Had my divorce hearing yesterday and I'm so frustrated. My STBX lawyer is completely incompetent. He requested all of this documentation to show that a loan that is in my name is marital debt and everything was provided to him nearly two months ago. I provided 5+ years worth of credit card statements, bank statements, loan statements, etc. then this man has the balls to say that he only just looked at it THAT MORNING and was claiming to be missing something. No sir, you have everything, stop delaying. Then he started asking the judge about selling the house claiming that he doesn't think that I can get a mortgage without my STBX. Jokes on him, I already have a pre-approval. There were other things, but it was just really frustrating. And now we have to go to another hearing 11/28 which means I still have a minimum of another 6 weeks living with this man. I had a legit panic attack last night when I walked in the house and he was reading my mail.
Also, I reached out to his ex-wife yesterday and we had a very long talk. Mostly I reached out because I wanted to apologize to her for falling for his bullshit and letting him convince me that she was the problem. We then had a nice long talk basically comparing war stories. It actually felt really good talking to her and it made me feel a little bit less crazy and that yes, he really is that bad.
Post by blondemoment123 on Oct 18, 2023 7:07:21 GMT -5
I'm so frustrated for you!
DS has a half day so I'm getting off early and taking him to lunch and Target. He also has a book fair today. I hope $30 is enough. I have no idea what to expect and who knows what he'll pick out lol. I remember wanting the cool pencils so badly but my mom would only let me buy books. As long as he comes home with at least 1 book I'm good.
Post by wanderlustmom on Oct 18, 2023 7:15:49 GMT -5
I’m so frustrated for you too!
I have my first round of tennis elbow since I’ve been playing tennis 3-5 times a week for three years. I’m injury prone and DH isn’t so I admit I get jealous. He works out daily too—never gets injured.
Still adjusting to almost being an empty nester and it’s tough. DS is in college now, lives away and DD is a junior so she’s often not home for dinner. Tonight she will be home at 9 after two practices. So it’s nice to not run kids around but it’s also weird to adjust to the void. What an identity shift. DH and I will just make dinner and watch television after work and we do like that. I just need to work and cook today—no kid stuff needed unless there is a problem. Anyway, just weird.
Of course, like so many, feeling the heaviness of the world and then guilt for my FWPs.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Oct 18, 2023 7:21:26 GMT -5
I am entirely too old to be considering calling off my class bc I have cramps. Rude ass uterus. And I’m pretty sure I’m also having flank pain related to kidney stones? But who knows bc everything hurts and I’m dying.
Thank god we have a night off from playoff baseball, these 8:00 games are rough! Go Phils!
My light head cold on Monday teased me by seeming to massively improve yesterday. Jokes on me because it just spent yesterday dropping down to my chest.
Work has been rough lately and I’ve needed to step up my therapy sessions again so I can vent. I need to stop taking work-related things so personally, but I’ve always been emotional so it’s difficult for me. Ugh.
I’m also feeling just a little unmoored in general right now. Kind of like I can feel myself heading into a funk. I’m trying to figure out how to avoid that, but not coming up with many potential solutions.
Post by buckeyegirl on Oct 18, 2023 7:45:13 GMT -5
My DS7 was admitted to the hospital yesterday for severe dehydration and low blood sugar. I slept on a couch and it wasn’t so bad. He has belly pain and none of the tests can tell us what’s wrong. It hurts so he doesn’t eat, which got him into the hospital. I was t expecting this when we came to the er yesterday morning.
Post by wanderingback on Oct 18, 2023 7:50:52 GMT -5
Tomorrow me and my daughter are flying to visit my best friend! Unfortunately she lives in a smaller town so we have a short layover, instead of it being a direct flight. Thankfully my daughter had her first flight about a month ago and did fine but my partner and my mom were there too so it was nice having extra hands. My partner actually has a flight too so we’re going to the airport together and he leaves an hour before us, so after that we’ll be on our own. I’m sure it’ll be fine and a great weekend with an old friend and our kids meeting for the first time.
Boy have times changed from when we first met when we were 14, so looking forward to hanging out as moms
I applied to a stretch job, but not by much, that would nearly double my pay. But I haven’t heard anything, so of course I’m down about it and convinced I won’t get it. Ugh!
I went to my PTA committee meeting last night and it was fun! The committee is for our annual bazaar, and we have some good plans!
Post by maudefindlay on Oct 18, 2023 7:56:03 GMT -5
Oh no buckeyegirl, hope the doctors can figure things out soon and get him on the mend.
We were supposed to see Nate Bargatze on the 28th, just got an email it's been rescheduled. I guess hosting SNL with Foo Fighters is a better deal for him, ha. Unfortunately the new date is June. Had it been Jan thru April anytime we'd keep the tickets, but I think we'll get a refund as June is prime travel time for us.
Post by followyourarrow on Oct 18, 2023 8:00:26 GMT -5
We picked up Finn from a rescue last night. I have him and my FI has Mardi. It’s doodle madness at our house. He’s doing so well though. He comes to us for reassurance and loves already. The only problem is FI got up at 2 am to pee and the dogs assumed it was morning and were up for the day.
Post by sunshineandpinot on Oct 18, 2023 8:03:49 GMT -5
My car has three rows, the middle being captain seats. We carpool with 5 other kids; my dd sits in the front seat. I had no idea this would be such a deal. It's a full size SUV so they're not cramped in the third row; the captain seats are just obviously preferable. My eyes just about popped out of my head when I told a kid (not mine) yesterday to go to the third row bc it was his turn and he told me no. We have a "system" that rotates them through and I'm trying to be fair but omg this is not a big deal and lets just get home. Also if an adult asks you to do something (that is safe and not unreasonable) you don't tell them no. You just don't. My daughter told me she was proud that I didn't lose my mind lol.
Post by gerberdaisy on Oct 18, 2023 8:11:25 GMT -5
I'm struggling with a birthday gift for my SIL. Usually spend 100-150 (split with my other SIL). We've done pedicures, subscription boxes, pura, books, wine... in the past, but can't think of something. Was hoping for a nice cozy sweater or just something that she wouldn't buy herself but would enjoy. I know she's having a tough time right now and selfcare is needed.
I'm struggling with a birthday gift for my SIL. Usually spend 100-150 (split with my other SIL). We've done pedicures, subscription boxes, pura, books, wine... in the past, but can't think of something. Was hoping for a nice cozy sweater or just something that she wouldn't buy herself but would enjoy. I know she's having a tough time right now and selfcare is needed.
Barefoot Dreams cardigan or blanket?
ETA: or Vuori joggers or hoodie if she wears athliesure
C had a dentist appointment this morning, and my team is doing an offsite later this morning. Then two days off. My students were asking about my fall break plans, and I honestly said “stream the Barbie movie because I’m the only one in my house who wants to see it, then go to Costco by myself, and volunteer for a few hours at my kids school sorting clothing donations.”
You guys, I can't even. I just got a call from my mortgage broker. Apparently STBX reached out to them and is asking questions about my mortgage application. That was the mail of mine that he was going through last night, it was basically an information packet that they had sent out to me. And I can't even do anything about him opening my mail because I looked at the envelope and they had included his name, I'm guess because we're currently on the mortgage together (same bank).
Our rescue is getting more and more comfortable and our OG dog is becoming more resigned to the fact that she might not leave. She looks to him for guidance ALL day so hopefully he can convince her that pee and poop goes outside. In the meantime, he's really loving the resurgence of dog treats for potty. LOL
I just can't believe that a dog that was treated so horribly for the first year of her life can be so sweet and loving. Dogs, man.
gerberdaisy, I saw the Barefoot Dreams throw at Nordstrom Rack for $50 the other day. I'm kicking myself for not buying a couple as gifts. To myself mostly.
My mom has 3 appointments today. Thoughts and prayers that I don't yell at her. She's been really goofy lately but won't "let" me attend her psychiatrist appointment. She had a UTI last month, so she's improved but not to a baseline.
I need to hit Costco. One of my Cuisinart lids broke yesterday and I'm thinking of replacing with something newer. The appliance is about 30 years old, so I really can't complain and I could use a larger capacity model.
I guess I have my first real cold of the school year. Yesterday I was sneezing all day which was weird. By the evening my nose was a faucet. I slept around 8/8.5 hours. Nose completely stuffed unless I took medicine overnight. The darling school age children I work with are germ factories.
ETA: DS(7) woke up extra early sneezing and wiping his nose too. Cool cool. /s
Post by dancingirl21 on Oct 18, 2023 8:50:49 GMT -5
I’m at urgent care with DS2. We have all had a bad cold (confirmed not Covid with 4 tests) and he just can’t kick it. He’s been coughing so hard and lethargic. Today is his third day out of school. I keep thinking he will wake up the next morning feeling much better and he isn’t. So here we are.
Post by sunshineluv on Oct 18, 2023 9:03:52 GMT -5
My husband (38) woke up drenched in sweat last night. He just text me that he is sweating profusely but not hot. (No fever no elevated heart rate). Is this a fluke or what could it be? We went out to dinner last night, he had one drink, but he drinks a couple times a week. I told him to email his doctor but am curious what this could be?
Does anyone here work for the Department of Defense? I have some questions about WFH policy so I'd love a PM if you are willing!
@sameoldstory wtf. I am so sorry you weren't able to get it done. Did the lawyers discuss anything around getting him out of the house?
I put in an application to adopt a dog. My H is not a yes yet, but he is a maybe so I am hoping that would turn into a yes. I wish we could meet the dog prior to actually applying, but since it's in foster we have to get approved first. It was a basic application so I assume it doesn't take much for them to approve it? I don't want to waste their time but I also want to have an application in for this specific dog. I think maybe he will relent and we will do it. His reasons for not getting a dog are lame IMO (hair, smell) and mine for getting one are good, lol. This dog sounds perfect for our house too. It is currently fostered with cats and apparently just ignores them completely.
Post by midwestmama on Oct 18, 2023 9:19:39 GMT -5
buckeyegirl, so scary! Hoping doctors can figure out what's going on.
I've been fighting the onset of a cold since last week. Today, it won, and I have officially have a cold. At least it got me out of going into the office today (my in-office days are T-W).
Tonight is DS's last middle school football game. It's basically the PERFECT fall day today - sunny and low 60s. They are playing at the high school football stadium tonight (for youth and middle school football, each team is scheduled to play one game at the high school stadium), so it will be a great way to wrap up the season. And where they end the season this year, they will start the season next year. (I know it's still 10 months away, but hard to believe that DS will in HS next year. (Although we had him do young 5's Kindergarten when he was 5, so he is 14 now and technically could be in HS. We thought the extra year would be good for him maturity-wise.) Time is a thief.)
OMG two late nights of the Phillies games and I am so happy and so tired. Last night's game was amazing. I actually had to be in work today vice teleworking so I am dying a slow death.
Does anyone here work for the Department of Defense? I have some questions about WFH policy so I'd love a PM if you are willing!
@sameoldstory wtf. I am so sorry you weren't able to get it done. Did the lawyers discuss anything around getting him out of the house?
I put in an application to adopt a dog. My H is not a yes yet, but he is a maybe so I am hoping that would turn into a yes. I wish we could meet the dog prior to actually applying, but since it's in foster we have to get approved first. It was a basic application so I assume it doesn't take much for them to approve it? I don't want to waste their time but I also want to have an application in for this specific dog. I think maybe he will relent and we will do it. His reasons for not getting a dog are lame IMO (hair, smell) and mine for getting one are good, lol. This dog sounds perfect for our house too. It is currently fostered with cats and apparently just ignores them completely.
I do, PM me! Though I will say it seems to vary a lot by branch/command/office in practice.