Yesterday was something. DS apparently has a smaller than a tooth thing in his mouth (made out of tooth materials) that is blocking his molar coming up. So, now I have to take him to an oral surgeon to see if it needs to be pulled for his 12 year old molar to come in. All other teeth are in.
Then, I had to pick up Mums from the PTO in the rain- it was fine- just one more thing.
Then drop them off at home spend about 20 minutes there checking in on homework. Then I went to the pharmacy for my Covid shot. While there, DH texts me that his train isn't running because a drawbridge is stuck, so he had to take another line and now I have to go pick him up in a town about 25 minutes away. I was mad that I was required to do this instead of him just taking an Uber which would only have been about $20. I did it, but was pissy about it which was not great for our relationship, so I feel bad, but also spend the $20 and get an Uber, you are an adult....
Then the neighbor texted me that the Girl Scout leaders were giving her dirty looks. I get it, the one is grumpy and the other one is autistic, and you have faced discrimination in your life. But, they have never met you so most likely the looks are "Who Are You?" looks. All could have been solved if people were assertive in introducing themselves but instead it sounds like all 3 of you chose the awkward unfriendly way to go about it. I'm not a leader, and I wasn't there, so not sure why I am involved.
It’s a good thing H and I took the morning off for a day date so that we could get the call that DD2 was sick before we even left. Oh well, family cuddle pile.
k3am, I'm sorry about the smokey air. Please don't wish it north. 100% over smokey air 186momx
Dear Health assistant at school Leaving me a message saying to please call the health room regarding DD with no other information was a little nerve wracking. It was no big deal as you wanted me to update DD's allergies because the teacher overheard the girls talking about things they were allergic too. I don't know for sure if DD is allergic or not she just had an allergic reaction one day and the only thing we could come up with was a toothpaste she had never used before. No I'm not going to test it out and see if we get the same response so you can have a defendant answer for your allergy log. Mom who didn't like seeing her kid bright ride and full of hives. Also, it is easy to avoid Colgate Kids toothpaste!
Post by traveltheworld on Sept 20, 2023 12:48:46 GMT -5
Dear DS,
I'm so proud of you, not only because of where you ended up tier-wise for hockey, but on how well you handled the disappointment of not being with your friends. You are the most level-headed 11 year old I know.
Signed, Proud mom
Dear DS's Teacher,
I'm amused with how far you swung in the past week - you went from "oh, your DS seems advanced in math, I'll give him some additional worksheets" to "your son is a math prodigy, what kind of international competitions do you have him in?" I'm glad that you are excited about DS. If I seem to lack your level of enthusiasm, it's because I've seen this movie too many times. Every teacher is impressed by, and loves, DS for about 8 weeks; then the novelty wears off, and it's a struggle for the rest of the year. Crossing my fingers that this year will be different, but not counting on it.
You want to take an additional day of vacation in October. Well, I believe we will. Good idea.
Signed, I love trips
Dear Ds,
What do you mean it's crazy to start thinking about Christmas. I have to have yours ready 3 weeks early, so technically it's like it's October already. So get me a list.
Post by twinmomma on Sept 20, 2023 13:13:31 GMT -5
Dear colleagues, If you can't follow directions, we can't have nice things. If the instructions say "email your proof to Jane Doe" and you don't do that, then you can't be mad at me that you didn't get the prize! I've spent way too much time chasing down upset people and cleaning up this mess because you guys couldn't just follow directions. Signed, Annoyed
Also, do I need to talk to the Girl Scout leaders on how their looks were interpreted? She is a minority who was near tears and thought they didn't want her sister there, and so in the spirit of inclusion? But also, I hate to criticize a leader for a "look". I know she spent 3 hours prepping for the meeting yesterday, and she works very hard. And the other leader, I feel like she comes off as very opinionated.
ETA- She said she confronted the leader yesterday who said there was no issues. But that the leader had said hi to everyone but her. I know the leader doesn't have issues, and the hi part, it's kind of a mass drop off with lots of moving parts, but I am sure she will make sure to say hi from now on.
Post by macmars45 on Sept 20, 2023 19:02:44 GMT -5
Dear body,
Get it together and sleep better tonight. Don't listen to the brain that says 4am is a perfect time to worry about a work non-issue that was easily fixed and no one was mad about my mistake.
Thanks much, macmars
Dear self,
Write nicer non-accusatory emails. I know you don't mean to come off that way but sometimes you do.
signed, macmars
Dear Resource Room teacher,
Communication would be nice. I had no idea DS(7) has been receiving daily help with his reading until reading groups start up. Maybe lead with that on day one.
Thanks much, worried mom
PS-navigating the line between being your co-worker and also a parent of a high needs kid you work with is certainly something. I'm doing my best. It's a learning process.
@macmars45 My brain did the same thing last night: woke me up at 4 am and I could not get back to sleep. I've been in a funk all day because of it. I'm sure you're doing an amazing job supporting your DS without crossing the line. I work for my district's district office. I support a lot of teachers and one of my daughter's schools. It's hard not to put on the parent hat during the school day, but necessary, especially for our kids' sakes!
Dear DD1, I'm SO proud of you for how you handled the disappointing hair dye experience. I knew Kool-Aid would not work in your hair. You had a great attitude before you died your hair. Despite being disappointed when it was dry and dull this morning, you kept your cool. (This was a much more mature reaction than some of my high school friends had when we attempted this in 1994.....just saying!) Love, Happy Mama
dglvrk2 , because I'm an enabler. If your DD has light hair, this hair dye is cheap and works really well. Maybe 8-9 washes or one day swimming and it's gone.
We live in a corner house at a T intersection of streets A and B. Our front door faces street B, the neighbors house that we look at faces street A, so basically across from us is the side of our neighbors house. That house has new neighbors, who we have met, but they don't speak English well, so we don't know them or have their contact info. We've noticed lately that there is a lady parking her car across from us on their side of the street, starting at like 7am until 9-10am, and just sitting there everyday. The neighbors that we do know (basically everyone except them and one set of crazies that we avoid) have all been texting and we agree this is unusual. But none of us can agree on what - if anything - we should do. Ignore it, report it, knock on the window and say hi, etc. She is.. not doing anything illegal or wrong as far as we can tell. But, to use a kid phrase.. it's totally sus.
We are not a neighborhood where she might be an uber or doordash driver and is waiting to accept a job.
What would WP do?
Signed, Clearly I need some excitement in my life.
I would totally knock on her window and say “Do you need any help? Or are you looking for someone in the neighborhood?” I would want her to know that she’s not going unnoticed. I mean, she could be anything from somebody just waiting to pick someone up from a class or appointment who doesn’t want to go all the way back home (though why not just stay in their parking lot or find a grocery store or something?) to a porch pirate trying to figure out delivery schedules to a private investigator trying to see if one of your neighbors is committing insurance fraud.
Post by twinmomma on Sept 21, 2023 11:34:40 GMT -5
Dear DH, I appreciate that you coordinated your mom picking up DS from school today while you're at work so that I don't have to log off early to deal with it. But can you just give me a little more insight into what exactly is happening here today? Is your mom just dropping him off here? Am I going to be expected to entertain her and make her dinner? When are you coming home? Sometimes I love that you and I handle our own shit and divide and conquer, but this time I need a little more intel... Love, Super confused wife who doesn't have the energy to cook and entertain
Dear WPs, DD1 is in jazz band, which has rehearsals before school daily. Monday, she showed up, waited with a couple other students for several minutes, then was told by the school secretary that the band teacher was ill and wouldn't be coming to school. We reached out to the band director to see how to get informed of any absences/cancellations. (Clearly some kids knew about this.) She said she sends a Google chat to all students when she has to make a last minute cancellation. I see that this works for a majority of kids. However, it's enough for DD to get out the door early in the morning. Having her check her email to make sure there's practice is one more thing. On the flipside, having her check would put more (good) responsibility on her. Would it be too much to ask the band director to send a text or chat to parents too? These are middle schoolers who either rely on parents, older siblings or their bikes to get them to school for before-school activities. I do check my work and personal email at least once before she goes to rehearsal. However, most kids did see rehearsal was cancelled. Also, H has been "that parent" several times already. He has a music minor and is beyond passionate about music, so making sure D has a great band experience is a huge priority for him.
Normally, I would say to let her take the added responsibility and not expect them to call. But… this is before school with the possibility that you’re going to have a kid alone with no supervision and no one who knows to expect them/knows they are there. That seems a little worrisome. Not “omg hair on fire call and report this” level. But more “hey, could you maybe create a second group list that includes parents” email level. I think I would ask but would accept a no if the teacher said the expectation is the kid will check Google Classroom before they leave in the morning. Especially since it appears the school is open and there are other people around.
dglvrk2, What grade? For 6th grade, I can see a text to parents being appropriate. For 8th grade, I would say the student should check because it is preparing for the high school environment. 7th grade could go either way, but I would prefer a heads up, but also DS can totally check his laptop under supervision.
waverly She is in 7th grade. I'm thinking I'll try for some middle ground. I do want her to check her email every morning, to build a good habit. We can put email on her phone. I'm also going to reach out to other parents and suggest we get on a text chain. That way if somebody finds out band rehearsal is canceled, we can let the other parents know. Likewise, this will probably only happen once or twice this year. Hence, how ever things unfold, it's not that big of a deal on the grand scheme of things.
ETA: There are other adults at the school at this hour. The teachers' day starts at 8 and admins are often there by 7:30. However, no one is directly responsible for supervising band students except the band director.
I’m sorry I have the flu and can’t come in today. I understand that getting subs is a pain. But it’s your job, and “are you sure you can’t come in? I don’t know if I can find someone because X is already out” is not an appropriate response. Figure it out. I’ll be home and the kids need an adult in the room.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”