I'm sorry @sameoldstory . I hope your FIL will be ok.
On Saturday I ended up coaching a group of teenage girls. I was honestly nervous, but they all did great. No complaints about our trek through the woods or how cold it was. One of the targets (archery) was a dinosaur and they were legit excited about it and asked me to take their pictures with it.
Teenagers are my favorite people. Just when you think they’re too cool for everything, out comes their little kid side. 💕
Other than the smell, the teenage years are my favorite so far.
I just got busy 🤷🏻♀️ but I don’t think I could ever leave y’all permanently ❤️
Balancing Ds1 ASD therapy & piano, DS2 basketball and then both of them in swim. Plus Ds3 still dislikes me and has the strongest parent preference I’ve ever heard of for an (almost) 3 year old.
Is it monday? The days are just blurring together.
1. Friday my dad was having trouble breathing and finally confessed to me that he was diagnosed with COPD and has been on some medicated inhaler that is supposed to be helping him. He is super private and likes to keep his medical history from me for some stupid ass reason.
2. Friday afternoon my mom tripped and fell coming into the house. "Luckily" she was carrying a bag of groceries, landed on them and that broke her fall. She is ok.
3. Saturday my brother fell on his bike and broke his hip. He is having surgery later today.
Plus Ds3 still dislikes me and has the strongest parent preference I’ve ever heard of for an (almost) 3 year old.
In case it helps - DD2 had the strongest preference for DH for 3 years. She didn’t even say my name until she was already speaking in almost sentences (like she knew the name of the random man down the street “Alan” but she called me “this”). She threw a fit if I was going to do her bedtime. It fixed itself around 3 or so, and now she is pretty even in her affections.
My kid isn't even in daycare yet, and I'm already annoyed by all the dumb stuff parents are expected to do, maudefindlay . My friend was telling me how her son's preschool celebrates birthdays so that it's fair for everyone, which is great, but the upshot is that parents (read: moms) are required to organize all this extra stuff and it's just ugh. Why? Let us live!
Daycares create so much work for parents. My kids daycare also kept having events that parents were invited to during the workday. Then your kid felt bad if you didn’t come. Fun times!
Ours does a lot of theme days and honestly I just don’t have the bandwidth to dress my child for a theme (and she’s 1, she doesn’t care!) The kicker recently is they are redoing their website, had a photographer come to take pics of the kids for the site. They sent us the new website colors and asked us to coordinate our kids’ clothes that day! JFC, you all are lucky I get her there fully dressed some days, I can’t plan an outfit for your website….
Post by nancybotwin on Apr 18, 2022 12:48:37 GMT -5
This week is spring break. DD1 has had a tough situation in the friend department for the last year or so but has really come through it stronger…she has a few close friends and is generally happy. This week none of those few are around or available and it’s bringing up all her old trauma. My heart is breaking for her.
I officially hate my job. 7.5 years of minimal feedback other than edits and grammar and now everything I do is met with a different take or 180-degree recommendation. I asked for social media copy for a few articles our organization was mentioned in and got feedback that it's not recommended because there's no real "meat" to the story. Going from a team of 2 to 1, to now 4 is such a challenge for me. I was encouraged to see this as helpful, not hurtful. Nothing I contribute is approved as is. I get edits are essential, but the back and forth is taking up so much time for all of us. It's exhausting.
Like everything I do, I feel like I am under a microscope.
silva - I would for sure start looking for something else. Just from what you've posted here, it almost feels like they're trying to squeeze you out or something with the reorganization of your team and the other feedback you've been given.
silva - I would for sure start looking for something else. Just from what you've posted here, it almost feels like they're trying to squeeze you out or something with the reorganization of your team and the other feedback you've been given.
I'm literally too scared to post anything or write anything without getting some sort of feedback... "Next, time let's do this..." or "Can you run this by so and so before....."
I don't even want to do this line of work anymore. I'm pretty sure I'm burnt out. Don't know where to go from here, what to do to start over that will make me happy.
It's snowing here, kind of a lot. This is complete bullshit on April 18th. (yea I know it still snows some places in April but usually not PA)
My parents are on their way from Central PA to Baltimore for the night because they're flying out of BWI tomorrow to San Diego. I'm sure they did not think they would have to contend with bad weather on their drive in fucking April. I'll be so nervous until they get there (my dad is a good snow driver but my mom's an anxious mess). I hope the weather should be getting better as they get further south and that it'll just be rainy...ugh.
We're taking DS (5) to see Sonic 2 here in an hour. He's never been to a movie; mostly because I wouldn't have trusted him until now to sit still and be quiet. I'm not looking forward to 2 hours watching something I don't care about but at least there will be popcorn lol.
We spent Saturday evening and Sunday at my parents and I’m so happy to be home today not talking to anyone. I have to take DS1 to the orthodontist in an hour but until then I’m going to read my book and maybe eat Easter candy.
silva - I would for sure start looking for something else. Just from what you've posted here, it almost feels like they're trying to squeeze you out or something with the reorganization of your team and the other feedback you've been given.
I'm literally too scared to post anything or write anything without getting some sort of feedback... "Next, time let's do this..." or "Can you run this by so and so before....."
I don't even want to do this line of work anymore. I'm pretty sure I'm burnt out. Don't know where to go from here, what to do to start over that will make me happy.
I know this is hard and it feels overwhelming. You can take or leave these suggestions (obviously) but I might start going to LinkedIn and just look at what type of jobs are posted out there. Does anything grab you? Doesn't even have to be something close to you, just to help you get the ideas flowing and then you can narrow it down or look for like jobs close to you. You might come across a job that you didn't even know existed. I'd also suggest updating your resume if it isn't already. Just having that ready to go is a weird weight lifted off of you.
My neighbor (about 1/3 - 1/2 mile away) asked if I had any covid tests, as her kiddo is sick. If visiting on a weekend, I'd walk there, but I'm working and couldn't be away more than a couple minutes, so I drove over and left a box at her door. When I got back in the car, her dog came from behind the house, jumped up, and scratched the hell out of my car door.
FML.
Not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, I know, but that's so frustrating. No good deed...
Post by NewGirlNic on Apr 18, 2022 15:25:17 GMT -5
I mentioned a couple weeks ago that I had an interview with a competitor in my field (they reached out to me, I'm not actively looking to leave).
They sent me an offer letter (via email) last week. I had a call with the head of the department at the end of last week to go over details, benefits etc. The offer is basically a lateral move, salary wise and way less vacation time (1 week, how is that even a thing???) He emailed me the health benefits cost summary and I went over it compared to my current plan. It's more expensive and basically the same coverage/deductible.
So, I emailed back first thing this morning and let them know my counter offer. $20k more than they offered and 4 weeks vacation. I know they might laugh in my face, but I don't have anything to lose. I'm (mostly) happy in my current position and have a lot of flexibility and seniority. It would take a decent amount of money for me to leave that. Still, I'm ridiculously nervous about what they are going to say.
silva I'm so sorry you are going through this. Putting everything else about office dynamics aside I just have a tool recommendation because I think you've mentioned having some spelling/copy editing issues. Do you use Grammarly at all? I love it and recommend it to all the marketers I work with. It works in social platforms, in Canva, in Google Docs and in many CMS environments. There is a free version but I find the paid version to be worth it.
I mentioned a couple weeks ago that I had an interview with a competitor in my field (they reached out to me, I'm not actively looking to leave).
They sent me an offer letter (via email) last week. I had a call with the head of the department at the end of last week to go over details, benefits etc. The offer is basically a lateral move, salary wise and way less vacation time (1 week, how is that even a thing???) He emailed me the health benefits cost summary and I went over it compared to my current plan. It's more expensive and basically the same coverage/deductible.
So, I emailed back first thing this morning and let them know my counter offer. $20k more than they offered and 4 weeks vacation. I know they might laugh in my face, but I don't have anything to lose. I'm (mostly) happy in my current position and have a lot of flexibility and seniority. It would take a decent amount of money for me to leave that. Still, I'm ridiculously nervous about what they are going to say.
It always pays to negotiate!!! And like you said you have nothing to lose & you can decline the offer if they can’t match what you’re looking for.
My area has two buy nothing groups, and both cover the same huge area. It's so annoying. My first line is always what area I'm in, and then people always ask for stuff and then go "oh that's so far can you meet me?" No! I don't know why when they made the second group they didn't make it for a smaller area. I'm not bothered enough to start another buy nothing group though.
Plus Ds3 still dislikes me and has the strongest parent preference I’ve ever heard of for an (almost) 3 year old.
In case it helps - DD2 had the strongest preference for DH for 3 years. She didn’t even say my name until she was already speaking in almost sentences (like she knew the name of the random man down the street “Alan” but she called me “this”). She threw a fit if I was going to do her bedtime. It fixed itself around 3 or so, and now she is pretty even in her affections.
Thanks! He used to wait for an hour + for DH to get him out of his crib 😂
I'm sorry @sameoldstory . I hope your FIL will be ok.
On Saturday I ended up coaching a group of teenage girls. I was honestly nervous, but they all did great. No complaints about our trek through the woods or how cold it was. One of the targets (archery) was a dinosaur and they were legit excited about it and asked me to take their pictures with it.
My daughter did a 3D tournament this past weekend too... it was in the 30's the whole day and incredibly windy! She had a couple of kids in her group who have only been shooting for a couple of months and it was their first tournament. We were like, "We swear it's usually more fun than this!" Thank you for what you do, seeing kids get into archery is so fun.