This. Fucking. Guy

[starburst604]

I feel like I am writing about somebody else’s life. So I let STBX know a few days ago that I would be gone tonight and tomorrow night. I have made some plans with friends, including going into the Boston for marathon Monday tomorrow. This afternoon when I was packing up, he said to me that he was thinking of boarding our dogs for the next two nights. I got pretty pissed considering he has been away the last five nights and I have handled both the dogs and DD all that time and now he can’t be responsible for them for 2 nights? I know based on past occurrences that his girlfriend likely does not have her kids tonight and that’s why he wants to be free to sleep over there. Before I left, I asked him if if he was going to board the dogs and he said no. I figured the boarding place must have been booked and he was SOL. I continued over to a local friend’s house for a Masters tournament party. After that, I was going to drive an hour north to stay with the friends I’m going out with tomorrow, but I needed to stop home to grab something I forgot first. When I got home, he was gone and so were my dogs. That man took my dogs to his girlfriend’s house. MY BABIES are snuggling this woman right now because they are sweet and love everyone. I knew from looking at her social media that she either had or has the same kind of Golden we have, so she’s big dog friendly.

I am both of my dog’s person and I’m highly offended by this. His shame knows NO bounds.

[ssmjlm]

I will fly to Boston and help with whatever “ahem” things you need to deal with him.

Your poor dogs.

[maudefindlay]

I'm so sorry, that would really stink. I imagine there will be more future hurts when he starts taking your DD around her:( I'm glad you are getting out and having fun with friends, that will be good for your heart.

[starburst604]

Joke is on her when they start whining at 6 AM to be fed and let out. He won’t be getting up for that, he never has.

[flygirl]

He sucks.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I hope they take an out-of-character shit in every one of their shoes.

[starburst604]

Apr 14, 2024 21:08:42 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

I hope they take an out-of-character shit in every one of their shoes.

We have a bag of these freeze dried chicken treats that goes untouched because they give Benny the shits. If I had known where they were going, I would have given him a couple of handfuls.

[livinitup]

I want you to write this injustice down on an index card or in the Notes section of your phone - with the date & details & how it made you feel. And then anytime you choose to do something for yourself, something inconvenient for him, something slightly expensive or even something selfish - I want you to READ it. Over & over again.

Read it and do what’s best for you. Because this piece of shit sure does.

[vicky]

Doggie barf everywhere. EVERYWHERE.

[followyourarrow]

This would piss me off greatly. Do not mess with my babies!

[pugz]

I just caught up on everything from the last few weeks. Hugs to you starburst604

[court26]

Wow. I’m so sorry. What a jerk.

[sonrisa]

I’m sorry he’s an asshole.

Clearly I’d make a terrible dog mom because my first assumption was that a weekend with someone they know and someone else who loves dogs would be much better for them than being sent to a dog boarding situation. Not knowing better, I was pissed at the original plan (if he had dumped them at a Kennel just to have a sleepover). So I was reading all indignant for the wrong reasons,until I got to the end. 🤣

[sparkythelawyer]

Ugh, fuck his fucking face.

[cville]

I hope your dogs crap on her rug.

[jlt19]

I hope her house still smells like her old dog and they mark the hell out of it.

[bex1973]

Every single time you share something new that douche did I want to punch him in the nuts. HARD PUNCH

[bcv513]

I don’t want to wish your dogs sickness but a quick stomach virus would be wonderful

[konapoppy]

Is he shirking taking care of your DD too?

I totally get how on the surface someone might not think this is so bad, yet it seems to be yet another example of him doing what is best for him instead of putting others’ needs first.

[TR]

I’m glad he didn’t board them, but I’m sorry you have to think about them cuddling up with someone else.

[starburst604]

Apr 15, 2024 20:09:58 GMT -5 TR said:

I’m glad he didn’t board them, but I’m sorry you have to think about them cuddling up with someone else.

They actually love the boarding place, they play endlessly with the other dogs. My point to him was it was dumb to pay for boarding when he could just not be selfish for once and stay home since I would be gone, or go there and not spend the night. But no, he HAD to sleep over the girlfriend’s.

It just felt really personal to bring our dogs there, not quite like her meeting DD but close! He actually has since apologized for it, I laid into him pretty hard about it. I’m at the end of my rope with living in the same house.

[starburst604]

Apr 15, 2024 20:00:36 GMT -5 konapoppy said:

Is he shirking taking care of your DD too?

I totally get how on the surface someone might not think this is so bad, yet it seems to be yet another example of him doing what is best for him instead of putting others’ needs first.

No he hasn’t been shirking care of DD, so far. I guess maybe I need to look at the silver lining here. He had said he was unwilling to keep one of the dogs if I couldn’t find a place to have 2 of them. I assume because he wants to be able to come and go as he pleases when he doesn’t have DD and having to care for the dog will tie him down. At least if she is OK with him bringing a dog around, it might make him more amenable to keeping one if needed. But I am really, really hoping that will not be the case and I can keep them both.

[mysteriouswife]

I’m sorry he did this. I know all of these feelings are new and the wounds are fresh. I hope in a few weeks you can accept that he’s a grade a douche and his actions aren’t about you. Once you are able to have peace and find his behavior for what it is you will be in a better position. Give yourself grace and time.

[mysteriouswife]

So happy to hear your DD wasn’t with him. ❤️