I don’t understand school. The kids came home with progress reports and neither had anything overtly negative on it. I went to look on the grade book and saw that Wesley had a lot of missing assignments. Wouldn’t that be important information for a progress report? School is HARD!
We have conferences next week. For only 10 minutes. Via Zoom.
I adore his teacher but I don't see this being very productive.
I don’t understand school. The kids came home with progress reports and neither had anything overtly negative on it. I went to look on the grade book and saw that Wesley had a lot of missing assignments. Wouldn’t that be important information for a progress report? School is HARD!
We have conferences next week. For only 10 minutes. Via Zoom.
I adore his teacher but I don't see this being very productive.
Our timeslots for middle school are 5 minutes. I need to book at least 2 back-to-back appointments to have a semi-meaningful discussion.
Post by Wallflower on Sept 25, 2023 13:01:03 GMT -5
I know I'm an old fuddy-duddy, but I was legitimately taken aback when someone on a work call talked about taking a gummy this weekend. Like, your business dude, but talking about it on a work call???
Now, some kids need to run across my yard so I can go shake my cane at them.
rubytue, 😆 I usually will ask him if he’s using something and if not to put it away. DS has some homework he did yesterday but it’s for Wednesday and he even was like uh mom-where can I put this until Wednesday?
Also, my DS has a teacher this year that gives the kids 3 passes each trimester to be able to go to the bathroom. Is this legal? I told DS that if he had to go and was out of passes, just to leave and go to the bathroom. He said “I’ll get into trouble” and I said so will your teacher, from me. I don’t know why but that really makes me angry. I get some kids use it to get out of doing work but sometimes DS just has to go…he gets constipated easily if he doesn’t.
Also, my DS has a teacher this year that gives the kids 3 passes each trimester to be able to go to the bathroom. Is this legal? I told DS that if he had to go and was out of passes, just to leave and go to the bathroom. He said “I’ll get into trouble” and I said so will your teacher, from me. I don’t know why but that really makes me angry. I get some kids use it to get out of doing work but sometimes DS just has to go…he gets constipated easily if he doesn’t.
Get a doctors note for him. That’s always been my work around.
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Also, my DS has a teacher this year that gives the kids 3 passes each trimester to be able to go to the bathroom. Is this legal? I told DS that if he had to go and was out of passes, just to leave and go to the bathroom. He said “I’ll get into trouble” and I said so will your teacher, from me. I don’t know why but that really makes me angry. I get some kids use it to get out of doing work but sometimes DS just has to go…he gets constipated easily if he doesn’t.
Get a doctors note for him. That’s always been my work around.
Have thought about that and could and I swear I’m not trying to make it difficult for teachers, but really? That’s what I have to do now is share my DS bowel habits and get a Dr note so he can go when he needs to? Ridiculous
Post by pandorica on Sept 25, 2023 13:35:31 GMT -5
We got a babysitter for all three kids for the first time last night! She was our summer nanny, and she's great and already knows what she's doing with the babies etc so I didn't have any concerns (besides the outrageous cost, but she's worth it 😅)
We met up with one couple for dinner and drinks. I had one beer and we got home at 9pm. Apparently that is too much for me these days, because I am DRAGGING today. I just snagged H's coffee smoothie as an afternoon pick me up, because otherwise I don't think I'd make it until bed.
I need to come up with some easy lunch ideas for when my husband goes into work. He normally gets lunch there for various reasons. In the before times we’d both have dinner leftovers for lunch but now that he doesn’t take a lunch, we’ve been having them a second time or repurposing them in some way for dinner. Which I like because leftovers makes dinner easier on days he goes in because we eat late/I don’t know when we are going to eat. So I don’t want to stop that.
BUT now I don’t have leftovers for my lunch anymore and it feels like I’m constantly trying to cobble together something out of nothing. I really don’t want to put a lot of effort into it (I do enough cooking/baking the rest of my days) so I end up having popcorn or a can of soup and then I’m hungry by mid afternoon.
I will make like tuna or a salad but that involves chopping and effort and shopping. I feel like I keep getting thwarted too—this week the plan was to get rotisserie chicken at Costco and I could make sandwiches and then Costco was literally out of chicken. Last week, I was going to make shrimp salad and the shrimp flung itself out of the freezer and burst all over the floor. Today the greens I bought to have with the chicken (that ended up not existing) were slimy.
We don’t have good take out options at lunch time at all; most places in a reasonable distance stopped serving lunch all or most of the week.
When my husband works from home he will often make us lunch but obviously that isn’t happening when he’s not here.
I think I got burnt out on lunches when things were really shut down in early Covid and we made all our meals all the time. At least then we weren’t going anywhere or doing anything and I had the time. Now I’m busier and just want an easy lunch.
tl;dr Basically I want my mom to make me lunch again. She loved packing and making lunches! Now I got nothing.
Post by mysteriouswife on Sept 25, 2023 14:07:10 GMT -5
I will admit I wasn’t there and don’t know the other side of the story. I’m venting here to keep peace.
DD took niece to Sza last night. DD has saved for this concert and bought the tickets along with VIP. At some point in the night the concert the girls started bickering, (not abnormal for these two) DD said niece was very hateful and said some not nice things. DD mouthed back and said some more not nice things from anger. I have addressed DD and told her she can’t say or act like this.
The things said to DD have really hurt me. It comes from childhood trauma. I will talk this over with H and see if he thinks I should talk to my brother. I thought we raised our kids similarly. Apparently, they don’t think so. Which is fine. Not all houses are the same. It’s just hurtful if this did come from my brother and through niece.
Post by 1confused1 on Sept 25, 2023 14:08:36 GMT -5
tacokick I dread making lunches. I try to make is as uncomplicated as possible: wrap with lunch meat and fruit, salad with tofu, a tortilla with beans and cheese. I also get frozen veggies from Trader Joe’s and throw them into chicken broth to make soup or use them to make tacos.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Sept 25, 2023 14:44:25 GMT -5
Yesterday was my nephew's 8th bday party in Sacto - 38 kids !!! I couldn't hear myself think and my sister wisely tuned them out. It was pizza and a viewing of Super Mario Brothers: The Movie.
On the way back Miss R UNLOADED on me about how awful I am ... I hate it when she gets that way bc I shouldn't take it personally (it's the DMDD talking) but it'd hard not to. She managed to calm herself down by the time we got to Davis for Raising Cane's chicken. We got home and she apologized. This is why I wished she would take her meds !!!! She has one that is a mood stablizer JUST for her DMDD to avoid these outbursts.
The Cane's I got for myself that I couldn't eat bc I was driving that I was looking forward to got goobled up by a very food motivated beagle who snagged it off my counter. I.Was.Crushed ... I'm exhausted and hungry and the dog ate my dinner.
This morning she slept through her alarm, 5 text messages from me, and a dozen calls from me. No school for her. She has a modified day (10:40 to 1:30) and she couldn't be up and ready in time. She texted me at 11:15 that she just woke up, it takes her 2 hours to get ready. Tomorrow we have an IEP meeting the abcenses will be discussed and I'll make my push to have a blanket excusal on absences for mental health (anxiety) be put into her IEP so I don't need a doctor's note every time she's out.
Post by midwestmama on Sept 25, 2023 14:50:03 GMT -5
Never underestimate the power of a phone call and being assertive. I was talking with a neighbor yesterday, and found out that the morning bus pick for middle school and high school requires kids to cross a busy road. Most of the school year it's dark at pick-up in the morning. We have been driving our kids to school (MS) for the past few years, so I wasn't aware of how morning bus pick-up worked. When I found that out yesterday, I called the bus garage today and asked if they could adjust morning pick-up and afternoon drop-off (DD rides the bus home most days) so that kids do not have to cross the busy road (which is how it works for the elementary bus). The employee I talked to made it sound like it wasn't possible to switch the route, so at the end of the call I said, "ok, I'll call the township to ask about installing a streetlight to help with the lighting situation, but I would hate for a student to be harmed, even if it's a small chance, just because it's too difficult to adjust the route." This afternoon I walked up the street to meet DD when she got off the bus, and lo and behold, they changed the bus direction so the kids didn't have to cross the busy road. I feel like that was a big win for my day.
Post by starburst604 on Sept 25, 2023 15:20:09 GMT -5
I posted on the local FB mom's group last night that we are looking for a "parent's helper", someone to fill in gaps for us when neither of us are able to drive DD to practices and so forth. Got a great lead on someone who has been babysitting for our friends for years who offered help, and then our original dog playgroup person who only does it sporadically now said she could help too. She lives a 1/2 mile away and her kids go to the same school so that's a really useful one. Today she will get DD off the bus and bring her into the house so she can snack and change into her soccer stuff, she'll let the dog out to go potty (extra bonus!), and then drop her at practice where I will pick her up after work. A couple of the moms on her hockey team saw it as well and reached out about helping each other out with hockey. Those practices are usually easier for our schedule but it's good to have some options.
tacokick I dread making lunches. I try to make is as uncomplicated as possible: wrap with lunch meat and fruit, salad with tofu, a tortilla with beans and cheese. I also get frozen veggies from Trader Joe’s and throw them into chicken broth to make soup or use them to make tacos.
The veggie soup idea sounds good! I did make slightly sad quesadillas for a while and forgot about that. Thanks!
Post by pierogigirl on Sept 25, 2023 15:41:06 GMT -5
tacokick Are you opposed to sandwiches? Our local food co-op makes really good chicken salad, and I don't mind a turkey sandwich with swiss on nice bread. Quiche as mentioned by pp is really easy for leftovers.
How about egg bites (made in a muffin tin). A big pot of chili and cornbread could be dinner and several days of lunches. I buy Morningstar farms chick patties or veggie patties for emergency lunches - they're very filling on a bagel and take about 45 seconds to make.
I have another random. Someone from my past randomly contacted me today on my work email. They deleted my phone number, and apparently maybe my personal e-mail. Then decided they wanted to talk to me 4 years later, and are sending a message on my work email.
I want to be the kind of person that is like oh reunited and it's like nothing happened. Instead, I am a grudge holder that is like, well I reached out 3 times during the pandemic thinking something happened to you, and you ghosted me for no reason, so why do I need to reply to you now?
Reasons for ghosting: 1. I told them there was snow in December here, when they canceled a November trip due to snow (we got 1/4 inch and it was a nothing burger) then they wanted to reschedule it, and I said there is snow in December. They live in an area with snow, so the snow was an excuse which is fine, but visits here typically are nicer during the summer. 2. Got married and had a kid then 2 kids, probably this is more of the reason. I assumed the wife was like no you can't talk to friends right now.
I hate when people from my past reach out because it makes me anxious and I feel like I have to respond. I would rather they just stay in the past. I sound like a horrible person, but it is the truth. Also, makes you wonder if they are reaching out because they are having marital problems since the last time they spoke to me was when they met their wife/ girlfriend and ghosted me. Prior to that they visited me when they broke up with their last girlfriend, just as a friend, but makes you wonder on the timing.
I need to come up with some easy lunch ideas for when my husband goes into work. He normally gets lunch there for various reasons. In the before times we’d both have dinner leftovers for lunch but now that he doesn’t take a lunch, we’ve been having them a second time or repurposing them in some way for dinner. Which I like because leftovers makes dinner easier on days he goes in because we eat late/I don’t know when we are going to eat. So I don’t want to stop that.
BUT now I don’t have leftovers for my lunch anymore and it feels like I’m constantly trying to cobble together something out of nothing. I really don’t want to put a lot of effort into it (I do enough cooking/baking the rest of my days) so I end up having popcorn or a can of soup and then I’m hungry by mid afternoon.
I will make like tuna or a salad but that involves chopping and effort and shopping. I feel like I keep getting thwarted too—this week the plan was to get rotisserie chicken at Costco and I could make sandwiches and then Costco was literally out of chicken. Last week, I was going to make shrimp salad and the shrimp flung itself out of the freezer and burst all over the floor. Today the greens I bought to have with the chicken (that ended up not existing) were slimy.
We don’t have good take out options at lunch time at all; most places in a reasonable distance stopped serving lunch all or most of the week.
When my husband works from home he will often make us lunch but obviously that isn’t happening when he’s not here.
I think I got burnt out on lunches when things were really shut down in early Covid and we made all our meals all the time. At least then we weren’t going anywhere or doing anything and I had the time. Now I’m busier and just want an easy lunch.
tl;dr Basically I want my mom to make me lunch again. She loved packing and making lunches! Now I got nothing.
I've been meal prepping Greek/Mediterranean chicken bowls. I either make a big pot of rice or the TJs frozen rice is really good and easy. Then grab a rotisserie or grill up some chicken (marinate in lemon juice, olive oil, garlic, oregano and plain Greek yogurt). Then I'll throw together a bowl and add some romaine lettuce, sliced cucumbers, cherry tomatoes, olives, feta, hummus etc and either buy a premade tzatziki, Greek dressing or make one myself. I like to add some crushed up pita chips on top too.
My other go-to easy lunch lately is a snacky/lunchable type thing. I'll get some turkey or whatever I'm in the mood for at the deli, a good cheese from TJ's and then have crackers, a HB egg, pickles, some veggies & hummus and a fruit. It's easy to eat while working and I can switch it up based on what I have in the fridge/what I'm in the mood for.
Post by pierogigirl on Sept 25, 2023 15:47:29 GMT -5
I contacted a contractor almost 2 years ago, and the (pretty small) project is finally starting. I'm hoping by the holidays it will be done. I have bigger projects after this. Hopefully it won't be another 2 year wait.