stuff. Leave mine alone lol.
Yes, this would irritate me to no end and I would say something, because . . .
When I first bought my 2 flat, the next door neighbor kept his trash bins on my property. Before I had even moved in, the tenants next door put their hot coals in their plastic garbage bin which was next to my garage and burned it down. Then, while I was waiting to get the garage rebuilt, get new garbage cans, etc, they kept throwing their trash where the cans had been (not just one unit, but all four in the building). When I called the owner who didn't live there and told him that I didn't want any of his garbage cans, trash, etc on MY property, he told me he had to put it there as there was no room on his property. Yes, I lost it on him. Thankfully, he had sold the building and was closing the next week. The new owner was nice and normal and figured something else out for his trash.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Dec 2, 2021 11:10:55 GMT -5
This morning one of my neighbors posted on a local fb page and asked if she could drop a bag of garbage off at someone's can that was out but hadn't been picked up yet. No one replied. Even when asking, it's weird and will lead to making someone feel 'put out' imo. If you regularly have more trash than you can deal with, contact your garbage company/township/whatever and find out what they want you to do about it.
This morning one of my neighbors posted on a local fb page and asked if she could drop a bag of garbage off at someone's can that was out but hadn't been picked up yet. No one replied. Even when asking, it's weird and will lead to making someone feel 'put out' imo. If you regularly have more trash than you can deal with, contact your garbage company/township/whatever and find out what they want you to do about it.
Aw. People are probably at work and will see it too late. But you ask like this normal lady did. LOL We have one small can picked up a week and it's usually fine. The couple of times it isn't it's been packaging or something and we've driven it over to our cousin's house that lives nearby. I've never even asked our next door neighbor who we're very friendly with.
We are not within city limits, so we pay for pickup. But everyone knows that if you make too much trash, you need to take it to the county centers or get an additional can. Or we just don't have sneaky neighbors.
I wouldn’t care, and probably wouldn’t even notice if someone threw their trash in our cans every so often. We’ve even asked my neighbor to throw something in her cans once or twice before as she’s a single elderly lady and hardly has anything in her bins.
However, in your case it’s not just once or twice and it’s causing you to clean up after him. I would definitely say something.
He likely can request an additional bin(s). Here a second garbage can is an additional charge per month but free for extra recycling bins.