DD had a miserable cough all night and neither of us got any sleep. I kept her home from Pre-K today and now she's right as rain, playing away, and I'm attempting to work from home on 4 hours sleep with a 4 year old undertow.
Bernadine, OH MY GAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. scm1011, I HATE that. Sick all night, but then fine the next day--always after you pulled them from school. Hopefully a nap is in your futures today!
my colleague just was telling me about a parasite in one of our patient's brains and now my head hurts, lol. SO GROSS.
Post by fluffycookie on Oct 25, 2023 9:05:09 GMT -5
DS has his ADHD med check with his soon to be former pedi's office. We had an awful experience there recently which made me get off my ass and move him to a new practice. I had to fill out paper work to request the records on Friday and I am hoping that they haven't gotten it yet because I hate confrontation.
I used the time to give him an overview of everything we have going on in the next week, and things I have to do-- things like: DD has a school halloween party on Friday. Not sure if she's going but if she is we have to figure out which costume she's wearing. I want install Bark or something similar on her phone. Things I have to do to prep for a party on Sunday. Literally nothing that required him to do anything, just kind of talking through everything we have going on.
By the time we got home he was super cranky and told me how overwhelming the walk was and how "we" are so behind on everything and he doesn't know where to start.
Dude. Welcome to my brain at all times. But also, I handle everything and literally asked you for nothing, so please don't add "manage H's emotions" to my plate right now bc I'm full.
By the time we got home he was super cranky and told me how overwhelming the walk was and how "we" are so behind on everything and he doesn't know where to start.
Dude. Welcome to my brain at all times. But also, I handle everything and literally asked you for nothing, so please don't add "manage H's emotions" to my plate right now bc I'm full.
Oh I hate this. I often feel like I need to figure out a good time to tell FI about something where I need like, one tiny opinion or just to let him know about something where I am doing 99% of the actual work, because otherwise he gets all flustered, and it's so annoying. Like sorry that my timeline of mentioning something is not ideal for you, but if you want to control the flow of information then you have to be in charge of the whole project!
Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Oct 25, 2023 9:30:29 GMT -5
DH and I signed up for a Halloween 5K awhile ago with some friends and their kids. It's on Saturday and I am definitely not in race form like I used to be, so luckily we were all going into it as something fun to do. Now DH springs this idea of going to the beach for the weekend instead. It's supposed to be perfect weather and his parents won't be there so we'll have the place to ourselves. I'm torn because while I don't particularly want to wake up early on Saturday to run a 5K, we made a commitment to do it and to our friends and I am feeling yucky about pulling out at the last minute and essentially bailing on them. On the other hand, our friends are pretty chill and they would most likely understand and encourage us to go to the beach. I just don't know what to do. I told DH if he really wants to go, then he needs to tell our friends and the reason why lol. He was like, oh. Yeah buddy, this is on you.
By the time we got home he was super cranky and told me how overwhelming the walk was and how "we" are so behind on everything and he doesn't know where to start.
Dude. Welcome to my brain at all times. But also, I handle everything and literally asked you for nothing, so please don't add "manage H's emotions" to my plate right now bc I'm full.
Oh I hate this. I often feel like I need to figure out a good time to tell FI about something where I need like, one tiny opinion or just to let him know about something where I am doing 99% of the actual work, because otherwise he gets all flustered, and it's so annoying. Like sorry that my timeline of mentioning something is not ideal for you, but if you want to control the flow of information then you have to be in charge of the whole project!
FOR REAL. Yesterday, from my dad's bedside, I text him "David has a meeting at 6:45 for his first penance, someone has to go with him. It's in church". Oh, do you want me to go? Yes, yes I do. But I can't tell him anything when he first gets home, or on the way home, or or or. I'm so sick of it!
I thought I lost the beagle yesterday! I was here all day baking and the dogs kept going in and out. The back door is in the kitchen so they think if I’m there, I’m their personal door opener.
I thought she was inside but she wasn’t in the living room or watching me so I thought she must be sunning on the back porch. The youngest dog and her play together all day but I realized the youngest was going in and out of the house alone lot which was weird. I go outside to look for her and can’t find her. Our yard is really long and full of trees/bushes she likes to hide in but normally she moves or something.
Our second floor is all gated off but the bedroom and she’s not in the hallway and I can’t find her under the bed or in the crates.
Finally I call my husband to see when he’s coming home because I can’t find her, I turn around and there she is!
I was thinking like could someone lift her out of the yard over the fence? Did she burrow her way out? I truly don’t know where she was! Maybe under the bed with her back facing out and her legs tucked in? Her back is black so maybe I couldn’t see her? Our house is not big and I was calling and calling for her. What a potato.
I have been having abnormal bleeding for quite a while, even after my IUD was replaced. My hormone levels check out so I'm having a transvaginal and regular ultrasound today. I'm pretty nervous so any good thoughts would be great.
Post by followyourarrow on Oct 25, 2023 9:43:17 GMT -5
We went from sleeping with zero dogs to 3 dogs and I'm not handling the adjustment well. Finn the new dog doesn't handle a kennel well and FI's dog Bella has never been kenneled, so when we got them we decided Mardi shouldn't be kenneled because it wouldn't be fair. Finn is a good boy and will sleep at the foot of the bed and even though he's huge, he doesn't bother me. Mardi and Bella however want to sleep in between us and will push against both of us to try and push us out of bed. I think I'm going to have FI make a platform for a dog bed and try to get Mardi and/or Bella to sleep on the platform next to us instead of between us.
When I packed up the apartment I had no idea it would take us so long to move into the house and I'm really missing some of my creature comforts. I'm so ready for us to get fully moved over to the new house and start unpacking most things. FI and his cousin made good progress yesterday, and they're back at it today and tomorrow. So hopefully we can move on Monday. The kitchen cabinets won't be painted, so we won't really move into the kitchen, but at least we'll be able to grab stuff out of the boxes as we need them. I'm currently living with one coffee cup and using paper plates, and plastic silverware, which I hate doing, it's so wasteful.
I’m on day 10 of a cold and still majorly congested. The lingering cough I expected, but I feel like we may be getting into sinus infection territory. I’m really only functioning when I take musicnex and Sudafed (the good stuff from behind the counter).
I used the time to give him an overview of everything we have going on in the next week, and things I have to do-- things like: DD has a school halloween party on Friday. Not sure if she's going but if she is we have to figure out which costume she's wearing. I want install Bark or something similar on her phone. Things I have to do to prep for a party on Sunday. Literally nothing that required him to do anything, just kind of talking through everything we have going on.
By the time we got home he was super cranky and told me how overwhelming the walk was and how "we" are so behind on everything and he doesn't know where to start.
Dude. Welcome to my brain at all times. But also, I handle everything and literally asked you for nothing, so please don't add "manage H's emotions" to my plate right now bc I'm full.
OMG this. H does this too. It's infuriating. I already manage everything plus manage the kids emotions, I'm not mothering a grown adult too!
At the very end of the free part of the article, "To understand this, you must first understand that most men are never taught that they must make others comfortable by regulating their emotions."
At the very end of the free part of the article, "To understand this, you must first understand that most men are never taught that they must make others comfortable by regulating their emotions."
Yes yes yes. My mom and I were talking about Thanksgiving. H and I will be going to her house for Thanksgiving and she keeps trying to think of things that he can do like fishing or whatever. And I told her we don’t have to schedule things for him. It’s fine. And she said, “but I don’t want him to be bored.” And I said “never not once ever has he ever worried about me being bored at his parents’ house.” It’s just because we are women and we’ve been conditioned to make sure people are comfortable. He’s a grown adult. He will be fine not doing *exactly* what he wants to do for three days.
It’s been over a year and our kitten/cat is officially in the top 2 of best cats I’ve ever had. He’s my DD’s cat and it’s really nice that he favors her so much. Cats can be pretty obvious about their favorites. I can’t get over what a sweet, friendly, lovely disposition he has! This cat does not quit being all the things you hope for in a new pet.
He doesn’t seem to mind being indoors all the time. I grew up with cats who could go outside, so it gives me some guilt that he’s not living his best life. Which is bonkers, I know.
Post by midwestmama on Oct 25, 2023 10:15:38 GMT -5
Bernadine, what a sweetie. She looks like a GSD or GSD mix, and GSD are my fave.
I had to give a presentation this morning to the leadership team for my function, and my boss and boss's boss were there, so I was really nervous. It seems like it went well, so I'm happy about that. I had a training before the presentation, which started at 6 am, so I got to work around 5:45 am, so I am so tired.
About 2 months ago, I scheduled a massage for this Friday, and I'm so glad I picked this Friday to have it. It will be the perfect way to end a stressful week.
I’ve got what I think is runner’s knee and it’s so painful. It’s from walking the dog. We live in a hilly area and I’ve been taking long walks in the morning with her. I know the treatment is to rest it, but I can’t just not walk the dog, and no one else in my family will do it. Meanwhile it’s torture going up and down stairs. We’re skipping our walk today and I’m taking her straight to doggy daycare. Hopefully that helps a bit.
Post by maudefindlay on Oct 25, 2023 10:28:26 GMT -5
I went on a walk for an hour downtown before my hair appt this AM, got my haircut including a scalp massage and warm eye pillow time, then drove thru the beautiful trees to a local winery where the guy gave me 2 glasses, we laughed. Maybe I looked like I needed it. Bought all my holiday eine including the spuced wine I put in the crock pot and serve warm. Now meeting DH for lunch.
We went from sleeping with zero dogs to 3 dogs and I'm not handling the adjustment well. Finn the new dog doesn't handle a kennel well and FI's dog Bella has never been kenneled, so when we got them we decided Mardi shouldn't be kenneled because it wouldn't be fair. Finn is a good boy and will sleep at the foot of the bed and even though he's huge, he doesn't bother me. Mardi and Bella however want to sleep in between us and will push against both of us to try and push us out of bed. I think I'm going to have FI make a platform for a dog bed and try to get Mardi and/or Bella to sleep on the platform next to us instead of between us.
When I packed up the apartment I had no idea it would take us so long to move into the house and I'm really missing some of my creature comforts. I'm so ready for us to get fully moved over to the new house and start unpacking most things. FI and his cousin made good progress yesterday, and they're back at it today and tomorrow. So hopefully we can move on Monday. The kitchen cabinets won't be painted, so we won't really move into the kitchen, but at least we'll be able to grab stuff out of the boxes as we need them. I'm currently living with one coffee cup and using paper plates, and plastic silverware, which I hate doing, it's so wasteful.
I would work on crate training the dogs who have never been trained, but also dog's don't see things as fair or not fair the way we do. If your dog likes her crate, I wouldn't stop crating her because of the other two dogs.
I used the time to give him an overview of everything we have going on in the next week, and things I have to do-- things like: DD has a school halloween party on Friday. Not sure if she's going but if she is we have to figure out which costume she's wearing. I want install Bark or something similar on her phone. Things I have to do to prep for a party on Sunday. Literally nothing that required him to do anything, just kind of talking through everything we have going on.
By the time we got home he was super cranky and told me how overwhelming the walk was and how "we" are so behind on everything and he doesn't know where to start.
Dude. Welcome to my brain at all times. But also, I handle everything and literally asked you for nothing, so please don't add "manage H's emotions" to my plate right now bc I'm full.
Ugh.
Our daughter is turning 13 in a week. My husband convinced her she wanted to have a costume party at home for her birthday this weekend. He loves Halloween, and did decorate the house. The weather is supposed to be gorgeous so I would like to keep them outside for as much as I can. I need him to string the lights in the gazebo that I ordered weeks ago, power wash the patio set cushions, set up the fire pit in the way back, rake the leaves, clean the outdoor rug, and just in general clear out all his crap and set up the coolers. He was going to "get started" yesterday. I'm not sure what, if anything, he did. I assumed today might be the day. He just told me he's going to caulk our shower in the third floor bathroom today. Well, yes, I have been asking for that to be done for eeons. But at this point, it can wait until Sunday or after. Can we not do the backyard please? Or if you're desperate to do something in a bathroom, please have at it in the first floor guest bath! I know I'm going to be running around like a crazy person Friday and Saturday and I'm going to have to add the yard to my list.
Post by fangoriagurkel on Oct 25, 2023 10:40:43 GMT -5
The CVS rap jingle has been stuck in my head all morning. It’s much catchier and cuter than I care to admit.
Today I have five calls to make to confirm previous appointment dates and Rx start dates for my disability claim. I have all the paperwork, but it never hurts to double check.
Bernadine, that's a very cute dog! I don't want to drive 4+ hours for a dog when there are tons of them nearby available, but if she was closer I'd definitely check her out!
I've applied for 3 dogs now and haven't heard back on any of them. I'm actually a little nervous because we're leaving on vacation in a month and I don't really want to bring home a new dog immediately before we leave. I think if we got one this weekend or something it would probably be ok? But any later than that and we'll probably have to put this idea on hold until after the holidays.
Speaking of after the holidays, my H was offered a new job and he will be starting it next year! He will have to go into the office 2 days a week, which is a huge change from WFH 100%, but hopefully this job will be a better fit. He likes his current job, but it's very client driven and all the deadlines and contract stuff causes him a lot of stress. He works way too much to make sure he meets deadlines. The new job is in an academic research center so hopefully will be a lot more flexible and mean better balance, even with some commute. It is a slight pay cut (basically just eliminates his bonus, which is a bummer) but hopefully will mean a better life overall. Also, it means I'll be home 2 days a week by myself which will be an interesting change. I am almost NEVER home alone.
followyourarrow, adding on to sarahsays excellent advice... If you WANT to sleep with one or more of the dogs in your bed, I also recommend training them to wait to be cued to get in the bed. Humans get in first, settle, get comfortable, then dogs can join you and find their spots.
I have one dog who sleeps in the bed with me and one who chooses to sleep in her crate (door open). Sometimes she jumps in the bed after my alarm goes off for a quick snuggle, but she doesn't like to cuddle while she sleeps.
Bernadine, that puppy is ADORABLE and definitely needs a good home
At the very end of the free part of the article, "To understand this, you must first understand that most men are never taught that they must make others comfortable by regulating their emotions."
Yes yes yes. My mom and I were talking about Thanksgiving. H and I will be going to her house for Thanksgiving and she keeps trying to think of things that he can do like fishing or whatever. And I told her we don’t have to schedule things for him. It’s fine. And she said, “but I don’t want him to be bored.” And I said “never not once ever has he ever worried about me being bored at his parents’ house.” It’s just because we are women and we’ve been conditioned to make sure people are comfortable. He’s a grown adult. He will be fine not doing *exactly* what he wants to do for three days.
OMG, I can relate to this so much. My mom wants us both the visit her in FL and she (mostly) and I (somewhat) have been trying to find activities that he would enjoy. I enjoy going and visiting her and we go shopping and out to lunch and she's like, what would he do? Umm, he's a grown man, he can find something?? I go to Delaware to see his crazy family wayyy more and he's never worried about what I'll do. I mean, I can find things to do pretty easily and I'm good just sitting and reading or something, but no one is planning activities for me. It's just been easier to go visit her by myself so none of this nonsense is an issue.
I went on a walk for an hour downtown before my hair appt this AM, got my haircut including a scalp massage and warm eye pillow time, then drove thru the beautiful trees to a local winery where the guy gave me 2 glasses, we laughed. Maybe I looked like I needed it. Bought all my holiday eine including the spuced wine I put in the crock pot and serve warm. Now meeting DH for lunch.