Post by mrsukyankee on Sept 16, 2023 3:53:39 GMT -5
We're in Lisbon and staying at a VRBO property. It is very cool. It has an extension on the back which is a bathroom with a shower area that has a glass ceiling (but privacy glass). Got back from dinner late (1am - it was a 4 hour dining experience), went to bed and woke up this morning to very loud rain. Makes sense that it'd be loud due to the glass shower thing. Fell asleep and then woke up again to rain. Went to living room where my H was, said 'hi' then back to the room - and there was water pouring out of a light in the ceiling of the closet. !£$@£%@£$. H got the bin in the kitchen and we took out two of our beach towels from earlier in the week. We're currently washing the clothing that was in the closet (it's an open one which meant the water had travelled across the floor, which is how I really noticed it first) - luckily there wasn't too much in there (just clothing from last night and our laundry from last week). Happy that we have a washer-dryer unit in the kitchen of the flat! Not thrilled that it's meant to keep raining for most of our stay. Not sure what will happen with this as I haven't heard back from the owner of the flat yet.
Being up at 4:15 a.m. on a Saturday should be illegal. Ds has a football game in another town this morning. Then we have a wedding this afternoon. I really don't want to go to the wedding so hopefully we won't stay too long. Our college team plays at 6:00 so I'm hoping I can get H to be home from the wedding in time to watch the game.
Last night I ran an errand and my car gave me a TPMS warning. I checked my tires when I got home and one was quite low. Sigh. You know, the car I'll be trading in next month. I have an appointment to get it looked at this morning. I topped it up last night and it looks OK this morning so hopefully a slow leak. I'm hoping they can patch it and I can drive it for the next few weeks safely.
Post by raysfordays on Sept 16, 2023 6:17:51 GMT -5
Yesterday was our anniversary, made only worse by our favorite band being in town.
He went to the casino to play poker and stayed at a hotel and I took DS to baseball practice and asked another mom to come hang, so it wasn’t awful.
Up early for our neighborhood garage sale.
My sister has come up with an idea to help him get into a place that doesn’t put anyone else as a liability, so I’ll talk to him about that today.
Though now he’s in this “I’m going to do all I can to make our family whole again” stage. I’ve told him I don’t know how to respond to that. I don’t want to further hurt him, but I’ve made my intentions perfectly clear.
I’ll be reassessing things once he moves out, as far as mediation vs attorneys. Step by step though.
mrsukyankee, not how you want to start your day. I hope you enjoy your stay despite the weather.
I got a letter from my insurance stating that they denied my claim for a Prolia injection (mid 40’s and I have osteoporosis ). Their reason? I got because it was “convenient to me or my doctor”. WTH. I have 5+ years of medical records showing that my stomach is a mess and they want me to start with pills known for causing serious stomach problems? At least I know I qualified for the manufacturer’s assistance program.
Post by maudefindlay on Sept 16, 2023 8:00:59 GMT -5
((raysfordays)) I'm so glad you are leaning on the women in your life. That's going to be key in getting you thru the rough parts. I hope you feel a weight lift once he moves out. You deserve peace and relief.
My SIL organized a horseback riding trail ride tomorrow and invited DD and some cousins. SIL is refusing to invite her mom even though MIL really wants to go, and is super hurt that she's not invited.
As a daughter whose mother drives me batshit crazy, I do understand where SIL is coming from.
As a mother whose daughter is unnecessarily cruel to me all the fucking time, my heart really hurts for MIL.
At the end of the day, it's not my drama, so I'm staying out of it.
Headed out to my fiber arts thing. Why did I organize this?? Hopefully it’s fine but I did organize getting steamed crabs later so I have that to look forward to.
raysfordays - I would respond to those overtures with “I’m not going to discuss this further with you.” Don’t let him drag you into a discussion/argument. It’s still baffling to me that YOUR sister is helping him figure out how to be a functioning adult, but I guess it’s at least a step in the right direction that it’s not you.
I have a hair appointment today and I’m so indecisive about what to do with the color. I stopped doing a base color 3 years ago and now just go back and forth between more or less highlights/lowlights and warm/cool toner. I kind of want to go a bit darker for fall, but I don’t know what’s going to be most flattering on me and how to achieve it without base color. I’ve already sent my stylist one inspo photo to ask if it’s achievable and she was like “We’ll see when you get here!” so I guess that’s not a no? Lol
I started on DS2’s ninja turtle shell for his costume last night and it’s going to come together way faster and better than I was anticipating. I’m excited.
I’m up way too early. I should just get out of bed and go drink some coffee. I need to grocery shop before DS2’s soccer game anyway.
I have book club after the game, but otherwise this weekend should be very low key. Great weather, so hopefully some family time outside. And I want to see how close I can get to wrapping up the shell pieces of this costume, since that’s really the primary work for it.
mrsukyankee, not how you want to start your day. I hope you enjoy your stay despite the weather.
I got a letter from my insurance stating that they denied my claim for a Prolia injection (mid 40’s and I have osteoporosis ). Their reason? I got because it was “convenient to me or my doctor”. WTH. I have 5+ years of medical records showing that my stomach is a mess and they want me to start with pills known for causing serious stomach problems? At least I know I qualified for the manufacturer’s assistance program.
My sister's fight for Prolia has been ridiculous. And she has done every bit of it on her own. I hope you have success with it!
We are going to see the Bluey play today, pretty sure I’m more excited than the kids. We will go to lunch before, and stop by a distillery to see if they have any bottles of their new release left. Tomorrow we have nothing and I’m very happy about that.
I worked at our church fair last night and I was so tired when I got home. My birthday was Thursday and I was up to late and ate and drank all the wrong things for a week night lol We're supposed to go to a festival at the beach today and it's something I always love doing, but I really want to stay home and do nothing! Today is my neighbor's birthday and he's having people over. It's great to be able to go "out" so close to home. But I am a total introvert and I don't think I can do 2 events today when it's already been a people-filled week. I am just surprised that I would rather skip the beach!
I have ambitious plans to be productive this morning before the kids and I hit a craft market with my mom and then head to a friend's house to paint her LR and have dinner. If it's all going to happen I really should be getting dressed for a Peloton ride, like, NOW. But here I sit, drinking coffee....
Post by raysfordays on Sept 16, 2023 9:55:51 GMT -5
TR my family is frustrating. They don’t and won’t ever know the entire story of what led to this. They agree we’ve been unhappy and think this is the right thing to do, but they also feel bad for him. She’s an apologist because her husband has left no less than 4 times in their marriage, had countless affairs and even brought home a baby (6 now) that my sister basically raises part time as her own and coparents with his mother. She assumes there’s been infidelity and understands from experience that I was traumatized, but that was 3 years ago. She also knows from experience what it’s like to have your spouse leave you, which is where the sympathy for DH comes from. Major eye roll, but I’m just impressed I’m not getting told I didn’t try hard enough or guilted about this, because that’s fully what I expected.
And hey, if her idea works to get him out and into a place that the kids feel comfortable that I’m not legally responsible for? By all means, let’s do this.
We are going to see the Bluey play today, pretty sure I’m more excited than the kids. We will go to lunch before, and stop by a distillery to see if they have any bottles of their new release left. Tomorrow we have nothing and I’m very happy about that.
I felt that way when we brought the kids to Wild Kratts about 8 years ago. Have fun!
raysfordays - I would respond to those overtures with “I’m not going to discuss this further with you.” Don’t let him drag you into a discussion/argument. It’s still baffling to me that YOUR sister is helping him figure out how to be a functioning adult, but I guess it’s at least a step in the right direction that it’s not you.
This. And when he makes those comments it's not about you or the kids, it's all for him. You all haven't been whole because of him for years. He's talking about something that doesn't exist.
Post by livinitup on Sept 16, 2023 10:06:48 GMT -5
One of the local scout troops is doing their annual “Maine Lobster” fundraiser. We live far from the ocean, however, 10 years ago, one of the troop leaders got the good idea & connected with a Maine lobster fisherman to raise money for the troop. The troop collects lobster orders all month, then leaves at midnight for the coast, meets the lobster boat at the dock, buys crates of lobsters, travels back, and then steams them at a local park. Boom ! Fresh steamed Maine lobsters for me today !
This year, I am making & serving lobster rolls. I can’t wait. It makes missing Cape Cod a little easier.
I have a hair appointment today and I’m so indecisive about what to do with the color. I stopped doing a base color 3 years ago and now just go back and forth between more or less highlights/lowlights and warm/cool toner. I kind of want to go a bit darker for fall, but I don’t know what’s going to be most flattering on me and how to achieve it without base color. I’ve already sent my stylist one inspo photo to ask if it’s achievable and she was like “We’ll see when you get here!” so I guess that’s not a no? Lol
I have a hair appointment today and I’m so indecisive about what to do with the color. I stopped doing a base color 3 years ago and now just go back and forth between more or less highlights/lowlights and warm/cool toner. I kind of want to go a bit darker for fall, but I don’t know what’s going to be most flattering on me and how to achieve it without base color. I’ve already sent my stylist one inspo photo to ask if it’s achievable and she was like “We’ll see when you get here!” so I guess that’s not a no? Lol
Can you show us a pic?
it’s a still from a TikTok. I’m here now and we looked and discussed and she showed me some swatches and we have a plan!
ETA: this is me literally right now. PDQ my pic. Poof
I just did some yard cleanup to get rid of weeds and some annuals that are dead or almost dead. I don't know how people with huge gardens do it! I was out there over an hour and got all sweaty and dirty, I can't imagine doing multiple times that. I think I'm going to run some errands in a bit, including getting some mulch and mums and maybe some other fall plants. I also want to stop by Home Goods and need groceries. It's a gorgeous day out so it feels good to be outside.
I saw two praying mantis mating and I was kind of sad for the male, lol. Since he is about to be eaten. Never seen that before! I'm glad I was done in the yard before that part.
Post by 7costanza on Sept 16, 2023 11:12:25 GMT -5
My DS2’s birthday party is tomorrow so I’m spending today cleaning and prepping. I should have coordinated the party with our cleaning lady day because I’m dreading cleaning the bathroom myself for the first time since 2020. First world problem for sure but I hate cleaning lol.
I started on DS2’s ninja turtle shell for his costume last night and it’s going to come together way faster and better than I was anticipating. I’m excited.
I’m up way too early. I should just get out of bed and go drink some coffee. I need to grocery shop before DS2’s soccer game anyway.
I have book club after the game, but otherwise this weekend should be very low key. Great weather, so hopefully some family time outside. And I want to see how close I can get to wrapping up the shell pieces of this costume, since that’s really the primary work for it.
My DS is going to be a ninja turtle too, I suspect he will be one of many this year 🤣 How are you making the shell? I usually do a mix of DIY with some store bought accessories, so far in thinking a green sweatsuit with felt pieces hot glued on but I haven't gotten much further than that.
mrsukyankee, not how you want to start your day. I hope you enjoy your stay despite the weather.
I got a letter from my insurance stating that they denied my claim for a Prolia injection (mid 40’s and I have osteoporosis ). Their reason? I got because it was “convenient to me or my doctor”. WTH. I have 5+ years of medical records showing that my stomach is a mess and they want me to start with pills known for causing serious stomach problems? At least I know I qualified for the manufacturer’s assistance program.
I am 50 and was diagnosed with osteoporosis last year. My endocrinologist said insurance would not immediately cover Fotera (daily injection) even though that is what he wanted to start me on. He gave me a prescription for Fosomax and told me to call in 2 weeks saying my stomach hurt. I did that and he then was able to get Fotera approved. Totally ridiculous game for a needed med. Hopefully you can do the same.