Do you make your kids' bed? how old is your kid?

[waverly]

I have DS, 12 and DD, 10. Neither make their bed on a regular basis nor do I do that for them.

I help both clean their room occasionally. DD tends to get really messy and cleaning is overwhelming. DS used to be like that but we’ve done more purging of stuff and his room is bigger. So his room is theoretically easier. It gets done faster if I help so I don’t mind doing a ten minute assist or something like that let’s say once a month for each but maybe more for DD since she needs more help.

For beds, DS is able to change his own sheets. DD has a loft bed so DH helps her with sheet changing.

Since my kids are equally messy I suspect DS being older and gotten rid of toys is the reason he is cleaner rather than gender. DD still has a lot of toys that she hasn’t outgrown totally yet.

[Patsy Baloney]

10 (g) and almost 4 (b) year old.

School starts at the asscrack of dawn, so my H and I make them through the week. It’s either breakfast or made bed 🤷🏻‍♀️

The kids make their own on the weekend or not at all.

[Jalapeñomel]

No one makes their beds here, but on the occasion we are cleaning or have guests over, my son makes his own bed.

[penguingrrl]

My three (15, 13, 10) are al capable of making their beds, as evidenced when we have company, which is the only time I require it. None of them ever do and nobody has time for that stuff before school because our schools start too early. My HS kid wakes up with about 8 minutes to get dressed, brush their teeth, and head out the door and even that much time is hard that early. I’m usually not up when they leave because it’s too early for me.

But when we’re having company I remind them to make their beds and they all get made neatly enough.

I make my bed daily and would like theirs made, but since we all really struggle with mornings I don’t require it of them.

[fancynewbeesly]

Apr 30, 2023 8:36:53 GMT -5 waverly said:

I have DS, 12 and DD, 10. Neither make their bed on a regular basis nor do I do that for them.

I help both clean their room occasionally. DD tends to get really messy and cleaning is overwhelming. DS used to be like that but we’ve done more purging of stuff and his room is bigger. So his room is theoretically easier. It gets done faster if I help so I don’t mind doing a ten minute assist or something like that let’s say once a month for each but maybe more for DD since she needs more help.

For beds, DS is able to change his own sheets. DD has a loft bed so DH helps her with sheet changing.

Since my kids are equally messy I suspect DS being older and gotten rid of toys is the reason he is cleaner rather than gender. DD still has a lot of toys that she hasn’t outgrown totally yet.

This is my biggest issue now too. DD1 is finally outgrowing her toys---but to her outgrowing means saving them-just not in her room. But like we don't have extra places just to store toys either. Her room is small too. I am fully wanting to take EVERYTHING out of her room and put it in the sun room and then slowly put things back as needed into her room. Right now she has a loft bed, but she wants a regular bed and there is not going to be much space for all of her junk that she wants to keep. 

[circa1978]

I don't even make my own bed.

(I do change his sheets.) 

[pinkdutchtulips]

No … I just close the door so 1- so the dog doesn’t get into her room and 2- no one sees that her bed isn’t made.

Half the time my bed isn’t made and it’s half covered in laundry baskets.

[rubytue]

I am not a bed maker. I read awhile ago that making a bed traps the heat a moisture in, which helps dust mites. So, I will forever use the excuse that I’m letting the bed air out. But also, I do need everything pulled up and even before I go to bed, so I straighten the sheets and all before bed. news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4181629.stm

No kids, I just wanted to jump in bed making discussions.

[notsopicky]

Nobody in my house makes their bed. I am up waaaaay before H and he doesn't make it, so what I do when E goes up for his shower at night (he uses the primary bath), I go up with him to "make the bed", more to straighten out the sheets/blankets from the night before, rather than the *need* to have the bed made. ETA: E's is never made. He cares not one bit. Every night he kicks the sheets and blankets out from being tucked in anyway, so it's kind of pointless. 

Our housecleaners are awesome. They make our beds for us, every other Friday (that's when they come). It's a glorious day when we come home and the house is clean, smells nice and we know the beds are expertly made.

Addendum: when we have guests over, we will make the beds. Which means we will smooth out the sheets and throw the comforter over the top. It doesn't look great, but at least it's not as much of a mess.

[eb777888]

I only make David's bed if I wash his sheets and bedding. Yes, I do this and he should do this himself. I just wash it all the same day so it's easier this way. Me and H make our bed every day, this is an H thing. I remember going out and getting drunk with H in our 20's and he'd still make the bed before getting in it, lol. I think David makes his bed before getting in it, too. I'm not sure if it's every night, but I've gone in there to talk to him before bed at night and find him making his bed. I 100% think it's because he's grown up with me and H doing it and assumes everyone does that, lol. I really don't care if he makes it or not.

eta: I asked David if he makes it every day because I was curious and he said he does because it's more comfortable that way. He makes it right before getting in it, not in the morning so not sure if that even counts as making the bed at that point, lol. It's definitely more than I did at 14 so whatever. 

[devonpow]

I’ll admit I make my kids’ beds 😬 11 and 16. Yes they are capable/ know how. DS1 is really good at it due to overnight camp and strict bunk cleaning rules. But mornings are a rush and I’m a SAHM. I get them off to school and then do a quick house straightening including making all the beds. I hate a messy room/house/bed. I’m also super type A about cleaning and tend to be a “lll just do it so it’s done correctly” person. Im aware I’m setting my kids up for failure.

[lolalolalola]

I can’t even walk into my kids room because the floor is covered in clothes and other junk, so no.

[mcppalmbeach]

Team no one makes the bed because I just don’t care that much. Boys are 14, 11 and 5. Ds1 will make his if he feels like it or if he’s having friends over or something. I do make their beds after washing if I do it during the day while they’re gone (I’m a sahm). My mom
Made my bed for me daily until I left for college.

[rachers]

Apr 30, 2023 10:17:58 GMT -5 devonpow said:

I’ll admit I make my kids’ beds 😬 11 and 16. Yes they are capable/ know how. DS1 is really good at it due to overnight camp and strict bunk cleaning rules. But mornings are a rush and I’m a SAHM. I get them off to school and then do a quick house straightening including making all the beds. I hate a messy room/house/bed. I’m also super type A about cleaning and tend to be a “lll just do it so it’s done correctly” person. Im aware I’m setting my kids up for failure.

I’m pretty similar. I don’t feel like I’m type A but there’s something really nice about walking throughout the house and having things in order. I WFH now so it’s now just part of my routine.

I’m also a multiple throw pillow person. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[livinitup]

Last summer, my mother told my teenager that I kept a “very” messy room when I was in high school. DD was shocked & delighted to hear about this information.

While factually accurate, I consider my mother a traitor.

Apparently, while visit for the week, DD made her bed every day. My mother complimented DD while throwing past-me under the bus.

[InBetweenDays]

DH or I make our bed every day. The kids (14 yo DS and 16 yo DD) almost never make their bed but we don't care. Every once in awhile I'll make their bed and if I do I make both.

[dochas]

My son is 12 and he makes his bed. To change the sheets I have him strip the bed and he helps me put the new sheets on.

[erbear]

Never. Kids are 12 and 14 and they can do it themselves. I also don’t do their laundry. I refuse to raise helpless adults.

[outnumbered]

Apr 30, 2023 10:56:49 GMT -5 erbear said:

Never. Kids are 12 and 14 and they can do it themselves. I also don’t do their laundry. I refuse to raise helpless adults.

My oldest and youngest do their laundry independently. I struggle to find balance with my 16 year old. In addition to school he works almost 20 hours per week so I find myself finishing some of those chores for him (he starts his laundry and I put it in the dryer etc).

[beerlover]

I don't. He sleeps very restlessly so it's always a mess. He's also in a bunk bed against a wall so it's a lot harder to make and I just don't bother.

[goldengirlz]

Apr 30, 2023 6:19:20 GMT -5 isabel said:

None of the beds in our house get made unless the cleaners do it.

This. Or if we have company coming over

To answer the OP, H or I usually make all of the beds in that case (his side, he does them; my side, I do them. We’re big on your side of the family, your problem, ha.)

[loira]

No, DD is 7 and hers is piled with stuffies and we can't be bothered to make it every day. We also don't require it of her. We have enough to do in the morning with work and getting her out the door.

[pandora89]

DS (almost 5) “makes” his bed (pulls up the sheets, puts his studies and pillows back) but I do straighten it up.

DD does not yet but she’s only 2.5, she does help though. She loves when her bed is made and her room is tidy and asks me to fix it if I forget.

[ohgillian]

No, but I prefer the beds be unmade so the sheets can air. So we don’t make the beds and try to pull the covers down when we get up.

[firedancer10288]

Beds don’t get made in this house. Ain’t nobody got time for that! (I grew up in a house where the bed had to be made with military precision every morning, I swing the complete opposite).

[sandandsea]

Nope. We also don’t make our bed. Our mornings are rushed and it’s really not that important. They know how. They know of friends are coming they have to make it. But I focus more on the house and rooms being tidy, not making beds.

[fivechickens]

We don’t make our beds.

D1 & D2 take the sheets off their beds and I help them put their sheets back on (fitted mostly) and they help me with my bed.

I change the sheets on D3 bed because she is unable to do that she does rearrange her pillows and stuffed animals.

[macmars45]

We straighten it up/re-tuck in sheets & blankets etc as part of bedtime routine. So no. DS is 7.

We don't really make our bed either.

[mpm]

Apr 30, 2023 10:17:58 GMT -5 devonpow said:

I’ll admit I make my kids’ beds 😬 11 and 16. Yes they are capable/ know how. DS1 is really good at it due to overnight camp and strict bunk cleaning rules. But mornings are a rush and I’m a SAHM. I get them off to school and then do a quick house straightening including making all the beds. I hate a messy room/house/bed. I’m also super type A about cleaning and tend to be a “lll just do it so it’s done correctly” person.[bold] Im aware I’m setting my kids up for failure[/bold].

Not necessarily. We had a nanny/daily housekeeper when I was little and so I never made my own bed as a kid or teen. Now as an adult, I like the beds tidy so I do it myself. I WFH and tidying up the bedrooms is my calming mid-morning break that I take so that I don’t say something in an email that will get me fired, lol.

[starburst604]

Ummmmm, the only time any beds are made in our house is when the cleaners come every 2 weeks, or if we’re having company and even then I just usually shut the bedroom doors. Hardly anyone ever goes upstairs anyway. DD doesn’t even sleep under her covers, she just sleeps on top of her comforter with a blanket.

I know some people can’t leave the house until their bed is made, but we are just not bed makers.