DD has attended clinics for three weeks to prep for color guard tryouts. Today was tryouts. The coach has been hateful and not flexible about anything. She was told they wouldn’t be told who made the team until Monday. The coach is allowing two girls who she knows outside of the clinics submit videos. The coach is a college kid who was on the team in the past. I’m annoyed for many reasons. This is not helping.
Also what happened to the days where everyone was on the team if they wanted to be? Why do kids have to tryout for everything? To add to my annoyance the coach said if they don’t make the team to try next year. This is the ultimate looking for a job without experience and being told you need experience.
I don't know, those days were before I was old enough to be on teams! I tried out for a lot of stuff in middle school and didn't make the team for any of it, lol.
I actually tried out for color guard my freshman and sophomore years of high school and didn't make that either, but I did make it my junior and senior year and it was so much fun. I hope your daughter makes the team - I have such great memories of doing that! Sorry the coach sucks, though.
DD has attended clinics for three weeks to prep for color guard tryouts. Today was tryouts. The coach has been hateful and not flexible about anything. She was told they wouldn’t be told who made the team until Monday. The coach is allowing two girls who she knows outside of the clinics submit videos. The coach is a college kid who was on the team in the past. I’m annoyed for many reasons. This is not helping.
Also what happened to the days where everyone was on the team if they wanted to be? Why do kids have to tryout for everything? To add to my annoyance the coach said if they don’t make the team to try next year. This is the ultimate looking for a job without experience and being told you need experience.
Those days didn’t exist when I was in middle school in the mid to late 80’s. I remember 60 girls trying out for the basketball team and only 12 made the team. There isn’t enough room/uniforms/equipment for everyone.
I’m on vacation and I lost my wallet (ID, health ins card, 3 credit cards, etc)!!
Anyone ever had to fly home without ID? I do have a photo of it and my SSN card (and I’m with my family so hoping they will vouch for me ha). What a freaking pain. Also have another hotel to check into but I think my DHs name is also on that reservation.
I have an expired passport at home I could have someone mail me but I don’t think that would work?
I have.
I realized I didn't have my ID when I arrived at the airport to depart for vacation. I did have a couple CCs with my name, and a screenshot of my ID. The TSA agent there let me through without any additional screening but warned me that coming home through MCO would be more difficult/time consuming.
It honestly was not as bad as I expected, but it was definitely a time consuming process. I had a photo of my ID but they couldn't accept it. Make sure you get to the airport several hours before hand. It took an additional hour for me to make it through security at MCO. The TSA agent asked me questions about my name, address, and some other questions. (I think mine were prior addresses and cars I had owned?) I also had to go through a patdown and have my bags searched.
DD has attended clinics for three weeks to prep for color guard tryouts. Today was tryouts. The coach has been hateful and not flexible about anything. She was told they wouldn’t be told who made the team until Monday. The coach is allowing two girls who she knows outside of the clinics submit videos. The coach is a college kid who was on the team in the past. I’m annoyed for many reasons. This is not helping.
Also what happened to the days where everyone was on the team if they wanted to be? Why do kids have to tryout for everything? To add to my annoyance the coach said if they don’t make the team to try next year. This is the ultimate looking for a job without experience and being told you need experience.
Those days didn’t exist when I was in middle school in the mid to late 80’s. I remember 60 girls trying out for the basketball team and only 12 made the team. There isn’t enough room/uniforms/equipment for everyone.
For some things - like a basketball team with rules about how many players on the court at a time - this makes perfect sense. But there are definitely activities out there that seem to have arbitrary limits when they could include more people.
I have never been in color guard but is there a reason they can’t have more people in the group? Even if they had a smaller “competition guard” that was in the competitions and then a larger group that performed at the games?
I’m thinking of things like - cheerleading, student council, safety patrol, etc.
Post by Dznyprnces on Apr 10, 2022 11:09:08 GMT -5
I’ve been really struggling lately (I have reached out and have a therapy appointment in a week). On Friday my ex MIL was harassing me about my summer vacation plans. I finally told her not to contact me again. Today she and my ex husband are bad mouthing me on Facebook. I know better than to say anything, but it’s definitely not helping my mental health.
Post by maudefindlay on Apr 10, 2022 11:09:12 GMT -5
Lots of sports are under rules by their state athletic associations limiting the # of kids who can be on teams. I do agree with your general stance though, it stinks that a kid has to pick their sport at such a young age and then do all the travel leagues etc. A kid who starts liking basketball in middle school has such a hard time getting on a team, because they are so "behind".
That said, girls sports have not even been readily available all that long. My Mom graduated high school in 1964 and you could do cheerleading or band. My Mom had a standing weekly appointment with her school's principal where she begged to play a sport,not a specific one, just A sport. She offered to tee off the men's tee to be on the golf team, nope. Women have been telling men of the inequity in women's sports for decades. Yesterday I got a flyer in the mail from a local representative here in IN assuring me he will vote to protect women's sports. Uh huh.
We filled out virtual birthday cards for 2 people on our team at work. My note included "enjoy your day!" When it was sent out, it was changed to "enjoy you're day". Mine wasn't the only one changed either. Of course my sentiment was signed with my name so it looks like I wrote it that way when I didn't! I wouldn't care if the person in charge of it just spelled it wrong on her own note, it happens. But to change everyone else's and not consider maybe you're the one spelling it wrong? Like.. what? Why?
This would make me so mad, and I might even say something to the birthday person if we were close so they didn't think I wrote it that way 🤣
I considered saying something, either to the recipients or the sender, but I couldn't figure out how to do it without sounding totally bitchy haha.
Post by wanderingback on Apr 10, 2022 11:35:11 GMT -5
I hung out with a friend last night while my partner was out with friends. My friend and I ordered "gourmet" personal size pizzas. I saved the other half in the fridge for today.
My partner came home after 2 am and ate all my damn pizza! Claiming that anything in the fridge is ours, grrrr. He has cooked for me the past 2 days, but that does not negate that I wanted that damn leftover pizza!
I'm irrationally annoyed at my brother. He's having his daughter's birthday party at my dad's house this coming weekend. I was texting him to see if he needs me to bring anything or help in any way and he ends his reply with 'oh, last request, can you leave your dog at home, niece doesn't understand dogs and we are afraid she'll do something to get herself hurt.'
Perfectly fine request I know. Except when you take into account my brother and sister in law have had at least one dog for the past 13 years. At one point when my niece was younger they had 2. They currently have a large (90 pounds or so) retriever of some sort and they don't keep the kids away from the dog. My dog isn't small, but he's "only" 70 pounds and well socialized. He loves kids and has met all the kids in the family and does well with them.
The biggest threat my dog poses is to food, he will definitely take an opportunity to nab food from you in a party or picnic situation. So I had already mostly decided to leave him home even though that cuts down on the time I would get to spend at my dad's (round trip its 3 hours driving if there's zero traffic, so it's helpful to bring the dog along just so you don't have to rush home and can actually relax and visit).
So I text my brother back something to the effect "oh, haha, I wouldn't worry about niece getting hurt because the dog loves kids but I might worry about her food. I was already planning to leave him home since there would be too many plates to protect!". Brother says "oh I hadn't even thought about that". So seriously brother you are letting your kid grow up climbing all over your 90 lb dog and not teaching her manners regarding dogs? (I can't tell you the number of pictures we get sent with her using the dog as an arm rest) or are you afraid of my dog cause he's a pit bull?
Anyway, I know it's irrational. Dogs don't have to go everywhere. My brother very easily irritates the crap out of me and I'm pretty sure that's what's happening here. But don't tell me your kid doesn't understand dogs and then send me pictures of her using your dog as a backrest.
USPS wouldn't let me sign in (account disabled message), so I figured would just register a new account. I finally found a user name that worked (after several tries) and filled out the form, but I got an error message and thought it didn't work. I started over and it said that the name was in use, so I tried signing in and it said that the account didn't exist. ??!!??
I finally decided to call to get help, followed all of the prompts and stayed on for a representative (as I was instructed) just to get an automated 'nobody's here; office closed today' type of message and hung up on.
DH said that he would just take care of having the mail held, like that would solve everything, and that just made me annoyed with both him and usps. That isn't going to solve my problem of apparently being locked out of usps, DH!
Hopefully someone can help me figure it out tomorrow.
Those days didn’t exist when I was in middle school in the mid to late 80’s. I remember 60 girls trying out for the basketball team and only 12 made the team. There isn’t enough room/uniforms/equipment for everyone.
For some things - like a basketball team with rules about how many players on the court at a time - this makes perfect sense. But there are definitely activities out there that seem to have arbitrary limits when they could include more people.
I have never been in color guard but is there a reason they can’t have more people in the group? Even if they had a smaller “competition guard” that was in the competitions and then a larger group that performed at the games?
I’m thinking of things like - cheerleading, student council, safety patrol, etc.
At some point you don’t have enough coaches to effectively supervise and coach a large number of participants. So if there is one coach, then any more then 15 or 20 would be too much.
I hung out with a friend last night while my partner was out with friends. My friend and I ordered "gourmet" personal size pizzas. I saved the other half in the fridge for today.
My partner came home after 2 am and ate all my damn pizza! Claiming that anything in the fridge is ours, grrrr. He has cooked for me the past 2 days, but that does not negate that I wanted that damn leftover pizza!
I'm so sorry! This made me irritated for you and also laugh.
I imagined your partner coming in at 2 am...peeking in the fridge "oh! Pizza yumm!"
This has absolutely happened in my relationship and now: there are some explicit moments of: THIS IS MINE. DO NOT. I REPEAT DO NOT TOUCH IT.
I hung out with a friend last night while my partner was out with friends. My friend and I ordered "gourmet" personal size pizzas. I saved the other half in the fridge for today.
My partner came home after 2 am and ate all my damn pizza! Claiming that anything in the fridge is ours, grrrr. He has cooked for me the past 2 days, but that does not negate that I wanted that damn leftover pizza!
I'm so sorry! This made me irritated for you and also laugh.
I imagined your partner coming in at 2 am...peeking in the fridge "oh! Pizza yumm!"
This has absolutely happened in my relationship and now: there are some explicit moments of: THIS IS MINE. DO NOT. I REPEAT DO NOT TOUCH IT.
Lol, yes lesson learned. I will def leave a note to leave my shit alone going forward!
We filled out virtual birthday cards for 2 people on our team at work. My note included "enjoy your day!" When it was sent out, it was changed to "enjoy you're day". Mine wasn't the only one changed either. Of course my sentiment was signed with my name so it looks like I wrote it that way when I didn't! I wouldn't care if the person in charge of it just spelled it wrong on her own note, it happens. But to change everyone else's and not consider maybe you're the one spelling it wrong? Like.. what? Why?
This would make me so mad, and I might even say something to the birthday person if we were close so they didn't think I wrote it that way 🤣
I would definitely say something to the birthday person. Also, if I knew who the "changer" was, I'd say something to them, too. But, I'm bitchy like that.
DD has attended clinics for three weeks to prep for color guard tryouts. Today was tryouts. The coach has been hateful and not flexible about anything. She was told they wouldn’t be told who made the team until Monday. The coach is allowing two girls who she knows outside of the clinics submit videos. The coach is a college kid who was on the team in the past. I’m annoyed for many reasons. This is not helping.
Also what happened to the days where everyone was on the team if they wanted to be? Why do kids have to tryout for everything? To add to my annoyance the coach said if they don’t make the team to try next year. This is the ultimate looking for a job without experience and being told you need experience.
Those days didn’t exist when I was in middle school in the mid to late 80’s. I remember 60 girls trying out for the basketball team and only 12 made the team. There isn’t enough room/uniforms/equipment for everyone.
Also, if drill is already written, it can be hard to squeeze in extra people. They write for a certain number, especially if they're a competitive (or feed into a competitive) organization.
As someone who marched and then taught, having it be open to everyone kind of sucks because a lot of kids take a similar attitude to practices and shows, which makes it really difficult to have a successful season. Everything has to be written very simply and basic because you never know when you'll have holes, and work has to be re-taught many many times because you never know who will show up.
See how I turned that into my own vent, lol. Sorry your coach hasn't figured out a kind way to enforce boundaries, though. That sucks, especially with kids.
Yes, just allow more time. It’s really not that big of a deal, people lose stuff while traveling and the airports are prepared. You really just have to plan for additional time not all the stuff the PP laid out.
Good to know. Idk why my coworker had a different experience. Maybe there were extenuating circumstances.
This happened to me! I lost my license on the BART on the way to the SFO airport. I had literally nothing else on me - my H at the time carried our joint CC’s and I didn’t bring a wallet. I was pulled out of line, they separated me from my carry on and personal item, TSA called a special number from a phone and I had to answer some really random questions - where I went to grad school, the make/model of my car, etc. It was actually sort of nice not having to carry my stuff, lol. They were very nice about it and finally escorted me to my gate. It did take a lot of extra time, though - thankfully our flight way delayed so no issues but give yourself loads of time to get through security. Like an extra 1-2 hours. GL - they will get you taken care of!
Those days didn’t exist when I was in middle school in the mid to late 80’s. I remember 60 girls trying out for the basketball team and only 12 made the team. There isn’t enough room/uniforms/equipment for everyone.
Also, if drill is already written, it can be hard to squeeze in extra people. They write for a certain number, especially if they're a competitive (or feed into a competitive) organization.
As someone who marched and then taught, having it be open to everyone kind of sucks because a lot of kids take a similar attitude to practices and shows, which makes it really difficult to have a successful season. Everything has to be written very simply and basic because you never know when you'll have holes, and work has to be re-taught many many times because you never know who will show up.
See how I turned that into my own vent, lol. Sorry your coach hasn't figured out a kind way to enforce boundaries, though. That sucks, especially with kids.
I hear what you’re saying about the shows needing consistent people. But I think you can do both - you can allow anyone who wants to join do so, and then can have requirements about participation. Miss 2 practices? Then you’re off the team. Don’t come to the dress rehearsal? Then you aren’t in the performance and can watch from the sidelines.
You can hold the participants to standards without excluding them from ever joining.
Also, if drill is already written, it can be hard to squeeze in extra people. They write for a certain number, especially if they're a competitive (or feed into a competitive) organization.
As someone who marched and then taught, having it be open to everyone kind of sucks because a lot of kids take a similar attitude to practices and shows, which makes it really difficult to have a successful season. Everything has to be written very simply and basic because you never know when you'll have holes, and work has to be re-taught many many times because you never know who will show up.
See how I turned that into my own vent, lol. Sorry your coach hasn't figured out a kind way to enforce boundaries, though. That sucks, especially with kids.
I hear what you’re saying about the shows needing consistent people. But I think you can do both - you can allow anyone who wants to join do so, and then can have requirements about participation. Miss 2 practices? Then you’re off the team. Don’t come to the dress rehearsal? Then you aren’t in the performance and can watch from the sidelines.
You can hold the participants to standards without excluding them from ever joining.
Do you know how color guard works? They’re on the field with set positions moving around with the marching band. You can’t have unlimited number of people and/or people who may or may not be there on any given day. Everyone doesn’t need to be involved in everything. Also, they’re throwing flags and shit, you don’t want someone who isn’t skilled at it doing that just because you don’t want to leave them out.
This would make me so mad, and I might even say something to the birthday person if we were close so they didn't think I wrote it that way 🤣
I considered saying something, either to the recipients or the sender, but I couldn't figure out how to do it without sounding totally bitchy haha.
I’ve gotten to an age where I honestly don’t care anymore about sounding bitchy. In your situation, honestly, it would bug me so much that I’d say something to both of them and wouldn’t give it a second thought.
I hear what you’re saying about the shows needing consistent people. But I think you can do both - you can allow anyone who wants to join do so, and then can have requirements about participation. Miss 2 practices? Then you’re off the team. Don’t come to the dress rehearsal? Then you aren’t in the performance and can watch from the sidelines.
You can hold the participants to standards without excluding them from ever joining.
Do you know how color guard works? They’re on the field with set positions moving around with the marching band. You can’t have unlimited number of people and/or people who may or may not be there on any given day. Everyone doesn’t need to be involved in everything. Also, they’re throwing flags and shit, you don’t want someone who isn’t skilled at it doing that just because you don’t want to leave them out.
No. I specifically said in my post that I am not familiar with color guard. And then I went on to say that I know there are times when you must restrict the numbers of people involved in an activity.
But that sometimes the numbers seem limited arbitrarily and it seems a shame to not let kids participate when they are interested in something.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Apr 10, 2022 13:02:45 GMT -5
I think it sucks to cut people who want to participate.
Cut-throat high school groups can take a walk. So ridiculous.
I don’t really care about logistics. Explain all you want - I was in marching band, I’m aware of how drill works. It would be nice that if you wanted to be on the team, you could be.
I think it sucks to cut people who want to participate.
Cut-throat high school groups can take a walk. So ridiculous.
I don’t really care about logistics. Explain all you want - I was in marching band, I’m aware of how drill works. It would be nice that if you wanted to be on the team, you could be.
Fin.
How interesting.
Awhile ago I volunteer coached xc at an underesourced high school, and it was an open team resulting in a 2:45 ratio of coaches to kids, which is way, way, way over the safe limit, but yeah! Logistics be damned!
One week our head coach went on vacation and I was alone with all 45 of the kids. On one run, 2 girls got lost, and one kid had a tooth knocked out during a game of ultimate frisbee: both on my watch.
Everyone got to participate, but I was in charge of too many kids and we were all at risk, but yeah, I mean so great everyone got chance and if something REALLY terrible happened it was me who was going to be held liable.
This is coded language that this local representative will vote on bans to keep trans girls out of sport.
Yes, the uh huh is my recognition of that. It's shitty.
I'm not trying to be snarky, but no other part of your post was about trans athlete issues, it was about the history of women in sport, so it did not appear that way at all. 🤷♀️
I think it sucks to cut people who want to participate.
Cut-throat high school groups can take a walk. So ridiculous.
I don’t really care about logistics. Explain all you want - I was in marching band, I’m aware of how drill works. It would be nice that if you wanted to be on the team, you could be.
Fin.
How interesting.
Awhile ago I volunteer coached xc at an underesourced high school, and it was an open team resulting in a 2:45 ratio of coaches to kids, which is way, way, way over the safe limit, but yeah! Logistics be damned!
One week our head coach went on vacation and I was alone with all 45 of the kids. On one run, 2 girls got lost, and one kid had a tooth knocked out during a game of ultimate frisbee: both on my watch.
Everyone got to participate, but I was in charge of too many kids and we were all at risk, but yeah, I mean so great everyone got chance and if something REALLY terrible happened it was me who was going to be held liable.
😒
I was saying “logistics be damned” in that I don’t really need 40 posts telling me about ratios and all that jazz.
I’m saying - “it would be nice”
Aware it’s not always possible but “it would be nice”
Yes, the uh huh is my recognition of that. It's shitty.
I'm not trying to be snarky, but no other part of your post was about trans athlete issues, it was about the history of women in sport, so it did not appear that way at all. 🤷♀️
I didn't take it as snarky, there's just so much talk about the number of states voting on this now I thought it was understood.