Yet another covid WWYD

[7costanza]

My step brother and his wife are vocally anti-vax, my mom and stepdad had dinner with them and another likely unvaxxed family member at my mom and SD’s house tonight. Mom and SD are both vaccinated and I think boosted. We are supposed to go over there on Friday evening, but I’m not sure I’m comfortable since I have a 2 year old, and my H has not yet had his booster (he had covid in early November). My 8 year old had his second shot last week and I had my booster a few weeks ago. I’m not really worried about any of us getting seriously sick, but if my H gets covid again he will have to take time off unpaid which is not great.

I asked my mom that they get rapid tests on Friday but she seemed hesitant. If they do get tested and are negative, would you still go? Would you go if they don’t test? I’m so sick of making these decisions and kind of mad at my mom for putting me in the position of having to back out of yet another family event.

[letsgetweird]

Yes, I would go. I'm not willing to miss out on moments with my family and friends. Who knows how many unvaxxed people I come in contact with on a daily basis.

I'm healthy and vaxxed so I don't see myself making any changes any time soon. I know not everyone has their health so u understand why they may choose differently for those reasons.

[FastHands]

Testing would be pointless given the timing even if there was exposure.

As long as no one was sick (read:displaying symptoms of something), I would still go.

[sonrisa]

Are you gathering for a meal or just a get together? If the former, can you pop by without participating in the meal? I'm not eating inside with strangers or unvaxed people these days. There are lots of other ways to be jolly and festive.

[7costanza]

Dec 23, 2021 0:55:58 GMT -5 FastHands said:

Testing would be pointless given the timing even if there was exposure.

As long as no one was sick (read:displaying symptoms of something), I would still go.

For some reason I thought you could test sooner with omicron but you’re right, looks like they’re still recommending 72 hours after exposure.

[7costanza]

Dec 23, 2021 1:13:03 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Are you gathering for a meal or just a get together? If the former, can you pop by without participating in the meal? I'm not eating inside with strangers or unvaxed people these days. There are lots of other ways to be jolly and festive.

We were going to do heavy apps and cookies, but can skip the food so we can leave masks on.

[sonrisa]

I realize I'm a little confused - Are you eating with the antivax step brother, or just eating with someone who ate with your anti-vax step brother? The former might give me pause. The later I'd be okay with if it were someone I was already okay with eating with. (doubly if everyone is testing). Obviously if the antivaxxers come down with symptoms, that is a different matter.

[7costanza]

Dec 23, 2021 1:38:12 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

I realize I'm a little confused - Are you eating with the antivax step brother, or just eating with someone who ate with your anti-vax step brother? The former might give me pause. The later I'd be okay with if it were someone I was already okay with eating with. (doubly if everyone is testing). Obviously if the antivaxxers come down with symptoms, that is a different matter.

We will not be with the anti-vax step brother, just my mom and step dad who were with them tonight. My sister and her family will be there as well, but they’re all fully vaxed and will test prior (as will we). Just my mom and SD will not have tested, but they are willing to mask.

[jorja]

If you can trust them to be truly honest about any symptoms (like, even a runny nose), I’d go assuming everyone was feeling well.

[devonpow]

I keep reading about the rule of “two out of three” for indoor situations. The three things are:vaccinated, masks, rapid tests. If you do two of those three things you can gather safely inside (so if you are having a meal together you should rapid test since masks will be off). If you have easy access to rapid tests I would do it, it can’t hurt and you will feel better.

[elefun]

I would go, but I completely understand the hesitation and wouldn't judge someone who didn't go either.

[emilyinchile]

I wouldn't even question this, honestly. I'm cautious and have a baby who is obviously unvaccinated, but that means I control the situations I personally am in. I don't worry about who everyone I see (all vaccinated) has seen unless it's something really risky like a mass event or there's an actual exposure. We do continue to mask with ILs for the most part and always if they're with the baby because one BIL works with Covid patients, for example, but in your situation I wouldn't think to worry unless someone starts showing symptoms or tests positive.

[Deleted]

You're mad at your mom, for what, inconveniencing you? Then don't go.

They did what they were comfortable with, and points them for being honest with you so you could make a decision! Frankly I think it's inconsiderate to ask them to test ...asking your host to do something to make you comfortable is really tactless.

If it's your gtg at your home, you can ask everyone to do whatever you want.


Personally if I took every precaution available to me and my family to protect ourselves, and still am concerned - why go to doctors offices or grocery stores?

These are special moments that you and your family will be missing out on because your trying to control something that is out of everyone's hands.

You did the best you can, that's all you can do.

[smock]

It's inconsiderate to ask someone to test before spending time indoors with your too-young-to-vax kid? Uh, no. Pretty sure even Emily Post would laugh at that. We're in a pandemic!

Eating a meal inside is very different than going to the doctor's office or grocery store, where you can wear masks the whole time.

OP, if it makes you more comfortable, ask them to test.

[cap]

Dec 23, 2021 7:23:22 GMT -5 devonpow said:

I keep reading about the rule of “two out of three” for indoor situations. The three things are:vaccinated, masks, rapid tests. If you do two of those three things you can gather safely inside (so if you are having a meal together you should rapid test since masks will be off). If you have easy access to rapid tests I would do it, it can’t hurt and you will feel better.

This exactly. Even if your parents hadn’t been around unvaccinated people recently, it’s still a good idea for everyone to test given that omicron is spreading like crazy. For the next little while, any time we’re around people we don’t live with, and are indoors and unmasked, everyone will be testing.

[devonpow]

Dec 23, 2021 10:58:05 GMT -5 @princesslily said:

You're mad at your mom, for what, inconveniencing you? Then don't go.

They did what they were comfortable with, and points them for being honest with you so you could make a decision! Frankly I think it's inconsiderate to ask them to test ...asking your host to do something to make you comfortable is really tactless.

If it's your gtg at your home, you can ask everyone to do whatever you want.


Personally if I took every precaution available to me and my family to protect ourselves, and still am concerned - why go to doctors offices or grocery stores?

These are special moments that you and your family will be missing out on because your trying to control something that is out of everyone's hands.

You did the best you can, that's all you can do.

it is absolutely not inconsiderate to ask them to test. It is what literally every epidemiologist/health care professional currently recommends

[ECB]

Yeah ….. it’s a pandemic. Wanting people to test, regardless of their “role” isn’t inconsiderate

My family has been cautious. But guess who just had to cancel Christmas plans? DS came down with symptoms last night and tested positive this morning. And i think i may have it - i don’t feel good.

Don’t know if it’s necessarily omicron, but this shit is no joke. People are waiting hours to get tested and the at home tests are sold out everywhere (luckily we had one left for DS). Covid is spreading fast and furious right now.

Numerous people in my neighborhood have tested positive in just the past couple days. All vaxxed and boosted, all wear masks, etc etc etc. we’ve all been fine for over a year and a 1/2 and we’re now falling like flies.

[7costanza]

Thank you all for your input! A neighbor is going to give me a couple of rapid home tests, assuming they arrive today as scheduled, so I’m feeling better about going. My mom and step dad are going to mask, everyone will have tested and I think that’s all we can do at this point.

[7costanza]

Dec 23, 2021 14:17:18 GMT -5 ECB said:

Yeah ….. it’s a pandemic. Wanting people to test, regardless of their “role” isn’t inconsiderate

My family has been cautious. But guess who just had to cancel Christmas plans? DS came down with symptoms last night and tested positive this morning. And i think i may have it - i don’t feel good.

Don’t know if it’s necessarily omicron, but this shit is no joke. People are waiting hours to get tested and the at home tests are sold out everywhere (luckily we had one left for DS). Covid is spreading fast and furious right now.

Numerous people in my neighborhood have tested positive in just the past couple days. All vaxxed and boosted, all wear masks, etc etc etc. we’ve all been fine for over a year and a 1/2 and we’re now falling like flies.

Oh man, I’m sorry 😞. I hope it’s mild for you both.

[7costanza]

mofongo Masking is probably overkill, but they offered and my H seems pretty paranoid about getting covid from them so it will make him feel better. We will mask most of the time too, except when eating/drinking. Maybe my H just doesn’t want to go, lol.

[Leeham Rimes]

Asking people to test isn’t rude. It’s literally what the cdc recommends to be as safe as possible. It’s rude to refuse.

nymag.com/intelligencer/amp/2021/12/cdc-recommends-at-home-covid-test-before-indoor-gatherings.html

No fucking wonder COVID is here to stay. Good god.

[Leeham Rimes]

Oh and if this was me, I’d be ok with negative tests and no symptoms. We’re testing tonight before going to my moms tomorrow. No known exposures or anything but—why not. We have been to a few things out in the public.

Won’t hurt anyone. Hell my father in law tested every time he came over to see the boys before they got vaccinated. We didn’t even have to ask.