Ds1 has a cold so he’s blowing his nose constantly and leaving tissues everywhere. I just moved a trash can next to him and told him to pick up all of his tissues. Gross.
The pto for ds’s school is having a dance tonight and ds was desperate to go, so I’m taking him. He’s in 2nd grade haha. He insisted on wearing a jacket and tie - he’s going to look so cute.
I went to a dance party aimed at middle aged women last night and it was so much fun. Women filled the dance floor and there was so much joy in everyone’s faces.
Although this morning my thighs are wondering why this 57-year-old shawty felt the need to get quite so low (low low low low).
What time did it start? I tell my husband ALL THE TIME that we really need to find a place with a dance party that starts at 7pm.
Kinda quiet weekend around here. DH & DS went out to run a few errands while I tidied up and lounged around reading a book. We’re going to a play tonight. Tomorrow I’m going into work for a few hours as I’m so behind on things and need some time to catch up and maybe give myself a chance at meting all my deadlines this week. Managing people is difficult as you can have everything ready to go and then one interpersonal issue can derail all progress 😤
penguingrrl it’s a 504 and not IEP so I don’t know if that makes a difference. The school coordinator of these things and his teachers don’t support him having an IEP. They have told me many times he doesn’t need one.
I think the issue is that he’s not a behavioral problem so he’s easy to overlook. his issues are more paying attention/managing his time/reading comprehension (like he’ll not read through everything, thinks he know what the directions are and he’s wrong about what he thinks he’s supposed to do, which is why tests are supposed to be read aloud to him)
It’s frustrating bc I 100% support teachers, absolutely understand how difficult their job is, that they have more work than they really should/can handle. However, whenever I have concerns since he’s not doing well in school, I’m treated like I’m a crazy mom asking for insane things. I have swallowed a lot of concerns bc the few times I have tried to (very politely) reach out, my emails go unanswered.
504 compliance is also legally mandated. To violate a 504, which is to protect the medical needs of a student, constitutes, at minimum, a violation of the Americans with disabilities act.
I’m sorry. I hate that sometimes advocating for our children can be so utterly exhausting so I really feel your pain.
penguingrrl it’s a 504 and not IEP so I don’t know if that makes a difference. The school coordinator of these things and his teachers don’t support him having an IEP. They have told me many times he doesn’t need one.
I think the issue is that he’s not a behavioral problem so he’s easy to overlook. his issues are more paying attention/managing his time/reading comprehension (like he’ll not read through everything, thinks he know what the directions are and he’s wrong about what he thinks he’s supposed to do, which is why tests are supposed to be read aloud to him)
It’s frustrating bc I 100% support teachers, absolutely understand how difficult their job is, that they have more work than they really should/can handle. However, whenever I have concerns since he’s not doing well in school, I’m treated like I’m a crazy mom asking for insane things. I have swallowed a lot of concerns bc the few times I have tried to (very politely) reach out, my emails go unanswered.
A 504 also has the force of law. They aren’t allowed to deny him necessary supports. I completely understand how difficult a job teachers have, but this is part of their job and giving a disabled child the proper supports isn’t optional.
I have to take my mom out on some errands today. She needs her eyebrows done and to go to the bank. H was so put out about it that I’m going to run an errand or two for myself, kid free while I’m at it. Jerk.
I went to a dance party aimed at middle aged women last night and it was so much fun. Women filled the dance floor and there was so much joy in everyone’s faces.
Although this morning my thighs are wondering why this 57-year-old shawty felt the need to get quite so low (low low low low).
What time did it start? I tell my husband ALL THE TIME that we really need to find a place with a dance party that starts at 7pm.
7 pm! 7-9:30 and the place was full. The bar must’ve made a fortune so hopefully it’ll be back as a regular event.
I just put in a 10hour day of OT and now I’m ready to nap. It should go outside and walk before it gets dark. Am also hoping my neighbor will want to do dinner so I can get out of the house and have some meal company.
I actually have an unscheduled day tomorrow, but I definitely have tons to do; isn’t that always the case. But hoping to get a yoga class in too.
My (almost!) 13 year old is having a birthday party tonight. She’s got 5 friends over. We had tacos and now they are having a cake decorating contest — they each drew a Taylor Swift “era” for the theme of the cakes. It’s pretty funny.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
penguingrrl it’s a 504 and not IEP so I don’t know if that makes a difference. The school coordinator of these things and his teachers don’t support him having an IEP. They have told me many times he doesn’t need one.
I think the issue is that he’s not a behavioral problem so he’s easy to overlook. his issues are more paying attention/managing his time/reading comprehension (like he’ll not read through everything, thinks he know what the directions are and he’s wrong about what he thinks he’s supposed to do, which is why tests are supposed to be read aloud to him)
It’s frustrating bc I 100% support teachers, absolutely understand how difficult their job is, that they have more work than they really should/can handle. However, whenever I have concerns since he’s not doing well in school, I’m treated like I’m a crazy mom asking for insane things. I have swallowed a lot of concerns bc the few times I have tried to (very politely) reach out, my emails go unanswered.
That's infuriating. I'm always here for teachers and giving humans grace. But this is your kid and this is a formal process initiated to help him learn. The teachers and administrators are literally supposed to do just that.
The weather today was nasty. It snowed about 8” of the wettest snow I can remember. Clearing the driveway and sidewalks was a ridiculous workout.
Despite that, I managed to get DS2 over to Golden for their annual Goldens in Golden day where everyone brings their golden retrievers. He’s been obsessed with this specific type of dog for close to a year now and the event did not disappoint even with the gross slushy snow. He got to pet all the dogs and then wrapped things up with lunch and ice cream. We had a good little date day.
Yeah but if she is/was getting a pedicure who gives a F. She /we all need a break and deserve to be pampered.
Glad to see I'm not the only one who raised an eyebrow at this! What's wrong with getting a pedicure?! ProfessorArtNerd re: your other thread, last Sunday FI took L to his parents' for the afternoon and told me to stay home and rest because he could tell I was just really tired. Obviously that can't happen every day, but we definitely try to give each other our moments of downtime!
wildrice I am side eyeing your H. It's been a week! Obviously the animals are still getting used to each other!
beerlover can you not still go out with your friends and just leave your H at home? Such a bummer he's sick, but I hope you still have a fun night. Also, deep breaths before your son's basketball game today haha. I feel like you've posted a few times about issues you've had with him at basketball, and adding in the grandparents sounds like it's making you feel extra pressure.
I think I was reading too much into it! He has been fine since. I am probably being too sensitive. Since I was the one who wanted a dog and I'm a terrible people pleaser, I am worrying even when I really don't have to. He spent a lot of time with the dog yesterday.
My H took the kids skiing. I am supposed to be painting our bedroom bc we are getting new carpets and a new bed and I wanted everything to be fresh. But I wish I had help. I'm struggling to motivate myself to get going.
Leeham Rimes I'm sorry you are having so much trouble with the accommodations. We just had our 3rd (!!!) IEP meeting of the year for my 6th grader. It is incredibly frustrating and overwhelming. Like you, I am hugely sympathetic to the pressures put on the teachers. But it's hard when my kid is the one being overlooked because her needs are "only" academic and there are so many serious behavioral needs in the same class. It's tough. I hope you get things straightened out for wes soon.
The weather today was nasty. It snowed about 8” of the wettest snow I can remember. Clearing the driveway and sidewalks was a ridiculous workout.
Despite that, I managed to get DS2 over to Golden for their annual Goldens in Golden day where everyone brings their golden retrievers. He’s been obsessed with this specific type of dog for close to a year now and the event did not disappoint even with the gross slushy snow. He got to pet all the dogs and then wrapped things up with lunch and ice cream. We had a good little date day.
I saw this on TikTok! That looked so fun (and cold).
Steam radiators are gross dirt magnets. When I moved in I deep cleaned almost all of them except the kitchen and guest room, I vacuumed those and gave a cursory scrub. Today I deep cleaned the kitchen one, I think it was the worst one so far so much dirt. There had been a cover on it, I don't think the previous owner ever removed the covers to clean them. I've been investigating upgrading my heating system and these steam radiators will be coming out when I do that.
I need to get a load of laundry going then I'm off to the store to get my kitchen paint. I hope I can get the first wall coat done today. Painting a whole house is a lot of work, but I'm really proud of how nice it looks so far.
Post by emilyinchile on Feb 4, 2024 11:33:20 GMT -5
We had two toddler birthday parties yesterday, so today we're just recovering. Planning to go to the ILs' later because they have AC and a pool, and we are still in an eternal heatwave. I have always much preferred summer, but normal summer where it's mid-80s during the day and gets chilly at night. This 90+, 84 degrees at 10 pm shit is not it (plus add in a big dose of anxiety about climate change).
I am annoyed at Netflix. Our TV is pretty old, and I'm assuming that's why Netflix told us that as of Feb 24 our device will no longer be supported, but why?!?! I went to the website they said to check for more info, and it just lists the supported brands (which ours is) with no mention of specific models being phased out or why that makes any sense anyway.
I'm about to leave to take DS 2 on a run for his running club (I will be walking), and H is headed to the grocery store. My dad is taking both kids to the movies after lunch, and I'm not sure what we'll do while they're gone. I've got half a mind to go to this distillery we like and pick up some rum and whiskey in preparation for next weekend's festivities, but we'll see if I get motivated enough to drive all the way over there. I also have two books I picked up at the grand opening of a new romance-only bookstore yesterday that are burning a hole in my TBR pile. Tonight I think DS2 is planning to bake some s'mores cupcakes, and I've got a meatball risotto on the menu plan.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Feb 4, 2024 11:43:02 GMT -5
I think I’m ready to drop my GS troop leader gig.
Our troop parents are acting particularly feral about cookie season this year and the disrespect is too much. My co-leader and I decided to do booths only this year. It’s not ideal for money making, but the truth is, we barely make anything off of cookies. We make less than a dollar off of $6 boxes of cookies and the work we have to put in is insane. I’m talking a part time job. Our parents never keep tabs on their stock, our council is always running out of varieties, no one follows directions, we spend ages running down money. It’s too much.
We now have parents threatening to buy our entire stock at our booths so they can turn around and re-sell them to customers who are “mad” they have to come to booths to buy. I’m sure I’m being trashed by these parents much worse behind my back than what they’re saying to my face, which is already pretty damned abhorrent.
I don’t understand what’s wrong with people. We are still doing cookie sales, and every scout has the opportunity to work on entrepreneurial skills at booths. I know for a fact these people just take the order forms to work and sell for their kids. That’s not helping your kid develop any skills!
I gave them the opportunity to volunteer to take over. I told them I would support them in their role. No one took over. This is our compromise. We love the time we spend with our troop and all the activities we get to do, but it’s a lot of work. Be respectful. It shouldn’t be that difficult.
C’s school posted a flyer for a new sport. It says, “weekly practice + games on Saturdays” what does that mean to you? I read it as one practice a week and a game on Saturday. It’s actually practice Monday-TH and a game on Saturday. Apparently I’m rude for pointing out that four practices a week is closer to daily than weekly.
C’s school posted a flyer for a new sport. It says, “weekly practice + games on Saturdays” what does that mean to you? I read it as one practice a week and a game on Saturday. It’s actually practice Monday-TH and a game on Saturday. Apparently I’m rude for pointing out that four practices a week is closer to daily than weekly.
I read it the same way you did. Weekly is once, maybe twice per week. Otherwise it is daily.
Has anyone taken valtrex for shingles? After 5 months of rotating between pneumonia and Covid I now have shingles. The doctor prescribed valtrex which is supposed to help with the pain and shorten the healing time, but the nausea that comes with the meds is worse than the pain from the shingles. Has anyone taken it and was it worth it? It’s so bad I’m debating not taking the next 8 days worth.
Patsy Baloney , I'm sorry those parents are giving you a hard time. I'm a cookie coordinator and once again regretting my choices. I have a GS thing to run by you, too. I'll preface this by saying I truly appreciate all the time the leaders give. They do a lot of fun, educational things with the troop, and I owe them a debt of gratitude for that and just keeping the troop running.
Long story short, they didn't include the first booth of the year on the booth shift sign-up sheet. The booth date/location was mentioned in one email and then never discussed again. When I had to record the sales/credit, I suggested we divvy up the sales among everyone registered to sell, as we hadn't given everyone a shot to participate in the booth. (They had decided they only needed three girls and were all set with their own daughters + one.) They told me they prefer to follow the GS recommendation of giving credit only to the girls working the booth, and the other girls can work another booth. I told them I'd agree had the booth been open to more girls, and I don't think it's typical for the leaders to decide who's working at a booth without first finding out who from the whole troop is interested. I was overruled, and I dropped it, except to annoy my poor H and everyone here with the story. It doesn't sit right with me, but maybe I'm the one who's off base.
Pilsy our troop always credited the sales to the girls who worked the booth. It was actually a big equalizer in our troop because some kids (including mine) didn't have much of a customer base, while other girls were selling 400 boxes through their family and parents networks. I would have been annoyed if my kid worked 5 booths and had to share the credit with a kid who did no booths but their mom sold hundreds for them at the office.
As for giving the leaders kids a prime booth, I look at it the same as letting the person who organizes a group vacation get first dibs on which room they get in the house. The leaders do a lot of work for the troop and giving them first dibs on a good booth is a small perk of that.
Having said that, our troop did have a rule that all girls who wanted a booth got to sign up for one slot before anyone could take a second spot.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Feb 4, 2024 14:03:12 GMT -5
My daughter is in 8th grade and although I'm a little sad she is quitting girl scouts after this year, I am also thrilled that she gives no fucks about cookies anymore. I ordered 1/3 of what she has typically sold and we aren't getting more after that. Then we'll be freeeeeeeeeee.
I was a GS and I love girl scouting but as a troop leader since kindergarten, I'm over it.
Our in laws were visiting for the first time since before Christmas. They had Covid and had to delay their trip so we opened presents.
They got DH a tshirt that was 2 sizes too big and then when he told them that acted like they would have it altered. He was offended.
Then they gave me the apron from Mrs. Doubtfire. I’m sure it’s a gag gift to be funny but I don’t understand the connection. Plus they kept talking about it like it was tickets and included the playbill. So instead of tickets I get this weird apron. It’s the one where the boobs are burned. I never saw they play and haven’t seen the movie in years.
I wasn’t expecting anything- it was just the way they talked about it and presented it that made it weird. It’s like they bought me a souvenir from their show since they saw it recently but it doesn’t make sense since I wasn’t with them.
DD is in 5th grade and this is her last year of Girl Scouts. I am so excited to be done with it next year! She will be in middle school with lots of clubs to choose from if she wants.
Post by wanderlustmom on Feb 4, 2024 15:42:30 GMT -5
DD had a party last night with 15 17 year old girls at the house and DS (19) is home from college. Whew, I'm tired. Not the same level of tired as hosting a huge party with younger kids but still. Very loud.
I went to hot yoga this morning and it was so fun and so hard. Took DS back to school and that is hard. Love having him home but glad he's got his new life on campus. I know it's part of life but we just soak him up when he's home even though he mostly just wants to be here for the dog.
Had a Mexican pizza from taco bell and hadn't had one in probably 15 years. I'll be back, it was surprisingly delicious. Have book club tonight.
DS's classroom has a secret valentine where every kid gets a gift for another kid that matches their interest sheet. (Yes, it sounds like a disaster but it's a very small private school of kids who are in the same classes together for years so they know each other really well and it works out fine, apparently). Anyway, this year DS's valentine is a girl who runs a niche art YouTube channel with more than 100K followers. Some of her videos have 1 million views. He is completely not impressed by this but reading over her questionnaire, this girl is already at 11 cooler than I may ever be. Her handwriting is better than mine too 😂