Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Jan 6, 2022 8:32:37 GMT -5
Ugh. H’s jerk cat peed on the only piece of furniture we have that has no removable/washable parts. Dick wrinkle. So I’ll be at petco when they open to buy natures miracle. What a chode he is.
Post by georgeharrison on Jan 6, 2022 8:44:04 GMT -5
Cat pee is the worst. I hope you are able to get it out, ProfessorArtNerd.
We are still dealing with junk from trying to sell our old house. This house has something attached to it (memory, not something physical) that I need to be done with. I really need this sale to go through, and I'm willing to do almost anything to make that happen. I just need the buyer to communicate and let us know what they want.
I have piano lesson today for which I haven't practiced in weeks. And then we have counseling tonight. Lately, the counseling has not been very interactive. I have felt like we go and I talk and my husband is there to just listen to what I'm saying or nod. I am glad he is willing to do it, but it would be nice if he would actually contribute.
We ordered a sliding patio door for our kitchen in May and it was finally installed yesterday! I thought it was never going to happen. Now our kitchen Reno we started in May is almost done lol. We blew out the old door to the back yard (just a single regular door) and it’s added so much more light. The installers did the blow out and installation in 3 hours which was great, but so much dust. Thankfully the cleaners are coming today.
Dd is finally back to school today. The house is so nice and quiet!
I have a mountain of laundry to tackle that is totally overwhelming me, to the point where I just keep putting it off. And so of course, the mountain keeps growing, and I keep getting more overwhelmed.
Weight loss culture is fully out of control. It’s extra in your face this time of year especially, but in general it’s completely over the top.
I was in the ER yesterday for my ear. Included in my handouts as I left was a two page fear-filled document about the importance of losing weight.
I was in for my ear.
That handout was one page. Those are the only two handouts I got.
And yes, I realize it may just be some standard handout, but I have a history of ED and major self-hatred issues related to weight that I am finally at terms with and in a “healthy” place about and bam! This could have been a huge trigger for me if I was not in a decent place mentally right now.
I may say something, but advocating for myself and others has not really ever been a positive experience for me.
Waiting to see if the kids swim meet will be cancelled this weekend. I really hope not, but covid is surging and we are supposed to get snow.
Anyone have some good suggestions to cut out coffee? I normally have two cups a day, cream and sugar. It's a ritual I enjoy but I should move to tea or something for multiple reasons.
Waiting to see if the kids swim meet will be cancelled this weekend. I really hope not, but covid is surging and we are supposed to get snow.
Anyone have some good suggestions to cut out coffee? I normally have two cups a day, cream and sugar. It's a ritual I enjoy but I should move to tea or something for multiple reasons.
I’m not trying to be obtuse, but if it’s a ritual you enjoy, why do you want to cut it out?
I’ve tried in the past by switching to no sugar, then no cream, but all that led to is me liking black coffee.
Fourth school snow day of the week (roads/sidewalks are still pretty crappy in places, but consensus is the district is taking the out for an unofficial post-holiday covid pause), expecting more snow tonight so pretty sure tomorrow is a no-go too. Downside of remote work being more widely accepted is no real snow days for me
There are 7 more inches of snow on the ground in addition to the 10" from Sunday night. It's supposed to continue snowing until noon. School is canceled for the second time this week.
Anyone have some good suggestions to cut out coffee? I normally have two cups a day, cream and sugar. It's a ritual I enjoy but I should move to tea or something for multiple reasons.
My suggestions would change based on why you want to cut it out. The caffeine? Maybe try hot chocolate or tea. Calories? Low cal creamer and stevia instead. Upsets your stomach? Tea/hot chocolate suggestion again lol I guess I can't think of other reasons to cut it out if you enjoy the ritual.
I’m sorry, calamity! It sucks to give it up. Maybe start with cutting down to one a day? Or doing decaf/half caf? I know those can be easier on the stomach. A local roaster here has some amazing decaf that I wouldn’t even know was decaf, maybe you can find some high quality decaf to make it easier.
Tea never really worked for me for a switch, but there are some really good coffee flavored teas out there (I had a coconut espresso chai I liked, but it’s high caffeine and that may not be helpful for your purposes).
omglol , TR , ulcer issues and adrenal fatigue. It's time but I don't wanna...
So I had to google adrenal fatigue and it seems like the caffeine in the coffee is the issue there? So I'd keep the ritual of preparing a hot drink and switch over to an herbal tea or hot chocolate. Actually, I first started drinking coffee at my first office job only because it was the morning ritual for everyone going into the office, going to the kitchen to make coffee and I liked that. I hated the actual taste so at first I just made hot chocolate and added a little bit of coffee and over time it eventually became all coffee lol Maybe you could do the reverse lol
calamity- Have you tried a tea latte? I've only made them one way but the instructions I follow is to use 2 tea bags and about a 1/3 c of boiling water and let it steep a while (I think the box says 8 minutes) and then add hot milk. It feels more coffee like than a regular cup of tea.
omglol, that is so stupid and you are so right. Does your hospital do patient surveys? I would at least mention it there if you don't want to bring it up otherwise. That should not be standard information handed to everyone!
I am tired of having a constant runny nose in the winter. We have humidifiers running, it's just dry no matter what. I am ready for spring. Oddly I do not seem to get much in the way of allergies in this state, so winter is actually the worst for me with those kinds of symptoms!
Although now that I typed that, I wonder if it's because I take Zyrtec every day that I don't get allergies, lol. We got a cat right after we moved here and I know I have a mild allergy to cats, so I started taking one daily almost right away. Maybe I am actually allergic to stuff here and the Zyrtec just works really well! The cat doesn't seem to bother me at all.
Good idea, wildrice - I’ll mention it in the survey (if I get one). If I don’t get one I may send a message to patient services or something, because you’re right. If it is a standard handout, it shouldn’t be. If it isn’t standard, then giving it to me was, at best, shortsighted, especially since they never asked me about my general health or weighed me or really asked about anything other than my ear. Making assumptions about people’s health based on their weight is very obvious anti-fat bias.
Weight loss culture is fully out of control. It’s extra in your face this time of year especially, but in general it’s completely over the top.
I was in the ER yesterday for my ear. Included in my handouts as I left was a two page fear-filled document about the importance of losing weight.
I was in for my ear.
That handout was one page. Those are the only two handouts I got.
And yes, I realize it may just be some standard handout, but I have a history of ED and major self-hatred issues related to weight that I am finally at terms with and in a “healthy” place about and bam! This could have been a huge trigger for me if I was not in a decent place mentally right now.
I may say something, but advocating for myself and others has not really ever been a positive experience for me.
It’s fucking infuriating. Diets don’t work. I know it’s sooo popular to do the whole 30 or WW this time of year, but they’re really predatory programs that spam my SM (and Not to mention the rail thin women toting postpartum weight loss).
Post by emilyinchile on Jan 6, 2022 10:24:00 GMT -5
omglol how infuriating. I HATE so much how the idea of doing things like eating in a way that makes your body feel good or moving your body because it's good for you overall (mind and soul, not just body) has become twisted by diet culture into something that makes people feel so bad instead of good. I totally understand if you're not up to saying something about it, but you have my support if you decide to do it.
After hours of printing documents and looking up every single trip I've ever taken to the US to write it on a paper the Embassy barely looked at, DS is now a US citizen who will be receiving his passport in a few weeks. So glad to have that paperwork done with!
(and Not to mention the rail thin women toting postpartum weight loss).
DUDE. Whole other level of rage for me. People have been so focused on my weight during pregnancy and PP as though I deserve praise for not having gained a ton, and I'm just like seriously??? Who are you to be telling me that I'm all set because I fit into certain jeans and meet your standard? I can tell you that with my clothes off I very much do not look the same and also more importantly I still have way less core strength and function - ya know, things that actually matter to living my life - but apparently as long as I look how other people want me to that's all that counts.
It’s fucking infuriating. Diets don’t work. I know it’s sooo popular to do the whole 30 or WW this time of year, but they’re really predatory programs that spam my SM (and Not to mention the rail thin women toting postpartum weight loss).
100!
All of this, plus it just made me so sad to see so many people in my life and on this board say their low points were gaining weight. I’ve been that person and I’m still that person on bad days, but gosh it just breaks my heart in pieces that we (general we) are all so conditioned that a little weight gain is a reason to be so down on ourselves and so *mean* to ourselves, leading to more dieting which inevitably fails which leads to more loathing rinse repeat forever and ever. It’s just not a way to live a life. Im fucking 40 and have been mad at my weight nearly my whole life - that is so sad! I could have used that energy for so many better things than worrying about my size.
I have a ton of empathy for all of us who have battled this thinking. It’s sooooo prevalent and impossible to escape. I just have had to surround myself with fat advocates on social media/podcasts/books I read/etc to loosen than grip that society has on all of us, and I STILL see anti-fat bias (purposeful, systemic, and/or accidental) all day every day.
A friend of H's called one of DH's former coworkers before Christmas. The guy's wife answered his cell phone and said that he wasn't available, and they chatted about her job and just normal, hope you have a nice holiday kind of stuff.
He called again after Christmas, and that was when the wife told him that former coworker had died, two days before their previous conversation, BUT...she hadn't told him, because she had still been waiting for her H to come back to life.
She said that they both believed that they would come back to life in 7 days, but since 7 days had passed, she guessed that wasn't going to happen.
I texted our eldest, and told her to call me, that I had a crazy story to tell that was too long/complicated for a text. After I told her the whole thing, she said that I called just to hear her "Whaa, whaa....huh?" reaction. That's pretty much how we sounded too. We are still having trouble getting full sentences out when we talk about it. lol DH kind of sighs (or maybe inhales?), rolls his eyes and shakes his head as he walks away when it has come up.
omglol - fuck that hospital. And YES to the gaining weight as a Low for 2021. In my post in that thread I started to write in the Lows that I hadn't lost weight which I would have liked to have done and then I looked at those words underneath the line about my amazing cousin dying at 37 and thought wtaf is wrong with me? I am SO.LUCKY. to have this body that is healthy and strong. Fuck diet culture.
TBM - was this some kind of religious belief? I'm fascinated. Also LOL that she "guessed" it wasn't going to happen after 7 days. Also, was his body just...in their house for 7 days?
TBM - was this some kind of religious belief? I'm fascinated. Also LOL that she "guessed" it wasn't going to happen after 7 days. Also, was his body just...in their house for 7 days?
I am just guessing that it was a religious belief, but I don't know.
We have no details. The guy that told DH told him by text, and he normally calls. I think he was so shocked by the whole thing that he is having a hard time processing it too.
Post by followyourarrow on Jan 6, 2022 10:48:36 GMT -5
I'm planning to move in 3-6 months. Hopefully for a new job closer to my sister, but it may just be a local move to a townhouse. I've told myself I can't buy anything I have to move, I can buy consumables only. I'm kinda shocked at how often I have to remove things from my cart or close out of a browser window to keep with that goal. I'm also really focusing on using things up so I don't have to move them, and ugh and I have stuff.