Post by penguingrrl on Jun 23, 2023 14:15:03 GMT -5
Take A. I had that option and chose B and ended up burning out and quitting in a year. I wish I had waited until my kids were older for the level I got to because it ended up being entirely unsustainable to work the way I needed to.
Post by pierogigirl on Jun 23, 2023 14:16:20 GMT -5
B sounds like a bad deal. Lots more work for barely any more money.
A sounds good for a few years. With your current commute, Job A probably pays more than your current job when you factor in gas, parking, car wear and tear, and the value of your time.
I recall you are a teacher. Do you mind sharing what Job B is (PM me if you want)? I say this only because I am also a career teacher and can relate to the burnout. I took a couple of steps back over the last two years (dumped all my admin responsibilities, am teaching classes I can teach in my sleep) and it's been a godsend, and this year, I was offered something new and challenging and I feel ready rather than overwhelmed.
And I would never, ever trade my summers off and this was part of my negotiations
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Post by gretchenindisguise on Jun 23, 2023 14:37:50 GMT -5
I essentially took the equivalent of job B in my field. Worked it for 6 months and then took equivalent if job A. 2 years later I’m going back to job B.
My mental health and the needs of my kids dictated the change. I’m really really glad I did it and I think I’m in a good space to be able to go back to job B. I don’t know that my own mental health and my kids needs would have been cared for as well as if I had stayed in job B the whole time.
I also had a hard time because eldest daughter and all that. It’s ok to choose yourself and your kids. Job B or something similar will still be there when and if you decide the timing is right in the future.
Post by cricketwife on Jun 23, 2023 15:27:15 GMT -5
I’m also in the job A camp. I’m also in education and those summers off are priceless. And I agree with PPs that the extra compensation is too little to be worth it.
Also, Fwiw, I have been in a “job A” for 10 years. Well, the first few years I was still learning the job, so it was challenging and different enough to still invigorate me. But in the year or two, I’ve been a little bored. I just thought, “it’s fine, you have low stress, good benefits, and you need to stay here until your kids graduate.” Well, lo and behold, my supervisor decided to leave at the end of this school year and I will be serving as interim in that role next year. 10 years ago, I needed a “job a”, but now my kids are a bit older, I’m ready for a bit more, and opportunity found me. Just a little encouragement that seasons change, what you need and want will change, and that there will always be opportunities out there at the right time. There is no shame in job A.
I recall you are a teacher. Do you mind sharing what Job B is (PM me if you want)? I say this only because I am also a career teacher and can relate to the burnout. I took a couple of steps back over the last two years (dumped all my admin responsibilities, am teaching classes I can teach in my sleep) and it's been a godsend, and this year, I was offered something new and challenging and I feel ready rather than overwhelmed.
And I would never, ever trade my summers off and this was part of my negotiations
This is curriculum development, teacher hiring and observation, course selection, and advising for a really small private school. I was a teacher and a counselor at my job I just quit.
Post by sometimesrunner on Jun 23, 2023 16:07:07 GMT -5
Definitely job a. It’s ok that your goals have changed since you last applied for job b. Maybe there will be another time that job b excites you, but I imagine learning job b while still recovering from burnout from your old job will be very taxing.
A all the way. Jobs like B will still exist if you decide you want something like that in the future. In the meantime, less stress and summers off sounds wonderful, and possibly necessary for your well being. Congrats and enjoy!
This legit made me LOL. You know kids know everything, right? If nothing else, you can look forward to her recanting that advice in roughly 30 years. 😂
This legit made me LOL. You know kids know everything, right? If nothing else, you can look forward to her recanting that advice in roughly 30 years. 😂
I think OP is the eldest daughter whose ass is in question 😂
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Job A sounds better on paper, but for me it depends what the job function is and whether you would like each one or find it soul sucking. Would the supervisory stuff be invigorating or just a giant pain in the rear?
I think job A. I think you are still young and have so much time to take on something like job B and while your kids are young, it might be nice to have a job that is less stress and and summers to enjoy your kiddos.
And if you end up being bored and don’t like that feeling, your lower stress job allows you the time and brain power to do something else! Take some extra grad classes, start a TPT account, get on the public speaking train for educators, work with local colleges to strengthen their programs that feed into your job, take up being a coach for your kid’s team, learn a new hobby, start a side gig…the options are endless. Work isn’t the only place that people can be challenged, and it drives me crazy when people suggest that either you “lean in” to your job or you just coast through life. It doesn’t have to be that way! You can love being challenged and work a job that allows you to turn off your brain and pay the bills so you can challenge yourself in other ways.
Signed,
Oldest Daughter who loves a challenge and is very driven, but spent 10 years as a SAHM and returned to work very part-time.
This legit made me LOL. You know kids know everything, right? If nothing else, you can look forward to her recanting that advice in roughly 30 years. 😂
I think OP is the eldest daughter whose ass is in question 😂
Oh lol! I totally missed that.
ETA: I didn’t get what the eldest daughter thing was, but I googled it just now and oh gosh. This is my BFF to a T. I need to talk about this with her. Signed, youngest child who often thinks everyone needs to chill out a little. LOL.
Job A. Tell your inner eldest daughter it’s time to breathe a little.
This made me tear up a bit. I was watching Moana with my son earlier and there’s a part where Moana’s grandmom is singing to her about making the family proud, putting too much on her shoulders, and listening to her voice inside — my son was like, “Mom, why are you crying!?” Lol
Job A. Tell your inner eldest daughter it’s time to breathe a little.
This made me tear up a bit. I was watching Moana with my son earlier and there’s a part where Moana’s grandmom is singing to her about making the family proud, putting too much on her shoulders, and listening to her voice inside — my son was like, “Mom, why are you crying!?” Lol
❤️❤️ I feel this so hard. I’m an eldest daughter, who is wound super tight, and I’m trying to learn to take my own advice.
This made me tear up a bit. I was watching Moana with my son earlier and there’s a part where Moana’s grandmom is singing to her about making the family proud, putting too much on her shoulders, and listening to her voice inside — my son was like, “Mom, why are you crying!?” Lol
❤️❤️ I feel this so hard. I’m an eldest daughter, who is wound super tight, and I’m trying to learn to take my own advice.
Gotta figure out why it’s okay for everyone else to take care of themselves except us. I, of course, must do the most at all times. lol
Job A. Tell your inner eldest daughter it’s time to breathe a little.
This made me tear up a bit. I was watching Moana with my son earlier and there’s a part where Moana’s grandmom is singing to her about making the family proud, putting too much on her shoulders, and listening to her voice inside — my son was like, “Mom, why are you crying!?” Lol
I don’t understand the eldest daughter references (is that a thing?) but I had such a strong emotional response to the song Surface Pressure in Encanto for the same reason. I had to hold in my tears so my kids wouldn’t ask about it. I feel like that song was written for moms. I love that part of Moana too.
The relatively low difference in salary and benefit of summers off make me say A all the way.
Honestly, I am so burned out in my higher level management role and dream about going back to just being an independent contributor. Job A sounds like a dream. There’s no reason to burden yourself right now. You can pursue job B when your kids are older and you’ve had a few years to recharge.
Post by litskispeciality on Jun 23, 2023 21:41:17 GMT -5
Less stress and more time off should almost always win. Less time on the road is worth equal pay because you get more time for you and your family. I imagine curriculum is going to be demanding, esp at a private school where you're less tied to a particular curriculum to meet state standards. I'm sure you'll be qualified in a few years
Congratulations on all the offers. Stealing from a fellow GBCN poster, good to know you've still got it ;o)