Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Jan 29, 2024 8:37:21 GMT -5
I have so many. I'm a people pleaser through and through. I always feel responsible for how others are feeling. I have decision paralysis with big and little decisions. I always thought of myself as a "follower" and "easy going" because I am down for mostly whatever as long as someone else makes the plans. That is still true, but I now see where I'm almost scared to make the plans because I'm afraid that I will mess them up.
Post by followyourarrow on Jan 29, 2024 9:15:15 GMT -5
I ask one million questions. I never stop. I've been this way since I learned to talk. My dad used to limit me to one question per 5 miles when in the car. Just this morning FI admitted to sometimes changing our plans if he's not up to answering all the questions I'll have during a specific outing. Yesterday we took a long drive and went out through the country and saw some parts of Louisiana I hadn't seen yet. My questions included do alligators eat during the winter? I know that alligators have to bury themselves in the cold, but they still have to breath right? What kind of turtle was that? How does the ferry work? Is the ferry captain a different kind of captain than you work for? And on and on.
I ask one million questions. I never stop. I've been this way since I learned to talk. My dad used to limit me to one question per 5 miles when in the car. Just this morning FI admitted to sometimes changing our plans if he's not up to answering all the questions I'll have during a specific outing. Yesterday we took a long drive and went out through the country and saw some parts of Louisiana I hadn't seen yet. My questions included do alligators eat during the winter? I know that alligators have to bury themselves in the cold, but they still have to breath right? What kind of turtle was that? How does the ferry work? Is the ferry captain a different kind of captain than you work for? And on and on.
I also do this, but in more of a learning situation rather than conversational. My DH often gets frustrated with me because I ask too many questions. I am aware of it, I acknowledge it but I have no idea how to change it. I ask the questions because I don't know the answer already and I want to learn. If I don't ask the question to get the answer, how will I ever learn the thing?? It's a vicious cycle.
I ask one million questions. I never stop. I've been this way since I learned to talk. My dad used to limit me to one question per 5 miles when in the car. Just this morning FI admitted to sometimes changing our plans if he's not up to answering all the questions I'll have during a specific outing. Yesterday we took a long drive and went out through the country and saw some parts of Louisiana I hadn't seen yet. My questions included do alligators eat during the winter? I know that alligators have to bury themselves in the cold, but they still have to breath right? What kind of turtle was that? How does the ferry work? Is the ferry captain a different kind of captain than you work for? And on and on.
I am also this way. I like to think of it as intellectual curiosity lol My dad is WAY worse than me and it drives me insane so I try to remember that when I'm with H so I don't annoy him like my dad annoys me.
(and yes, alligators will keep just their noses above the surface while in brumation)
I think I’m very in tune with reading people’s reactions and emotions to things and I always take it on to the point of paralysis sometimes. Also, similar to the other poster, if I’m cleaning bathrooms, H better look out because I get super pissed (pardon the pun) and I want to take off someone’s head (figuratively and..)
I ask one million questions. I never stop. I've been this way since I learned to talk. My dad used to limit me to one question per 5 miles when in the car. Just this morning FI admitted to sometimes changing our plans if he's not up to answering all the questions I'll have during a specific outing. Yesterday we took a long drive and went out through the country and saw some parts of Louisiana I hadn't seen yet. My questions included do alligators eat during the winter? I know that alligators have to bury themselves in the cold, but they still have to breath right? What kind of turtle was that? How does the ferry work? Is the ferry captain a different kind of captain than you work for? And on and on.
I am also this way. I like to think of it as intellectual curiosity lol My dad is WAY worse than me and it drives me insane so I try to remember that when I'm with H so I don't annoy him like my dad annoys me.
(and yes, alligators will keep just their noses above the surface while in brumation)
This is when I just have to stop asking question and look it up on my phone. DH isn't likely to know how alligators eat in the winter anyway. I mean sometimes I think/ act like he knows everything, but he really doesn't.
Oh also I'm a big "devils advocate" person. I like to consider all sides of an argument so that I can feel confident about where I stand on it. My H will say I argue everything but I really just feel like I'm discussing bc things are rarely black and white. We had to agree to disagree on that one LOL. I try to limit my "both sides" tendencies unless it's really important.
I have a deep fear that everyone is always mad at me. It comes from my people pleasing tendencies. I can't handle knowing someone is disappointed/mad/upset with me.
Post by Doggy Mommy on Jan 29, 2024 10:24:21 GMT -5
I forget things right after dh says it. "Can you start the dishwasher?" "Sure" 10 min later "Did you start the dishwasher?" "I forgot."
I go through phases. I ran for 2 or 3 years, was always out running. Stopped running and started reading constantly, that lasted a few years. There was a year of Zumba and dance workouts. Crafting was 2020-2022, waned a lot in 2023. Now I'm totally over crafting but I have a whole crafting room with tons of supplies. Now I'm back to reading.
I ask one million questions. I never stop. I've been this way since I learned to talk. My dad used to limit me to one question per 5 miles when in the car. Just this morning FI admitted to sometimes changing our plans if he's not up to answering all the questions I'll have during a specific outing. Yesterday we took a long drive and went out through the country and saw some parts of Louisiana I hadn't seen yet. My questions included do alligators eat during the winter? I know that alligators have to bury themselves in the cold, but they still have to breath right? What kind of turtle was that? How does the ferry work? Is the ferry captain a different kind of captain than you work for? And on and on.
I also do this, but in more of a learning situation rather than conversational. My DH often gets frustrated with me because I ask too many questions. I am aware of it, I acknowledge it but I have no idea how to change it. I ask the questions because I don't know the answer already and I want to learn. If I don't ask the question to get the answer, how will I ever learn the thing?? It's a vicious cycle.
MH can be like this, and DUDE I don't know anything about alligators why are you asking me?? How many times do I have to say, "I don't know" to you? Google that shit.
Post by W.T.Faulkner on Jan 29, 2024 10:36:57 GMT -5
My toxic trait is that I did not respond to this thread, but responded in the one re: significant others, and could have rattled off 48 toxic traits about my husband.
I ask one million questions. I never stop. I've been this way since I learned to talk. My dad used to limit me to one question per 5 miles when in the car. Just this morning FI admitted to sometimes changing our plans if he's not up to answering all the questions I'll have during a specific outing. Yesterday we took a long drive and went out through the country and saw some parts of Louisiana I hadn't seen yet. My questions included do alligators eat during the winter? I know that alligators have to bury themselves in the cold, but they still have to breath right? What kind of turtle was that? How does the ferry work? Is the ferry captain a different kind of captain than you work for? And on and on.
LOL I recently drove DD and her friend to an event, and learned that their teacher placed a 5-questions-a-day limit on DD's friend, which apparently wasn't enough because then she lowered it to 3 questions. I was dying listening to them talk about it.
Note: the friend is a very good student; I don't think this rule applies to actual questions related to assignments or anything.
I'm intensely private and keep like 99% of what I'm thinking or feeling to myself. I'm deeply introspective and an analyst so by the time I figure out what I feel and what I want to do, I do not want anyone else's input. But then also feel disappointed that no one truly knows me.
I've become more of an introvert as I've gotten older. But most of the time I'm perfectly happy with it.
My most toxic trait is I'm a "blurter". My intentions are usually good, but I get impatient with BS and will say something "OMG...are you serious??" Depending on my audience, this can hurt feelings. Depending on my mood, I may or may not care if what I have to say is misconstrued. lol
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I'm intensely private and keep like 99% of what I'm thinking or feeling to myself. I'm deeply introspective and an analyst so by the time I figure out what I feel and what I want to do, I do not want anyone else's input. But then also feel disappointed that no one truly knows me.
I definitely don't want input on some/ many situations. We all have to make decisions for ourselves at the end of the day. But I will share after I've made the decision unless they are the type of person to contradict my decision which luckily none of my friends are.
If I tell a story or share something that just happened, I provide each and every minor detail. Sometimes, I provide a backstory with additional details without being prompted.
My toxic trait is that I did not respond to this thread, but responded in the one re: significant others, and could have rattled off 48 toxic traits about my husband.
It took me 48 hour to figure mine out. I had like 10 for him instantly lololol.
Oh also I'm a big "devils advocate" person. I like to consider all sides of an argument so that I can feel confident about where I stand on it. My H will say I argue everything but I really just feel like I'm discussing bc things are rarely black and white. We had to agree to disagree on that one LOL. I try to limit my "both sides" tendencies unless it's really important.
Oooh I do this too. I know I've done it here. I think this would be what my H would consider my toxic trait because he's always like "why are you standing up for them?" when I'm really just trying to understand the other side.
I realize it can be annoying but also, I believe that it makes me a more empathetic person!
If I tell a story or share something that just happened, I provide each and every minor detail. Sometimes, I provide a backstory with additional details without being prompted.
My husband does this and it drives me CRAZY.
I guess that's another toxic trait of mine. I am impatient about many/most things.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Jan 29, 2024 13:34:38 GMT -5
Definitely the anxious passenger
Also, the 'I know there is a problem that needs to be fixed and I just can't pull the trigger" is me. Lately though this problem is coming in the form of 'yes I know my child NEEDS treatment but with the way laws are structured, it's totally out of my hands' which exacerbates all kinds of things.
Also nodding along when people with 'normal' kids give me their well meaning advice on how to deal with mine. Most of it I've heard already and no, it hasn't worked. So go ahead and give me all your parenting wisdom (that I've already heard) and I'll nod along and say thank you and never use it.