This week was overall better than last week. It was a weird week at work. Work happening that we were not told about. I get that the workers did not convey the extent of work to the boss, but I kind of think she should have known/ common sense.
The other one was 2 co-workers were venting and fine whatever, but it was really awkward because I walked in on them. I don't think it was about me, but maybe about one of my employees. And then they tried to tell me about their life issues to cover it up, and it was just very awkward.
Weekend, DH has a 5K then we have a block party. There is a band pool party on Sunday but I am not sure DD wants to go since it is 4th-8th grade maybe it would be a little bit awkward for her. I can text and see if her friends are going, but I just wasn't sure on it.
I wasn't sure if I wanted to take DD to see the Barbie movie since the themes are more adult or the Elemental movie.
Post by supertrooper1 on Aug 4, 2023 10:53:48 GMT -5
We don't have much planned today and tomorrow other than a few last minute things to get our trailer ready for our trip Sunday to Idaho to a theme park. Without stops it's a 6 hour drive. Monday and Tuesday we'll be at the park and then drive home Wednesday. I'm a planner and Beau's family is not, and it triggers my anxiety about not being prepared. If I hadn't started a group text last night, Beau's DIL wouldn't have even remembered swim diapers for their baby or beach towels, when one day includes a water park. And they won't contribute to the food, so that's all been on me. It's a big change after camping with Beau's brother last weekend who brought enough food for a dozen people for a week when we told him to just bring steaks and we'd supply the rest.
It was a bit of a bumpy week, but DH and the kids left this morning for a week-long camping trip! So I'm FREEEEEEEE!!! I'm trying to figure out my week. I'd like to maybe go to the beach house for a day or two. I'm hoping to meet up with a couple of friends for dinner. I feel like whenever we are here, I'm either working or supervising at the pool, so I need to spend some time cleaning and decluttering. I'm also planning to put in some extra hours at work so that I can spend more time with my kids during their last couple of weeks at home during summer vacation.
I am feeling some guilt because DD2 was very emotional about leaving. She's been very clingy with me this summer, and she really didn't want to go without me. But I know she's going to have a fantastic time, and I really didn't want her to miss out to spend a boring week with me. And honestly, I've not been alone for more than a couple of hours in months. So I'm hoping its a win for both of us.
Post by librarychica on Aug 4, 2023 13:18:08 GMT -5
waverly, how old is your DD? I took mine last night and it was perfect for the nearly-12yo but I wouldn’t take my 8yo again. The adult pieces were minor and went over her head but she was a little bored.
My parents are staying at our place near the beach so my brother and I drove over Tuesday night with my kids, I WFH Wednesday and took off Thursday and Friday. I’m very proud — no one is sunburned yet. It’s sooooo intense out there. We will be here tomorrow morning and then will head home Saturday afternoon.
Sunday is beach-laundry and back to school prep. Meet the teacher Tuesday and first day Thursday.
I'm heading back to my parents' house to pick up the girls this weekend from their week away. They've had a lot of fun and we've talked each day. But I miss them! Tomorrow we'll spend time at the beach, then my sister and I are going to a concert. We'll all drive home Sunday and I'll bring the girls to exH since it's his stretch with them.
My plan for Sunday is to get some homework done and get all the wedding announcement cards mailed out. They've been sitting on my counter for a week. I need to force H to hunt down addresses for his side of the family.
waverly, I saw it by myself this week and while I would totally let my girls watch it and I think they'd get a kick out of it, I don't plan to bring them to see it in theaters. I think they'll get a little bored and I don't want to waste the very expensive theater experience on it. They can see it when it makes its way to streaming.
I took dd dorm shopping today which consisted of trash cans, bed toppers, pillows, lamps, cleaning supplies, toiletries, air fryer, TIRES, shoes, mirrors, lamps.....so I'm broke.
Tomorrow I'm baking a cake for and we are attending a Downs syndrome fundraiser at the lake which should be fun.
waverly, DD thought Barbie was boring and overhyped. She said it was "okay" but didn't see what everyone was so excited about. We are movie club members, so we're not picky, but I think of everything we've ever seen in theaters, this is the one she was least enthusiastic about.
It was also not my cup of tea either and I agree with her assessment lol.
waverly, FWIW my 9 year old thought the movie was funny, but not the greatest. My 12 year old loved it. So did I
This week was fine. Nothing extraordinary but no big headaches either. We are leaving shortly for our road trip to the Pacific Northwest. The girls are in overnight camp all next week, so H and I get so much needed time to ourselves!
I'm a little nervous about DD1 at camp. I hope she likes the activities. The last few camps are a major success so I'm knocking on wood! She's also supposed to have her period this week... That could be kind of lame.
All right. Here's to 13+ hours in the car with both kids, the husband, the dog... and the cat. Yes. That's how we roll 🤪
My apparently UO is that I have no desire to see the Barbie movie, and neither one of my kids has expressed any desire to see it, either. DD2 wanted to see Elemental, but I feel like it was gone as quickly as it arrived in theaters around here.
We are not big movie-goers, but there is an old timey drive-in movie theater about 5 mins from our beach house, so I'm hoping we can get there before the summer ends!
DH has been staying at my parents’ empty condo nearby since he tested positive for COVID early Wednesday morning, so I’ve been on my own with the four kids. They were in daycare/camp on the weekdays still which was good. DH feels crappy so wouldn’t be much help, so I prefer him to not risk infecting the kids or me. We all have some mild illness symptoms (mainly a cough) but all of us are testing negative after not being around DH since Tuesday night, so I’m pretty confident we don’t have full blown/contagious COVID. DH doesn’t get nearly the level of exposure that the rest of us do normally (he’s a homebody and only goes to the office one day a week while the rest of us are in daily indoor situations with other people) - so my theory is that the rest of us have more immunity than him from a constant low level of exposure and that’s why we haven’t gotten it. That may be total BS but that’s what I think
Anyway, DD is doing a fancy softball catcher retreat a little over an hour away tomorrow through Tuesday. I plan to take all the kids with me to take her tomorrow. There’s a K1 speed and sky zone near the facility so the boys and I will do that and then all go home together in the evening. Sunday I’m hopeful that DH will feel up to being with the boys (it will be day 5 for him) while I take DD back to the retreat all day. And while she’s there I plan to do Orangetheory, get a korean spa scrub, and maybe a blow out. That will be really nice if it happens.
Next week is our last week of summer/camps! Back to school the following week.
We’re gearing up for back to school. DD has officially hit the milestone where brands matter. She pointed out that all her “converse” are knock offs. So today we bought her some high top vans, Nike AFs, and some pumas and I’m broke. She also bought herself a pair of crocs, since she knows they’re against my religion. DS has always cared about brands (inadvertently - he doesn’t care about a specific brand shoe, but somehow realized that they’re more comfy than target shoes) - he’s mostly a puma and Nike kid, but they’re half the price in kids sizes compared to DDs women’s sizes. Thankfully school clothes are uniforms.. but then that’s where I become a brand snob, because I only believe in Nautica polos that are way more expensive but cheaper in the long run.
This is DS’s last full week of vacation, and then DD goes back 10 days later. I’m so frustrated because DH takes DS to therapy. For weeks, I have asked DH to PLEASE ask his therapist to work with him on how to approach kids to make friends, how to ask to sit with someone at lunch, etc. I ask him every time if he did so and I never get a straight answer. Today, I asked him “Yes or no, did you talk with her about this?” No. Because he “assumes that’s what they’ve been doing.” But all they’ve been doing is playing games. So now we are one week out, and after paying over $1000, my kid is still walking into school with zero skills. W. T. F. I swear I’m about to kick DH out so I can get a competent nanny.
I had posted an update on ML. I settled. Settling is complex and difficult to understand for those not in it. Or paying for it. On ML Some people felt I was trying to get attention bc another poster had posted about a very difficult situation w her spouse. This was not the case. That’s not who I am.
Others were irritated that I continued to post—that I wasn’t listening. That’s understandable. Truthfully I knew in my gut he wasn’t here. The reason I delete is just to keep it from lingering.
In the end, posting here or him spying on the boards would honestly have been NOTHING compared to what was actually happening. I know some of you have wondered how it’s going and I’m fine w messaging.
I wasn’t able to return to work for a few days. Just could not. I have been surrounded by family for a few days.
He has so far compiled w the aspects of the outcome that required follow up, and apart from that I’ve been working w an IT specialist.
on a positive and unrelated note , I switched work locations: my choice. I’m happy and so is the new staff, as I’ve been there before. There are a lot of positives to this move. I’ve started organizing my work space and that feels good.
I have some health goals that are becoming more intense and that is a good thing for me. I do well with that.
My children’s health and mental health will be solidly protected, given this outcome. Which means in turn, mine will be too.
My BFF and her family came over yesterday, and we visited for 7 hours. 5 kids between the ages of 2 and 12 and not 1 fight. Reusable water balloons are amazing and kept the kids busy all afternoon. Her H was a trooper and just sat on the patio and let us all be. Whole my H was off running errands when they got there and proceeded to ignore/avoid all of us the whole day. He did even poke his head out to say hi. I was a little annoyed but she got it. DD told the kids when they asked where he was that he woke up cranky and was having a me day.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Aug 6, 2023 18:13:04 GMT -5
You did great campermom. Truly. As a lawyer I know - sometimes you are trucking along expecting one outcome and then you find something out and priorities change. It's strength to be able to adjust to get the best outcome for you and your family given ALL of the facts. You did great.
campermom, I didn't see your update, but knowing everything that you are going through, I'm sure you and your lawyer made the right decision to protect all of you.