Post by flygirl22 on Sept 26, 2012 10:22:41 GMT -5
Um... Me-95% DH-5%
I might be being generous. He vacuums once a month? And sometimes helps me clear the dishes from the table.
I don't mind though. I'm kind of a control freak. I cook, because I'm a better cook and I have more time. He works 10 hour days, I work 9. I meal plan because I cook and know how to use left overs etc. I shop because I don't like to buy a bunch of crap. (And I make the list) If he helped with some of the cleaning I wouldn't mind, but when he does, it's usually when we are getting ready for company, and he usually picks something like the master bedroom.. Um, thanks?
I'm a SAHM to two small children (3yrs and 9 mos). I have a house cleaner come in once a month so the house doesn't get too out of control and we have a weekly gardener. When DH is home (i.e. not working late or on a business trip) he does older DD's bath and bedtime routine. He also will take out trash or do dishes *when asked*. On the weekends he does a bit more, maybe making breakfast or helping with dinner. He might grill during the week if he is home early enough. I guess I would say that he does 10%, I do 70%, and we have 20% outsourced.
Why would a lawyer not believe the 90/10 split? It seems reasonable enough for a guy that works a lot with a SAH spouse.
What does he mean that no lawyer would believe that your household was 90/10? I know a lot of households that are basically 100/0.
I am guessing he means that one would think a plaintiff is exaggerating if he/she says that he/she does 90% of the work?
Yes the second sentence.
Yeah, I just find this funny considering some of the 100/0 households I speak of are people I know from my H's insurance defense firm (where the husband of the couple is the 0 and the wife the 100).
Post by ondaflipside on Sept 26, 2012 10:29:30 GMT -5
Vacuuming, maintenance, trash and yardwork - mostly him Cooking, bookkeeping, dog care and laundry - mostly me Washing dishes, general cleaning - divided
Our cleaning lady comes about once a month on average.
Post by jillboston on Sept 26, 2012 10:30:24 GMT -5
I do 70% of the cleaning and all of the laundry. I do 65% of the cooking (DH does all the grilling), 80% of grocery shopping, 40% cleanup. He does 80% of yardwork (I did mow once this year though) and 100% of trash and recycle. Fall and spring yard cleanup (100 bags of mostly pine needles) 60% DH. He does the bills, I do the investments and he does everything related to computers and electronics and most travel reservations/research. It works for us. He will do more whenever I ask on all of the above.
Post by mrssavy42112 on Sept 26, 2012 10:43:43 GMT -5
Right now it’s 80Me : 20DH. And that’s being generous. We did sit together and DH volunteered to take care of the kitchen, dining room & bathroom, and I do the living room & bedroom. Yet he rarely does. It’s the age-old problem of what’s considered dirty enough that needs cleaning. DH will wait >1wk before attempting to clean the kitchen. Yet we run out of cups in 3 days. It doesn’t work. So I end up doing most of it because I can’t take the smell or can’t reach the sink. I do all the cooking & food shopping also. Fun times.
Mind you, DH works 35h at 1 job and I work 40h at one, then another 10h at my second job. It’ll make me go crazy if I think about it too much.
Post by kelly072206 on Sept 26, 2012 11:06:52 GMT -5
If everything is averaged out probably 45% me and 55% DH. He does most of the cooking and yard work. I do all the grocery shopping and finances. We try to split the rest pretty evenly.
It's about 50/50, depending on our schedules. Basically, who ever is home the most gets to do most of the housework. We pick up each other's slack pretty well. If DH is working long hours, I'll do it all, if I'm working long hours, DH will do it all. If we're working about the same amount of hours, we'll both come home and clean. I really kind of miss the days when DH wasn't working in the winter and I came home to a clean house everyday. The end goal is to have time to sit down together in the evening.
Post by HoneySpider on Sept 26, 2012 11:15:19 GMT -5
This is a work in progress for us. We're scheduling more stuff now in terms of chores so some of the stuff that previously just wasn't getting done is now getting done. We each have things we do on our own and things we do together. I don't know how to divide that up....I guess maybe it's close to 50/50. I would probably say more like 60/40 me and he would say more like 60/40 him
Hmmm...if taking care of the baby is included, I'd say about 80:20 with me doing the majority of the work. We have a cleaning lady and a lawn service but I do pretty much all the baby related stuff (he does drop off and pick up and puts her to bed on the nights I work, I do pretty much everything else). I do all the cooking and all the laundry and pretty much all the household shopping and clutter pick up. He takes the garbage out once a week and does 80% of the dishes. He is usually the one who calls for repairmen, etc.
This is us, too. I told him I hope he's a better wife than I am after he's laid off in a month or two. He said he would be. Then he was all, "Oh, wait." lol.
Post by thatgirl2478 on Sept 26, 2012 11:19:49 GMT -5
DH is responsible for:
Night time child duties (bath, story, bed), feeding & cleaning up after the critters (dogs & cats), trash, lawn mowing, cleaning the microwave, lifting heavy stuff.
I'm responsible for:
Cooking, general cleaning (floors, counters, toilets, windows as needed, dishes), laundry, grocery shopping, clothes shopping for DD, bill paying & contractor hiring, etc.
Post by catsarecute on Sept 26, 2012 12:10:48 GMT -5
I do 70%, he does 30%. He does all of the yard work except on special occasions when I feel motivated to do it.
I grocery shop, clean the kitchen and tidy up the house on a daily basis. I wash the towels and the sheets. I'm the one who gets up early on weekends to feed the cat. I vacuum and take the trash out.
He does the yardwork, dusts and mops the hardwood floors. When he remembers, he does his laundry but I'm usually the one to fold it. I refuse to put it away. He scoops the kitty litter which to me, is worth its weight in gold. I've happily taken on more household duties to not do that job.
I might be being generous. He vacuums once a month? And sometimes helps me clear the dishes from the table.
I don't mind though. I'm kind of a control freak. I cook, because I'm a better cook and I have more time. He works 10 hour days, I work 9. I meal plan because I cook and know how to use left overs etc. I shop because I don't like to buy a bunch of crap. (And I make the list) If he helped with some of the cleaning I wouldn't mind, but when he does, it's usually when we are getting ready for company, and he usually picks something like the master bedroom.. Um, thanks?
That is my husband. He focuses on the most random stuff to clean when we have company. I had to work on a Saturday so he spent the entire day cleaning the house preparing for friends to come over that night. The one thing he didn't clean: The downstairs bathroom that our guests would be using. It just didn't cross his mind to clean it. What.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 26, 2012 12:17:34 GMT -5
Right now it's about 50% cleaning lady, 60% me, and -10% husband. He creates more mess than he cleans up. And that is giving him credit for mowing the lawn and taking out the trash when he is in town. Seriously, I have soooo much more to clean up when he is around. Shoes and crap everywhere (that the kids get into), dishes and food left out, and his idea of doing laundry is putting it in the washer and not doing anything with it after that.
H- sometimes picks up from daycare. Sometimes picks up dinner. Garbage/recycling, gardening (as a hobby). Repairs stuff if broken.
Me-DD drop off/ pick up, cook all meals not take out or eaten out, laundry, dishes, DD bedtime, DD baths, food shopping, etc etc etc (ie everything else)
Housekeeper - clean. Other than laundry and dishes after we eat, neither of us do any of it.
HOA takes care of outside maintenance.
I love H but it feels like he does crap around here. He also works 6 days a week, 12-14 hour days. Then again, I'm working 10-12 hr days + work from home myself....
It's 50/50 most of the year. I have 8 weeks off in the summer and do 90% then (he still mows the lawn and does laundry). And during his busy season I take on most of it again because he works 6 day weeks, 10hrs a day and I don't want his one day off to be spent doing housework.
75% me, 25% him, but since I only work part-time that makes the most sense. I do pretty much all the inside cleaning, plus cooking. He takes care of maintenance, the cars, and the yard. Plus he'll chip in to help inside if we're prepping for a party or something. It works for us.