Vent..

[k3am]

My boss is out this week. At some point last week he asked if I could go to the managers meeting this week for him, I said sure, send me an invite. He didn’t send me an invite or any of the reports needed and the meeting slipped my mind. So now he’s pissed, my EVP is pissed, and I’m even more annoyed. But how am I supposed to know or remember a meeting when I don’t even know what date or time said meeting is!!? And if I don’t have the materials for it since I’m not on the distribution list?! I’m hiding in the parking lot and just want to go home and cry.

[supertrooper1]

That sucks! Why are they pissed that you didn't attend a meeting that you didn't know about?

[k3am]

supertrooper1 , I'm sure he told them that I'd said I would go in his absence. And I should have followed up on the calendar invite, but I'm pretty sure he asked me over lunch, and I have trouble remembering even personal things that are important to me.

[waverly]

Well he really should have followed up with the meeting invite. I would apologize and say sorry it slipped my mind since I didn't have the date or time of the meeting.

[supertrooper1]

Not your fault at all. It was his responsibility to get you the meeting time, not yours.

[rere]

It was primarily his responsibility to give you the information. I would never expect my staff to do me a favor by covering for me and get mad when I didn't follow through with the proper information.

[k3am]

I sent a text to EVP as diplomatically as I could to apologize and explain the backstory. He's still in the meeting and hasn't responded, but hopefully he understands. He is familiar with how things seem to go in my part of the world, so my guess/hope is he gets it. Of all the people I work with, I hate letting that man (EVP) down because he's awesome and I hate feeling like he might not think I'm awesome, if that makes sense.

Boss has apologized about the confusion. I just responded that I'm glad he was able to jump on the call.

In other vent news, I overslept and missed my workout, DD had an absolute meltdown because she doesn't like touching dog food (she'd rather pick up poop, but the kids switch duties on the 1st of the month), we forgot to braid her hair and it's a swim day, I forgot to bring a package that needs to be dropped off no later than today, the gas station was out of diet dr. pepper (my stress drink), and I couldn't grab tea before my actual call on my schedule that I'd RSVP'd to because I was pouting in the car...

So basically, I think I'll move to Australia.

[186momx]

Not you fault. Also, if everyone else knew you were supposed to be there why didn't anyone call you and ask if you were running late? You can apologize for not coming but I would be throwing Mr Boss under the bus big time.

[k3am]

186momx, I got texts from boss and EVP around the same time (8:40ish) and then a call asking why I wasn't online.

[mae0111]

I am having a very similar day and I would also like to move far away.

I’m sorry about it. I hope it gets better. Know what makes it better? Wine. Get wine.

[jaylea]

I’m a people manager and this is not your fault in any way.

Also, it’s a meeting, that happens weekly. I am 100% certain the world has kept turning with this one meeting being missed by him/you. Don’t sweat it, this isn’t your issue.

[sdlaura]

Ugh, that situation sucks. I’m sorry. I’m pretty sure everyone else will forget about the situation soon. So I think you did the right thing by apologizing and explaining, but now would try to let it go. I know that’s easier said than done, but dwelling on it won’t make it better. Time will.

[dglvrk2]

k3am, this is your boss's mess up, not yours. You addressed the missed meeting in a professional way and thus done your part.
Big hugs. We've all been there 🤗

[k3am]

Futsal was cancelled and DH took the kids and dog on a long walk, and it’s unseasonably chilly, so I’m relaxing by the firepit with a Tuesday cocktail. Clearly my resolution to not drink during the week lasted one full day, but I’m okay with it.

I had two surprise calls from coworkers (senior folks who are part of the meeting) who don’t normally call to chat today… which is unusual. Both technically had business related reasons to call, but they were so thin, I think they were fishing for info.

The annoying part is that this meeting is one my direct manager actually discourages me from going to on a regular basis, I think partially because he’s gatekeeping information. He only wants me to go in his absence, but the info in them is something I’d prefer to have on a regular basis.

I have - what I think - are less common reasons for staying at this company than many others, but if I could figure out something that would pay comparable that I’d enjoy more, I’d be gone in a heartbeat. Two competitors have told me that if I want to move, they’d hire me, but I don’t know how realistic their offers are (very casual offers - I think one has the ability to make it happen, one would need to go through more red tape) or even if I’d want to move based on my other reasons.

[mommyatty]

I’m sorry, k3am, that sounds like a really shitty day.

[cjcouple]

Just reading this k3am sorry for your bad day. I hope today goes better.

[mustardseed2007]

k3am, here's to a better day!