Post by chilerellanos on Nov 6, 2023 9:02:50 GMT -5
I haven’t been on very much. I’ve been taking a lot of time to myself. I am feeling a lot better since September when I discovered all that about my ex boyfriend and his web of lies and women, etc.
I’m graduating from the super intensive therapy I was in, and I honestly feel really good and happy and secure.
Post by followyourarrow on Nov 6, 2023 9:10:48 GMT -5
It's officially moving day!
I'm going to be a judgy bitch here for a minute. It's better to get it out here than at home. FI's sister and her kids came by our house yesterday. Sister lives 8 hours away and came down for a surprise visit. Except last week, literally last week, she didn't have money to pay her bills and buy groceries for her kids, so her mama overdrew her own bank account to send money. But now sister has money to travel, buy starbucks, take everyone out to eat, etc. All 3 kids have cell phones, and the youngest is 7. She was dressed head to toe in lululemon. She made snotty remarks about our Ikea hack entertainment center. She referred to to our home as being a cute LITTLE house (it's not huge, but serves our needs, but wtf). Sister wasn't sure she wanted to go back home last night even though all 3 kids have school today and she's due at work at a new job. Thankfully FI isn't over fond of her and doesn't wish to spend time with her. We're going to need to set boundaries.
I haven’t been on very much. I’ve been taking a lot of time to myself. I am feeling a lot better since September when I discovered all that about my ex boyfriend and his web of lies and women, etc.
I’m graduating from the super intensive therapy I was in, and I honestly feel really good and happy and secure.
Oh whew! I was kind of worried that maybe you got back together with him and you weren't posting here because you didn't want to say anything lol Glad you're feeling better!
DD and I had the BEST time in NYC. Our favorites were, in order, the Tenement Museum, &Juliet, picking up pizza from the little spot next to our hotel after evening shows and eating it in our pjs, and the lox and bagels we grabbed from Russ & Daughters. We also saw Moulin Rouge, did some holiday shopping/snacking at the winter village in Bryant Park, walked the Highline, and just generally wandered and people-watched.
I am so tired, and do not want to be at work today. Yawn. Lucky DD doesn't have school today.
I haven’t been on very much. I’ve been taking a lot of time to myself. I am feeling a lot better since September when I discovered all that about my ex boyfriend and his web of lies and women, etc.
I’m graduating from the super intensive therapy I was in, and I honestly feel really good and happy and secure.
Oh whew! I was kind of worried that maybe you got back together with him and you weren't posting here because you didn't want to say anything lol Glad you're feeling better!
GOD NO! (I also took a break during my divorce. I kinda go stealth when I’m dealing with shit).
He’s blocked on everything that I can possibly block him on.
I did start talking to another guy though, and it’s night and day difference how he treats me!
Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Nov 6, 2023 9:16:17 GMT -5
I have a work event after work hours today until at 9 pm. I'm usually in bed getting settled at that time. It's not far from my house, but not close either. It's also an event where I have to be "on" and I am quite sure I am not going to be in the mood for all that at that time of day. Also, I have to be at another work location all day tomorrow which is about 25 minutes from my house, not my usual 7 minutes, so I have to be up earlier than normal tomorrow morning. I am already dreading all of it. Thank goodness we have a three day weekend coming up because I am going to need it.
I am having leftover pumpkin and apple pie from Friendsgiving last night for breakfast. Not mad at it. We had a great night! My gravy was not good this year though, so I need to work on those skills. I used Ina Garten's recipe and doubled it - and it was much too buttery and thin at first, and then I tried to thicken it up and it went completely in the other direction and got too thick lol. It did have good flavor but you couldn't really pour it out from the gravy boats and then it clumped up really quickly. I'm fine at making gravy without drippings, I think that just added a new element that messed me up. I'm normally a really good cook so I was embarrassed at this screw-up, but of course no one cared!
The house is mostly cleaned up from last night but there's a few things I'll take care of while I WFH. I need to plan meals for the rest of the week though and blah, I don't wanna.
Post by wanderingback on Nov 6, 2023 9:17:44 GMT -5
I’m in a small mom’s group and we have a group chat. I was mentioning how my partner had taken our daughter to music class and 2 of them mentioned they hadn’t had alone time without their child in months, like not at all, not even 30 minutes. And 1 is a stay at home mom so doesn’t even get a "break" by going out the house to work. We don’t always intentionally plan things but it’s totally natural for my partner to go to the grocery store or another errand and take her with him for example (it’s easy now since she’s still in a stroller and can throw all our bags in the stroller). It just made me extra thankful that a year in we’ve found a good groove of family time, alone time, friend time and romantic time. It’s not always easy or perfect, but I would be very unhappy with a partner who didn’t recognize that I deserved time "off" from being a mother, so I made sure to tell my partner that I truly appreciated that.
I am grouchy. DS2 is home with a mild stomach problem. H has been gone since Friday and I was looking forward to WFH and getting a little break from parenting. NO such luck.
I am not in the mood to hear about how H is having an amazing time in Seattle while I do all the unglamourous stuff around here. Thankfully he is taking the hint and not sharing those details with me. Not in the mood for anyone's joy this morning lol.
My friend talked me into hosting a dinner party (he is cooking). I’m torn between his dinner party at my venue and my party. I would not tend toward a “dinner party”, as I’d rather have a gathering with multiple of my friend circles. Like, dinner (tables, chairs) is way too limiting.
OTOH, my H is on board. And it’s been 4 years since he wanted to be at a social event, and probably 15 since he agreed to host one. So maybe a limited guest list is a better way to ease into it.
But still, I’m not sure I actually have 10 dining chair or if I can fit that many at our table, even with the leaf. I’d almost rather have 30 people because then I don’t have to seat them at the same place 😂
I slept like shit last. And I woke up at 3 and never really fell back asleep before my alarm went off at 5. I’m exhausted and it’s going to be a long/week. For as much as I travel, you’d think my “night before I leave” anxiety wouldn’t be so high anymore, but alas. 😴
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Nov 6, 2023 9:28:37 GMT -5
Tomorrow is our Election Day, and the community college is closed. I’m considering not telling anyone and just shipping the baby off to MIL and FIL for the day. I would love to just be able to be home without anyone else. No storage unit trip needed!
DH is WFH today because they are testing something on the system. Tomorrow school is closed because of voting and the HVAC guy is coming. Not much alone time during WFH this week.
I'm trying to book spa stuff for our cruise, the but the website is terrible. It timed me out and now I can't get back to the reservation date/time I had.
I was dermaplaning my face on Saturday and was rushing and managed to cut myself a few times. And then, I didn't have my glasses on, and I thought I was putting my Hyaluronic Acid on but it turned out I accidentally used my Lactic Acid. That is a mistake that I would like to not make ever again. Ouch.
Tomorrow is our Election Day, and the community college is closed. I’m considering not telling anyone and just shipping the baby off to MIL and FIL for the day. I would love to just be able to be home without anyone else. No storage unit trip needed!
Please do this! You need this! If they ask any questions say the college decided since it was closed for the election that they’d hold an all day training you have to attend.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Nov 6, 2023 9:56:20 GMT -5
Dh spent the majority of the past several days stressing over the fact that all the pictures and videos from the time he spent in the military/deployed were on a hard drive that was corrupted and he wasn't able to recover them. He knew the hard drive was corrupted years ago and tried to recover them a bit then with no luck, but his boss just asked for a few pics from anyone with military experience for upcoming Veterans day last week, and he decided to try again. And once he started trying, he became obsessed with the idea of getting these pictures back and with the thought that if he didn't, they would be gone forever. And he was oblivious to pretty much everything else going on in our life/family for the past several days because of it. I felt bad for him because I do understand the importance of pictures to remember important times, but I had a hard time empathizing with him because 1. that time in our lives, he was off traveling the world (and though it was hard, dangerous work, he also really enjoyed it) while I was REALLY struggling at home with a 2 year old and a newborn and no family due to his obligation and 2. that was a REALLY rough time in our marriage and I never wanted to see pictures or reminders of it really. and 3. while I did really hope he was able to recover the pictures and stuff, I truly don't understand his ability to become so single-minded about stuff that he can tune out what else is going on with the family when we are obviously struggling and the kids are screaming at each other/physically fighting with each other or I'm arguing with my ds to get him to do work for a class he's failing and he's trying to teensplain me why it's not a big deal and I'm losing my shit on him, etc. Anyway, he just stopped working (he is wfh today) to tell me he was able to recover everything he thought he had lost, and he was literally in tears. I'm so happy for him because it obviously means so much to him, but after expressing that I did feel the need to come on here and vent and just get it out so I can move past it.
Work is insanely crazy this week and I had to do some work over the weekend. It was supposed to be split with a coworker but she dropped the ball, so I had to finish up this morning. (She doesn't usually drop the ball, so I'm ticked but also concerned.)
And I've mentioned my little-old-lady mother. She's 91 and I know my time with her is limited, though who knows, she could live to 100.
She lives in her own home and I call her twice a day to remind her to take her pills. When she's gone, I'll probably be sentimental about no longer hearing her verbal quirks, but for now, I'd love a week when I call her and do not get the following interaction. Mom: "What day is today?" Me: Monday. Mom: "Moonday?" with that dragged out - Moooooooonday.
Painting help needed: The final wall to my multi-room painting is the bottom wall of my dining room. It is off white and has a simple raised design (kind of like molding in a square, repeating pattern). I planned to just paint a bright white over it but the semi-glass paint just sides off. I think the original paint is high gloss. So frustrating.
It’s a really awkward design to sand, will primer paint be enough? I hate the thought of priming these 1/2 walls + two coats of paint. I AM looking forward to being done and putting my house back together.
Any recommendations welcome. Should I use something other than a paint brush? I would try a paint sprayer but the top half of the wall is already painted a fresh, nice color.
wanderingback starting when DS was 8 months old H has been in charge of the parenting from 10ish-12/1 every Saturday unless he's OOT. It took much longer for my friends' H's to do anything semi similar. I got to hear all their frustrations and could only shrug. H simply announced he was taking DS on errands one Saturday and the rest is history. DS is 7.5 and loves his weekly Daddy time.
We watched the movie Nyad last night, about Diana Nyad swimming from Cuba to Florida, and I really liked it. It was refreshing to have a movie center on women in their 60s without a single "old person" joke. Just straight up inspirational, in the same way it would have been handled if she was 25.
Also Jodie Foster is a smoke show even as a 60 year old without makeup.
We had DD’s 13th birthday party yesterday. OMG 8 12/13 year olds are loudddddd. Loud. But also really funny. Did I mention loud though? So glad for silence today!
Our neighbor across the street was outside practicing baseball with his son. He was like what’s happening at your house? I can hear them from here? Is this my future? I thought I was home free after toddler loudness? Ha. Nope.
We watched the movie Nyad last night, about Diana Nyad swimming from Cuba to Florida, and I really liked it. It was refreshing to have a movie center on women in their 60s without a single "old person" joke. Just straight up inspirational, in the same way it would have been handled if she was 25.
Also Jodie Foster is a smoke show even as a 60 year old without makeup.
Ha. I was going to post a similar message. Good story, 2 strong female leads, beautiful older aging gracefully actresses who can pull you in with their acting abilities yes. Agree on Jodie Foster.
C's cheer team won the state championship this weekend! I never thought I would be a cheer mom, but this is such a great group of kids and parents and I am loving it.
I got a promotion and moved into my new office today. It's so nice to have a door I can shut!
First day back to work after being out last week and that 5am alarm was ROUGH this morning! But at least it was lighter on the morning commute so that was nice.
First part of the week off was spent at Kalahari (the water park emilyinchile, LOL) and that was pretty fun but dang I'm getting old to do stuff like that. ALSO - why do they put the scales for the rides at the top of the million stairs you have to climb up? So folks climb all the way up there only to be told they're too heavy and have to walk back down. I mean I guess then they just need the one staff person at the top but still!
H and I have cleaned up SO many leaves already and we still have a few trees left that are holding a lot of leaves... 2 of them are about 7 or 8 stories high so you can imagine how many leaves that holds. It's supposed to be windy today and tomorrow so hopefully most will drop and we can be done. Once the oak leaves stop falling we'll just mulch but the oak are too acidic for our soil so we clean those up. I told out neighbor that I hoped the wind was strong enough that the leaves went in his yard versus ours LOL.
ALSO - why do they put the scales for the rides at the top of the million stairs you have to climb up? So folks climb all the way up there only to be told they're too heavy and have to walk back down. I mean I guess then they just need the one staff person at the top but still!
If it's like Great Wolf Lodge, they take the weight of the group, not individual, so I guess they don't want people to reshuffle the group from what was weighed at the bottom and be over the weight that the slide/raft is rated for.
They should probably have scales both on the bottom (for the people to know before starting the climb) and up top (so staff can ensure safety). But also, you can typically split into smaller groups and not hit a weight threshold then.
Post by cattledogkisses on Nov 6, 2023 11:49:20 GMT -5
We are 4 months and $55k into gutting and redoing our upstairs bathrooms, and it's become the project from hell. After ghosting us for the last 10 days, our contractor texted this morning that we'd be better off finding someone else to finish things. So now we have two partially finished bathrooms and no contractor anymore.
I am officially in "It's the holidays, I will follow up with you in January" mode, but unfortunately work does not agree. Blah.
I went to see The Eras Tour movie with friends yesterday and I enjoyed it WAY more than I was expecting. We saw it in a theater with Dolby sound and it was LOUD and AMAZING. If anyone other than the three of us were singing along, we couldn't hear it lol so it was beautiful.
Same friends and I also bought matching Christmas pajamas from Target yesterday during the sale and we're going to have a Christmas movie day and I'm so excited.