DDOT: My PMDD is super bad this week. I hope it eases up soon. I am so cranky and my family's lack of responsibility this week is driving me crazy.
Question: I know I do not owe anyone anything. DS has 2 school friends, and he has only seen them once this summer. They are also neighbors and come over frequently to play in our yard. These are the kids that we ALWAYS host with very little reciprocity comparatively speaking. My thought is that they needed a break from each other and both were traveling. In May the boys were fighting a lot over 4 square, but they did successfully see each other in June and had a great time.
Would you host something just to bring them kind of back together before school starts? Or would you just wait since school is now 3 weeks away August 16th, and I am sure they will reconnect on the bus? DS isn't in camp, so the only thing he is doing is library and horseback riding. DD also isn't in camp and is doing soccer, so they are both more available these 3 weeks.
The dog got his stitches out yesterday.. I'm amused that DH spent less than 15 minutes there to get them out and I spent many, many, many hours there to get them in, but that's the way life works out, I guess.
I'm feeling burnt out trying to juggle work and kids activities and everyone being back to the office the majority of the time. I convinced myself that it would be easier once summer was over and they're back to school, because camp pickup is 5pm and aftercare is 6pm... BUT. (Always a but, right?) DS starts soccer again, so assuming the universe doesn't hate me, he'll be M/W practices that I'll need to pick him up early for, which means I need to do early pickups M/W/Th/F between him and DD, or if the universe is rude, I'll have to figure out how to get two kids to two locations 30 mins apart on Thursdays. I keep reminding myself that this is why we moved DS up to U10 (so that I can hopefully rely on others to help get him there - but we switched aftercare programs to one others may not be in!) and that DD has a friend on her sync team that can pick her up and take her occasionally. DD's private lessons also will overlap with DS's game times on Saturdays, so that's even more fun. I just need to tread water and get through the next... oh, 9 years or so until DS is driving? And then I'll be sad that we're past the kid activity phase and heading towards being empty nesters...
k3am, the kid sports can be intense. I know DD will be Tues and Thurs but it is 6:15-7:15 so after work. We don't know DS's practices yet, but DH is back in the office 3 days a week, so I told him he has to arrange his schedule around DS's practices ha ha. I hope it works out.
The girls slept at their BFF's house Monday and Tuesday. When I picked them up yesterday they asked if she could come back to our house for the night. I agreed. It's honestly been no big deal at all. I'm WFH, they occupy each other, and they're old enough that DD2 made eggs and toast for everyone for breakfast with no help from me. This is next level parenting of big kids!
Tonight we're supposed to go to a baseball game with my company. The weather is looking very dicey and I am ready to bail now. I could use a relaxing night at home to chill and pack. We're all going away this weekend and then the girls are gone for the next week with my parents. I just always have tons of guilt over bailing on work events since I oversee the group the puts all of these things on.
DD2 and I watched the first half of the USWNT game last night, so she was late going to bed. We haven't seen the end and I'm actively avoiding social media until we watch the second half. But it meant she was dragging this morning. Her camp moved the start time 1 hour earlier due to the heat, but we had to drop the dog off first... late for camp.
Then I was working through my list of requests that came in after I stopped working last night, knowing I had to pick up DD2 an hour earlier than usual due to the shift, knowing that I had therapy at 3pm today... when I got a text at 935 from my therapist asking where I was... I put it in my phone wrong...
So that appointment starting late (and she's awesome because she doesn't cut me off if we are on a roll) meant that I was late getting to camp pick up. DD2 has so much anxiety around stuff like that...
In the middle of all of this, I'd received an email from my kids' new school saying that I was late sending medical records. The email stated that I could upload to a system that I was not yet set up on, or email it directly to the nurses, and provided an email. So I emailed in the interest of time. I got the nastiest email back from the nurse about how the system was DESIGNED for parents to UPLOAD, and I should NEVER email the medical records to the nurses.
Oh.
I responded saying that I was soooooooooooooooo sorry!!! The message I received stated that an email was appropriate - I truly apologize for the inconvenience created by following the instructions that you provided and trying to get this to you as quickly as possible.
She responded "no problem. have a great summer."
Killing it and making friends at the new school... YES!
waverly, I would if your kids wanted to. Otherwise, probably not.
We are choosing after school activities for both kids. I think both want to do musical theater. And maybe piano. DD would like to do a self defense class. I think DS would do well at a ninja class and may try to sign him up for a practice class.
mae0111, She is being extra. Our nurse accepts emailed dentist and medical records. I get it is an unsecured versus secured, but then add you to the online system.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jul 27, 2023 12:01:29 GMT -5
I took yesterday off to spend the day with DS and we went to the $2 summer movie. It was a nice day.
My coworker told me this morning that she was referred for an ultrasound after her mammogram last week and she's freaking out. I'm trying to be supportive, but I'm not very good at using my words when it comes to things like that.
Beau's former MIL/Aunt and her mom informed him a couple weeks ago that he has until August 1st to move them to our area because their handshake deal with a guy to buy their house closes on August 1st. It's not his responsibility to move them here, but he's been trying to help them. He spends several hours a week filing out applications and inquiring about property and rentals, but when everywhere requires income that is 3 times the rent per month and 700 sqft houses are selling for close to $400K, they can't afford anything in our area. And low income apartments have a 3 year waiting list. I think they told him August 1st hoping it would push him, but there's nothing he can do.
waverly, I totally get why they would want it in the system, but just say that up front and don't give me the option of emailing it to you if it's not really an option!
DD2 and I watched the first half of the USWNT game last night, so she was late going to bed. We haven't seen the end and I'm actively avoiding social media until we watch the second half. But it meant she was dragging this morning. Her camp moved the start time 1 hour earlier due to the heat, but we had to drop the dog off first... late for camp.
Then I was working through my list of requests that came in after I stopped working last night, knowing I had to pick up DD2 an hour earlier than usual due to the shift, knowing that I had therapy at 3pm today... when I got a text at 935 from my therapist asking where I was... I put it in my phone wrong...
So that appointment starting late (and she's awesome because she doesn't cut me off if we are on a roll) meant that I was late getting to camp pick up. DD2 has so much anxiety around stuff like that...
In the middle of all of this, I'd received an email from my kids' new school saying that I was late sending medical records. The email stated that I could upload to a system that I was not yet set up on, or email it directly to the nurses, and provided an email. So I emailed in the interest of time. I got the nastiest email back from the nurse about how the system was DESIGNED for parents to UPLOAD, and I should NEVER email the medical records to the nurses.
Oh.
I responded saying that I was soooooooooooooooo sorry!!! The message I received stated that an email was appropriate - I truly apologize for the inconvenience created by following the instructions that you provided and trying to get this to you as quickly as possible.
She responded "no problem. have a great summer."
Killing it and making friends at the new school... YES!
Our system is like this too. It's a HIPAA violation to send it to the school (though the nurse has access to it anyway?) so parents have to upload it themselves. But the system is very annoying to work in.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
waverly, I would not organize anything unless my kid was asking for it and had talked to the friends first. You are not the cruise director and if they want to play, they'll get it together.
FWIW, my kids haven't seen their BFFs since June 14 because of everyone's summer schedule.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
erbear, yeah now that I am thinking they have the block party and a band party next weekend where they may or may not see them, then that is the opportunity providing itself without me.
I'm interviewing for the supervisory committee of a local financial institution today - as sort of an extracurricular/getting involved in the community/resume builder. A friend of mine who is an attorney is already on the committee and recommended me for it. I've been with my current firm for 15 years so I'm very out of practice at interviews about me. I'm so nervous!
erbear, again, I get that, but don't give email as an option if you don't want the email! That's why I was frustrated! I went back and reread the message I received and it clearly states: Upload or email here.
So now I'm struggling to fill out all of the forms. Our state is missing from a section that I can't edit. So I can't submit the forms because the state is missing, but I can't fix it either. There's no help desk and no chat and no one to email or call. I just wanted to get it done... I have Dh looking at it in case I'm just a dummy today.
I'm also grumpy/cranky. I either got the dates wrong or something but I should have gotten to see my BFF either yesterday or tomorrow but she won't be near me until Saturday. She wants me to come see her next week and I can't because work will be a zoo. Sometimes being self employed sucks because you can't take time off whenever you want. I should have still taken the days off this week because I can't motivate myself to do anything.
DD is being excluded from her gym friends. I don't know why other than they don't practice in the same group anymore. These girls have been buds since preschool age. DD says it is because she doesn't have a phone. I call BULL because every parent has my number and none of them are old enough to drive. Plus DD seems to have no issues using my phone to set up dates with a few of the older gym girls and they seem totally okay with her not having her own phone. Yesterday was the 4th event that DD didn't get invited to with this same group of girls. I wish social media didn't exist so it wouldn't be shoved in her face that she didn't get invited. Yesterday was just a huge meet up at the local pool for rec swim so it wasn't at someone's house. Our gym is doing a big fundraiser Sunday afternoon so it will be interesting to see the dynamics between the girls.
186momx, how old is your daughter? At any age, this sucks. Agreed, observing dynamics could be interesting and helpful. Not sure if confiding in a one of their moms, one that you trust, would be beneficial. When DD2 had issues at her girl scout meetings, H confided in another mom. It was good for us, but DD's issues were with parents more than with their kids....
Maybe they are all in a group text? Since DS has a Gabb phone the group text doesn’t really work. He can send but not receive. On one hand it’s good because the neighbor girl was bullied via her group choir chat. But in the other hand I can see them making plans and not including those in the chat.
I’m contemplating moving to a Pinwheel phone but we got the Gabb phone for free.
DS has no social media so when he does miss out at least he doesn’t know about it.
waverly, We have gabb phones and paid the couple dollars extra each month on the plan to allow group texting. It also allows them to send photos. Group texting was a big sticking point for us, because my two are a group already, and then they want to add friends on so that they're all in the conversation.
waverly, We have gabb phones and paid the couple dollars extra each month on the plan to allow group texting. It also allows them to send photos. Group texting was a big sticking point for us, because my two are a group already, and then they want to add friends on so that they're all in the conversation.
I paid extra too but I feel like it isn’t working right. We texted him pictures and he did not receive them. Maybe I need to call support again. When I first got the phone it wouldn’t connect to the app and they sent a new SIM card. It also wont always update his location.
I am also grumpy. The inefficiency at my agency is driving me nuts. I get an email that our workplan for the year is due Monday. This did not come from the program lead. It was her staff, who is basicallydoingher job. I do not oversee that program, but my staff work in it. Why do I not oversee it? Good question. It is a community health program. But the lead has worked here 45 years, so they don't want to rock the boat. But she's often out. Does not communicate, which is why I didn't know I needed to put in this plan. She is a senior leader, but other staff notice she doesn't produce...much of anything. It's this kind of thing that kills the morale of high productivity staff.
186momx, how old is your daughter? At any age, this sucks. Agreed, observing dynamics could be interesting and helpful. Not sure if confiding in a one of their moms, one that you trust, would be beneficial. When DD2 had issues at her girl scout meetings, H confided in another mom. It was good for us, but DD's issues were with parents more than with their kids....
They are all 12yr Olds going into 7th grade. Sunday will be a good time for me to observe and chat with the other parents.
Update to my question. I did not invite anyone over. I texted some of the parents to see who was attending the block party that was it.
But somehow they ended up at my house once on Saturday and twice on Monday. Apparently there is now a group text and other neighbor boy invited people to my house LOL, and that his parents actually drove him over since he isn't in the neighborhood at all. Before this, it was just neighborhood people for the last 4 years. I wondered if they saw the BB party I had earlier that week, but I couldn't tell.
This is just me being a parent of younger kids not used to being a parent of older kids, but the parent just believed the invite and brought his kid over with no interaction from me and dropped him off with all the others since they were all outside and very easy to see. I was like umm you just dropped off your kid, so how do they get home? But I guess they told DS that he would be picked up at 8. At 8, dad finds them at the park a block away and picks him up. I walked over once to check on them, but otherwise left them alone. The only reason why we had any interaction is because I went outside and said hi as they drove by.
I can't imagine just dropping my kid off because another kid said so in a group chat, but I think that is my future, right? The future of older kids. The kid and parent have never been to my house, but they have been to my neighborhood visiting a neighbor, and they "know" us from Cub Scouts.
I guess that is better than the mom that dropped off her 4th grader last summer and I had never met mom or kid, and here she was playing in my yard. She was even eating lunch once when they rang the doorbell, so mom drives her over the 2 blocks and drops her off at my house. I finally met the parents 6 months later. Oh and I have had another girl and boy play here where I didn't meet the parents but they walked over that was a little better because it was my kids inviting them. I just thought it was funny that she drove her kid over the 2 blocks, and was invited by another neighbor.