The week wasn't great, but I'm ready for the weekend. Tonight DD1 and DH are going to a haunted house with DD1's friend/boyfriend and her dad. I said ABSOLUTELY NOT - I would never sleep again with all of the psycho clowns popping out all over the place. DD2 is a scaredy cat like me so we will stay home and watch a movie or something.
DD2 plays soccer tomorrow and Sunday. Once again, the weather looks crappy, but I'm hoping they can still get the games in - so many cancellations lately. DH and I are supposed to go out for a nice dinner tomorrow night for my birthday, but I'm not really feeling it.
DH is traveling next week. He made his plans, completely forgetting my birthday again. Then he got super annoyed and was like "Well I HAVE to change it because you have a CRAPPY birthday EVERY year, so I will RUSH MY TRIP to make sure I'm back..." Um, never mind, stay on your trip.
Just had DD2's 504 meeting for the new middle school. It was interesting. We cut a bunch of things that were very elementary school specific and adjusted the language to match middle school expectations. The two teachers that were there both said that without the 504 plan in hand, they'd never know she has ADHD. So that was nice to hear, but it's also kind of the honeymoon stage of the school year. We'll see how things progress going forward as the work ramps up. Her advisory teacher did point out that she's not interacting with anyone new or making any friends. She described her as "closed off" and pretty insulated. She's only interacting with her sister and the couple friends that carried over from elementary school. She loves the middle school and comes home happy, but it's definitely worrisome to hear that she's not interacting with anyone. I have always described her as "never met a stranger" and chatty with everyone so hopefully she breaks out of her shell and gets back to her normal friendly self soon.
This weekend DH and I are doing the Jimmy Fund walk, so that will be nice. It has a lot of personal meaning for both of us. Otherwise, lots of homework to be done.
Post by supertrooper1 on Sept 29, 2023 11:15:49 GMT -5
I wish I knew right now if I was working on Monday or not. I won't know until 9pm my time Sunday night if congress makes an 11th hour deal. If I knew now how long the government would shut down, I would be making a hair appointment and plans to do stuff.
DS was invited last minute to a birthday party on Sunday in the middle of the day. He doesn't get invited to a lot, so I make sure to shift things around to make it happen for him. I was planning to visit my parents at that time, but I'll have to rearrange. Beau's brother is giving us a new dishwasher for our shop that he picked up for $100, so we'll drive out to his house to pick it up. It will be nice to not have to take dishes home from our trailer to use the dishwasher at our house.
No school today. So far we are having a quiet morning while it rains. Work load from 6th to 7th has exploded. Last year DD had no homework other than reading logs and all projects were done during class. This year it seems like all projects are to be done at home and have in my world procrastination deadlines. Staff is upset when DD gets things done early. Her plan now for her long weekend is to work on 2 different projects since it is raining.
DH has been in a rotten mood and I'm not looking forward to all the inside time this weekend.
Post by mommyatty on Sept 29, 2023 11:28:24 GMT -5
mae0111- I would be saying, “Oh no, you come back whenever you were planning to. But what I want for my birthday is to celebrate it alone, so be aware that when you return, you’re on Dad duty alone for three days. I won’t be here and I won’t be reachable.” Then DO IT.
mae0111- I would be saying, “Oh no, you come back whenever you were planning to. But what I want for my birthday is to celebrate it alone, so be aware that when you return, you’re on Dad duty alone for three days. I won’t be here and I won’t be reachable.” Then DO IT.
I'd throw in that you only want to be with people who value you enough to remember your birthday, so he can stay gone.
Low key tonight because Dh and I have to leave before the Crack of dawn to go to Dds university for a football game. Tailgating, food, etc... so it should be fun.
We are staying Saturday night, so Sunday we will go to church with her and take her to lunch before heading back.
I’m at a conference in Arizona. It’s very weird to be alone without kids and to not really know anyone here. I’m taking full advantage of not having to socialize- I went to the pool, had a massage and read a book on my balcony last night. It was glorious
Thanks ladies. There's been a lot of not-awesome behavior over the past couple of weeks, and that kind of took the wind out of my sails a bit. I really don't feel like doing anything at all. It's not a significant birthday. I can't really kick it down the road much either - October is Event Month in my family, so we have a bunch of birthdays, anniversaries, etc. that just seem to stack up.
Post by macmars45 on Sept 29, 2023 13:49:40 GMT -5
Week was good. My job is fun and interesting everyday. I love that I get to build relationships with kids, help them build skills in reading & math and be physically active at work. Tired and happy is how I end every day. <3
No school for DS(7) or me today. It's a certificated staff work day. I'm classified.
I took DS to his pcp for a referral for ADHD. I had Vanderbilt paperwork from his teacher & H/me in hand. She said this is definitely worth exploring further and expect a call to schedule that appt within the week. So yay. I was prepared to go in and demand a referral because I often get the 'if you're worried about it I'll get a referral for you' response. It's validating to get a 'yes I see this is something that needs addressing' response.
Tomorrow H and I are heading to Seattle for the day to see separate friends for a few hours. I'm looking forward to it. :-) My local sisters are splitting the day of care so DS gets to spend the day with his aunts.
Post by librarychica on Sept 29, 2023 14:08:33 GMT -5
It has been a great work week. Nothing special happened, I just feel like I got a lot done. The girls had a good week too, even DD2 who has been on the struggle bus since school started 2 months ago. She is finally settling, I think. Plus she is getting to do some math competition and got a part in the school play so she has something to focus on. She thrives off of a challenge but at the same time every academic thing has come so easy to her that she will rush ahead or assume she knows what she does not. It’s an interesting combination. She is also going through a bit of a know if all phase and I swear if she sasses me like I’m a moron one more time …. I love that child but she is just like her father! Who I also love, but am glad I didn’t have to raise. Hopefully her empathy will catch up with her smarts one day, her father’s did.
We have friends visiting from out of state this afternoon and evening. We used to live next door to one another, H is their kids’ godfather, and we haven’t seen each other in person since late 2019 so we are all super excited! The rest of the weekend is quieter. DD2 has music lessons and a roller skating party, DD1 might invite a friend over but might not. She seems to like seeing her friends at school lately and even after school but then prefers to spend the weekend just chilling at home. Sunday we will probably drive over and visit my parents, bring breakfast with us and take advantage of their still-warm pool.
Post by sandandsea on Sept 29, 2023 23:40:46 GMT -5
FIL was discharged from the hospital to home hospice care on Wednesday and stopped all treatments Tuesday (transfusions, chemo, antibiotics, other meds as nothing was working enough) so DH flew down to be with mil and Fil early Wednesday morning. The boys and I are flying down after soccer on Sunday then we will all fly home on Monday depending on how everything is going. They expect days to weeks, not months.
Work is nuts. The deadline is 2 weeks away and I’m buried and now flying solo at home too. The boys have fall break next week so at least I don’t have to get them to school and do homework nightly next week. Ds1 is literally failing advanced math with a 50%. Tests are weighted 70% of his grade and he didn’t finish either of the first 2. I emailed his teacher to note he has a 504 and gets extra time on all written tests before the third to make sure she was aware and he was able to finish that one. He knows the material and does great on homework but is bombing the tests with a 33% and a 45%. We are having a meeting with the teacher when school is back in session to see what we can do as he clearly shouldn’t be failing based on what I am seeing if what he knows nightly. He shouldn’t have an A by any means but not an F either.
TW: violence
I took the boys to the mall food court today when a fistfight broke out in the opposite corner so we took our food outside. Then the fight erupted again and made its way to the doorway so we called 911 and left. As we were pulling out the police were there. I told the boys that that voice they heard in their heads telling them to leave should always be listened to so we left. It’s a good lesson for them to learn. Ds1 said something to the effect of “with how crazy the world is someone could easily pull a gun out and we dont want to be there for that” which saddens me that 11 year olds think those things nowadays.
We only have 6 sports games this weekend instead of our normal 8 since DD had a bye week for flag football, and she’ll miss soccer tomorrow. We didn’t get the softball schedule until today for tomorrow so that was annoying. We’ll be an hour away from 8-4 tomorrow for 3 games.
Luckily my parents are in town which is super helpful. So while I take DD to softball, my parents will take the two little boys to DS2’s soccer game at 9 am, and then they’ll watch the two little boys while DH takes DS1 to his 2 pm soccer game. It just helps break up hours and hours with the 3 boys who like to fight with each other and get into things I offered that DH could have gone to softball instead, but he’s a homebody who would rather take the home shift even if it’s not relaxing.
Sunday we’ll celebrate my Dad’s 75th bday with the kids, DS2 has a gymnastics bday party for a kindergarten classmate, and DS1 has a baseball game.
All 6th graders in our county go to a 4-night sleepaway camp (‘outdoor school’) with all the kids in their grade. DD is getting ready to go Monday-Friday next week. I’m not worried about the sleepaway part since she’s gone to sleepaway camp the last two summers, but I hope the kids (especially the girls) are nice to each other. Kid juggling in the evenings will be easier next week without all of DD’s activities.
Our weekend took a tough turn. Late last night DH got a call that a close friend of him and his sister passed away. She overdosed and they couldn’t revive her. We were up all night making calls and processing. We are all still in shock. No one knew she was in that deep. She and her husband didn’t tell anyone and she was super high functioning and successful. She leaves behind two kids.
It’s going to be a bizarre week. A bunch of their friends were already flying in for a memorial service for one friend’s dad. And then it ended up that there’s a concert in town the next night so we all made plans to go to that while everyone is here. And now they’ll all just stay for another service at the end of the week? We don’t really know. Everyone is just in shock.
Post by mommyatty on Sept 30, 2023 11:13:18 GMT -5
DD was supposed to spend the night with a friend last night and go to the Pink concert. The concert cancelled at the last minute. DD was still going to spend the night but started throwing up at about 11:30. I was in a deep sleep, for the first time in about 2 weeks. So I had to wake up to answer the phone, rouse myself, and drive about 30 minutes to get her and 30 minutes home. I was groggy as heck. She appears fine today. No idea what caused it.
I have to leave tomorrow very early for a conference and will be gone until Wednesday night. DH is solo for a birthday party kind of far away tomorrow (an hour or so drive) and all the craziness that is the school week.
sandandsea ,I'm sorry about your FIL. It's too bad your kids had to witness the scene at the mall, but good that you were there to decompress with them.
My work week was good. A couple of colleagues and I had to have some rather deep conversations about work that has been done over the past year. We were going in an okay direction with some projects, but not the best direction. I think there will be more big conversations around these efforts in the upcoming weeks.
DD1 has complained on and off about allergies for several months. She can be a bit dramatic about ailments, so I've blown her off more often than not, especially when she won't take OTC allergy meds. We got a panel of allergy tests last week. I thought nothing would come up, but.....she's highly allergic to dogs and "VERY HIGHLY" allergic to cats. We have one of each. We're not rehoming either pet. So we can keep them, she's totally bought into taking allergy meds daily. The tests gave us all some piece of mind and direction, not to mention a little surprise.
So far the weekend has been nice. Our family stayed home and watched a movie last night. I ran 8 miles this morning, which is a lot for me these days. I deep cleaned DD1's room and we're no longer letting the pets in there because of her allergies. We went to a local Octoberfest this afternoon and we're heading to dinner and drinks at a friend's house soon. Mountain biking, finishing a few work tasks and kids stuff are on my agenda tomorrow. H has ski patrol training, which he's really liking.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Sept 30, 2023 21:54:00 GMT -5
My dad has been in the hospital for 7 weeks with a crazy infection which resulted in encephalitis in the brain and a shut down of his body.
He was discharge into hospice care wednessday but we elected to move him to a hospice facility. He is not at home but in a facility we chose and I've spent the last 3 nights here with my sister coming during the day.
I feel so blindsided by the progression of his illness and moving him to hospice under these conditions is just the worst thing ever.
We do not know how long he has so for now we're trying to have someone with him at all times.
ETA sandandsea I’m so sorry about your FIL. I’m sure it’s a relief to your MIL to have your DH there, I’m glad he was able to go so quickly.
I’m at a conference. It’s the major conference for our market/industry. At our company, getting funding for conferences is terrible. Then once you get the funding, we don’t have anyone who plans conferences and events, so it falls to me. Before I started, we had never been a sponsor, had a booth, or did presentations. Last year, we had a booth for the first time. This year we chose not to do a booth but instead chose to do a client event. Because again, funding is very limited. In addition, I set a goal for the group to put in 5 papers for consideration and hoped to get 3 accepted. We met that goal and have 3 groups presenting, which is awesome.
Now the vent. I’m so sick of old white guys who have been around forever and never got a dime for this event complaining. Last year the booth wasn’t fancy enough (dude, $$$!). This year they’re mad we don’t have a booth. The chief complainers also didn’t put anything forward in terms of presentations. It’s so freaking irritating.
mustardseed2007sandandsea so sorry. From my experience with dad, Hospice nurses are very special people and were such a blessing during such a hard time. I hope that is the case with you both.
mustardseed2007sandandsea so sorry. From my experience with dad, Hospice nurses are very special people and were such a blessing during such a hard time. I hope that is the case with you both.