I need some encouragement to start therapy again, I think. I've been really anxious lately and my fuse has been short. It just feels like one more annoying thing to add to my list to do, though. And it feels like such a commitment. But I need to remember I can just do a couple sessions if I want and pause when I'm feeling better. It looks like my previous therapist from Teladoc might be still available and I can request a visit. I just need to make myself do it...
DS1 (22 years old) and his long-term girlfriend (they've been together 3.5 years, lived together for 2) mutually broke up last night. I am so sad for them. They were really great together and we love her as our daughter. They just want very different things in life and realized it's better to rip the band-aid off now instead of prolonging things. This is his first real love and he's devastated. My heart hurts.
Oh, young love is both joyful and heartbreaking. Today’s 20 yo are so smart, though. So much more than my crowd at 20ish at least. Do you know who wanted what and the dealbreakers? Just curious what smart young people are discussing these days.
She wants to get married when she's done with college next year and start a family. DS is very much in the no children camp and is 50/50 on if he ever wants to get married. He made his feelings pretty well known in the beginning, and I think she was hoping he would change his mind. He's opened up to the idea of marriage, but is still firmly no to kids. It was both of them realizing that neither will change that made them decide to just separate now.
Post by litskispeciality on Apr 3, 2024 13:25:10 GMT -5
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(((mel))) I'm glad on one hand that they're so self aware to figure this out now, but also so sad for them. I won't say that he's young and can/will change his mind as I knew in my early 20's that I didn't want kids, and still don't have kids, but it's just so hard at that age to know for certain either way. Heck she might graduate college next year and realize she's got plenty of time for all of that stuff (if ever).
I met my DH (who is 6 years old) at 23 and he told me on our first date he was never getting married, and never having kids. I appreciated the honesty, especially to not take it further, but I felt some pressure to make sure I really didn't want kids, so I feel for both of them. May their paths collide later in life if it's meant to be, but for now big hugs to all.
I just heard a story on the radio, that younger folks are more open to Zoom dating now rather than meeting up in person because it's more efficient. I was mad at one of the hosts going on about what do young 20 somethings, maybe even early 30's have to do that they need to be time efficient rather than meet in person? Dude, they're:
1. Working full time, and probably even a second job or extra OT when possible to try to move out of their parents house. 2. As mentioned above they're more self-aware so they realize that dating is hard and can be time consuming, if you don't hit it off on Zoom you're home early and move on. 3. Personally I think it's safer (ala when we were told to meet in a public place) 4. It's way cheaper since the cheapest date I can think of for 2 people is maybe $30 at a coffee place, and you don't typically do that after work. 5. Plus read the aging parents threads, they might be helping family at younger and younger ages.
I can see the value in meeting up in a couple of dates as there is a huge physical element, but that doesn't have to come at the first date. Anyway, I'm happy I've never had to date (online) in this day and age as it seems like a PITA.
Hmmm. I have a couple jackets with varying degrees of belly panels, and maybe my pup is just extra splashy, but I don’t notice a difference.
It may just be a height thing. Both of my dogs are about knee high to me, so their bellies are over a foot from the ground. Your dog can't help but be in the splash zone! I usually just have to towel off heads, tails and paws.
Thanks litskispeciality. It's very mature of them to have this hard conversation now than to deal with it when their feelings are further along. I'm proud of both of them.
Interestingly enough, they met through an online dating service and were "long distance" (they lived an hour apart from each other before they moved in together) for the first year of their relationship. She completed her associates degree at a community college, then transferred to the college DS went to to get her bachelor's degree. That's when they decided it made more sense to move in together.
Besides natural disasters and apocalyptic extreme events, I think yesterday and today have been the two worst weathers days I can ever remember. It’s is so cold and wet 😫
I got little sleep last night. I just kept picturing Steve and Dante at Enterprise and wanting to pop their little heads off for giving us the run around for a hour yesterday. Still no rental, but DH is WFH, so I have his truck. Then I get to leave early, get him, go to another Enterprise and cross everything they have a car like they said they would.
Not sure what the run around is, but in my dealing with trying to get a rental for a not at fault accident, the issue is solely with the other party’s insurance. (Also) Enterprise has been perfectly pleasant and helpful in dealing with the insurance.
Post by arehopsveggies on Apr 3, 2024 14:59:19 GMT -5
I am waiting at a Dr appointment that I’ve been stressed about for months. Maybe this one will magically figure out why my hands haven’t worked in almost a decade? They said to expect lots of labs today, so I hope I don’t feel gross from blood draws because it’s a 2 hour drive home.
On the garden talk- DH says he is starting our seeds today. We usually buy starters but that is so expensive! Last year was so dry we got nothing from our garden. The Easter Bunny brought several new types of cucumber seeds because that’s all the kids care about- lots and lots of cucumber
I got little sleep last night. I just kept picturing Steve and Dante at Enterprise and wanting to pop their little heads off for giving us the run around for a hour yesterday. Still no rental, but DH is WFH, so I have his truck. Then I get to leave early, get him, go to another Enterprise and cross everything they have a car like they said they would.
Not sure what the run around is, but in my dealing with trying to get a rental for a not at fault accident, the issue is solely with the other party’s insurance. (Also) Enterprise has been perfectly pleasant and helpful in dealing with the insurance.
It’s my insurance! I’m going though them and they’re dealing with the other insurance company. They sent it to enterprise who didn’t have any cars, but I guess didn’t feel the need to tell me before I showed up.
I do have a car now because I found another enterprise who did have customer service.
They’re here! Meet Fiona and Zoe. They explored their new home about, ate, and are now zonked out.
OMG such cute little balls of fluffy terror 🤗😻 I love their names 💕
I have a funny cat story to share in honor of this momentous occasion. I have shared many stories about orange cat (aka Thor, twerp, fluffy butt, fruitloop) and how he is too smart for his own good. You might recall that I posted a few months ago about him stealing the kitchen towels to make himself a cozy little den under the kitchen sink. Welp, he found a cozier spot.
Context: H and I do our own laundry. I leave my clean clothes piled in a laundry basket in the bedroom. He leaves his shirts neatly laid out on the dryer and the rest semi-organized in a basket on the washer. (I'm sure you can see where this is going lol.)
So the twerp knows he is not allowed to sleep in H's laundry. H covers the shirts with an old shirt he doesn't care for and covers the basket with an old but still usable towel. This worked for about two days. Until my precocious orange fluffball discovered he can move things 🙀 ETA: We've been using this system for years and always gently remove the cat from the laundry when we catch him. He def knows.
Today, H went to grab workout clothes and noticed his socks were everywhere. No sign of the cat. Hmmm... he was annoyed but said he just needed to be better about folding his laundry. He goes to pull back the towel from the basket and jumps back with a WHAT THE FUCK. I jump up because I immediately thought COCKROACH. But no. Our little orange goofball had managed to crawl into the basket without disturbing the towel and was fast asleep, snuggled up in H's socks and shorts 😹
Post by mysteriouswife on Apr 3, 2024 18:07:10 GMT -5
Fast fashion is making it difficult for me to find quality pieces for my new job. I want something that will last me years and not break the bank. Being plus size has added to the difficulty. I’m going to a thrift shop tomorrow with hopes to find one more blazer and a few more pairs of pants.
Also why are there a million options for brown slides? Just give me 3 choices and I’ll be happy.
Besides natural disasters and apocalyptic extreme events, I think yesterday and today have been the two worst weathers days I can ever remember. It’s is so cold and wet 😫
My nephew bought me tickets to the Phillies game. They pushed it back from 1:10 to 4:05, and when we left at 6:30, it was POURING. We decided to chance it and hope they reschedule for tomorrow
Besides natural disasters and apocalyptic extreme events, I think yesterday and today have been the two worst weathers days I can ever remember. It’s is so cold and wet 😫
My nephew bought me tickets to the Phillies game. They pushed it back from 1:10 to 4:05, and when we left at 6:30, it was POURING. We decided to chance it and hope they reschedule for tomorrow
I heard the first pitch was supposedly 8 but it’s still AWFUL out. And it’s freezing! There was this crazy rumor there is a wedding at CBP tomorrow so they couldn’t have a game but that turned out to be fake news. Fingers crossed they postpone until tomorrow!
Post by maudefindlay on Apr 3, 2024 18:52:17 GMT -5
DS1 continues trolling my music playlist. On the way home from track tonight streaming Pandora and the Simple Minds song Don't You came on. The album cover was on the display.
DS1: That guy looks like you'd break up with him and he'd turn up on your doorstep at 1am for forgiveness.
Many years ago we had a small committee that was geared towards recommendations for tech for the next school year and beyond. We had an amazing time coming up with an acronym for our little team. We landed on Working Toward the Future: WTF. That acronym was spot on.
Post by litskispeciality on Apr 4, 2024 9:09:11 GMT -5
beerlover, I know I'm a broken record with this lately, but the advice (from here) to talk to your EAP has been a big help. I was able to get 5 free sessions. I didn't completely jive so I'm going to hold off paying OOP. Other advice here said there may be another way to get more sessions covered for less money, or free. Either way that might be a good toe in the water in you don't have someone you want to work with. Wishing you luck with that journey either way, you deserve to take care of yourself.
lavenderblue, I hope the kittens had a great first night. I want to kitten sit!
litskispeciality, my insurance uses Teladoc so I can do virtual therapy, which I did before for about a year. It looks like I can request an appointment with my previous therapist, who I liked, so I'll do that. Maybe. As soon as I stop being a baby about not wanting to do this, LOL.
Went to Disney’s Magic Kingdom yesterday and had a ball with the kids. However, it was stressful as the family planner to always be “on” when booking rides, meals, etc. It seemed that everyone walking by was always on their phone (doing the same things), which is what I try to avoid on vacay—but couldn’t there.
It totally made me feel “back in my day…” type of old 😂
Post by litskispeciality on Apr 4, 2024 12:23:42 GMT -5
beerlover, Not a baby at all. It can be scary, it's overwhelming etc. I posted before I even understand the reason for an intake apt, but IME having to do a call to request, explaining your needs, then an intake, once again going over the same info, only to finally book a freaking apt only adds to the overall stress of getting started. I don't have a lot of free time, so losing, and paying for at least 2 hours extra isn't a good thing. Anyway, you've got a great plan and that's probably 75% of the way already.
Went to Disney’s Magic Kingdom yesterday and had a ball with the kids. However, it was stressful as the family planner to always be “on” when booking rides, meals, etc. It seemed that everyone walking by was always on their phone (doing the same things), which is what I try to avoid on vacay—but couldn’t there.
It totally made me feel “back in my day…” type of old 😂
We did this 2 years ago with my kids and I felt the same way. It was mentally and physically exhausting, which is not really what I want out of a vacation. Kids were little (3 and 7) and they did ok but were scared on a lot of the rides and also exhausted which meant grumpy and whiney. I swore I won’t go back until they are teenagers LOL.
We are in FL this week too and went to Sea World today and had an awesome day! The weather was freaking amazing today. We fly home tomorrow to snow on the ground and I don’t want to go back to the cold. 😭