Post by blackkitty on Sept 25, 2012 14:53:15 GMT -5
You know how our typical advice to a newbie includes getting therapy, seeing a lawyer... Just wanted to throw out there that I think support groups can be very beneficial too. MCC and I were talking about how that's what this board pretty much is. I know I've been a part of different support groups over the years and they helped a lot. Single moms support groups, Support groups for parents of special needs kids.
There are divorce support groups. Often at churches annd you don't need to be members of the church usually either.
So spread the word... when you tell people to get therapy tell them to look into support groups too. If you want to. Or I will.
Good plan!! When newbies post about cheating, I think we're also pretty good at referring them to Surviving Infidelity as well. That was a godsend to me in the early days.
Post by chrissie3416 on Sept 25, 2012 15:23:13 GMT -5
This may be a silly question but how does one go about finding a support group? I feel like this is something i may benefit from lately but Im not sure where to start looking.
This may be a silly question but how does one go about finding a support group? I feel like this is something i may benefit from lately but Im not sure where to start looking.
I live in the bible belt so take that into consideration but here pretty much every decent size church has one. And you don't have to be a member to attend. I live in the land of the churches.
This may be a silly question but how does one go about finding a support group? I feel like this is something i may benefit from lately but Im not sure where to start looking.
I live in the bible belt so take that into consideration but here pretty much every decent size church has one. And you don't have to be a member to attend. I live in the land of the churches.
I live in the land of bars...wait, what was the question again??
Google "blah blah blah support group" and your area and you should get a list of where and when. A lot of churches here have support groups and you don't have to be religious to attend.
You could also contact local human service agencies for lists of support groups in the area.
Post by chrissie3416 on Sept 25, 2012 15:39:59 GMT -5
Thanks girls! I've been divorced for two years but now things are getting dicey with him and our parenting agreement so I think it might be nice to have some people, other than you all of course, to talk to about this.
Post by explorer2001 on Sept 25, 2012 15:43:39 GMT -5
I found a group through the DV shelter where I started volunteering. I actually volunteer with the DV survivors support group. It makes a world of difference to know others are going through or have been through what you are dealing with.
Post by BookLover on Sept 25, 2012 16:16:36 GMT -5
I was a part of one. It was very helpful! My church offers it twice a year with after care provided over the summer. I recommend it to anyone who is going through a divorce. I'm all about it. I also made some awesome friends there.
Boo hiss. I'm tired of going to bars where the average ages are either 20 or 50.
Are there a lot of non-traditional students at your school? Most of the classes I took were with adult students and we formed some pretty awesome relationships and supported each other through the ups and downs of life.
Boo hiss. I'm tired of going to bars where the average ages are either 20 or 50.
Are there a lot of non-traditional students at your school? Most of the classes I took were with adult students and we formed some pretty awesome relationships and supported each other through the ups and downs of life.
No, there aren't. At least not in my age bracket. In this part of Nevada, it's pretty rare for someone to go back to school (meaning University) before age 30 who isn't a veteran. Most people marry off fairly young and start having lots of babies....then they might go to the local community college....but University is pretty much on hold until their kids are MUCH older. Hence the Vets who are 23-25 and the rest who are 35-40+
I've run into ONE single, non-veteran, female non-traditional student....and she's a few years younger.
It's a desert out here....in more ways than one. I'm very much a SATC kind of girl + school. My type just hasn't fit in.