"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
midwestmama Your MIL is ridiculously odd. If I understand you correctly, she put new photos in an old collage frame, brought the old photos to a party and gave them “back” to you?? Did she think that she was borrowing them?
How about this for next time: “Oh, you’re done with the photos?” Take photos, walk to trash cans, toss photos in trash can. Done.
It’s really okay to not rehome everything anyone ever gave you. Plus, just keep them behind the new photos, in the photo frame like a normal person.
Today I told my mom and sister what has been going on with my marriage. They were both totally shocked but then not, I forgot that my mom once babysat for us to have a night out, and I ended up coming home early because he’d started in on me and then stormed off leaving me in Boston, so I took an Uber home alone. I didn’t get too into detail with her, but referenced that he was an ugly drunk like my dad had been. My mother forgets nothing and she had told my sister at some point about it.
TW for DV: I almost regret telling her because now she’s worried sick. She reminded me that my dad was “only” verbally abusive for years until one night it escalated and she nearly died. This was when she was getting ready to leave him aka “the most dangerous time”. She called me later to beg me to keep any of my plans from him and to not tell him anything until I have a solid move out plan, and I know she isn’t wrong.
(((Hugs))) My father was exactly the same (verbally abusive drunk who turned violent when he realized his gravy train was ending) and I know my mother would be worried for me in the same way. It sucks.
It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with it being hard to be her age and likely anxiety about the test.
I think it’s really crappy that she missed an entire week and is expected to catch up on the weekend and do her test on Monday. She should get at least a few school days to make up the work and prepare.
My husband and I both asked her separately, "Did you teacher email you to say when your test will be?" She gave the same snippy answer to both of us "Monday! Why would it be on any other day!" Then it turns out the teacher hasn't actually said it is on Monday, she is just assuming that it is.
Communication is awful with this one. She doesn't want to use any words to explain anything, even though I'm constantly telling her she need to be more descriptive.
The kids and I went out for a ride to fuel my diet soda addiction and in the car she calmly said she needed me to help her with the math. Sigh.
I can't remember how old your DD is but welcome to teenager land. My DS will twist himself into knots and be just unbearable until he finally cracks and says he needs help. Then it's all fine. Like kid, everyone needs help sometimes, can we skip the BS part?
I had a Mardi Gras party tonight. I spent all day off and on making the King Cake. I made a shrimp boil, cheddar biscuits and ordered beignets. One friend backed out because of a family emergency but the other couple still came and she brought supplies to make hurricanes. It was really fun!
Tomorrow I think I'll make homemade pretzels with DS to snack on for the game. He LOVES them and I have extra yeast packets left over 🤷
Post by nancybotwin on Feb 11, 2024 1:26:37 GMT -5
Update to yesterday’s contact lens saga -
Today I took DD1 to the eye doctor. It took two different doses of Xanax and a Taylor Swift concert playing on the large computer screen so she would not move her eyes, but 2 1/2 hours later both contacts were out! Hallelujah 🙌🏻
Random unpopular opinion: remote start is stupid. Why does your car need to be running and wasting gas before you are in it? Even when it’s freezing out, the vast majority of people really can just deal with being cold for a few minutes.
where do you live? Because when it's -30 here, you damn well bet you I am using the autostart.
Anybody who thinks remote start is stupid is definitely from south of the Mason-Dixon line, LOL!
Post by maudefindlay on Feb 11, 2024 6:00:17 GMT -5
starburst604 he took the car and abandoned you in the city by yourself? That is not normal. I have no words, well I have some for him but they are all unkind. Not to mention he was then likely drunk driving that night.
starburst604 he took the car and abandoned you in the city by yourself? That is not normal. I have no words, well I have some for him but they are all unkind. Not to mention he was then likely drunk driving that night.
No we had taken an Uber into the city, but he started a fight with me and then stormed off, so I got an Uber back home on my own. Ruining special nights out is his speciality!
starburst604 he took the car and abandoned you in the city by yourself? That is not normal. I have no words, well I have some for him but they are all unkind. Not to mention he was then likely drunk driving that night.
No we had taken an Uber into the city, but he started a fight with me and then stormed off, so I got an Uber back home on my own. Ruining special nights out is his speciality!
Post by cricketwife on Feb 11, 2024 9:40:02 GMT -5
Today is the my grandmother's "birthday" (she's deceased.) It's also the 25th anniversary of her death. I'm feeling a bit melancholic about it. I always remember her on this date since she died on her birthday, but with all that's going on with my mom (Alzheimer's) I just feel sadder about it this year.
Post by starburst604 on Feb 11, 2024 10:22:19 GMT -5
On a happy and cute note, yesterday at lunch I sat next to my 86 year old aunt (my mom’s older sister) who found new love this past summer. She was saying how much fun they have together and they’re taking the Boston to Bermuda cruise this May. I love how much energy and style she still has at 86, and she’s got such a great outlook on life and aging. She said she’s had a great life and if she died tomorrow she’d die fulfilled, but still wants to enjoy every moment she can. Goals!
I’m going to get up and prep some food for the Super Bowl. We are also celebrating SS’s bday, so I’m making cupcakes and frosting. Then I’ll prep all dips and other apps.
I'm making meatballs and poached shrimp today. At some point I'll need to run out for the Greek dips/apps we want. I'm tired and achy and don't want to do anything.
When I was active in group therapy, a common trope was forgiving parents because "They did the best they could with what they had." And it made me so angry. Because my parents' best went to the boys. Always.
But the other day (and today) I caught myself thinking, "I'm doing the best I can with what I have."
And I think my brain broke.
I'm glad it's raining here today. Could use some thunder. But the rain is nice.
On a happy and cute note, yesterday at lunch I sat next to my 86 year old aunt (my mom’s older sister) who found new love this past summer. She was saying how much fun they have together and they’re taking the Boston to Bermuda cruise this May. I love how much energy and style she still has at 86, and she’s got such a great outlook on life and aging. She said she’s had a great life and if she died tomorrow she’d die fulfilled, but still wants to enjoy every moment she can. Goals!
I love this!! My grandparents divorced when I was in middle school and my grandmother started living her best life after that. Dates, went on trip, ended up finding an amazing man that loved her so much, they lived together until they both passed. She is truly my hero.
Post by 1confused1 on Feb 11, 2024 13:40:57 GMT -5
Some of you all have strange opinions on things that don’t matter.
For the record, I live In Northern California and use my remote start when it’s cold (gets the frost off the window) and when it’s hot (to cool down the inside of the car).
Post by sofamonkey on Feb 11, 2024 14:06:06 GMT -5
I’m making meatball subs for today. I’m very excited to eat them later today!! I also have a chili dip to make. I’m planning on waddling into next week.
I also need to finish up the goldfish knockoff crackers I’m making with the kids. I’m also excited to eat those. Haha.
On a happy and cute note, yesterday at lunch I sat next to my 86 year old aunt (my mom’s older sister) who found new love this past summer. She was saying how much fun they have together and they’re taking the Boston to Bermuda cruise this May. I love how much energy and style she still has at 86, and she’s got such a great outlook on life and aging. She said she’s had a great life and if she died tomorrow she’d die fulfilled, but still wants to enjoy every moment she can. Goals!
I love this!! My grandparents divorced when I was in middle school and my grandmother started living her best life after that. Dates, went on trip, ended up finding an amazing man that loved her so much, they lived together until they both passed. She is truly my hero.
The old widow who lived across the street of my childhood home started dating an older guy. One day he pulled into her driveway to drop her off and when he pulled to a stop they started making out and he got excited and hit the gas and ran into her garage door. It was so funny later in the day her adult son came by to assess the damage and he stood there looking at the door then at his Mom then back to the door for a good 5 minutes!
When I was active in group therapy, a common trope was forgiving parents because "They did the best they could with what they had." And it made me so angry. Because my parents' best went to the boys. Always.
But the other day (and today) I caught myself thinking, "I'm doing the best I can with what I have."
And I think my brain broke.
I struggle with this too.
All I can do is better than they did while H does better than his parents.
Okay. I'm back to having cleaners again and people DON'T tip them, right??? I tipped our last cleaner for years because this place made me think it's the norm, but after a few threads I'm guessing it's not? I shouldn't feel bad for just paying and not tipping, right? eta: it's the owner and her two employees cleaning.
Okay. I'm back to having cleaners again and people DON'T tip them, right??? I tipped our last cleaner for years because this place made me think it's the norm, but after a few threads I'm guessing it's not? I shouldn't feel bad for just paying and not tipping, right? eta: it's the owner and her two employees cleaning.
I only tip at year end (our cleaning is $175 and I give her $200).
Okay. I'm back to having cleaners again and people DON'T tip them, right??? I tipped our last cleaner for years because this place made me think it's the norm, but after a few threads I'm guessing it's not? I shouldn't feel bad for just paying and not tipping, right? eta: it's the owner and her two employees cleaning.
I only tip at year end (our cleaning is $175 and I give her $200).
Okay, google tells me this is the norm. I'm gonna just do this.
Okay. I'm back to having cleaners again and people DON'T tip them, right??? I tipped our last cleaner for years because this place made me think it's the norm, but after a few threads I'm guessing it's not? I shouldn't feel bad for just paying and not tipping, right? eta: it's the owner and her two employees cleaning.
My cleaner isn’t part of a larger business, it’s just her, and she does it part time. All of the money I pay for cleaning goes directly to her, so I don’t tip. I do give her more the last clean of the year, but I guess I consider that a gift or a bonus, not a “tip.”
If your cleaner is employed by a company, tipping might be expected? I’ve never had a cleaner who was employed by a company.