Post by lavenderblue on Feb 28, 2024 8:33:37 GMT -5
My refinance to buyout exH is moving along. The appraiser is coming out on Friday. I really need for it to be a specific dollar amount so that I don't have to bring any money to the table, so please cross your crossables for me that it comes in high enough.
I'm finally going to Eye Doctors today. I should've gotten a new prescription probably 2 years ago. I'm looking forward to being able to see things more clearly.
followyourarrow , how are things going with his daughter? I know that you've been having some growing pains with her living there.
Things are better and have kind of leveled out. We've each found our own space and have established boundaries. The only struggle right now is her lack of a job. She's trying to find one, but not putting in the effort we'd like to see. She only applies to places that we tell her to, she only follows up when we say to, she's not taking a lot of initiative, and feedback suggests she's not filling out the applications completely or correctly. She does have ADHD and pretty serious depression, so I know those are factors in this. I think a job is important so she can get out of the house and interact with people, plus we want her to be as independent as possible.
Tonight my kid is one of 4 students between 4th and 5th grades that was selected to be on the STEM team for a special contest tonight for the whole county. The team of 4 will compete against other elementary schools and it's sponsored by a local museum.
She is nervous, but we've told her we are super proud of her being selected and it's just a honor to get to go and represent the school.
Post by gerberdaisy on Feb 28, 2024 9:27:11 GMT -5
We just had a really hard drop off at school, which has never happened before. To the point the counselor and principal came out side to help me. I got home crying thinking I'm the worst for making him go to school. I don't even know what the problem was, just that he didn't want to go. He just always says he doesn't want to go but is always fine during the walk.
Ugh, I'm feel really bad right now and hope they call and say he's okay. I just want to go pick him up and bring him home.
We're having such crazy weather! Yesterday it was 70 (which is not the usual for Feb in Michigan) and today it's 50 now but going to be in the 20s by early afternoon. Last night we had thunderstorms and tornado warning with a tornado touchdown about 10 miles from our house. The sirens started going off about 1:30am so that was a harsh wake up. It did do some damage but thankfully (?) the most damage was in an industrial area and no one was working. Lots of folks are without power in that area too. Climate change is very real!
Our students are on Spring Break this week so it's really quiet on campus and lots of staff took time off this week making it even more quiet. There is only myself and 1 other staff member in our office today. It's kind of nice because since I was off last week so I've been able to just ease back in to things.
Tonight my kid is one of 4 students between 4th and 5th grades that was selected to be on the STEM team for a special contest tonight for the whole county. The team of 4 will compete against other elementary schools and it's sponsored by a local museum.
She is nervous, but we've told her we are super proud of her being selected and it's just a honor to get to go and represent the school.
Post by emilyinchile on Feb 28, 2024 9:37:59 GMT -5
sproctopus plan B: don't go inside, become a pastry chef.
gerberdaisy ugh those mornings are so hard! Like you know it's normal and they're probably over it 2 minutes later (aka as soon as a parent is no longer there to witness the performance), but it sticks with you for so long! I hope you can do something nice for yourself this morning and feel a little better.
bex1973, we set a heat record in STL yesterday for February - I think it was 86 - then it dropped literally 60 degrees overnight. I was really surprised we didn't get any storm activity - it was just like a burst of rain and then gusty wind. They say that Tornado Alley is shifting, which I find so interesting: www.scientificamerican.com/article/watch-out-tornado-alley-is-migrating-eastward/
Post by nancybotwin on Feb 28, 2024 9:42:21 GMT -5
gerberdaisy sending you hugs. Those drop offs are the worst. FWIW, I work in a school and those things happen more frequently than you think - and almost every time, they are just fine once they get to school. It’s always harder on the parent than the kid.
Last night DD1 had a meltdown that her best friend isn’t being nice to her, she doesn’t like any of her teachers, she isn’t going to be ready for high school, maybe all of her friend issues are because she is the problem. It was heartbreaking and also she wanted to talk after I had been trying to go to bed for 2 hours because I was exhausted, so I couldn’t invest myself in the conversation the way she wanted or needed. After 30 minutes I was like “gotta go. Love you. Go to bed.” I’m hoping she is feeling a little better this morning and that I can be more helpful for her.
The whole family is sick. I think it may be flu….we all got flu shots so hopefully it won’t be that bad. H is just getting over it, so he’s at work today. C and I are miserable and staying home. I have a big program review at work tomorrow so hopefully the rest today will help, because I HAVE to be there….but will definitely wear a mask no matter what.
Question for other soccer parents: C’s developmental soccer team has just started a thing where when practice is canceled due to weather or field conditions, the coaches send out 20-30 minutes worth of YouTube drills and skill work they are supposed to do at home, including a “video challenge” where we have to send in a video of him completing whatever it is (how many toe taps in a minute, how many tick-tocks in a minute, etc). Some of it can be done indoors maybe, but some of it like passing against a wall cannot. Guys, these kids are 8-9. If the weather is bad or fields are bad, that means our backyard isn’t suitable, so I have to drive my kid to the neighborhood tennis court and video him doing drills, potentially in the rain? Is this….normal?? I could 100% understand for older kids who can do this type of training without adult assistance, but for 8-9 year olds it seems excessive and is a big burden on parents to facilitate. But I think if we skip it altogether it will look like he’s indifferent to training or doesn’t want to work hard. Plus one of the coaches is C’s best friend’s dad, so I don’t want to complain too much..
I finished all the preparations for my sister's funeral, solo dolo. Program, flowers, collage, etc. All me. I am going to hide out in a hotel for the next two days in Manhattan. The funeral is on Saturday in Brooklyn. My phone is going on DND until then.
My first boyfriend from high school is actually meeting me in the city and providing "distraction," he says he wants to do all the fancy things we were never able to do as kids. It has been nice to reconnect despite the shitty circumstances.
Post by blondemoment123 on Feb 28, 2024 10:12:26 GMT -5
This is H's first month paying bills and he's shocked by how much things cost. Yes, the power bill has always been ~$200 month since we moved in 7 years ago. He was completely oblivious to these things since he never had to worry it.
I'm more excited than I should be for Chicago Fire's wedding tonight. I love that show lol
VillainV if the weather is so shitty the coach cancelled practice I'm not sending my kid outside to practice in our backyard. I'm certainly not driving them elsewhere to practice in the awful weather! They are 8-9 year olds! If I were you I'd have C do the ones he can indoors and call it good. If a coach questions you on it then explain. Otherwise KOKO.
VillainV, I'd be a big nope to the at home soccer practice! That's what we're paying the team for. Since you are friends with one of the coaches, can you mention that is a lot of work for parents to fit in? Maybe he doesn't realize it and you can prompt him to add "optional" to the emails.
So sorry, gerberdaisy. I know that's not the best way to start your day, and you are going to wonder all day if he's OK. I have been there with bad mornings before. Hopefully he will be fine when the day gets started.
It feels like a spring morning here in Central PA. 50 degrees but feels warmer, and thunderstorms. I am enjoying it.
H is going to some HS playoff basketball games tonight (no thank you) so DS and I are just going to chill and I might get takeout sushi and get him McDonald's. I cook on 99% of weeknights so this is exciting for me, haha.
I have a few things in my house that need looked at - a pipe that is leaking a tiny bit and a toilet that is hissing when it refills and taking a long time to fill up. I just messaged a company to make an appointment finally. I really wish my H would take the lead on this stuff but it's always me, the blessing of working from home. He doesn't care about the hissing toilet since he isn't using it all damn day.
VillainV if the weather is so shitty the coach cancelled practice I'm not sending my kid outside to practice in our backyard. I'm certainly not driving them elsewhere to practice in the awful weather! They are 8-9 year olds! If I were you I'd have C do the ones he can indoors and call it good. If a coach questions you on it then explain. Otherwise KOKO.
Yeah this! I'd only do the things that are doable at home and just skip the rest.
Post by litskispeciality on Feb 28, 2024 10:46:36 GMT -5
Oh @vicky I'm sending you the biggest hugs and so much strength. I know you'll be away, but let us know if we can do anything. Prayers to your whole family.
lavenderblue, all the good vibes and Care Bear Stares (that's my new thing, lol) for appraising at or above that number! No whammies!
Post by litskispeciality on Feb 28, 2024 10:50:47 GMT -5
Let me preface this that I grew up in a small town, and watched waaaay too much TV growing up, especially once I became a teenager and early 20's.
I got a wild hair to listen to Yellowcard's "Ocean Avenue" today, and it still holds up, however now I see why people didn't like the (constant) fiddle. Then I started thinking of 3 - 4 MTV shows that had a Yellowcard theme song (Laguna Beach, the one with in the sorority house I think etc.) I also heard trivia this morning where they talked about an Audrey, but my mind immediately went to Aubrey O'Day from Making the Band (pretty, pretty Aubrey). I was like damn, did I miss out by watching so much TV? lol
We also ran in to someone DH works with at a New Found Glory/Yellowcard show yeaaars ago and he's still "the guy from the Yellowcard show", lol. Apparently he doesn't even really like them, went with his wife.
Post by NewGirlNic on Feb 28, 2024 10:55:10 GMT -5
I ran out of body wash at some point last week. I've been using this kind of expensive stuff I fell in love with from Target (Saltair) and I decided to use up what I had in the linen closet and at least wait for a sale on the stuff I love. I won a basket at a raffle over the summer and it had a big bottle of (what I thought was) Dove body wash. I hate it and have been cursing it every time I shower. It doesn't lather and makes my skin feel like there is a residue on it. Well.... that is because it's fucking body lotion, not wash. LOL. I've been not washing myself in the shower for like the past 5-6 days. Thankfully I use a pH balanced "feminine" wash for that area. And I usually use H's antibacterial Dial bar soap on my underarms every couple days. So hopefully I'm not too gross. At least my skin is extra moisturized?
NewGirlNic that is too funny and is totally something I would do. Thank goodness my shampoo and condition are two different colored bottles, because without my glasses I can't see to read bottles in the shower and with my old brand I would routinely use my shampoo and conditioner out of order.
Ive had some sort of nasty cold since Thursday. Today is the first day I feel normal and I’m not snotting all over so I went back to the gym. Good God. I felt like I had never worked out a day in my life. And I’m in GOOD shape! Or I was 😩 I’ve gone 4-6 days a week for years and one freaking week makes me feel like I’m starting over.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Feb 28, 2024 11:13:29 GMT -5
Thank you for reminding me, i need an eye exam big time. And Joey needs his checkup too. He was due around when my dad died, and I’ve been dragging my feet bc I’m already overwhelmed with the big two being tested for autism, but he’s not talking as much as he should be. Ughhh
Also, Lucy has a billion little cavities from her braces. And David has one big one. We’re basically at the dentist every other Wednesday from here to eternity getting those dealt with. This is the crap I need help with.