I'm telling H today

[blondemoment123]

DS will be at my moms and I'm telling H when he gets home from work this evening. I'm scared to death. I have all my talking points and have rehearsed a million times. I don't know how he'll react and I feel so incredibly guilty.

Rambling thoughts, I'm just so scared to do this and so sad for him.

Any tips? Posting and running to get some errnads done, but will definitely check back.

[dochas]

I'm sorry I don't have any tips. But I admire your strength. You'll both get through this!

[heygrey]

No advice, just support!

[cmeon]

I'm sorry about the sucky feelings now, but you're going to feel better soon! Good luck!

[expectantsteelerfan]

No tips but I hope it goes as well as possible and you feel the weight lift as soon as it's over.

[nsl]

Sending you lots of love and support!

[tacokick]

I hope it goes better than expected! Make sure you eat today!

[emilyinchile]

You are not responsible for anyone else's emotions or reactions. You can't control them. All you can do is act and speak in a way that you know to be kind and respectful, even if it's not what the other person wants from you, and they will react however they react, and it's not on you.

You got this ❤️

[penguingrrl]

Good luck!

[deadwing]

Good luck. My advice would be to get straight to the point and don't leave room for ambiguity. You'll feel better once you've told him.

[maudefindlay]

Try to not focus on feeling bad for him. Neither of you are happy rn. This is you doing something hard for your happiness. Maybe he will end up happier too/maybe not, but no one is happy currently. He will either sink or swim, but that's on him and his choice, not yours. Sending you a big hug and I'm so glad you are getting support from your family.

[jackie011]

You have spent a lot of time planning and focusing on this and you are prepared. You can do this!

[shinyhappy]

Good luck to you! This part is likely the worst with the anticipatory anxiety.

[styme46]

No advice, just support and hugs.

[abs]

Best of luck today! Just be honest and straight to the point. We support you!

[W.T.Faulkner]

I can’t imagine how difficult this is.

This Internet stranger is proud of you, though. Between supporting your flourishing kid and finally, FINALLY putting yourself and your needs into consideration, you have been unbelievably strong.

This sucks, and I hope the anticipatory fear is worse than doing it. But I know that you’ll feel so much better on the other side of it, better than you have in years.

[momin2013]

Sending you love and support - you can do this.

Take note of this date in the calendar; one year from now I promise you will be much happier and you will tell anyone that this was one of the smartest decisions you’ve ever made.

[pandorica]

Good luck! You will feel so much better once this is out in the open.

Do not take on the feelings of a grown man. He can take care of himself.

[sofamonkey]

I’m really proud of you too. I wouldn’t worry too much about what he says. You don’t have to have good enough reasons or anything like that. I want a divorce is a complete sentence.

HUGE hugs to you today. We are all here for you. You deserve this happiness at the end of this.

[meganew]

I don’t have any advice, but I have lots of creepy internet stranger hugs. Tomorrow will come and this part will be in the past.

[Jalapeñomel]

Good luck!

[beerlover]

More creepy Internet stranger support. You’ve got this. ❤️ you’re such a good, selfless mother to your son and you deserve happiness too.

[livinitup]

Give yourself some grace if he doesn’t react the way or ways you planned or anticipated. You’ve been thinking of him and planning for him for years - anticipating his needs. It may be a shock when he does something out of character. Or doesn’t believe you. Or is mean. Or a million different things.

You will be okay! Give yourself some room to adjust and pivot. ::Hugs::

[bsp36]

Good luck and hugs to you. ❤️

[sugarbear1]

You got this.
I've been there. The moment the words were out of my mouth was one of the best of my life, honestly. I felt strong and capable and also kind and honest. It was so hard, but so worth it.

[ssmjlm]

Good Luck!

You’re putting yourself and your DS first. Just remember how strong you are!

[AAM2012]

Sending you positive vibes, you got this!

[konapoppy]

Good luck!!

[babsbunny]

We're here for you and rooting for you to have a smooth discussion!

[rosiebear]

Good luck. I hope it goes more smoothly than you’re anticipating.

I don’t know if this is helpful, but I was completely surprised by my ex’s response. I honestly thought, because we were both so unhappy, that he would be somewhat relieved. Or at least not act entirely brand new.

That didn’t happen, and at first he loved bombed me until it was clear my mind was made up. I would be happy to talk about what happened after that, but I think I’ve given enough unsolicited anecdotes.

In any event, my thoughts are with you and I hope it goes well. I promise you you will be better off for this.