Post by honeydew1894 on Feb 3, 2024 7:30:42 GMT -5
Thinking about you all who are going through some big life changes <3
DD and I went to the middle school play last night, and it was so well done. It was Beauty and the Beast, one of my all-time favorites.
DS has the PWD for Scouts and flag football tonight, and DD has basketball. Tomorrow is an open day so aside from going to the gym, we probably won't do much.
Last night I spent time with a friend on the anniversary of her father's death. We drank a high end bottle of red wine (a gift from me) and some bourbon. It was fun and full of frank discussions. I woke up so dehydrated this morning and luckily I feel a lot better after having some food. I made roast pumpkin soup, from my penultimate pumpkin I grew this autumn, and had some sourdough bread. Yum!
My H is going to a whiskey blending session with a friend today (I gave them both this experience for their birthday gifts). I'll enjoy hanging with the dog and getting some work done.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Feb 3, 2024 8:48:56 GMT -5
I have to take my mom out on some errands today. She needs her eyebrows done and to go to the bank. H was so put out about it that I’m going to run an errand or two for myself, kid free while I’m at it. Jerk.
A has a playdate after his soccer and basketball games today. He'll be a tired and hungry disaster but the moms are doing a chocolate and wine pairing for our lunch so hopefully I won't care too much, lol.
I had a super terrible week at work because my boss mismanaged the work needed to meet a deadline and I ended up working 2 15 hour days this week. I was super aggressive with him because I could only take so much of his mansplaining and self-created emergencies. I feel only sort of bad (we missed the deadline and to my knowledge he still hasn't completed it). He works from home in another state and I'm physically at work and need to get the real-world things done too to keep us moving forward. This shouldn't have been a stressful week; he had over 4 months to complete this very basic editing. A lot of the things he wanted help with involved me trying to help him figure out how he did something the first time around over 2 years ago. How the fuck should I know?? I feel bad about not being an all hands in team player here, but I also did not enjoy being his panic spiral partner. Ugh.
I plan to rot tomorrow and become one with my couch.
@ @ @ I have a truly random tidbit from DD2, who's 6.5. Her breath was bad, so I asked her to brush the back of her tongue. "I can't," she said, "It makes me hulk." "It makes you what?" "Hulk." She proceeded to mimic gagging. I laughed and told her that's called gagging. She just shrugged and said, "I don't know what it's called, so I call it hulking."
I'm still chuckling about her disinterest in learning what it's actually called, as well as the fact that hulking would be a great word for it. I like that better than gagging!
I have to take my mom out on some errands today. She needs her eyebrows done and to go to the bank. H was so put out about it that I’m going to run an errand or two for myself, kid free while I’m at it. Jerk.
WTF? You (who recently lost her Dad)are taking your recently widowed, aging mother with health issues out to run errands and he is upset about it? I don't care if you were going out to get your nails done, there should be no attitude about this. Why do you have to take kids out for this if he is home? I saw your post about feeling supported and here is one right here. My DH and I both go do things without the kids be it errands or fun stuff and neither of us ever give the other attitude about it. Our kids are older now, but this was true from newborn stage on. If it's a fun thing we tell the other to have a great time, enjoy and we mean it.
I have to take my mom out on some errands today. She needs her eyebrows done and to go to the bank. H was so put out about it that I’m going to run an errand or two for myself, kid free while I’m at it. Jerk.
Dude it's not like you are out getting a pedicure, you are taking your elderly mom to do errands. Jerk.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Feb 3, 2024 9:38:16 GMT -5
I was out of town the last two weekends so I have a ton of errands to do this weekend, blah.
H wants to go hiking today because he has a social event tomorrow, but I want to get all my errands done today so I can chill tomorrow.
Sadly his social event includes his friends coming over to our house which is objectively fine and even good but after a bunch of travel I just want to be in my own house ALONE. I can be such an introvert.
I love having teenagers because all over my weekend plans ^^^^ required no mention of what my children need. I'll hang out with them some and have to remind them to shower and they'll probably need rides but they pretty much manage their own lives and it is amazing. 10/10 highly recommend. Babies and toddlers and elementary school kids are the worst lol.
January was a really trying, ridiculous month for me and I’m so relieved we are moving on. I do, however, feel like my work situation feels very much like Groundhog’s Day and so that isn’t likely to change much. I want to post about DD but it’s so much I might need to actually make a post!
I have to take my mom out on some errands today. She needs her eyebrows done and to go to the bank. H was so put out about it that I’m going to run an errand or two for myself, kid free while I’m at it. Jerk.
Dude it's not like you are out getting a pedicure, you are taking your elderly mom to do errands. Jerk.
Yeah but if she is/was getting a pedicure who gives a F. She /we all need a break and deserve to be pampered.
I have to take my mom out on some errands today. She needs her eyebrows done and to go to the bank. H was so put out about it that I’m going to run an errand or two for myself, kid free while I’m at it. Jerk.
Dude it's not like you are out getting a pedicure, you are taking your elderly mom to do errands. Jerk.
My H has been in bed since about 2pm yesterday besides coming downstairs to get some pizza. He must really not be feeling well. However, I can't remember any time since becoming a parent 7 years ago that I have been able to just lay in bed for a straight day, so I'm still having a hard time not being irritated.
I need to work out, and then DS has a basketball game at 1. Both sets of parents are coming so now I have to pretend to be happy around them and try not to act bummed about the day not turning out the way I wanted it to.
My mom's taking DS with her after the game so I'm going to figure out some kind of alternate birthday plans. I certainly do not want to sit around my house while H lays in bed.
The plan today was to go to new exhibit at a local museum but then my husband’s work announced they were sponsoring an event there next week so I think we are going to go then instead.
Winter is so boring. I feel like we’ve done everything locally a billion times and it’s not pleasant enough imo to do a day trip and have that be actually fun and relaxing.
The FB algorithm has half figured me out. I do enjoy watching reels of people cooking stuff. I just came across one of a guy cooking Persian food but it's obviously a fake account so I googled to find the guy's real page.
He's only on Instagram and TikTok! Dang millennials are missing out on the views from us olds. I have an Instagram for the office but I don't like the platform. The constant stream of videos makes me nauseous.
I wrote down the name of his website so I can reference it. Yeah, I've definitely hit middle age over here.
Lazy morning here. We have a dog trainer coming at 1 and I'm going to run a couple of errands after, but not much else planned today. Tomorrow is brunch and then ushering a play, so I'll be gone a good part of the day. I'm glad today is mostly at home.
Our pets have been doing really well but last night the dog jumped off the couch to bark at the cat, and of course scared him. I actually think the cat is fine, if a little more skittish now, but I think my H is tired of this transition period and has been pretty quiet since then. The dog and I have just been hanging out watching The Bear in the bedroom and giving my H and the cat space. Except Hulu randomly stopped playing for some reason, so I guess we are done with that lol.
Post by maudefindlay on Feb 3, 2024 11:01:31 GMT -5
DD is at my parent's for the weekend. DH and DS1 just left for a Big 10 bball game at our alma mater, and I'm going on a walk in a bit and then taking DS2 to a friend's house to play D and D. DH will pick him up tonight. I can drive to this kids house during the day, but don't like to at night. Turning onto their driveway is like driving off a cliff due to the angle of the road and they live up a hill, it's scary driving and not being able to see where you are going.
I'm looking forward to a quiet weekend. We're all going to try a new Korean place for lunch today, then I'll take Kid 1 to their archery lesson while H and DS 2 shop for running shoes/go for a run. A new romance-only bookstore is having their grand opening today, so I'm going to hit it up after the lesson and buy something fun to read. There's fresh snow on the ground, and curling up with a good book and a cup of tea before dinner sounds wonderful.
I went to a dance party aimed at middle aged women last night and it was so much fun. Women filled the dance floor and there was so much joy in everyone’s faces.
Although this morning my thighs are wondering why this 57-year-old shawty felt the need to get quite so low (low low low low).
My DS2 has been prescribed a 3 day poop clean out, and we need to replace one toilet and fix another so there’s definitely a theme to this weekend lol.
Dude it's not like you are out getting a pedicure, you are taking your elderly mom to do errands. Jerk.
Yeah but if she is/was getting a pedicure who gives a F. She /we all need a break and deserve to be pampered.
Glad to see I'm not the only one who raised an eyebrow at this! What's wrong with getting a pedicure?! ProfessorArtNerd re: your other thread, last Sunday FI took L to his parents' for the afternoon and told me to stay home and rest because he could tell I was just really tired. Obviously that can't happen every day, but we definitely try to give each other our moments of downtime!
wildrice I am side eyeing your H. It's been a week! Obviously the animals are still getting used to each other!
beerlover can you not still go out with your friends and just leave your H at home? Such a bummer he's sick, but I hope you still have a fun night. Also, deep breaths before your son's basketball game today haha. I feel like you've posted a few times about issues you've had with him at basketball, and adding in the grandparents sounds like it's making you feel extra pressure.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Feb 3, 2024 11:45:54 GMT -5
I’m sitting in my kid’s string lesson right now. She’s part of an academy where they have violins, violas and cellos learning to play together. I am blown away by how easily kids learn things. In September they didn’t even know how to hold their instruments. Now they’re just like…devil went down to Georgia-ing 🤣 you know, at age level.
ProfessorArtNerd, I'm sorry you don't feel supported in your looking out for your mom. Stepping into a caregiver role while still raising kids and working is a lot for anyone person to manage.
beerlover, I hear you on that. Same here. Plus, DH can't ever let me be sick by myself-- it's like he needs to compete. LOL, he told the nurse when I was in unmedicated labor that his blood sugar was low and he needed to eat something. He's not diabetic or hypoglycemic and we stopped for lunch on the way to the hospital 4 hours before. I thought the nurse was going to slap him. He injured his knee about 3 weeks ago and needed an xray. No fracture, it's likely a sprain and bruised patella but the imaging showed some mild arthritis so I'm hearing a lot about that. I have had TKR and am probably looking at a second in a year or so and he's been mansplaining knee pain. SMH.
It's quiet here this morning. I need to do a little housekeeping as I wasn't home much this week. I had mom at her psychiatrist's office Monday and then in the ER Wednesday with chest pain, fatigue and shortness of breath-- they kept her for observation and the consulting cardiologist (not hers) turfed her to her pulmonologist the next day. Her breathing tests were almost identical to those from last year, but the chest xray shows worsening cardiomegaly which the hospital consult didn't mention. She got turfed to her cardiologist. That appointment isn't until the end of the month, but she'll have an echo and PCP appointment as well. She's 86 this month and no longer drives.
Also DS backed into a car pulling out of the driveway Sunday. I had to take the car for an estimate. They say it'll take 2 weeks. Ugh. Replacing a bumper, taillight and dealing with a 4" scratch. I am not amused.
Trying to get back out in the land of the living after being sick for 11 days. Still not 100%( have an annoying cough hanging on and some head congestion) but feeling better than I was.
We’re picking up an ottoman we ordered last month, taking a short walk outside since it’s actually sunny and somewhat mild, and then going out for lunch.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Feb 3, 2024 14:04:38 GMT -5
Wes had a tutoring session today where we learned that his teachers are not accommodating his 504 plan. The tutor (also a teacher of upper elementary and middle) was upset by that and the negative notes his teacher left on a Test he failed. He knew all the material one on one with the tutor (which he’s supposed to have for testing but Wes just told us during tutoring that doesn’t happen)
I really don’t want another meeting. This will be the second this year. His teachers will tell me what I want to hear and then do none of it and we’ll be in the same position. I just want this school year to be over. I understand that the teachers have too much work and not enough support but my kid has absolutely fallen through the cracks and I’m spending thousands to try and catch him.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
Wes had a tutoring session today where we learned that his teachers are not accommodating his 504 plan. The tutor (also a teacher of upper elementary and middle) was upset by that and the negative notes his teacher left on a Test he failed. He knew all the material one on one with the tutor (which he’s supposed to have for testing but Wes just told us during tutoring that doesn’t happen)
I really don’t want another meeting. This will be the second this year. His teachers will tell me what I want to hear and then do none of it and we’ll be in the same position. I just want this school year to be over. I understand that the teachers have too much work and not enough support but my kid has absolutely fallen through the cracks and I’m spending thousands to try and catch him.
I hate 5th grade.
I’m so sorry. I have two kids with IEPs and know the struggle. I’ll be honest, if they continue to not follow his IEP you may need to lawyer up. The IEP has the force of law and they can’t decide not to follow it.
Yeah but if she is/was getting a pedicure who gives a F. She /we all need a break and deserve to be pampered.
Glad to see I'm not the only one who raised an eyebrow at this! What's wrong with getting a pedicure?! ProfessorArtNerd re: your other thread, last Sunday FI took L to his parents' for the afternoon and told me to stay home and rest because he could tell I was just really tired. Obviously that can't happen every day, but we definitely try to give each other our moments of downtime!
wildrice I am side eyeing your H. It's been a week! Obviously the animals are still getting used to each other!
beerlover can you not still go out with your friends and just leave your H at home? Such a bummer he's sick, but I hope you still have a fun night. Also, deep breaths before your son's basketball game today haha. I feel like you've posted a few times about issues you've had with him at basketball, and adding in the grandparents sounds like it's making you feel extra pressure.
She can get a pedicure if she wants, that has nothing to do with chores =/= fun.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Feb 3, 2024 14:35:07 GMT -5
penguingrrl it’s a 504 and not IEP so I don’t know if that makes a difference. The school coordinator of these things and his teachers don’t support him having an IEP. They have told me many times he doesn’t need one.
I think the issue is that he’s not a behavioral problem so he’s easy to overlook. his issues are more paying attention/managing his time/reading comprehension (like he’ll not read through everything, thinks he know what the directions are and he’s wrong about what he thinks he’s supposed to do, which is why tests are supposed to be read aloud to him)
It’s frustrating bc I 100% support teachers, absolutely understand how difficult their job is, that they have more work than they really should/can handle. However, whenever I have concerns since he’s not doing well in school, I’m treated like I’m a crazy mom asking for insane things. I have swallowed a lot of concerns bc the few times I have tried to (very politely) reach out, my emails go unanswered.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham