Early-mid December Randoms

[kdubs923]

After years of proposing other options (joint experience gift or secret santa), I FINALLY got my ILs to agree to stop doing presents for all the adults. This has eliminated 16 adults from my shopping list and I feel like I am so ahead of things right now (and rich, lol)! I have some random things to pick up - teacher gift cards and scratch tickets/candy/stocking stuffers, but that's about it. I might actually enjoy the holidays this year!

AND

DS (age 10) for the first time in his life, stayed dry all night long last night!! He's always needed overnight pull ups and just has never been dry. Pedi was never concerned. DS is nonstop all day and just sleeps hard once he finally stops moving. Out of nowhere, this week he decided he wanted to try sleeping without the pull ups. The first night was a big mess, the second night a smaller mess, and last night was the 3rd night and he was dry! I did wake him when I went to bed around 11pm so he could pee. But he made it to the morning without an accident! Only downside is he's now waking earlier in the morning, either because he had an accident or because he had to pee this morning. He did go back to sleep after using the toilet this morning and slept another 45 minutes or so... but the poor kiddo looks exhausted. But also very proud to have made the night! I'm thrilled to think I might be able to cancel my subscribe and save pull-up order finally!

[countthestars]

Yay! My DS is 8 and is still pretty consistently wet in the mornings (including a leak at least once a week). I've been bringing him to the bathroom around 11pm and luckily he goes right back to sleep after, but I am hoping we'll get to the no pull ups stage soon.

My random is that I am behind and unorganized and stressed but I'm also struggling with my ADHD and not completing things when I can. I need a wife or something to help me out. I considered increasing our cleaners from bi-weekly to weekly, but it's more the day to day functioning that I'm struggling with than the cleaning. Sigh.

[scm1011]

Glad to hear that others have older kids that don't stay dry at night. My 7 yo DS is pretty consistently wet in the morning too. Glad there is a light at the end of your tunnel, kdubs923 !

My random is that I think I need to seek help for my DD's anxiety. She's 4.5 and it seems out of the range of normal and the littlest thing sends her spiraling. She'll overhear me say something to DS like "You're doing a great job buddy, I love you so much" and she'll start crying all "You don't love me?? You only love DS??". I don't think she's being manipulative - she seems truly shaken at times.

[ssmjlm]

I’m a huge supporter of public schools and teachers and am on the damn PTA, but I really dislike my kid’s 2 teachers this year. They are SO FOCUSED on state testing they can’t see the forest through the trees. And they send random online grades that when I ask, aren’t actual grades assignments, but blame the online platform.

One sent a fairly rude email one day and I ended up forwarding it to the Principal with a note of “I understand the frustration, but this was not appropriate.” Further the issues of grades not talking to each other boggles my mind. Get up and walk down the hall! The teacher was complaining about 4th grade in the email and I’m thinking “so setup a meeting of the two grades?” That’s what we would do at work.

It just seems like a lot of finger pointing. And I don’t care because it’s 5th grade, but E gets herself worked up about it.

[VillainV]

C is 9.5 and still has bouts of bed-wetting fairly frequently. Sometimes he’ll go 7-10 days waking up dry, then will wake up wet for like 5-6 days in a row. He seems to do much better since he started ADHD medication a few months ago, and accidents are more frequent on days that he hasn’t taken his medication (weekends and holidays usually). I think he’s more attentive to his body’s needs when medicated, and used the restroom more frequently during the day maybe?


[mention]ssmjlm [/mention] In our current district, teacher bonuses are tied to state test scores. My H didn’t get his bonus last school year because even though his kids scored sky high on the tests, they didn’t show “adequate improvement” from BOY to EOY…meaning his 5th graders didn’t go from an 8th grade reading level to a 9th grade reading level because he’s a 5th grade teacher and doesn’t teach an 8th grade curriculum. So we are now missing out on several thousand dollars. In a district that doesn’t pay very well, that bonus is pretty important. So now I can understand why some teachers focus so much on test scores :-(

[mccallister84]

Dec 9, 2023 10:06:08 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

I’m a huge supporter of public schools and teachers and am on the damn PTA, but I really dislike my kid’s 2 teachers this year. They are SO FOCUSED on state testing they can’t see the forest through the trees. And they send random online grades that when I ask, aren’t actual grades assignments, but blame the online platform.

One sent a fairly rude email one day and I ended up forwarding it to the Principal with a note of “I understand the frustration, but this was not appropriate.” Further the issues of grades not talking to each other boggles my mind. Get up and walk down the hall! The teacher was complaining about 4th grade in the email and I’m thinking “so setup a meeting of the two grades?” That’s what we would do at work.

It just seems like a lot of finger pointing. And I don’t care because it’s 5th grade, but E gets herself worked up about it.

She shouldn’t have been complaining about 4th grade to you but it’s not as easy as “set up a meeting of the two grades.” Most likely the teachers have different planning and lunch times so they don’t have any common time during the day when they are both free.

[ssmjlm]

Dec 9, 2023 13:10:45 GMT -5 mccallister84 said:

Dec 9, 2023 10:06:08 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

I’m a huge supporter of public schools and teachers and am on the damn PTA, but I really dislike my kid’s 2 teachers this year. They are SO FOCUSED on state testing they can’t see the forest through the trees. And they send random online grades that when I ask, aren’t actual grades assignments, but blame the online platform.

One sent a fairly rude email one day and I ended up forwarding it to the Principal with a note of “I understand the frustration, but this was not appropriate.” Further the issues of grades not talking to each other boggles my mind. Get up and walk down the hall! The teacher was complaining about 4th grade in the email and I’m thinking “so setup a meeting of the two grades?” That’s what we would do at work.

It just seems like a lot of finger pointing. And I don’t care because it’s 5th grade, but E gets herself worked up about it.

She shouldn’t have been complaining about 4th grade to you but it’s not as easy as “set up a meeting of the two grades.” Most likely the teachers have different planning and lunch times so they don’t have any common time during the day when they are both free.

Her email basically insinuated that 4th didn’t teach multiplication well enough and she was going to email a digital file of flashcards for parents to print at home to practice.

I felt as a parent it wasn’t worded well and to call out an entire grade instead of problem solving didn’t sit right with me. Even if it means an after school meeting, I think they need to come together.

[al dente]

I could kiss whoever came up with our schools spirit week themes. It's so easy and basic like sports day (your favorite team or team you're on), holiday color, pajama day. Last year her preschool had such weirdly specific things like "Disney Christmas".

[konapoppy]

I have managed to finish my shopping and wrapping. Just two things to assemble Christmas Eve. And I got some things used and off of buy nothing. I’m pretty proud of myself. Caveat: we only buy for our kids and it is already Hanukkah.

Now I just need to stay out of the stores lol