For online daters........

[BlueBayou]

I am curious...I see alot of you mention OKC and Match. . .Has anyone ever tried Eharmony?I am wondering if the whole personality test it claims to make better matches actually works?? Anyone know? Im not searching/dating, I am just wondering if anyone tried it and if that whole long test actually matched anyone well??

[heavenly]

I am not currently doing online dating but Eharmony is how I met my xh. As far as personality, I think we were too much of the same in a sense we weren't balanced if that makes any sense. But that was just our scenario but not sure of the general.Hharmony members.

[doriswe]

I met XH on Eharmony. Sense of humor-wise, we were a good match and he met my criteria (height, education, non-smoking). My pool was pretty limited based on where I live, so I can't say for sure that it was the matching system that hooked us up or lack of other options!

[chrissie3416]

I tried it...while I did like some of the questions it asked and liked that I didnt have to move on with the person without answers that I liked, It kept matching me with people who did not live near me. Most lived an hour or so away at least and were quite older. Maybe they were telling me I have an old soul and I should move lol

[explorer2001]

I tried it. I'm not sure if my issues were primarily online dating related or EHarmony related. I got lots of matches without any spark, who were in their 40s when I'm in my 20s, who deemed like decent guys but weren't a fit, or who flat out lied on their profiles. Just my experience.

[redredwine]

I've tried all 3 (online dating whoore here!)

OKC...meh? Most of the same guys I saw from Match/EHarm anyways, and the rest were people I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole.
I used to say I hated eHarmony when I tried it... but I tried it, did Match and then tried it again.

Honestly, I felt that I got more quality dates/multiple dates out of eHarm vs. the "one date wonders" that I did with Match (queue the cheesy commercials). Was I more attracted to the people on Match and liked that I had much more variety? Yes. But ultimately? A side by side comparison was that like 1 in 10 guys on eHarmony I'd maybe be interested in...but that 1 would turn into at least a few dates. I feel like Match has all the "cool kids" and well, sometimes I'm just not a cool kid and I'm OK with that.

The last guy I dated I met on eHarmony. I felt that he was super similar to me personality wise and they really did a good job in matching us up. I was more myself around him than anyone else.

That being said...I'm done with online dating for a while. It's basically created a dating pool of men who are too easily tempted by the "Oh pretty shiny!" girls dangling in front of them to warrant wanting to move on into a serious mature, exclusive relationship. Also, I think it's allowed them (well, and probably chicks, too) to too quickly dismiss those who they aren't feeling at that second.

However; if i did it again...I'd probably try eHarmony again.

[formerlyak]

I met fi on EHarmony. I also tried match. I felt like match was a "bar online" in that it was a bunch of random guys hitting on me via the internet without any substance. I got a lot of "you are cute" or "I like your picture" as opposed to saying something that leads me to believe they took the 2 minutes to read my profile. I met a handful of nice guys on there, but they were one date wonders. I also didn't like that I had to take time to search for people. I don't have time for that.

I liked that eharmony would send 5-6 guys to my inbox daily and if I liked them, I could send them the questions or whatever and if I didn't, I just deleted them. Less labor intensive (once you get through the survey initially). Also, the guys I met on there were less of the type that was just looking to hook up and more of the type that was serious about dating and finding a good partner. Since that is what I wanted as well, eharmony was a better fit for me.

[achase123]

Sept 25, 2012 11:31:20 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

I met fi on EHarmony. I also tried match. I felt like match was a "bar online" in that it was a bunch of random guys hitting on me via the internet without any substance. I got a lot of "you are cute" or "I like your picture" as opposed to saying something that leads me to believe they took the 2 minutes to read my profile. I met a handful of nice guys on there, but they were one date wonders. I also didn't like that I had to take time to search for people. I don't have time for that.

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I have to say though, in anyone's defense who's making the first "move" or email in online dating, it's probably hard to come up with something to say, ya know? And the reality is unless someone is attracted to your picture it doesn't really matter what their profile says. Not that attraction is everything, but I'm probably not going to go on a date with someone who has a great profile if I don't think they are at least somewhat good looking based on their pics.

[dakotadangerdog]

I hated eharmony!!! A lot of my matches didn't pay, so I felt like it was a huge rip off that they are like OMG HERE ARE THE THREE PEOPLE YOU CAN TALK TO TODAY!!! And none of them can actually read my fucking email, had I chosen to send it.

I didn't like that you can only talk to the people it picks for you. I am super outdoorsy, and they were matching me up with dudes who wanted to sit around all day playing video games. Not my style. I have no interest in dating gamers.

I also hated the questions, people rarely skipped them, I felt they were pointless because people are just giving the answers they think you want, and I felt like after 2-5 days of stupid fucking questions (depending on how often they replied) I knew these guys no better than a dude from OKC who had a good profile.

[formerlyak]

Sept 25, 2012 11:38:13 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 25, 2012 11:31:20 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

I met fi on EHarmony. I also tried match. I felt like match was a "bar online" in that it was a bunch of random guys hitting on me via the internet without any substance. I got a lot of "you are cute" or "I like your picture" as opposed to saying something that leads me to believe they took the 2 minutes to read my profile. I met a handful of nice guys on there, but they were one date wonders. I also didn't like that I had to take time to search for people. I don't have time for that.

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I have to say though, in anyone's defense who's making the first "move" or email in online dating, it's probably hard to come up with something to say, ya know? And the reality is unless someone is attracted to your picture it doesn't really matter what their profile says. Not that attraction is everything, but I'm probably not going to go on a date with someone who has a great profile if I don't think they are at least somewhat good looking based on their pics.

I don't know, I made plenty of first moves, and while I was initially attracted to the picture, I never put that as the only statement in my email. I didn't think it was that hard to pick one thing they wrote in their profile and comment on it. I'd always take the time to find something in their profile that I liked and reference it -- i.e. "I see you like to go to the theatre. Did you happen to see the current show at the Taper?"

[BookLover]

I was on Eharmony for a little while over a year ago. It was ok. I found a lot of guys in the area I'm in looking just for a hookup. I wasn't interested in it. I was on it for about 2 months I think. It was expensive. I went out on about 8 different first dates. I dated one guy from there for a little bit, but he turned in to a stage 5 clinger, desperate to get married and I dumped him. I haven't been back to online dating since.

[prettyinpearls]

I met XH on eharmony. Enough said.

[blackkitty]

I think eHarmony is only a decent option if you live in a major metro area. There were very few people on it where I live (smaller city)

[naeljun]

Sept 25, 2012 11:38:13 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 25, 2012 11:31:20 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

I met fi on EHarmony. I also tried match. I felt like match was a "bar online" in that it was a bunch of random guys hitting on me via the internet without any substance. I got a lot of "you are cute" or "I like your picture" as opposed to saying something that leads me to believe they took the 2 minutes to read my profile. I met a handful of nice guys on there, but they were one date wonders. I also didn't like that I had to take time to search for people. I don't have time for that.

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I have to say though, in anyone's defense who's making the first "move" or email in online dating, it's probably hard to come up with something to say, ya know? And the reality is unless someone is attracted to your picture it doesn't really matter what their profile says. Not that attraction is everything, but I'm probably not going to go on a date with someone who has a great profile if I don't think they are at least somewhat good looking based on their pics.

This is one of main reasons why I really dislike online dating. I am an attractive woman. I'm not drop dead gorgeous or a size 6 but I am pretty. I photog awful though. Terribly awful. I have gotten a little bit better but I personally think I am much prettier in person than in a picture. I hate that online dating is typically based on a picture and not what a person has written. I keep my profile up on POF and I will reply to those who do not have picture if I find their profile interesting. I do ask for a picture because I want to make sure they would be someone I would date but I don't just automatically dismiss them.

[BlueBayou]

I guess i thought the long survey would weed out the hook up seekers ( they usually dont like too much work) and was curious if that personality test really synced people with like people. Its seems half and half here...these are really interesting takes. I have to admit i only consider those with pics. But i do take into consideration that they arent photogenic. But i also want some reassurance that the guy appears to take care of himself ...as much as that can be seen in a pic.