What is your toxic trait?

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

I see this all the time on the Internet™️, I think it's akin to annoying shit you do but somehow more colorful.

Urban Dictionary: A part of somebody's personality that doesn't seem so bad at first but gets worse and worse until the only way you'd tolerate it is if you have a fetish for it.

My toxic trait is that I talk to all animals in a goofy baby voice. I can't stop, ok.

[DotAndBuzz]

I will re-load the dishwasher if it's not done how I like it/aka the right way.

Does that count?

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

Jan 26, 2024 19:58:14 GMT -5 DotAndBuzz said:

I will re-load the dishwasher if it's not done how I like it/aka the right way.

Does that count?

I was going to say yes but I thought of a rule!

*It is a toxic trait if while you're doing whatever it is you say oh God I'm annoying I hate myself but you still do it and cannot stop.*

Let the games begin.

[Patsy Baloney]

Ugh, I will talk to any and every kid and old person in every store. Just last week I got locked into a convo with an old lady in the game aisle about
Rummikub. My poor family, just begging to finish shopping and leave.

The amount of kids I’ve told, “Hey, cool toy!”

Just shut up!

[rosiebear]

I’m a terrible passenger. I’m an anxious driver and being a passenger is even worse. I gasp, stomp an imaginary brake, the works. It’s horrible.

[sproctopus]

Doordashing $27 acai bowls to myself at work.

[nsl]

The number of times I will say/type "actual" in a conversation without registering that I've used it already.

[underwaterrhymes]

What about the opposite? A lot of my closest friends found my chattiness deeply annoying at first but over time came to appreciate my innate charm. 🤣

[livinitup]

“LivingItUp talks too much in class and distracts her neighbors.”

Every single report card. Every one. Sometimes it was meaner, lol.

[joy]

Jan 26, 2024 20:33:32 GMT -5 sproctopus said:

Doordashing $27 acai bowls to myself at work.

Okay, but I Grubhub myself ice cream sandwiches regularly and I find this just an efficient use of my time.

EDIT - ice cream sandwiches are from fancy ice cream shop and end up costing $10/piece.

[penguingrrl]

Jan 26, 2024 20:21:58 GMT -5 rosiebear said:

I’m a terrible passenger. I’m an anxious driver and being a passenger is even worse. I gasp, stomp an imaginary brake, the works. It’s horrible.

I solve that by never letting anyone else drive. Ever. Unless I’m drunk, then I don’t care. I even drove across midtown Manhattan in a stick shift while in labor because I wouldn’t let H drive.

@@@ except now my oldest is 16 and has their permit. It kills me but they pointed out that if I hate Hs driving so much (I really really do) that I need to be the one to teach them to drive so they’re a safe driver…

[cereal K]

I’m a solver - I always jump to trying to fix something or offer a solution. I never think to stop and ask if someone wants help, or just wants someone to listen.

Also, I’m a big “why buy it for $50 when I can *make it* for $100” kinda person.

[lovelovelove]

Saying "I'm sorry" for anything that happens. It used to be bc I had *issues*, now it's just a reflexive response bc I used it so much. So annoying.

I ask too many questions and can't stop. I need to know what happened in situations I find interesting, and i don'teven notice I'm doing it at first. Who said what and how they said it, how everyone felt, why you think it happened, etc. My kid gets so annoyed when I'm doing this about like someone saying something mean to someone in the cafeteria at school lol. So so so annoying.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

Jan 26, 2024 20:53:51 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

What about the opposite? A lot of my closest friends found my chattiness deeply annoying at first but over time came to appreciate my innate charm. 🤣

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

I am way too cheap to pay for people to bring me stuff plus I don't want anybody on my porch. #loner

[jlt19]

I talk to myself while working. I’ve never had a job where I shared such a close quarters and now that we have to be back 3 days a week, I think I annoy my next cubicle neighbor. But he’s a trumper, so really I hope I DO annoy him.

ETA: I just really talk all the time while doing something. And if it’s not a person or a dog I’m talking to, it’s myself. Sometimes I’m narrating, “ok, now we’ll move this over here, and yes, that worked”. Then sometimes I’ll respond, “you dummy, that didn’t work!”

I now annoy myself after typing that all out.

[mags]

I have to stop and talk/pet every single dog I see while I'm out. My husband tolerates the first couple but then I get the eye roll.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

Jan 26, 2024 21:52:40 GMT -5 mags said:

I have to stop and talk/pet every single dog I see while I'm out. My husband tolerates the first couple but then I get the eye roll.

Obviously. This is totally honorable and acceptable.

[jinkies]

I talk *for* our pets in a goofy voice. It's probably a solid 70% of what H and I say to each other. It's unbelievably obnoxious and I still can't stop.

[erbear]

Jan 26, 2024 22:46:32 GMT -5 jinkies said:

I talk *for* our pets in a goofy voice. It's probably a solid 70% of what H and I say to each other. It's unbelievably obnoxious and I still can't stop.

Doesn’t every pet owner do this? With a different voice depending on the pet? No???

[loira]

Jan 26, 2024 21:20:49 GMT -5 lovelovelove said:

Saying "I'm sorry" for anything that happens. It used to be bc I had *issues*, now it's just a reflexive response bc I used it so much. So annoying.

No no no! This just makes you Canadian! 

[macmars45]

jlt19 same. I was just whispering to myself today at work. My boss came in and started talking to me and realized I was adding (scores of testing I'd done for kids' reading skills) so she stopped speaking and told me she didn't mean to interrupt me.

[MixedBerryJam]

I am as introverted as they come, would 100% be a hermit if I could get away with it. But I am a stranger whisperer. I can strike up a small talk conversation with someone I dońt know any time, any place. Occasionally it works as a superpower, but mostly my family will tell you it's a toxic trait.

On a serious note, I have been conscious of being less self-deprecating and it's freeing! I had a meeting recently with someone who is quite senior to me (I'm not saying it well, as it's a purely social relationship, so by senior to me i mean more established in our shared community.) We had a very serious disagreement, but we both sincerely believe we are doing the right thing. It was very hard not to take the blame and apologize but dammit, I'm right this time! And we are working out a compromise that will leave us both pretty happy, I think. 

[MixedBerryJam]

Jan 26, 2024 22:48:47 GMT -5 erbear said:

Jan 26, 2024 22:46:32 GMT -5 jinkies said:

I talk *for* our pets in a goofy voice. It's probably a solid 70% of what H and I say to each other. It's unbelievably obnoxious and I still can't stop.

Doesn’t every pet owner do this? With a different voice depending on the pet? No???

Sometimes I talk to my pets in silly voiced but I have never role played my pets in silly voices, no.

[lucybrown]

I sing to my animals constantly and usually work their names into whatever song it is. Often while also rocking them like a baby. This doesn’t bother me, but others may say it’s a toxic trait.

A real toxic trait is that just cannot let go sometimes, often the dumbest shit. Just stop. Stop talking. Stop bothering people with your nonsense. I hate it.

[mrsukyankee]

Jan 26, 2024 23:06:39 GMT -5 loira said:

Jan 26, 2024 21:20:49 GMT -5 lovelovelove said:

Saying "I'm sorry" for anything that happens. It used to be bc I had *issues*, now it's just a reflexive response bc I used it so much. So annoying.

No no no! This just makes you Canadian! 

Or British.

[mrsukyankee]

I'm a bit of a control freak. I struggle to let go of some things, like trying to help someone especially if they are struggling with something that I know I can do. It drives my husband crazy (who is also a control freak).

[fangoriagurkel]

I’m so used to going about my day and completing tasks alone that I often will burst into a quick song about what i’m doing in real time.

Example: (Cue standing over the sink) -“What are you doing? / You are doing dishes / Let’s hurry up / So you can move on”.

The amount of times my SO how shouted “What?” to me because he thought I was speaking to him vs. singing to is not a small amount.

[wambam]

Leaving my peloton shoes clipped into the bike permanently

Talking about my dogs like I gave birth to them

Buying random crap to get to $25 for same day shipping

[VillainV]

Taking up random crafty hobbies and quitting before I’ve finished even one big project, but after spending a lot of money on supplies. Scrapbooking, cross-stitching, Cricut…