Wwyd - Key West or no?

[Bernadine]

So, our neighbors go to key west almost every year, and they’ve been asking us to go with them. We couldn’t swing it financially last year. This year, h just had his surgery and they leave in a month, so he’s out. But I could still go. I just can’t decide if I want to go without h.

Other info- it will be mostly couples, it’s a big group, and idk if I know them all. H takes a guys golf trip every spring, and I never travel on my own. H is fine with whatever I want to do, but I’d probably miss him if I went without him.

Actually, now that I’m writing this out, I’m wondering if I should make myself a third option and just go somewhere myself, lol.

[maudefindlay]

You should go on a trip without your H, but not this one. Get some girlfriends together and go somewhere you want to visit.

[wanderingback]

It sounds like you don’t want to go, so don’t go.
But I love traveling alone so I vote pick another trip!

[Deleted]

I choose option 3 - solo trip. I wouldn't go on a trip with a bunch of couples.

[sonrisa]

is this the solo trip you want to take?

Many years ago, a few months after we married, I joined an annual trip DH's friends took. He didn't come and it was a fantastic time. The dynamics were not couples centered and I ended up closer to some of them after the trip than DH was at the time. lol. (He was particularly worried that I had bonded with his ex - as if we'd wasted time talking about him. lol.) Go if this is that trip for you. Otherwise, next year go as a couple.

[waverly]

Key West is on my list and assuming these are good people and not all couples then I would probably go. I’m an introvert and don’t love big groups but it sounds pretty chill. I might dig into details a bit more before I decide. But if there are a few other solo travelers and I like everyone then yes I will go to the beach!

[tamarindy]

I love KW. It’s also the exact kind of place that you can take off solo and have a really great time. If you get tired of the group just get on a bike and explore everything.

I would definitely go, but I also enjoy group trips without my husband, it saves me money and I go places he really isn’t into.

[TR]

Feb 12, 2023 17:14:28 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

You should go on a trip without your H, but not this one. Get some girlfriends together and go somewhere you want to visit.

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[Bernadine]

Feb 12, 2023 17:14:28 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

You should go on a trip without your H, but not this one. Get some girlfriends together and go somewhere you want to visit.

I….don’t have a lot of girlfriends, lol. Otherwise, that would be my choice!

[wildrice]

I don't think I'd want to go on a trip with a bunch of couples, especially if I wasn't confident that I knew all of them very well. I guess if it was a group of friends who hung out all the time or something I'd be more open to it (not that I have one of those either - lol).

If you don't have anywhere that you're dying to go and don't have friends you want to go with, I'd just wait until my H could go. I don't mind traveling solo or with friends, but I honestly have the best time with my H anyway so taking a trip without him isn't super appealing to me either.

[goldengirlz]

You’ve been through so much with your H, I think a trip away could be good for you. (Also, I hope his recovery is going well!)

I agree that I’m not sure this trip would be particularly appealing to me, but if it is to you, you should do it! Otherwise, something else for sure. It’s hard going through a spouse’s medical issues (speaking from experience.)

[icedcoffee]

Feb 12, 2023 17:45:42 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

Feb 12, 2023 17:14:28 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

You should go on a trip without your H, but not this one. Get some girlfriends together and go somewhere you want to visit.

I….don’t have a lot of girlfriends, lol. Otherwise, that would be my choice!

Then I’d vote go for this one and just give them a heads up that you might break off solo sometimes. I also think it would be good for you.

[orangello]

Go! Set the expectation that you’re going to do your own thing at times, and have a blast.

ETA: a vacation where I could do whatever the hell k wanted all day and then had a group to go to dinner and hang out with sounds like the perfect vacation, to be honest.

[maudefindlay]

Feb 12, 2023 17:45:42 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

Feb 12, 2023 17:14:28 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

You should go on a trip without your H, but not this one. Get some girlfriends together and go somewhere you want to visit.

I….don’t have a lot of girlfriends, lol. Otherwise, that would be my choice!

Do you have one that would go with you, a sister/SIL, a parent, cousin? Or just go solo.

[fernweh]

I wouldn’t do this trip without H but I might do something else solo.

[mala]

Key West was hands down the most relaxing trip I have ever taken as an adult. It was such a low-key, no plans ahead trip I would do it again in a heartbeat, even alone. I went with my husband, but there's enough to do solo that I wouldn't hesitate, and at least 10 years ago it felt safe enough to do alone (to be fair we didn't go down the big drinking/bar street at night). Going with a group could be fun if you go with the expectation that you don't have to do everything together and strike out on your own when you want to.

[eb777888]

Hmmm. I might go if I was extroverted and/or knew all of the couples and felt comfortable with them. Me being being who I am, would rather do a trip on my own. I've actually never done that before and it's kinda appealing.

[keyslover]

I’ll be your plus one!

Kidding aside. Key west is amazing for groups. You can split up and it’s safe. Book a kayak trip, rent a bike, hit the beach, listen to live music and have a drink. It’s not unusual to see people sitting by themselves either.

[bittybomb]

I vote third option.

I go away for two long weekends a year without my family. One is with my two best friends, and the other is with my girl cousins on my dad’s side of the family (8-9 of us).

I have so much fun on these weekends. I don’t really think I’d have that much fun on a couples trip solo.

[tacokick]

I think it depends on how much they’d want to hang out and how much you’d want to hang out.

I’ve been on many press trips by myself where I’m part of a big group of (largely or all) strangers and it’s been fun. We connect for some events and meals and I do my own thing in the gaps. I would think this would be similar? I research the places on my own and if anyone wants to come with me they can and if not, I wander away!

But it sounds more like you want to go away in general more than you want to go on this trip so maybe plan something else? Maybe take a day trip solo or with a friend and work up from there?

[cville]

Don't go to Key West.

Go on a solo vacation if the idea of cooking up a friends trip is too much.

Maybe live my dream of a long weekend at a spa in Sedona. Lol.

[isabel]

This is not a trip I would take. I think I would be uncomfortable.

You could totally go on a solo trip though! I just did four days in Sedona by myself. It was great.

[pugz]

I vote solo trip

[cheeseplease]

I have friends with a time share in Key West and went one year with them. The time share place was made up of mainly couples and they all knew each of other from years of going at the same week every year. Our group was a few couples and my friends older aunt (and me). It was a lot of fun. I went out by myself a few times, once early in the morning and rode my bike around and once to the butterfly museum. As a group, we went out on the boat, cooked dinners, hung at the pool, went and drank on Duval, ladies went shopping, etc. I say go if you want to go to Key West itself. There is a lot to do and its a pretty area.