So sorry. I am dealing with dementia with my dad and understand how difficult it is. Sending you so many hugs. I hope you are able to find an appropriate place for her quickly.
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Alzheimer's is a thieving bastard of a disease and not something anyone should suffer. I went through this with my dad and 2 of mom's sisters in the last decade or so.
The Alzheimer's Association has a lot of resources. They can hook you up with a IRL or online support group- these very nice people kept me sane when I was going through it. They also have trained care consultants who can talk to you over the phone for free if you ever need to talk to talk something through.
I am so sorry. I am dealing with dementia with my mother and I know how horrible these diseases are. I recently started working with a therapist to talk through this and get extra support. I wish I had started earlier and highly recommend it.
I’m so sorry. If it helps, once we put my MIL in memory care, and we knew she was safe from wandering/driving, it was such a relief. She made friends (and found two boyfriends!) very quickly and I think it was a load off everyone’s mind — hers as well.
She has been getting into fights with people, I think her perception of thing is off, so she reacts in appropriate to the situation.
I know life is not fair and all that, but this feels like a cruel way to go when she has been my only parent for 40 years. Robbing her of her memories and the essence of who she is... that is what is hard. And her apologizing to me for not doing better for me and my sister, as if that is why this is happening was too much. She did an amazing job and had to pick up so many pieces on her own.
Post by themoneytree on Mar 13, 2022 21:22:38 GMT -5
My mom has it too. The hardest part has been feeling like I’ve already lost her before she’s gone. She’s such a different person now. That said she’s happy enough which I’m very grateful for. It’s just that she’s not the same person I grew up with.
Knowing she is safe will hopefully be a huge relief for you and structure is great for them too. Wishing you all the best. It’s a long road for sure.
Post by fivechickens on Mar 13, 2022 21:47:16 GMT -5
I am so sorry. I recently found out by accident that my uncle has Alzheimer’s.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself and let people help even if it is to sit with your mom when you have other things to do. My aunt (the above uncle’s wife) had a very dear friend that she took care of with dementia who was moved to an assisted living. There were days when my aunt couldn’t go see her and she would feel terrible. Thankfully, her friends would ‘sub’ for her so it gave my aunt a huge sense of relief.