The One That Goat Away

[fangoriagurkel]

Who’s an old flame who just never worked, but maybe could have in an alternate dimension?

Mine was Jorge. I worked with his sister and when she brought me around her extended family, I was instantly smitten with him! He was 19, I was maybe 22 and I fell hard. We had a good 6 year off and on run, but it wasn’t meant to be for us. He had a continuous string of legal difficulties so I started seeing other people, time passed, etc… I still quietly follow (no likes, no comments) his failed rapper brother on IG which sometimes shows his niece who I knew as a barely toddler and is now starting high school. He has completely fallen off of SM, so I have zero idea how’s he doing as an individual.

Who’s your “Stars never aligned” partner?

[liverandonions]

I have two. One I met in HS - we were great friends, went to all of our dances together, liked each other multiple times but not at the same time, lost our virginity to each other, hung out often but just never got together. He's now twice divorced, one of which was another friend from HS and i'm pretty sure he cheated on her. Me, my husband and kids met up with him in DC when we were on vacation because he had moved there and it was just weird being around him. Like no time had passed and yet we didn't know each other at the same time.

The other was a friend from work in HS - we went on a date that was fun, and flirted constantly. He was my go to call in college and we would talk for hours but also just never got it together. He was blue collar worker and teased me about going to college. He was SOOOO hot. And now, he's a freaking doctor and married with 3 kids LOL.

[fryjack2]

Someone needs to dig up the goat farm thread.

[cricketwife]

Fikret in Northern (Turkish) Cyprus. He was smitten with me. I enjoyed it. But "never got the timing right" -- he truly would need to have time travelled to another era for it to have worked out beyond the surface. I still always smile when I think of him.

[shortstax]

I have a few 😊

One is mega successful (think multi millionaire who created a business you’ve probably heard of.) He never married and I can only think that if that had aligned, I wouldn’t be near as happy as I am now, because his focus would have been on his company, not on us.

I ran into him randomly while at a a club on a destination bachelorette party when I was about 30, we shared a drink at the bar, and he told me I was the one who got away.

Fuck yeah I was. Major confidence boost there!

[waverly]

Mine were less about timing and more that even though we liked each other the lifestyle wouldn't have worked for me. From "very country never leaving the town", to Mormom missionary, to unable to commit hot professor. None of them would have worked, and the hot professor was still not mature when I ran into him again, 15 years later, so he probably wouldn't be mature until about 50 if ever.

[wildrice]

I think my bf my senior year of HS could have been a happy lifelong partner if we were older. He was younger than me, so I graduated and was heading off to college and he was still in HS. He dumped me but if we were the same age and both going to college maybe it would have worked out. Of course now he has 4 kids and a very different lifestyle than me, so who knows. But other than my H, he was the best guy I ever dated. This may be first love bias as well, though!

Everyone else I dated was pretty shitty lol. Though I never had many boyfriends anyway - I think only 5 or 6 who ever held that title and a few others who I had a thing with but never officially dated. One of those in particular stood out, but last I heard he was a Trumper so that definitely wouldn't have ended well.

[chchchia]

Mine was my college boyfriend and we got back in touch after years and we both admitted that it just never aligned for us. He is not single and I am and I do not mees around with married men, nor does he mess around. We are fb friends, but just friends and we started out as friends so it was easy to just be friends.

[snapoutofit]

Felix. I dated him at my first "office job" after I quit waitressing. He was so hot and really nice. I was not emotionally mature enough. I think he would have made a good partner. I hope he found someone who deserved him. I def did not.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

Oct 17, 2023 9:15:42 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Someone needs to dig up the goat farm thread.

pandce.proboards.com/thread/488533/move-city-country
I can't even begin to process this again.

Eta I miss 05heel, she was the wisest and the most idgaf poster we have ever had. When you are unsure about anything in life ask yourself WW05HD and you will have your answer.

[mofongo]

No one! I generally think most of these types of feelings are a grass is greener, or maybe fairytale thinking.

[arielroux]

I have two…one of my college boyfriends. I was two years older than he was, so when I moved back home after graduation we just couldn’t make the long distance thing work. We ended on great terms and would still visit each other occasionally, but we were just too young. He was wonderful.

The other was someone I dated right after my divorce. I was fresh out of an 8 year marriage, he had just broken up with his gf of 4 years. We got along amazingly from the second we first spoke. We had the BEST time together. It just wasn’t the right time. He was a great guy though, and reached out to me on LinkedIn a few months ago to say hi and see how I was doing. He lives across the country now and seems to be doing really well. Can’t say a bad thing about him.

The last one is the backup catcher for the Phillies, and our timing hasn’t been because we’ve never actually met, lol.

[meanie]

Not so much timing but looking back I have had realizations that certain people may have been interested but I was too oblivious. Oh well!

[donutsmakemegonuts]

I had a regular hookup with a friend of my roommate/best friends' brother in college. He was 3 years younger than me and I had such a crush on him but I was always worried about our age difference (lol). He didn't go to college and lived an hour away so we only really saw each other when he was visiting roommates brother. We talked a lot on AIM in between. Maybe it wasn't so much that we couldn't get the timing right as it was never going further than what the relationship was. He's married with some kids now living on the Eastern Shore and seems happy, at least from a social media standpoint.

[ssmjlm]

I think my mom wished I had ended up with one of the midshipmen we sponsored in high school, but we were young and dumb and my self esteem was crap, so I stayed with a crap boyfriend through college instead. He was a great guy and his family loved my family, so I think it was more "wouldn't it be great if."

We actually all had dinner together years ago, when E was like 1 because his younger brother was army and stationed at the same base I work at and everyone came into town for the holidays. Of all the couples I was the only one with a kid, so he joked that seeing me as a mom was kind of cool/weird. He and his wife have 2 kids now.

[W.T.Faulkner]

Emilie clowned me so hard in that thread and in others with regard to having a male best friend. I specifically remember being like, "See? It's not just me! Emilie also has a straight male best friend!"

NOPE. RUINING IT FOR ALL OF US WHO HAVE STRAIGHT MALE BESTIES.

[fryjack2]

Oct 17, 2023 10:11:01 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Oct 17, 2023 9:15:42 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Someone needs to dig up the goat farm thread.

pandce.proboards.com/thread/488533/move-city-country

I can't even begin to process this again.

Eta I miss 05heel, she was the wisest and the most idgaf poster we have ever had. When you are unsure about anything in life ask yourself WW05HD and you will have your answer.

So many posters that I had totally forgotten about!! 23 pages! Thank you for providing something that will be a time consuming distraction for me from the world since I can’t concentrate on work.

And if you are lurking, 05heel, one of the best. hope you are well!

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

The coven clowned all of us about so many things. Textbook Stockholm Syndrome.

[TR]

Oct 17, 2023 10:11:01 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Oct 17, 2023 9:15:42 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

Someone needs to dig up the goat farm thread.

pandce.proboards.com/thread/488533/move-city-country

I can't even begin to process this again.

Eta I miss 05heel, she was the wisest and the most idgaf poster we have ever had. When you are unsure about anything in life ask yourself WW05HD and you will have your answer.

Oh man, I forgot about amoosed lol

[followyourarrow]

I'm not sure it was so much timing, as much as we each had our past traumas/baggage, and they didn't mix well. It was a guy I did archery with, we started as friends, tried for something more a few times, and ended up staying friends. He's a good man and I hope he finds someone great.

[fernweh]

The guy I dated it college. He was a grad student while I was doing my undergraduate, so he was about 5 years older. He wanted to get married and have kids like right then. I wanted to wait until I graduated/started my career to get married and was unsure on having kids.
After he got his mastered he looked for jobs in/near our college town and couldn’t find one. The job he ended up taking was near his home town and several hours away. I started looking to transfer to a school closer to him but then he ended up cutting off all contact with everyone he knew from college town including me his gf who told he loved and wanted to marry.

By the time he reached back out to me wanting to apologize/explain I was already engaged to H. I don’t regret how things worked out. I think the life I would have ended up with had we gotten married would not have been a life I would have been content with, so I’m glad things worked out how they did.

[fryjack2]

TR is she the one who got it on with her H in a kids tent at a kid bday party?

[ellipses84]

My first kiss who I was obsessed with but he was a little older. After he turned 18, he wouldn’t even consider dating me, which I respect in hindsight but I was heartbroken at the time and he never explained the reason back then. We lived in the same neighborhood and had mutual friends so we’d occasionally run into each other. He called my home phone one day when I was 18 because he thought he saw me as he drove by. It was actually my sister he saw and I wasn’t home, but I called him back and we started dating. I had a lot more self esteem and had been in other relationships by then. I thought we were having fun and I didn’t think he wanted to commit because we never had the bf/gf convo and he’d always been so noncommittal in the past. I met someone else and it was an instant connection (probably love bombing but it turned into a LTR). I immediately broke it off with first kiss guy and found out he truly saw a future together for us and was absolutely heartbroken. I basically had to choose between 2 guys professing their love for me and wonder how life would be different if I chose him instead. He’s my one who got away and I would have liked to see how that relationship evolved. It was so much time spent pining away that didn’t play out, although I don’t think it would have lasted forever because we were so young. No idea where he is now or what he did in life.

Near the end of college I had an on/ off FWB. We could have had an amazing relationship but I was rebounding off of previously mentioned LTR and I graduated a year ahead of him. Later he came to visit my city for my bday and was going to stay with me until he walked into my apartment and said… You have cats? I’m very allergic!!! My parents kept the cats while I was in college but one was super attached to me so I took them after I graduated. We ended up hooking up one last time despite the cats 😆, went out drinking and crashed at another friend’s place. The cats were the nail on the coffin for any chance of a real relationship. His life weirdly parallels mine in terms of our careers, who we married, family, etc. and I think we could have been together long term if he wasn’t allergic to cats!

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

Oct 17, 2023 11:18:58 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

TR is she the one who got it on with her H in a kids tent at a kid bday party?

I think that was Hitler Cookies but I can't remember her screen name. Blushing something? But not Veronika.

[pinkdutchtulips]

There was a guy in college. We knew each other through mutual friends who were in his fraternity. He'd always try to get flirty w me but I'd always have a boyfriend. Then there was the time I didn't have a boyfriend and he got flirty BUT .. it was like 2-3 weeks before graduation and he was headed off to boot camp/officers school (USMC) next. 

I looked him up once on LinkedIn ... he ended up flying planes for the USMC and retired from the Corps. He's been doing commerical real estate in Texas since. 

[puppyluv]

Oct 17, 2023 11:32:58 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Oct 17, 2023 11:18:58 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

TR is she the one who got it on with her H in a kids tent at a kid bday party?

I think that was Hitler Cookies but I can't remember her screen name. Blushing something? But not Veronika.

It was NotQuiteBlushing. She got run off when she posted about wanting to take in an exchange student to fund her house renovations without having to actually take care of the student.

[sent]

I never had any flames because I barely dated anyone. I didn't know how to date. One of the few people that did want to go out with me and I also thought he was good husband material - I told him no because I assumed he would never leave the midwest and I had to live on the east coast. I also told him no because I was dating my then terrible bf/now crappy husband and see above where I didn't know how to date. Joke's on me, he ended up getting married and leaving the midwest to move just a few towns away from where I live now.

The other guy I had a major crush on never gave me the time of day when we'd interact as teens and in our 20s. He's in his mid 40s now and his kid just turned 1. I had a brief moment when I saw the whole family recently where I thought to myself that our hypothetical kids could've been applying to college by now if he had been interested in me back in the day.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

I love how people are just telling their stories and ignoring the epic shitshow that is that thread.

[rosiebear]

A guy I didn’t really notice in high school but our lives have crisscrossed over the years. We’ve never been single at the same time and we are both happily married. I feel confident, however, that if we were both widowed, we’d be interested in seeing what’s what.

[gretchenindisguise]

Oct 17, 2023 11:42:43 GMT -5 puppyluv said:

Oct 17, 2023 11:32:58 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

I think that was Hitler Cookies but I can't remember her screen name. Blushing something? But not Veronika.

It was NotQuiteBlushing. She got run off when she posted about wanting to take in an exchange student to fund her house renovations without having to actually take care of the student.

I thought it was StPetesBeach in the tent at a kids thing, but maybe hers was a different swinger event I’m mashing together.