Not at people who I know that I can recall. I like to save my rage for strangers.
I did yell it recently at an old woman who parked in the crosswalk/divot for carts and wheelchair accessibility because she argued with me when I asked her nicely to back her car up so this other customer could leave the store. As she said, she was fine, she just didn’t want to park in the parking lot.
To a man who kept saying he “couldn’t” hear me because of my mask.
I think the element of surprise is on my side because I dress like a 1950s housewife and generally have an approachable vibe. Underneath though, I am the hulk.
Probably never but, recently I burnt the shit out of my hand (like thought we may need to go to urgent care burnt), my DH comes to check on me and tells me to calm down. I shouted “are you fucking kidding me?”.
Turns out he had googled what to do, and google told him I needed to keep calm to prevent shock, note…. He now knows to never ever ever tell me to calm down.
I truly think "calm down" is one of the least helpful things someone can say.
My H and I say this to each other in jest a lot. I don't know that I've ever said it to someone's face in anger.
Same.
I told my cousin a few weeks ago. She went on the cruise with us and opened her big mouth about something. I sent her a private fuck you via text. Then when it was just her and my H we all laughed when I said it aloud.
I honestly don't think I've ever said it to someone's face.
I did an internship in Italy working in kitchens, and this was one of the few phrases the whole kitchen knew in English. I dont think they realized how aggressive it is? Lol. I would walk in and everyone would yell it like a greeting.
Post by tarzanswife on Jul 20, 2022 15:22:13 GMT -5
I did it a few months ago to DH. He probably didn't deserve a "F You" but the man sometimes does not "hear" you unless you curse at him or use a curse word to emphasize your statement. I blame it on his 22 years in the military. He got the "F You" after a very traumatizing 24 hours dealing with a very sick doggo, having the entire back seat of my car soaked in her blood (she is ok, just pulled out her IV when I was transporting her) and him being completely unaware of what was going on because he was "stressed about work".
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by starburst604 on Jul 20, 2022 15:47:52 GMT -5
Definitely plenty of times while driving, complete with the middle finger. I am a Masshole, after all. In person, probably in a fight with my H many moons ago.
Uh... I swear a lot, so I couldn't really say the last time I directed it in anger at somebody, maybe someone driving like a fucker?
But not 15 minutes ago I was narrating the cat again and said something to the effect of how she'd like for my H to fuck off and let her sleep in peace. He replied that yes, she did seem like she wanted him to fuck off. LOL!
I don't mean yelling it at another driver unless it's windows down, face to face like a conversation. Looking someone in the eye and saying "fuck you". I can't remember the last time I did that and that kind of surprises me. I guess I'm more aggressive in my own mind.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Probably at least once this year to my husband. We don't argue often but when we do, it generally deserves a hey, fuck you. To anyone else, it's been a while. I'm sure exes before him.
Post by foundmylazybum on Jul 20, 2022 16:30:35 GMT -5
About a year ago, I had just finished an appointment at my oncologist and I called my mom to tell her the updates and how it went. I stopped my car at the entrance to this park--and it was like 95* so I was idiling in my car, which is not really environmentally friendly but I don't do it often and I was focusing on the conversation--not driving. It's also not illegal in my state at all.
So I'm stopped and sitting there and this old lady walking her dog, comes by and is staring at me. And she stops, stares and then makes a motion of choking and for me to turn off my car. Which I'm not going to do, so I give her a wave and continue talking.
She comes back a couple minutes later and she gets closer to my car and is making those same gestures and again, I'm like "Yeah I get what you are requesting, denied, thanks."
So she decides to come up to my window and rap on it. And I roll down my window and she's like, "You shouldn't be idiling, and this is bad for the environment, turn off your car."
And I say, "I understood the first two times you came around me what you wanted but I'm not going to turn my car off, I'm having an important conversation with my mom so please, leave me alone."
She won't.
So I tell her "Ma'm PLEASE. I'm talking to my mom about my cancer diagnosis and I'm not wanting to engage you--please leave."
And this bitch tells me: "You probably got cancer from idiling like this."
So. Right then, I told her, "Okay, go fuck yourself. That's literally a horrible thing to say to anyone, get the FUCK away from me right now."
Right then there was another, younger mom walking by with two kids, and this old bat tries some DARVO shit where she turns to the lady and is like "Do you see this woman! ATTACKING ME AND SWEARING IN FRONT OF THESE CHILDREN!"
So I turn to the lady with the kids and I said, "I think the kids will benefit from hearing you being told to fuck off after you told a lady she brought on her own cancer. Don't play the victim."
Then I got in my car, and zoomed off.
BTW my mom was on speaker this whole time and heard the whole thing.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jul 20, 2022 17:22:24 GMT -5
I said it to my stepmom back in 2013 because she was being a passive aggressive twat. I apologized over email, but we didn’t speak for like three years after that. We’re cool now, though.
I said it more often in my younger years and obviously I say it to GOP politicians on the regular, but regrettably not to their faces.
Am I really the only one who says fuck you to their spouse (not just in the sexy way)?
I also yelled fuck at my gynecologist, but she definitely deserved it because she was doing a barbaric uterine biopsy and she hadn't gotten a big enough sample with the first scrape.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Jul 20, 2022 18:17:12 GMT -5
My racist, trumper, all around manipulative hag of an aunt (my mom’s sister). I asked a question at one of my mom’s doctor appointments when she was going through cancer treatment about her mental health. Aunt dickewrinkle said to me, for the millionth time in a very condescending way- she’s SICK, Lauren. We’d already gotten into it before, about ME and my kids being a burden when I was over cleaning and cooking for my mom and sister and dad and nephew.
Soooo I told her fuck you, go fuck your self and a couple other things in the doctors office and stormed out. Haven’t spoken to her since.
I remember the most recent ones after reading some other posts. In early days of the pandemic, I yelled "fuck you" at a guy who was wearing a mask incorrectly at Costco. I also yelled it at a delivery guy who wouldn't put his mask on when he was delivering to my neighborhood liquor store. The employee asked him to put it on and he refused. I also told my new neighbor to fuck off after he yelled at me for putting recycling that had blown out of a bin *before* it was picked up. He'd clearly been watching me. It was really windy and I was on the phone with my bff and she was updating me on her cancer diagnosis so I was trying to keep busy to avoid crying. After I told him to fuck off, I yelled "Welcome to the neighborhood, new neighbor!" She's from Philly and appreciated my profanity laced shouting match.
So I guess it's been a year? But who knows. There could be another instance that I don't remember.
Post by georgeglass on Jul 20, 2022 18:47:21 GMT -5
In total anger, about 6 years ago, the day before Thanksgiving at my parents. It was directed to my BIL. He and my sister started a fight which was super unusual in my WASP family. My dad tried to calm it down and BIL went after my dad and insulted him. At first, it was like being in a movie (again, super unusual activity so I thought it was fake) and then I was like, oh, we're doing this. And like slow mo, stood up from the table (should have flipped it) and did the long and loud FUUUUUCKKKK YOUUUUUUUUUU at my BIL while pointing with each word. The fight continued for an hour.
The funniest part was that H had gone to bed early and missed it all and when he woke up the next morning, he couldn't figure out why no one was talking to anyone.
Post by thedutchgirl on Jul 20, 2022 18:54:37 GMT -5
This is a delicate crowd. Many times to my XH. Probably within the last year to my H who I adore. Occasionally we argue economic policy when drunk and it invariably doesn’t go well