Too early for a bad presents thread? Lol. Pics in OP

[Bernadine]

I told h I wanted a mother’s ring for Christmas. I sent him some beautiful rings from Etsy, all under $100. All of them were very vintage looking.

Well, he gave me a mother’s ring as an early present yesterday. Instead of Etsy, he went to a jeweler, so I’m sure spent a lot more money. The ring…is not at all what I wanted. It’s huge and very modern looking. Not at all my style. I’m actually really surprised, because he usually knows my taste.

I’m guessing I can’t return a custom ring? Lol. Ugh.

The rose gold is what I wanted, but in white gold. The white gold is what he got.

I’ll talk to him about going back to the jeweler.

[TR]

Oh man. I’m sorry. It’s tough to get an expensive gift you don’t like. That sounds sarcastic, lol, but I mean it! If you don’t mind telling him you don’t like it, you could probably go back to the jeweler and have it remade at least into something more your style using the same stones so it hopefully wouldn’t cost much more.

[TR]

I also want to see a picture!

[ProfessorArtNerd]

1) it’s never too early
2) gonna need to see a pic

[wildrice]

Oh no! That really sucks. My XH bought me a few pieces of jewelry over the years that were NMS either. I was always so annoyed because we could never really afford them anyway, but it is so awkward to return a gift like that. Do you think it could grow on you? Perhaps once the shock of getting something different from what you asked for wears off?

I was thinking this was going to be about the surprise from your parents! What did that end up being?

[ssmjlm]

Ugh, I’m sorry.

There’s a necklace DH got me years ago I’ve never worn. It’s a heart necklace with sapphires and NMs at all. I don’t know what do with it. Hmm maybe I’ll sell it on Mercari. I did that with some fugly bridesmaid jewelry.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

Bad presents often result from people not being able to follow simple instructions. Why go off the grid? Your idea is not better than mine. Stop it.

[circa1978]

Dec 19, 2021 11:17:04 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Bad presents often result from people not being able to follow simple instructions. Why go off the grid? Your idea is not better than mine. Stop it.

My ILs buy people gifts they want to give rather than gifts they think people will like. Almost everything they have ever gotten me goes to Goodwill. I don't understand the point.

[dochas]

I know it's hard to say anything and you may be stuck with the ring to spare his feelings. But after years of terrible gifts I have got to where I just say this is awful, like you don't know me at all awful, and let him deal with returning or giving away.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

Dec 19, 2021 11:24:19 GMT -5 circa1978 said:

Dec 19, 2021 11:17:04 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Bad presents often result from people not being able to follow simple instructions. Why go off the grid? Your idea is not better than mine. Stop it.

My ILs buy people gifts they want to give rather than gifts they think people will like. Almost everything they have ever gotten me goes to Goodwill. I don't understand the point.

I know that one should, in theory, be grateful for any gift but I would rather have nothing than something I would never wear/use.

[blondemoment123]

I need to see a picture!

But H finally caught on after many years that I don’t want birthstone, heart shaped necklaces. NMS at all.

[pierogigirl]

I might have one later today. Despite not wanting to exchange gifts, one of my SILS gets me the worst ones every year. DH is in charge of getting things for his side, so they all get gift cards. I have gotten soap for three years and a bathroom "set" with a toilet scrubber on a non-soap year. I have a bet with my friends at work about this year's gift. We are seeing them today, so I should be able to report back later on.

[ohgillian]

Dec 19, 2021 9:36:48 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I told h I wanted a mother’s ring for Christmas. I sent him some beautiful rings from Etsy, all under $100. All of them were very vintage looking.

Well, he gave me a mother’s ring as an early present yesterday. Instead of Etsy, he went to a jeweler, so I’m sure spent a lot more money. The ring…is not at all what I wanted. It’s huge and very modern looking. Not at all my style. I’m actually really surprised, because he usually knows my taste.

I’m guessing I can’t return a custom ring? Lol. Ugh.

This is awful. I’m sorry!

[redheadk]

I preemptively prevented a bad gift from DH!

He texted to ask if a specific kitchen knife was the one I was wanting. Well, DH, it WAS when I was looking to replace our chef's knife that broke but you already bought me a different utilitarian knife to use in preparation of your meals for my birthday so do not, under any circumstances, buy me a completely unneeded duplicate knife for Christmas. It is the kitchen equivalent of buying me a vacuum.

He also had a lovely opal about 2" by 1" that his mother (who has passed) bought in Australia set in a very rough silver setting by a random guy at work that does jewelry making. It is HIDEOUS. Pics don't do it justice. He's purchased other things from this guy, none of which I've ever worn. He finally got the picture when I asked for the guy's info so I could get him a complete set of men's jewelry since he seems to love this guy's work so much that he is more concerned with purchasing from him than actually choosing something that is to my taste.

Instead, I convinced him to commit to having the interior of our house painted in the spring and I sent him links for various lights I have my eye on since we will replace lighting at the same time. We are also getting new living room furniture.

He's a terrible gift giver.

[redheadk]

Dec 19, 2021 9:36:48 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I told h I wanted a mother’s ring for Christmas. I sent him some beautiful rings from Etsy, all under $100. All of them were very vintage looking.

Well, he gave me a mother’s ring as an early present yesterday. Instead of Etsy, he went to a jeweler, so I’m sure spent a lot more money. The ring…is not at all what I wanted. It’s huge and very modern looking. Not at all my style. I’m actually really surprised, because he usually knows my taste.

I’m guessing I can’t return a custom ring? Lol. Ugh.

I'd take it to a jeweler you like, show them what you are actually wanting, then have them use the materials to remake it. 

I'm tired of being nice about bad gifts that are so off the mark that it feels deliberate. 

[rosiebear]

Oh no! Can it be changed up to be more your style? Maybe the custom jeweler will have some ideas.

[icedcoffee]

I’m sorry. My H has done this a few times and it’s infuriating. The last time I wanted something I told him I wanted to order it myself. And I did.

[tacokick]

[mention]justrak [/mention] You can return a custom ring! Is it really custom as in designed for you or just a setting with like stones to match birthdates? Either way you should be able to return it. If it’s really custom the jeweler might be able to remake it for you.

My dad was a jeweler and did this all the time. Men love buying women jewelry they don’t like lol

[tacokick]

Dec 19, 2021 11:47:22 GMT -5 redheadk said:

Dec 19, 2021 9:36:48 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I told h I wanted a mother’s ring for Christmas. I sent him some beautiful rings from Etsy, all under $100. All of them were very vintage looking.

Well, he gave me a mother’s ring as an early present yesterday. Instead of Etsy, he went to a jeweler, so I’m sure spent a lot more money. The ring…is not at all what I wanted. It’s huge and very modern looking. Not at all my style. I’m actually really surprised, because he usually knows my taste.

I’m guessing I can’t return a custom ring? Lol. Ugh.

I'd take it to a jeweler you like, show them what you are actually wanting, then have them use the materials to remake it. 

I'm tired of being nice about bad gifts that are so off the mark that it feels deliberate. 

Yes. Just because it’s a gift doesn’t mean you have to be grateful and like it. “It’s the thought that counts” is a cop out. If you really want to be thoughtful, get something I will actually like. Or nothing. That’s fine too.

[verycontrary247]

A few days ago my husband confessed that he bought tickets for us to a hockey game a few days after Christmas, great seats, arranged for his parents to be in town to watch our kid as my "big" gift (which normally would be spot on except covid etc etc etc. He's got a heart condition and our daughter isn't old enough to get vaxxed so we have been extremely cautious for this whole pandemic)

Then in the same breath he said he is rethinking his whole plan, that we shouldn't go, and he's going to try to resell the tickets. We will probably lose money.

So, present that I would have loved is bad because he lost his mind and bought them for a bad time, then told me about, then cancelled it and I'm really disappointed.

[al dente]

Oh man I hate when you want something simple and the person tries going above and beyond and it totally misses the mark. Then you not only don't have what you want but you feel bad since they put in effort lol.

My Hs grandma is sending us crabs for Christmas which is soooo expensive. And they're arriving Christmas eve or Christmas? What am I suppose to do with fresh overnighted crabs? We have a newborn and toddler so we can't just hang out and pick them. The fun of crabs is eating them in the summer with friends while drinking. Not trying to fit it in with Christmas activities. Also this would be a total surprise, but my mom luckily told me so I'm at least semi prepared. But also now thinking about it I've never steamed crabs and I'm not sure I have anything big enough to steam them. Ugh just send us a check if you're putting out all that money!

[erbear]

Dec 19, 2021 14:54:22 GMT -5 al dente said:

Oh man I hate when you want something simple and the person tries going above and beyond and it totally misses the mark. Then you not only don't have what you want but you feel bad since they put in effort lol.

My Hs grandma is sending us crabs for Christmas which is soooo expensive. And they're arriving Christmas eve or Christmas? What am I suppose to do with fresh overnighted crabs? We have a newborn and toddler so we can't just hang out and pick them. The fun of crabs is eating them in the summer with friends while drinking. Not trying to fit it in with Christmas activities. Also this would be a total surprise, but my mom luckily told me so I'm at least semi prepared. But also now thinking about it I've never steamed crabs and I'm not sure I have anything big enough to steam them. Ugh just send us a check if you're putting out all that money!

I’m sorry but this is hilarious. Who wants crabs for Christmas?!

[VillainV]

Gotta see a pic of the ring!!

Last year my husband got me one of those HUGE blankets that shows up on Facebook. It was the perfect gift idea, and I wanted so much to love it. I love blankets and I hate being cold when sharing blankets. But this thing is so huge that it’s really heavy, I can’t lift it by myself, it takes probably 2-3 people to be able to fold it, and it’s so huge while folded that we have nowhere in the living room to put it. So it’s on the top shelf of the guest room closet. I feel awful for not liking it because it was super thoughtful.

[blondemoment123]

The crabs reminded me that my mom got us a Wisconsin cheese box last year.

[mccallister84]

Dec 19, 2021 15:05:33 GMT -5 erbear said:

Dec 19, 2021 14:54:22 GMT -5 al dente said:

Oh man I hate when you want something simple and the person tries going above and beyond and it totally misses the mark. Then you not only don't have what you want but you feel bad since they put in effort lol.

My Hs grandma is sending us crabs for Christmas which is soooo expensive. And they're arriving Christmas eve or Christmas? What am I suppose to do with fresh overnighted crabs? We have a newborn and toddler so we can't just hang out and pick them. The fun of crabs is eating them in the summer with friends while drinking. Not trying to fit it in with Christmas activities. Also this would be a total surprise, but my mom luckily told me so I'm at least semi prepared. But also now thinking about it I've never steamed crabs and I'm not sure I have anything big enough to steam them. Ugh just send us a check if you're putting out all that money!

I’m sorry but this is hilarious. Who wants crabs for Christmas?!

m.youtube.com/watch?v=izVW1EwEd4A

[mags]

I am also a victim of not so great jewelry from H. He has gotten me some really gorgeous things, but there were a couple that are still in boxes

[mysteriouswife]

I got a kid sized scarf and a hand towel from a family member. My kids got amazing gifts and H got a $50 gift card from the same people. 😂

[pinkdutchtulips]

My sister sent me brandy snifters w an outline of the state of Michigan on them 😳😳 I don’t drink brandy

[isabel]

I am sad that I keep coming into this thread and there is still no pic.

[Jalapeñomel]

m.youtube.com/watch?v=FOVCtUdaMCU