Another conversation with my mom

[blackkitty]

If you missed the first conversation with my mom:
pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=so&action=display&thread=60679

Her: Have you heard back from that guy you went out with on Wednesday?
Me: Yes, I think we are going to go out again. But I met another guy that seems interesting...He's short though.
Her: Well you can't go out with him then
Me: Why not?
Her: You need a tall guy. You can't date a shorter guy.
Me: You got to pick your husband I'll pick mine. Thanks
Her: Ummmmm, no

[doriswe]

lmfao...because him being short makes him a horrible person....or being tall makes him marriage worthy!!

[roselis]

Wow. That is hilarious except that it actually is happening

[Deleted]

Honestly I've learned to just stop talking to my mom about stuff. It makes my life easier. And when she asks I'm as vague as possible. I'm sorry she's not more supportive:(

[livinitup]

Didn't you have an urge to skip dating him and go straight to marrying him, just to spite her?

[lookingup]

Yeah, I don't talk to my parents about anything either, especially my mom. When she asks questions, I don't give her any more information than necessary for her to know I'm doing fine. I doubt my parents will hear about any dude I'm seeing until I'm ready to get married again.

[wrathofkuus]

Mothers are weird. Mine was convinced that I should limit my dating pool to only gentlemen who look like a young Paul Newman.

[blackkitty]

Sept 25, 2012 13:48:40 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Mothers are weird. Mine was convinced that I should limit my dating pool to only gentlemen who look like a young Paul Newman.

OMG I'm dying

[blackkitty]

The funny thing is that she absolutely loved not my last bf but the one before that.
And he was a miserable depressed black hole of despair. No joke.
But he was tall and good looking and that's all she cares about.

[heavenly]

lol! My mom says she always pictured me with a tall dark haired man in a business suit lol!

[naeljun]

Yeah, I just LOL'd

[wrathofkuus]

Sept 25, 2012 14:09:31 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

My mom and her friends that have all been married for like 25 years try to give me dating advice

I like talking to my mom but I think she is sick of it.... she is much more interested in my sister's new baby to hear about bad dates ... she thinks I should just go for someone 10-15 years older than me with lots of money because he will be happy and I will be able to hang out with her all day instead of working at my annoying job that takes up all my free time!

I'm lol that she'd rather you try prostitution than hear one more date story.

[gozf]

My mom has all kinds of ideas about what would make a good partner for me. They don't really look like my current one, but she has the good sense to be nice to him.

[blackkitty]

My mom has funny nicknames for the guys I date too

The guy on I went out with last Wednesday is "the Bible Study guy" because he teaches bible study.

I've come a long way since the last guy I went out with that she just called "the Alcoholic"

[lookingup]

Sept 25, 2012 14:21:58 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 25, 2012 14:12:48 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

I'm lol that she'd rather you try prostitution than hear one more date story.

She has always wanted me to date older men. I think it's weird and I told her to stop it. She would never say it but I know she wants me to get remarried and have a baby that she can hang out with because my sister lives really far away. She enjoys my career but always makes hints that I should be willing to give it up for the right guy. It's a bit annoying

Only a bit annoying? I was spitting fire when my mom suggested I stay with H until I was finished with my degree. I straight up told her I'm not a prostitute.

[lookingup]

Your grandma sounds awesome, though it's sad she didn't get live her life the way she wanted.

[wrathofkuus]

I just cannot fathom how your mother would recommend having no dreams, ever, aside from being someone to other people.

[turtle1120]

Less is more with my mom. If I offer ANY information about going on a date, it turns into a game of 20 questions. So I just offer zero information and I don't have to deal with her annoying interrogations.

[lookingup]

Sept 25, 2012 14:51:44 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

I just cannot fathom how your mother would recommend having no dreams, ever, aside from being someone to other people.

Some people just don't find any value in themselves unless someone else does.

[wrathofkuus]

Oh, it's not the staying at home with five kids that I don't understand recommending (okay, I don't, but pretend I do for the sake of this conversation). It's what happens after they grow up that I'm not getting. I mean, being a stay at home mom is such a limited time thing. What happens after it's over? What is your life? What are your dreams? Who are you?

[lookingup]

Sept 25, 2012 15:32:57 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Oh, it's not the staying at home with five kids that I don't understand recommending (okay, I don't, but pretend I do for the sake of this conversation). It's what happens after they grow up that I'm not getting. I mean, being a stay at home mom is such a limited time thing. What happens after it's over? What is your life? What are your dreams? Who are you?

Yeah, I don't get it either.

[wrathofkuus]

That's probably the thing I like best about Tangled, that its happily ever after is clearly, explicitly about continuing to find and pursue new dreams.

[wrathofkuus]

So she basically had all the benefits of a career, without having to worry about adequate pay and benefits, because your dad financed her? That is kinda the prostitution she's recommending to you, isn't it? I'm sure it feels less like prostitution if you also love the guy.

[wrathofkuus]

I'm saying that deliberately marrying a guy who will finance you doing whatever in exchange for sex is prostitution. I wouldn't have normally come to this conclusion about someone who stays at home to raise kids, but since she has pushed you marrying an older rich guy for that very reason, her motives in marrying have become suspect.

[wrathofkuus]

That does make me feel better.