Post by InBetweenDays on Jan 30, 2024 13:24:21 GMT -5
No, it wouldn't bother me at all and personally I wouldn't send anything to the teacher. I'm sure parents have already complainrd so I'm not sure what giving the teacher a "heads up" would do to help with that.
I would think it was innappropriate, yes. This isn't even high school yet. I still expect things coming from school to be PG 13, and for it to be up to parents whether they allow more than that at home/outside of school.
I would have expected at heads-up note, and I would have okayed it, but I don't love it being a surprise.
My DH teaches HS and is suppose to let parents know if he is showing a PG-13 movie. So he would also avoid podcasts or literature with those words. I’m surprised it was sent out.
We are breezy with language and I curse plenty in front of the kids, but would prob raise an eyebrow to it being included in an assignment. There are lots of families more conservative than I am when it comes to language.
Yeah this, too. Permission slips go out to show any movie rated above PG! There are approved movies/videos teachers can use. Anything beyond that needs district approval and/or parental permission.
I'd be surprised, but wouldn't say anything. I'm not saying that I condone it, but I have other hills to die on. I just wouldn't want to involve myself on this one.
But seriously, it wouldn't bother might and might actually help some kids to connect with the material more. Kids love to be slightly scandalized. A few bad words has never hurt anyone.
Post by penguingrrl on Jan 30, 2024 13:28:22 GMT -5
I would be surprised by that because I haven’t ever seen an assignment come home that didn’t meet the same standards of “appropriate “ that is met in the classroom. I definitely know that 7th graders know that language and use it, but see it as part of a required assignment as a different thing. I personally wouldn’t be upset by it, but I wouldn’t expect it. I think your email was good.
Just because kids hear it in the cafeteria or bus doesn't mean a teacher should be assigning 11/12 year olds homework work that says fuck a hundred times. This has nothing to do with the fragility of children or our society. There is an appropriateness to what should and should not be done.
I also find it hard to believe that many of you think that there is nothing wrong with this!
Me too! It’s totally different to hear things out in the wild than it is to be assigned it as homework! I swear, you never know what people are gonna be #breezy about here!
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I'd be surprised, but wouldn't say anything. I'm not saying that I condone it, but I have other hills to die on. I just wouldn't want to involve myself on this one.
Yessssss. It has to be a pretty big deal for me to reach out to the teacher, I've only needed to do it a handful of times in David's life and this is not one of those times for me. Even for a head's up, she's going to get a ton of emails about this so..meh.
Just because kids hear it in the cafeteria or bus doesn't mean a teacher should be assigning 11/12 year olds homework work that says fuck a hundred times. This has nothing to do with the fragility of children or our society. There is an appropriateness to what should and should not be done.
I also find it hard to believe that many of you think that there is nothing wrong with this!
I agree with this! This is somewhat what I was just sitting here trying to articulate. I know my kids HEARS swearing and the F word plenty. Actually, I would say my high schooler does, but my middle schooler still not ALL the time! At this point, none of his friends swear a lot. It's not that I think he would need to be "protected" from "hearing" it, it's that I don't think it should be condoned/made to seem 100% okay by a teacher sending out something with tons of swearing and not even addressing it first.
My kids are not saying the F word and I try not to say it in front of them, so I wouldn't appreciate him getting the impression that it's just totally NBD.
Language that might be okay with your family or friends or for hanging out playing video games is not necessarily appropriate in every setting, like a workplace or school.
Just because kids hear it in the cafeteria or bus doesn't mean a teacher should be assigning 11/12 year olds homework work that says fuck a hundred times. This has nothing to do with the fragility of children or our society. There is an appropriateness to what should and should not be done.
I also find it hard to believe that many of you think that there is nothing wrong with this!
Me too! It’s totally different to hear things out in the wild than it is to be assigned it as homework! I swear, you never know what people are gonna be #breezy about here!
Well, to be fair, we also worry about the future generation for being so soft, lol.
Bother me? no. Surprised they assigned it? yup would I mention it? Nope
I honestly have had lots of conversations with my boys growing up about language and what's acceptable and not, what we can control and what we can't.
Now, if my son was bothered by it, I'd encourage him to go directly to the teacher and discuss it first. If they were non-responsive, then I'd step in.
ETA: I do think she should have sent home a warning and an opt out option if a parent is not comfortable with it. I just wouldnt care enough to say anything...lol
Just because kids hear it in the cafeteria or bus doesn't mean a teacher should be assigning 11/12 year olds homework work that says fuck a hundred times. This has nothing to do with the fragility of children or our society. There is an appropriateness to what should and should not be done.
I also find it hard to believe that many of you think that there is nothing wrong with this!
She didn't ask if we thought the teacher should have assigned it- she asked it it would bother us, amd no- it sincerely would not bother me! And if it actually had 100 fucks in it? LOL.
I get offended by lots! Potty words just don't do it for me.
Just because kids hear it in the cafeteria or bus doesn't mean a teacher should be assigning 11/12 year olds homework work that says fuck a hundred times. This has nothing to do with the fragility of children or our society. There is an appropriateness to what should and should not be done.
I also find it hard to believe that many of you think that there is nothing wrong with this!
This! I would appreciate a heads up so I could make sure my 7th grader did her homework away from my 5 year old. He’s all about cursing and repeating anything we ask him not to.
I would think it was innappropriate, yes. This isn't even high school yet. I still expect things coming from school to be PG 13, and for it to be up to parents whether they allow more than that at home/outside of school.
I would have expected at heads-up note, and I would have okayed it, but I don't love it being a surprise.
I think I'm here-ish. I agree that there should be a level of appropriateness in a school setting. BUT that doesn't mean it can't have value in the message that offsets the cursing, or that it should be censored out because of the colorful language. I would have expected a heads up on it, but I would not have opted my child out, either.
I'd be surprised, but wouldn't say anything. I'm not saying that I condone it, but I have other hills to die on. I just wouldn't want to involve myself on this one.
I'm also a little surprised the teacher didn't give a warning or something like that. My 11 y.o. 5th grader just read Tuck Everlasting and before the class watched the movie the teacher emailed because it's PG and she was giving folks an option to opt their kid out.
I would not contact the teacher because that ship has sailed.
I cuss like a sailor and taught grades 10-12. I would be mortified if I sent this out. I definitely slipped up and cussed in front of my students every now and then but I wouldn’t have an assignment that included that language without a significant warning.
One time I showed my anatomy class the “consent is like tea” video and he casually drops the f word and I about melted into the ground lol. I quickly discovered they have a clean version on YouTube.
Funny story (maybe?) about me cussing in front of my students- I was teaching the reproductive unit in my anatomy class when someone from the yearbook came in to take pictures. I continued teaching and then it dawned on me that there was a supersized penis on the overhead smartboard. Without even thinking I go, “omg let me get the huge dick off the board before you take pictures” 🫠🫠
To answer your question- yes, I would email letting the teacher know because I would absolutely want to know if I had made this mistake.
mcmel, OMG, I am legit lol'ing. What did the class do? Did you get a bunch of emails? I'm dying.
No emails, thank god. I actually didn’t even notice it and went on about things for a few moments before I realized my students were kind of 😳 at me. I asked them what was wrong and they told me what I said. Oops!
mcmel , OMG, I am legit lol'ing. What did the class do? Did you get a bunch of emails? I'm dying.
No emails, thank god. I actually didn’t even notice it and went on about things for a few moments before I realized my students were kind of 😳 at me. I asked them what was wrong and they told me what I said. Oops!
I'm sorry but if David came home and told me his teacher accidentally said that I'd laugh my ass off. #breezy
Post by DotAndBuzz on Jan 30, 2024 14:10:50 GMT -5
Would it fundamentally upset/bother me if my child heard this? Eh. My kids are allowed to swear, with the VERY clear caveat that they own their words, so they'd better be ready to answer for usage, audience, and context. We've also talked about how over use is kind of low hanging fruit in terms of vocabulary. Be creative, damnit, lol.
***HOWEVER***
My eyebrows would shoot up to my forehead if a teacher sent that home with no heads up. Hearing other kids use it is vastly different than that language being "endorsed" by a teacher. Even in our high school, teachers send home notices that a certain part of a PG-13 movie is going to be watched for class (like, "Like Water for Chocolate" in Spanish), but not necessarily all the parts that earned it the PG-13 rating. 7th grade kids are so impressionable, and want desperately to be cool. Hearing what I can only imagine is podcast bro dialect with shit and fuck as every other word probably sounded SO COOL to them, but they didn't get the disclaimer of "choose your words wisely and be aware of your audience and context." And parents couldn't necessarily give it either, since it was just randomly sent home.
I'm guessing the teacher is going to hear allll about it from at least one parent. Not everyone is as breezy and cool as we are on this board.
No emails, thank god. I actually didn’t even notice it and went on about things for a few moments before I realized my students were kind of 😳 at me. I asked them what was wrong and they told me what I said. Oops!
I'm sorry but if David came home and told me his teacher accidentally said that I'd laugh my ass off. #breezy
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My older daughter and I would pee our pants laughing about this. My 7th grader would never breathe a word of it to me, and die of embarrassment with her teacher.
Post by rootbeerfloat on Jan 30, 2024 14:28:17 GMT -5
I would be surprised, but not bothered or feel the need to send an email.
DD (8th grade) recently shared that one of the teachers showed a video that had inappropriate language. The students spoke up in a "you shouldn't be showing us this!" kind of way (not we're going to tell our parents kind of way), and the teacher apologized.
Just because kids hear it in the cafeteria or bus doesn't mean a teacher should be assigning 11/12 year olds homework work that says fuck a hundred times. This has nothing to do with the fragility of children or our society. There is an appropriateness to what should and should not be done.
I also find it hard to believe that many of you think that there is nothing wrong with this!
She didn't ask if we thought the teacher should have assigned it- she asked it it would bother us, amd no- it sincerely would not bother me! And if it actually had 100 fucks in it? LOL.
I get offended by lots! Potty words just don't do it for me.
I am absolutely right here. I did send an email, but mostly in solidarity. They are on a block schedule so I know she has time to plan before she sends it out again.
I am not offended by potty words at all, but I also think they have no place in a middle school curriculum.
Just because kids hear it in the cafeteria or bus doesn't mean a teacher should be assigning 11/12 year olds homework work that says fuck a hundred times. This has nothing to do with the fragility of children or our society. There is an appropriateness to what should and should not be done.
I also find it hard to believe that many of you think that there is nothing wrong with this!
Heck, I give content warnings to my college students when I show a video with colorful or offensive language. I think it’s the polite or professional thing to do. If the content is otherwise fine, I show it anyway. For example, I showed a trailer to the movie “The Martian” today where Matt Damon said he had to “science the shit out of it.”
In my opinion, whether or not that was appropriate for 7th graders depends largely on context, but if it was 100% gratuitous, I’d hope she’d find a clean or bleeped out version to share.
I’d send a friendly head’s up….but I’m guessing she probably has already received some pissed off emails by now. If I had to guess, I’d assume she meant to send the link to a clean version and got them mixed up.
She didn't ask if we thought the teacher should have assigned it- she asked it it would bother us, amd no- it sincerely would not bother me! And if it actually had 100 fucks in it? LOL.
I get offended by lots! Potty words just don't do it for me.
I am absolutely right here. I did send an email, but mostly in solidarity. They are on a block schedule so I know she has time to plan before she sends it out again.
I am not offended by potty words at all, but I also think they have no place in a middle school curriculum.