Stop having babies!!

[ijack]

One of my FB friends just announced she's pg again. She's my age (34) and has 6 kids already (and has lost 3 pregnancies along the way) and constantly posts about how poor they are and asks for help and prayers to get them back on their feet. She doesn't work and her H is a delivery driver or something like that (he lost his job last year so I don't actually know what he does now).
They can barely afford the kids they do have, I can't believe they are having more.

[EmilieMadison]

Are they some of those "god will provide" people? They piss me off.

[megs193]

I have a friend like this. The last time I talked to her she said she was looking into adoption because aparently the 4 kids she has that she can't afford aren't enough.

[bqbride]

Ugh--we had former tenants like that. 3 kids, pregnant when they moved in, pregnant again when they moved out, but constantly late with rent and looking for handouts from anybody and everybody.

[cjeanette]

H has an army buddy who's wife is pg w/ #4. They don't have health insurance. They have debt. He drives a bus. She is in school. She believed birth control was like an abortion so they didn't prevent even though they were "done".

I have her hid on FB.

[Deleted]

Unfriend, I can't stand people like that.

[shortstax]

I have a "friend" from high school like this. She just had #4 (we're 29.) Husband works on the assembly line and he had to give up her same job to stay at home with the kids. She uses facebook to complain about finances and to sell avon to anyone and everyone.

I've hidden all status updates from her because her "we'll take as many children as God grants us" is annoying as crap.

[housegeek]

Sounds like my cousins( that's right, multiple. Sisters even...) at 21 and 26 both pregnant with number 5 ( not including step kids) and both complain about money. And the younger one usually posts stuff like " husbands name sure does have a way of makin me feel unwanted an unimpordant. My feelins r hurt so I'm goin to bed goodnight!" and 20 minutes later " I love my man hes the bests!" on fb. Ugh.

[barefootcontessa]

Don't people ever keep things to themselves? I hate all this public moaning and complaining (facebook, twitter, etc.) about various things that should be private.

Question: do they have internet service at home? I assume so since she is constantly posting.

[rex]

What is her deal?

I don't understand people who decide to be a baby factory.

[missmis99]

I agree with unfriending her. No one wants to hear about having kids that you can't afford. The only thing that does is make me feel better about being smart enough to make informed decisions.

[Deleted]

and I here I am jealous that two other women on my street are having #6 this year :-)

[barefootcontessa]

May 18, 2012 20:16:57 GMT -5 @septimus said:

and I hear I am jealous that two other women on my street are having #6 this year :-)

You still have time to catch up!

[agnes]

I just don't understand the people that mass produce.

I feel so sad for LBIL's friends (twins). Their mother is pregnant again. It will be the 16th child. Yes, I said 16!

When they were over at our house after Christmas, we asked what they got for Christmas. They got nothing. Because their family can't afford it.

[grk2012]

For a minute I thought we had a mutual FB friend, but then I remembered mine is only on #5. There was a gripe last week about one of the kids not having shoes to wear. It made me sad and angry at the same time.

[Doctorblue]

One of DH's high school friends is a baby factory. Her and her husband had six together. They then divorced and she's now on baby number 9. Babies 7, 8, and 9 are all from different fathers. She's 34.

[max88]

Yea, that friend would be hidden. I would have a hard time not calling her out on her poor life choices.

[cjeanette]

May 18, 2012 20:16:57 GMT -5 @septimus said:

and I here I am jealous that two other women on my street are having #6 this year :-)

Going to guess they can afford them.

[MadamePresident]

I think big families are fun, when people can afford them. But I do hate how people complain on fb about things they have the ability to control.

[cowboyjoe]

I have a hs friend like this. Husband is in college and she stays at home with the kids. Just had #5 at 25 years old. And they sent the oldest one to live with the grandparents.

Why have kids if you can't afford them and don't want to take care of them? I feel so bad for the child she sent away when the new baby came.

I avoid her now.

[noodleskooze]

My best friend is one of fourteen. They lived simply, but could afford it. Now that most of them are grown, it's a really fun family to be around.

[iamali]

Are they Catholic (i.e. they don't believe in BC) or perhaps they are part of the Quiverfull movement?

I can't fathom this TBH. We have four (I only birthed two of them) and sometimes it feels like TOO MUCH.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2012 19:29:22 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

Are they some of those "god will provide" people? They piss me off.

Me too. I had a friend who flat out refused to work. Here response was God will provide

I told her that God won't drop a paycheck off at your door and put dinner on the table. You have to put in an effort. She didn't like that answer.

[marshmallowevening]

I agree it's very annoying, whether it is because they're in the "God will provide" camp or if they're just plain irresponsible.

This was the hardest thing for me to be around when I was going through infertility treatments. Facebook and Walmart check out line being the two main offenders for shoving it in my face.

[MixedBerryJam]

I was impressed with an acquaintance who had four under two (a singleton, twins and another singleton). But she's got nothing on your stories!

Sort of related, I lived for several years in a third world nation where children were considered a person's "retirement plan" and it was not unusual at all for a 26-year-old woman to have 6 or 8 children and not be done yet. I knew one 36yo who had 14. I also had a friend there who was a doctor and she told me that one year, every single teenage girl who entered the Job Corps program tested positive for stds.

[sratsey]

May 18, 2012 19:27:36 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

I honestly couldn't be friends w/someone like that. What a dumbass.

(ps accept me on twitter pls)

Me neither. It would be too irritating to have to listen to the bitching when she made her own bed...and I find people like that are always bitching about how sh*tty everything is when they did everything in their power to put themselves there to begin with. UGH.

[Deleted]

Who are these people??? I very Catholic & so are many of my friends yet I have not one that cannot afford/complains about the kids they have...and some have as many as 8 (5 bio, 3 adopted & a physician DH). I just do not get/know these kind of people. NFP is not brain surgery. And damn it I want a herd of kids & it's not happening...grrrr...stupid body.