Post by supertrooper1 on Aug 23, 2023 11:09:56 GMT -5
Dear Beau, I'm trying to put aside my hurt feelings from yesterday to support you today, since you're grieving your son who would have been 29 today. But yesterday when you thought you were being funny by saying you don't care about looks anymore and choose practicality in things you buy and your women hurt my feelings. You know I struggle with self-confidence, and I've seen pictures of your beautiful late wife and some of your ex-gfs. Love, We can still joke but you need to learn where the line is.
Dear DS, I'm so happy that you love robotics camp. It sounds like you've been doing some awesome things. Love, Mom
I hate that you are sick and have to stay in our basement to keep FIL well. But. Stay in the basement. I've got too much to do to get sick.
Ps. Dh quit pouting that you can't watch your show in the basement. Big picture and all.
Dear dd,
Last night was the fist time you had to venture out to a social event on campus without your new tribe. You tried to bail, but went, and guess what, loved it.
I hope you have a great first day of sixth grade! I am so proud of you and really hope your first period at school goes okay! I know you were worried about leaking and feeling embarrassed.
Love, Mom
Dear DS,
I hope you have a better day today than yesterday. Yesterday was just a struggle, wasn’t it? I’m proud of you for powering through, but maybe try not to tell people you need to go home because you have a disease? You… don’t have a disease.
Ugh supertrooper1, I would not like that comment at all, either. I'm sorry.
Dear DD,
I'm really glad we let you mostly drop aftercare this year. Dad and I are really enjoying getting to spend more alone time with you in the afternoons when we can get away from work stuff. You're doing a great job focusing on homework and practicing your sports when we're busy, rather than just sitting around on screens like we were worried you might.
Dear self,
Please put your book down each night and start going to bed earlier - you know you feel better when you do!
Dear School district DD has an IEP for reading/writing, and she is a very bad speller, but they can't write that in her IEP. You updated passwords from numbers, initials, and special characters to a word, numbers, and special characters. DD has Salmon as part of her password, and we've spent the last week trying to learn how to spell it and it is a lost cause. No matter how many times she writes it isn't sticking. Jeez there are 4 letter words you use every day that she can't spell still so she just chooses other words when she does write. There is no way to voice type passwords multiple times a day in a classroom setting. Do you think maybe we could fix it to something she can spell? 7th grader in tears over passwords
Dear DD's school counselor I really hope you respond to her email before school starts. I know you are busy, but schedules and IEP needs are important, and I thought if DD sent it from her school email with me CC that it would go over better than me emailing. Mom of who is prepping for a disaster.
I spent all of 9th grade gym in the weight room, chatting instead of lifting weights. We had the option of that or the gym and there was no instructor in the weight room. If he every swung by we would pretend to lift weight for 5 minutes and then go back to chatting-it was the best. I think the most I benched was 80 pounds, and I never really tried again after that gym class.
Dear daughters, How are you still so short and so small, and yet, your feet have jumped into women's sizes?! My sneaker budget for back to school has now been completely blown out of the water. RIP my wallet. Love, Mom
Dear DD2, Forgetting your backpack at orientation dismissal and having to go back inside with a teacher to find it feels like a perfectly you way to kick off things with the new school. It looks like you were chatting that poor teacher's ear off the entire time. I love you, my little hot mess express! Signed, You crack me up
Dear self, Get your act together with grad school! You have been phoning it in a lot with the work this term. It might still be getting you A's, but it's causing you so much stress! Instead of writing your papers the night they're due, why don't you use your free time leading up to the deadline more effectively? This isn't a sustainable approach. Get out of the funk before you're doubled up on classes next term! Signed, Me
WPs School just called wanting to pull DD from academic support saying she doesn't need it! ARGH
Dear DD Wow, I asked about academic support, and you told me no you need it because otherwise you won't get any help at all. This is really grown up Me
Dear school Help my smart kid be the best she can be. Not just get by and let her cope. IEP are there for a reason. Yes she deserves fun electives so make it work. PE isn't fun for her so take that elective away for academic support. I promise we can show that she does more than enough physical body moving a week to make up for a 40 minute PE class 5 days a week. Mom PS she does more gymnastics in 1 night than she gets all week at school. PSS if you look at her you would understand as she got ripped this summer.
Yeah, that’s not a call the school gets to make unilaterally.
Signed, Mom of Brainiac Who Still Needs Accommodations, Even With an Insanely High IQ and Good Grades
The meeting with the middle school went well. The new head has a solid plan for keeping behavior under control. DD said today was an awesome day (even though she had a major period accident and I had to take her clean undies and playground shorts).
I'm so proud of you! Yesterday was your first day of 2nd grade and you did it! It'll get easier the more you get into the school routine. And you get to see me at recess you lucky kid. :-)
Dear coworker, When I ask you to write a test case covering certain conditions, I expect you to write the test case and make any necessary adjustments to the golden data in order to accomplish this. Now it is a month later and I discover that you just put some garbage down and didn't change any golden data to be able to run this test case. Also, I don't know how you passed a test case because I just ran it and it doesn't work at all and there is no way it would have passed on an earlier build of the software. I trusted you to write all of the test cases needed to appropriately test this new software feature and I am finding so many problems! WTF are you doing???
School update: counseling center called me today as they had gotten DD email and just wanted to let me know that they were going to make sure academic support replaced PE. There is no PE requirement for middle school. They had no idea I had talked to SPED the day before. I asked about taking 9th grade math and got told they would get back to me next week but if we talked about at the IEP meeting last year they would make it work. I also question the kids new password and DD not being able to spell it and she was going to look into either changing it or getting DD a QR code similar to what the elementary kids have. WPs the counseling center at school rocks and listened to both DD and myself! I'm going to request they come to our next IEP meeting because wow I was so impressed with my 10 minute phone call!
Wtf? I’m so confused about how your playground wedding went so wrong. Depending on the source, there were 40-100 students in “attendance” and a brawl broke out, which may or may not have just been someone tripping, but was enough to get you pulled out of class and left the bride being sent to the nurse with a panic attack. I’m sure you were the best girl husband ever but.. wtf. I need someone to translate this for me from kid to old.
Signed, Confused mother of the bride. Or mother of the girl husband. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Dear daughters, I'm starting to get really nervous about how you two will do in middle school next week. You're both so confident and sure of yourselves and own your fashion choices with zero question. But will other kids be ok with it? Your little elementary school loved you guys and thought nothing of it. But this is a giant school with brand new kids who don't know you and love you already. Especially DD2, who we know is already quirky and acts a bit on the spectrum without the official diagnosis... All of this brought to you because I'm having some regrets about letting you pick out the glasses you loved last night at your eye exam. I'm so happy that you are confident enough to choose some kind of over the top styles, but as you head into middle school I'm freaking out about you getting picked on. DH says there's no way that will happen because you two have each other and your strong personalities. But middle school was so so rough for me! I'm just rolling with it and supporting you two in your choices instead of putting my nerves on you but man, this is HARD! Love, Mom
I’m having the same struggle with DD. And this week I saw something that said it’s not our job as parents to prevent every hurt, especially by squashing their individuality. It’s our job to teach them to deal with the hurt and provide them a safe landing spot. But if we squash them… they’re still getting squashed, just by the people who are supposed to 100% accept them as they are.
And it reminded me that our parenting motto is “Life should be a series of thrilling adventures, launched from a secure base.” I provide the secure base, and right now, her thrilling adventures are all around fashion.
Signed, Mother of Girl with knee socks with Nikes who is owning her look like a boss
My first year of middle school was awful with lots of crying and bruises. I was also anxious. DD1 has had no issues and neither has my goddaughter at her school. Maybe we are just lucky but kids, weirdly enough, seem nicer now.
Oh no, my DD started middle school last year and the girls were brutal. DD mostly doesn’t care, but everything about last year was an insane shit show. One of the teachers said the school has never seen a class like that before and they were utterly unprepared for it.
But, on the other hand, DD says she’s gay, and is super open about it, and it appears the only people who care are boys who like her. (Who constantly ask her who she has a crush on, I think hoping she will finally decide to crush on a boy). So that’s definitely better than when we were kids.
DS's worst year was 5th grade. He was in a class with no one that he remotely liked, maybe 1 kid was sort of OK. That's how that went. His teacher would point out the issues, but do nothing to resolve them. Extremely passive. I had to reach out to the school counselor.
6th grade was good except the 1 bullying incident, and admin was great about it. FWIW, yes they did bully him on something he wore, his hearing aids, and the school came down even harder because of that. Assuming admin is telling the truth, there were 4 boys involved in the lunch table coup, and 2 were crying, and the parents were horrified when he called them out. There was never a problem again. But, it had nothing to do with him and everything to do with them wanting the lunch table all to themselves (2 groups shared). So that goes to show you, that bullying is unpredictable. They were trying to bully 2-3 kids off his group to leave the table permanently to install their friends there. Admin shuts it down, and I feel like they are constantly sent back to sit with their advisory class, so that shows me that admin is on top of it, and anytime there is any issue sitting with friends, then they are like whelp I guess you are back to advisory until you can behave.
All this to say middle school is going OK, but we are only 2 weeks into 7th grade....
twinmomma, fashion was all over the place last year in 6t grade. The few times I picked DD up I couldn't tell you what was in or what wasn't in. Fingers cross things go well.
DD's newest group at gymnastics has a couple drama queens in it. Last night coach had DD lead stretches and the girls would not listen to her and she flat out told them that until everyone did what they were supposed to do that they wouldn't move on well the drama girls got in on her and told her she was a hard ass and DD was like yep I am so do it. Their normal coaches all went to the US Championship so we all know how kids do with subs.
Dear daughters, I'm starting to get really nervous about how you two will do in middle school next week. You're both so confident and sure of yourselves and own your fashion choices with zero question. But will other kids be ok with it? Your little elementary school loved you guys and thought nothing of it. But this is a giant school with brand new kids who don't know you and love you already. Especially DD2, who we know is already quirky and acts a bit on the spectrum without the official diagnosis... All of this brought to you because I'm having some regrets about letting you pick out the glasses you loved last night at your eye exam. I'm so happy that you are confident enough to choose some kind of over the top styles, but as you head into middle school I'm freaking out about you getting picked on. DH says there's no way that will happen because you two have each other and your strong personalities. But middle school was so so rough for me! I'm just rolling with it and supporting you two in your choices instead of putting my nerves on you but man, this is HARD! Love, Mom
You’re doing great. What I always tell my parents; middle school is a roller coaster for kids. They need you on the ground. No matter how hard it is for you — do not get on the roller coaster with them ❤️
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
DD1 starts 7th grade on Tuesday. Last year had its ups and downs and I'm expecting more this year. twinmomma, in 6th grade, most of the girls in DD's class didn't pay much attention to fashion. Most wore jeans, hoodies and T-shirts. We live in a rural mountain community, where girls' fashion is not easily accessible, so that grounds some of the kids around here. Your girls sound awesome. Love their individuality 🌞 Anyone remember the "going on a bear hunt" book from childhood? Or maybe you read it to your kids when they were little? The characters have to go THROUGH all of the obstacles, like the swamp, the tall grass and the forest. Middle school is so much like this book. You have to go through the challenges to get past them. No other way. And, hopefully, there's some growth along the way.