Post by freshsqueezed on Jan 3, 2024 23:29:36 GMT -5
My son started at a new school this week. A mom we know through scouts offered to host a playdate at her home with her son, my son, and two others from the class to help him get to know some kids. Should I take a snack to share? A gift for her? Something else? I find this incredibly generous and helpful so I’d like to bring something.
Post by wanderingback on Jan 3, 2024 23:56:42 GMT -5
It has not occurred to me to bring something to a casual gathering for kids like that. Also, no one has ever brought anything to me, nor would I expect it.
You’re absolutely fine to bring nothing! But it’s fairly common, here, to bring snacks for the kids to share. Sometimes we’ll stop for a box of donuts, or get a bag of popcorn at Costco, or whatever snack is popular in the crowd.
I wouldn’t expect anyone coming over to bring anything, but snacks for the kids are never turned down. I’d feel super weird if someone brought a hostess gift or anything like that.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Jan 4, 2024 7:52:27 GMT -5
What time of day is the playdate? I agree that you don't need to bring anything, but it is a kind gesture, and if it's morning/before lunch, agree that stopping to get donuts or donut holes would be a perfect level of casual, hey I stopped and brought this small treat for the kids to have, thanks for having them! I'd actually probably do munchkins from dunkin even if it was afternoon, my kids love those .
maybe ask what you can bring? Offer a few snack suggestions that everyone can share (cheese and crackers, etc) and if the host says "no need" then don't bring anything.
At the most I’d do a box of donut holes, but I don’t think it’s necessary. Are you staying for the playdate, or just dropping him off? If you’re staying, maybe ask if you can pick up coffee on the way in?
That’s really nice! If anything, I’d bring some kind of snack that could be for the kids or that she could hold onto for the future. I don’t know if there are any allergies?? But I also think it would be OK not to bring anything and just tell her how nice this is. Or if it’s convenient, maybe you could text her on the way and let her know that you’re stopping at Starbucks or similar to pick up coffee, and ask what she would like. .
We went to our first group playdate recently, and I brought some little bags of cheddar bunnies in the diaper bag, but mostly because my son has a food allergy and I wanted to be sure we had something safe for him to eat, and then enough to share if he did eat them. It ended up not mattering since the snacks they provided were safe for him.
We did bring a toy or two to share which went over well especially with the host kid, who otherwise was just surrounded by his own toys whereas everyone else had new to them toys to play with.
No one else brought anything. I think it's totally fine to not bring anything, but if you'd like to do something, I like the idea of donuts and/or coffee.
Yes, just ask what you can bring, or even say "I'd like to bring some snacks for the boys - is there anything specific I could grab?" so that you don't bring something she has. And if she says not to worry about it, then don't.
But I agree - nothing more than snacks for the kids. This isn't a hostess gift situation!
Generally in those situations, I grab a box of munchkins from Dunkin and text the hostess to see if she wants a coffee.
I would love it if another mom offered to get snacks for the kids and coffee for me! That has never happened.
If I do play dates at a park I always bring enough snack for the kids to share. This time of year play dates are at my house (due to DS' pet allergies). The other parents never bring anything.
Generally in those situations, I grab a box of munchkins from Dunkin and text the hostess to see if she wants a coffee.
I would love it if another mom offered to get snacks for the kids and coffee for me! That has never happened.
If I do play dates at a park I always bring enough snack for the kids to share. This time of year play dates are at my house (due to DS' pet allergies). The other parents never bring anything.
Seriously if somebody brought me coffee I would be thrilled! I think that’s a great idea if you can do it!
Post by freshsqueezed on Jan 5, 2024 16:48:43 GMT -5
Ok I just asked if I could bring anything. It wasn’t really about bringing snacks for a get together. I wanted to show appreciation for the kindness she is showing us.