Post by supertrooper1 on Nov 17, 2023 12:44:25 GMT -5
I'm off for a week starting after work today. Next week will be deep cleaning my house that is long overdue and getting ready for Thanksgiving. I also have to go into the DMV and update my name. I have procrastinated way too long after my divorce was final in January. Last week I updated my Social Security card so I can update my DL now. I'm excited to officially be back to my maiden name.
I'm not sure what we're doing this weekend. Beau's son asked if we could babysit most of the day Saturday so he and his W could go to a graduation party for a friend, but it sounds like he might not follow through with his plans. I know Beau has been wanting to go to a sports bar to watch football on Sunday, but we are both very close to reaching our first big weight loss goal, so drinking and eating at a sports bar wouldn't be a smart choice. We may just stay home and watch the game. Or if the weather is good, we may go riding.
I spent 3 days this week sick and then recovering. Had to cancel my 2 friend plans because I don’t want to pass it to them before Thanksgiving. I feel sad about it because it would have been fun. I don’t have much energy but at least my body aches and stomach pains are gone.
DD stubbed her toes and it’s bruised and swollen. She’s mad I sent her to school but I did call her out for gym. I’ll take her to urgent care today or tomorrow.
Definitely have had better weeks. We’ll see how the weekend goes.
DH comes home today. Hooray! DD has a 5:45am private lesson tomorrow. YIKES. We have no other kid stuff planned, and an early birthday dinner at the fancy fondue place on Saturday night. And that's it. I'm hoping DH will smoke something good on Sunday, I'm tired of not having anything yummy.
It was a very long week chock full of meltdowns from both kids (more dd1 than dd2, but both participated).
I met a friend for a walk today that I haven't seen in many months. She had twins back in the spring at 22.5 weeks, and the surviving twin is still in the hospital. I've been afraid to visit her because I feel like someone is always sick or on the verge of getting sick here. So a walk outside in the awesome weather felt right.
DD1 has basketball practice tonight but I'm pretty mad at the way things went in out house last night. Her meltdown was very much NOT an ADHD/NVLD thing and very much a spoiled brat thing, so I'm pretty sure I'm not bending over backwards in any way this weekend. DH and I really need a break so we may go out for a bit.
Our 17th anniversary is Saturday so I made reservations at a couple of different places. We will see where we end up.
Sunday is the kids' piano recital. My dad still isn't mobile enough to get there, but my mom will come. It's cute and they've worked hard. I'm excited to see how they do.
Post by librarychica on Nov 17, 2023 13:16:07 GMT -5
I was working until, well, I was caught red handed by my kid at 3AM. “Mama! Why are you at your desk? Go to bed!” So I am exhausted.
But! The stuff I was angsting over went well and I will be signing off at 3 and not returning until Monday morning.
We were supposed to go on a group kayaking trip tomorrow, but it’s going to be too choppy on the lake. If it’s nice I might take the girls to a calmer, sheltered spring run after DD2’s music lesson, or maybe Sunday. We will see. Otherwise, no plans. Maybe dog park, mYeb some ice skating, maybe just house prep. My house was supposed to be cleaned professionally Monday and it was not because the cleaner unfortunately is sick, so I will also be doing some pre-thanksgiving cleaning.
Kids are off next week but H and I are working. The girls are taking several sewing and paper-folding courses at the rec center. My family is coming over Thursday. We will go see H’s, much larger, family on Saturday. I want to get some outdoor holiday decorations up as well because otherwise it won’t get done.
Everyone has started leaving at my work. I’m leaving by 2:00 and going to Whole Foods. I’m off all next week and I plan to clean my house like crazy so I can decorate for Christmas. I’m excited about that. I feel like our entire lives are just insanely out of control, and the next week off is going to help me get us back on track.
I feel like we have 10,000 things going on and I can't keep it all straight. Last night I was trying to get DH to sit down with me and map out a plan of attack for the weekend without it spiraling into an anxiety/panic attack but it ended up with nothing resolved and him telling me it's all good. So that wasn't super helpful.
Tonight we have friends coming over for dinner. DH was bored today so he made white veggie lasagna, regular lasagna with red sauce from scratch, chicken soup, beef stew, and there's something else still going in the instant pot. There will be 7 of us, 4 kids. I don't know what he thinks we're going to do with all of this food. I love being married to a restaurant chef, but also... he's insane. In the best way. (This also explains why I have gained so much weight since meeting him)
Other things to fit in to this weekend: our annual family visit to the local festival of trees, an overnight trip to the city to see MIL, grad school homework, marketing projects DH would like done for the restaurant, and I had hoped to put up our Christmas tree while we have the kids and before we leave for our Thanksgiving vacation.
When we get on that plane to Mexico for our honeymoon on Thursday morning, I am having a mimosa! I cannot wait for some down time!
Work has been crazy this week so I will be glad to log off in a few hours. Tonight DH and I are going to dinner and a comedy show. DD and I are attending a taekwondo weapons seminar all weekend so I don't know what DH and the boys will do. Next week I'll bust my butt to get my work project done so I can take some random days off soon. I'm getting burned out and need a break soon. Thanks to DH, the house is mostly clean, so we are all set for Thanksgiving. We'll head to my Mom's on Thanksgiving day and my in-laws will be here on Friday. Since this will be the first holidays without my Dad, I'm not sure how to feel. I'm also trying to help my Mom with getting her place ready for hosting while keeping an eye on her emotions. All I know is to be gentle with myself and try to go with the flow.
My sister and her family of 5 fly in tomorrow morning for the week. DS3 has preschool Monday and Tuesday next week, DS2 and his same age cousin are doing ‘critter camp’ Monday - Wednesday at the ritzy humane society, and the four big kids are doing some morning surf lessons Monday-Wednesday next week. I still have some work meetings Monday/Tuesday but I’m trying to take Wednesday off. Then we do our town turkey trot and host 18 people for thanksgiving.
I couldn’t sleep last night thinking of all the things I had to do. But the list I made at 3 am helped me organize my workday and I got a ton done I did have a really nice 5-mile run along the ocean this morning - it was a gorgeous fall morning. We’re supposed to have nice weather for the holiday week.
mae0111, I'm here in solidarity on the meltdown front. They're so exhausting! On Wednesday morning, DD1 had a total meltdown and convinced me to let her take a day off school. I actually came home that night to a sweet, happy kid, clean bedroom and kitchen. Still, I hadn't recovered.
I'm calling this week a long month. I'm in the middle of some big, but interesting work projects, so spending much more time on work than usual. My parents are visiting from out of state. This was planned before my only sibling found out that her cancer had resurged, but the trip has taken on a new meaning. We had meetings with doctors this week. They went well. H, who is a bio-mechanical engineer and works closely with a few surgeons, is pushing for my sister to get a second opinion on her surgery and treatment plan. My sister is considering this, but, fortunately for her, feels comfortable and confident with the plan as it is.
We had a family Thanksgiving last night, which was really nice! My parents hosted at their rented condo.
For the rest of the weekend....I'm cleaning this morning as I'm hosting my parents for a few days. Nothing major going on today. Tomorrow, we meet one of my cousins in a nearby town for the day. Hanging out with this cousin and her family is always a bit of a project 🤷♀️ When we were younger, she connected with my parents far more naturally than I did. She was like the golden child. I completely acknowledge there's still some angst there. Her daughter and DD1 are the same age, but act very differently too.
Next week, the D's have school and had and I work Monday and Tuesday. We travel to H's best friend's home for Thanksgiving Wednesday. It should be a good get-away. It will just be H's best friend, his wife, their infant baby and us for Thanksgiving. I really appreciate a quieter holiday this year
DD has been having meltdowns probably the last month. She is nuerotypical so this probably won’t work for kids that aren’t but I started putting her in a 5 minute time out. If helps because she uses the time out to calm down and there is no emotional reaction from me. As in we are not yelling at each other. But she doesn’t tend to long meltdowns- they are rather short so I think that helps. We’ll see how it goes but I think she’s capable of emotional regulation but is getting into the habit of not regulating.
I cleaned out a closet this morning and that feels so good. It’s this weird “media closet” next to our family room that was full of every backpack and lunch box my kids have had for school from preschool on. I even found a freaking nap mat in there! Now I just need to box up the shelves of CDs we have that have not been played in at least a decade. Those are going into our storage area under our stairs. Then we will have room for storing stuff we actually need to store instead of crap we do not need.
I feel like this is a huge step toward calming our chaos. The other huge undertaking will be going through all of my clothes so I can actually find what I’m looking for and so my room doesn’t look like a clothes hoarder lives there.
Aside from the getting up part and scary drive in the dark, pouring rain, on a freeway with no visible lane lines, I kind of loved DD’s 5:45am lesson today. I don’t know if I want to commit to them long term though. So peaceful, no crowds. There were only 4 other skaters on the ice for most of her ice time.
I think we’ve made a decision on floor plan for renovation. As expected, it’s turning into an entire first floor overhaul. We have a couple tweaks we want to make to their plans, but yay.
Friday was hectic. DD had an accupuncture/therapy appointment at noon and I didn't make her go back to school. I felt like all I did was run back and forth from the house and the only thing I got accomplished was laundry. Today/Saturday DD had a practice meet at 1 that lasted until after 4. DD did great but it was so slow and quiet compared to a normal meet. Sunday DH is going golfing with his boss and DD and I need to do some house work.