One month and three dates in and the says "I love you". :-|
I slept over (no sex) and I swear in the middle of the night that is what he said. I did the whole pretend to be asleep thing. The sad thing is that I'm not into him and I was very clear I wasn't interested in a relationship or any sort of commitment. I feel like such an asshole.
He lives far away and I just figured out that I really, really don't want a relationship with him or anyone else right now. I think I was trying to push to see if there was chemistry. I agree I threw him mixed signals.
Yes, I told him was sorry but I don't think it's going to work. He asked if we can be friends. It's a shame because he's such a nice guy. But, he's just...nice.
That's good. Nothing wrong with ending things for no sparks. On the third date ILY though, I was talking to my supervisor today about dating and she swears that men know if they love you after the third date. This boggles my mind!
That's good. Nothing wrong with ending things for no sparks. On the third date ILY though, I was talking to my supervisor today about dating and she swears that men know if they love you after the third date. This boggles my mind!
Pssh. Impossible. She must be thinking of romance novel love. I agree that you can definitely get a good feeling after spending some time with a good person, but how could someone possibly know another person to truly love them.. warts, bad days, mistakes and everything else that comes with actually knowing someone? I don't think you can experience enough of a person in just 3 dates to know that.
Yeah. I think they are attracted to you, lust after you, but love? No. You can't love someone you don't know and you can't know someone after 3 dates. I think the friend in this scenario may be one of those crazy "I love you sluts" who gets married a week after dating (which my mom totally did with husband #4).
Pssh. Impossible. She must be thinking of romance novel love. I agree that you can definitely get a good feeling after spending some time with a good person, but how could someone possibly know another person to truly love them.. warts, bad days, mistakes and everything else that comes with actually knowing someone? I don't think you can experience enough of a person in just 3 dates to know that.
Yeah. I think they are attracted to you, lust after you, but love? No. You can't love someone you don't know and you can't know someone after 3 dates. I think the friend in this scenario may be one of those crazy "I love you sluts" who gets married a week after dating (which my mom totally did with husband #4).
Oh, I completely agree. Everyone is still on best behavior on date three. I mean, if you haven't seen me get drunk and do the wobble, I don't think you can really know you love me.
Mr. Kuus was one of these crazies - asking to be exclusive after 1 date, and saying "I love you" after only three weeks.
Was this guy kind of young?
Just curious Kuus, did you recipricate the "i love you" at three weeks or wait? Did you KNOW then that you would marry him?
I didn't reciprocate, mainly because I was irritable and being a stubborn ass, and he had just said that Ally McBeal wasn't nearly as good a show as Dawson's Creek.
I'd like to say I knew then, and I did think that at the time, but I'd "known" with dozens of guys before that, so, you know, hindsight and all.
Just curious Kuus, did you recipricate the "i love you" at three weeks or wait? Did you KNOW then that you would marry him?
I didn't reciprocate, mainly because I was irritable and being a stubborn ass, and he had just said that Ally McBeal wasn't nearly as good a show as Dawson's Creek.
I'd like to say I knew then, and I did think that at the time, but I'd "known" with dozens of guys before that, so, you know, hindsight and all.
Gotcha. Thanks. The reason I ask is because I am feeling SUPER strongly about the new guy I am seeing....I didnt even feel this strongly about my XH....so I am scared but excited...the new guy feels the same way....we havent said I love you yet or anything...but I have a feeling it will happen sooner than I ever imagined with a relationship