Post by followyourarrow on Apr 15, 2024 10:13:37 GMT -5
There is a group project due next weekend for my study abroad class. I partnered with someone who is in the same field as me and we took a topic that is related to our field. A fellow student wasn't able to find a group, so we invited her to join our group. She's taken over! On one hand I now have significantly less work to do, but on the other I'm annoyed that's she's taken over the project we created and she don't even have experience in this field.
Post by Wallflower on Apr 15, 2024 10:31:53 GMT -5
Rough weekend, with one of my cats ending up in the e-vet ICU. I think we'll get him through this crisis, but that's not guaranteed. And long-term prognosis is not great. So, I'm dealing with lots of sadz today.
Post by dancingnancy on Apr 15, 2024 10:40:05 GMT -5
DD (15yo) and I leave for Ireland Friday night. I am so excited but my anxiety is tapping on my shoulder with things like “What if something happens to you and DD has no one there to help?” Grrrr….
I just have to say that I really appreciate the kind words and suggestions from so many posters yesterday. You guys are the best!
My puppy was attacked by a dog 2 weeks ago while we were on a walk and today her staples can come out and she can lose the cone and maybe sleep again! Poor pup all around, but my goodness, she chewed almost through 2 cones, a body suit and couldn’t stand the inflatable donut. It’s been rough. She’s been doing well on walks and seeing other dogs so I called to reschedule meet and greet at a doggy daycare. I called today to check on the status of the police report I filed and I have to call back Wednesday.
Post by bugmeetsworld on Apr 15, 2024 10:57:00 GMT -5
The Boston Marathon runs through our city, so we went to watch that this morning. Marathon Monday is my favorite day of the year! I think I’m finally going to run it next year. I’ve been running consistently for the past two years and ran two half marathons in 2023, so I think I’m ready.
Post by lavenderblue on Apr 15, 2024 11:06:09 GMT -5
Ugh. I feel so bad for my daughter. She is a Junior and does Virtual School through our District. Prom tickets are sold at lunch in the high school, so of course, she was not there to buy them. I emailed the school today and apparently the cut off to buy tickets was this past Friday and they won't make an exception. This stinks.
Ugh. I feel so bad for my daughter. She is a Junior and does Virtual School through our District. Prom tickets are sold at lunch in the high school, so of course, she was not there to buy them. I emailed the school today and apparently the cut off to buy tickets was this past Friday and they won't make an exception. This stinks.
I'd go to the school in person and demand better resolution than that. That's ridiculous.
I just put my 4th grader on a bus for a week away. It's days, 4 nights with kids from many other schools whom they've never met before, as the only gender non-conforming kid on the trip and possibly the first trans/gnc person the other kids have ever met. After a weekend with some gender dysphoria incidents, and then layer in their neurodiversity.
It's a school trip and they really wanted to go. So we let them. But I'm silently freaking out over here. Please let this week go well.
ETA: Apparently I jinxed things it sounds like their bus is stuck because protesters have shut down the Golden Gate Bridge.
Post by midwestmama on Apr 15, 2024 11:16:57 GMT -5
DS hit a homerun (his 2nd ever) during the scrimmage game he and his team played on Saturday. He was pretty excited about it because they were playing on a high school field. He also did well when he played catcher - he blocked well and definitely prevented a few runs from happening. I am just thrilled that he finally found a position that he loves.
Too much of a long story to tell, but there was teen drama over the weekend, and our neighbor got us involved because our kids are in the same grade, but one of the outcomes of becoming involved was finding out that DS was left out of a sleepover. DS seemed ok about it, but I'm sure he was at least somewhat bummed that he was left out. Assuming that he is deemed as not popular enough or not cool enough to have been included. (DH and I don't care much for popularity, and neither of us was popular in high school, and not being in the popular crowd might mean less opportunity for being in not good situations.) This is where I do miss having younger kids (e.g., toddlers/preschoolers) - so much less emotional energy spent as a parent. I would have much rather had a toddler/preschooler this weekend and watched Bluey and played outside than deal with the teen drama and stressing about my kid feeling/being left out.
Thank you! Filling out my FAFSA so I can apply to a business program in CUNY right now. I made so many good connections last week to open my bakery next year - hopefully I can fast track an 18month program because I already have my ba. IDK if anyone has been following my IG, I changed it to buttahdreamnyc, I posted a bunch of pics on my story. Learned how to set up a breadline, found a bakery equipment supplier, got potential future investors, etc.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Apr 15, 2024 11:33:11 GMT -5
sonrisa - wishing them many safe and happy thoughts - I hope they have a great week.
Our 9yo has been expressing more gender non-conformity and current obsession is getting his ears pierced. I ordered some magnetic earrings to try out to see how he likes them. He is also neurodivergent and just very sensitive and I'm so worried about sending him into the world and how he will cope if people are jerks.
And 14 yo has been dealing with friendship stuff again. She wants a bff so bad and just isn't making a sustainable deep connection with anyone. Someone who she thought was that person ditched her a few weeks back. I finally convinced her to reach out to her and it seems like that friend is going through a parallel process with her own mental health and friendship stuff. Hopefully this helps them on a path forward.
My H and I are both in the office today, and our dog was SO SAD this morning. He knew we were both getting ready to leave and he put himself back in his kennel twice. We actually don't kennel him when we leave - we just shut him in a bedroom so he has more space - but he seemed to just want to sulk. Little tiny tail wags and a sad face. Way to lay on the guilt, doggie! He was totally fine once I offered him a walk, of course.
Maybe he likes being in the kennel when you leave? Our youngest dog sometimes will go in the crate and if I leave even if my husband is working upstairs. I just go with it; if she hops in the crate, I’ll lock her in and she just settles in.
I’ve left our oldest dog loose because she has never bothered anything and I realized she hates it. I came home a couple times and she met me at the door then walked me to her crate like “you left this unlocked!!” I think they feel more secure in the crate than loose. Maybe because that was the routine when they were first with us? I would have thought they’d like more space (we do have some rooms blocked off) but apparently not.
Dogs are weird
It's possible! He does sleep in it with the door closed overnight (so that we don't have issues between him and the cat) and he doesn't seem to mind it much. We usually leave him in the bedroom with the crate door open, so he can go in there if he wants to use it as a bed. I just hate to lock him in there while we're gone since that's so much crate time in addition to overnights!
Post by fluffycookie on Apr 15, 2024 11:38:27 GMT -5
DS is doing the online drivers ed and I guess I thought it was more classroom led instruction. Instead it's a half an hour at the beginning of each module with the instructor and then self taught/read modules. I love him but he's a slow reader so he's only halfway thru the 2nd out of 3 modules for today and it needs to be completed by tonight. At least he got a 95 on the first module so I know he's paying attention.
First he tried to justify why he thinks it’s okay to say hateful things, and then when I told him I wasn’t having it he hung up on me. And then this morning he called (which I didn’t take because I’m holding my boundary around calls during work hours) and left a voicemail like everything was normal 🙄
I didn’t expect him to apologize, but I was secretly hoping he would stop calling me for a while and maybe take it as a reason to re-engage with some other family members. I guess I’ll have to wait and see if anything actually changes.
Yesterday I finally set some boundaries with my dad and told him I’m done listening to all the hateful shit he says. I’ve long been afraid to do so because he has a mental illness and I’m his only support person. The words came out of my mouth before I knew what was happening, but damn it felt good.
vicky I’m not around here much anymore, but it’s good to see you back!
hi! i'm sorry about the shitty dad stuff. i hope he takes what you said to heart.
Post by 1confused1 on Apr 15, 2024 11:58:39 GMT -5
Help me make a decision, tomorrow is my birthday and I’m debating asking for the day off. I just want to sleep in and chill. Is that a dumb reason to take a vacation day?
Help me make a decision, tomorrow is my birthday and I’m debating asking for the day off. I just want to sleep in and chill. Is that a dumb reason to take a vacation day?
Absolutely not dumb. I try to take my birthday off every year as a little gift to myself.
Ugh. I feel so bad for my daughter. She is a Junior and does Virtual School through our District. Prom tickets are sold at lunch in the high school, so of course, she was not there to buy them. I emailed the school today and apparently the cut off to buy tickets was this past Friday and they won't make an exception. This stinks.
If the committee is selling tickets at lunch then it is a school sponsored event or at the least school sanctioned. Therefore, the school failed to anticipate and accommodate all learners - as in the Virtual School. So, your request to purchase a ticket (after the cut off date) should be addressed and approved. I would NOT take a “no” from whomever answered my email. I would only take a no, in writing, from the superintendent of schools.
Of course they can make an exception and sell your daughter 1-2 tickets. Of course they can. It’s a matter of how can they do it. Jeez.
We saw Come From Away last night. It was so moving. I knew a little bit about it, but wow, what a special show. I wish more shows would eschew intermission and just keep driving. [?
I recently read The Day the World Came to Town for my book club. It made me want to see this play!
The book club was interesting because it has women in their mid-late 20s through late 40s, and we all had such different memories of 9/11.
wildrice my 5 year old dog wants to be crated at night. She’s restless otherwise. It’s weird but easy enough for us to do.
1confused1, take the day off! I usually take a least a half day on my birthday to be lazy or take myself to lunch or a pedicure or something.
lavenderblue, I am not a person to make waves generally, but I would not accept that answer. Did the school send notifications to all students that Friday was the last day to buy tickets? Who did you speak to at the school? I would go higher. I'm sorry this happened.
The nice weather is really improving my mood and making me more productive. Too bad by Wednesday and Thursday it'll be 60 degrees and raining again.
Thanks. I'm not normally one to cause a stir, especially for my kids because I tend to try and let them handle their own stuff, but I am so devastated for my daughter over all of this. I fully admit our fault for not thinking about this sooner, but like I said, nothing in the emails about Prom said anything about tickets so it just didn't even cross my mind until this weekend.
I did end up emailing the Principal and didn't get a response fast enough for my liking so I forwarded my email to the Superintendent hoping for resolution and while she has responded, so far it has only been to ask who I have already reached out to, but if she had scrolled down she would have seen that I forwarded her the entire email chain. I checked all of my email correspondence regarding the Prom and couldn't find anywhere that they listed a cutoff date for buying tickets. To make matters more complicated, my daughters boyfriend attends a different school and they require a form signed off by HIS principal in order for him to go, but the form was only available for pickup in school. Ugh. This is such a cluster.
We've started doing a "family meeting" over dinner on Sunday nights to chat about what the upcoming week looks like for everyone and it's really been quite helpful. Let's us all get on the same page and everyone knows what to expect.
Maybe he likes being in the kennel when you leave? Our youngest dog sometimes will go in the crate and if I leave even if my husband is working upstairs. I just go with it; if she hops in the crate, I’ll lock her in and she just settles in.
I’ve left our oldest dog loose because she has never bothered anything and I realized she hates it. I came home a couple times and she met me at the door then walked me to her crate like “you left this unlocked!!” I think they feel more secure in the crate than loose. Maybe because that was the routine when they were first with us? I would have thought they’d like more space (we do have some rooms blocked off) but apparently not.
Dogs are weird
It's possible! He does sleep in it with the door closed overnight (so that we don't have issues between him and the cat) and he doesn't seem to mind it much. We usually leave him in the bedroom with the crate door open, so he can go in there if he wants to use it as a bed. I just hate to lock him in there while we're gone since that's so much crate time in addition to overnights!
I don’t think being crated that much different than being confined to one room tbh as long as they feel ok and the crate is the right size.
I don’t know, whatever works! But if he keeps climbing in there when you are getting ready to go he might be trying to give you a hint. I don’t think they think about crates the way we do.
The 50th anniversary thread has me wondering if any of my friends will make it to a big milestone anniversary like that. I only have 2 married friends and know one couple considering marriage. The majority of my friends are happily single (myself included), others are in a long term relationship but aren't interested in marriage. I'm not sure if we're anomalies or if the unmarried life is becoming more common.
I am so mad. I just got done at my annual with my OB/GYN and the medical group is forcing her (and others in the system) into retirement, largely because she's not profitable enough. And do you know why that is? Because she is the best doctor I have EVER had. She takes an hour with every patient, which obviously is not what the hospital wants her to be doing, orders comprehensive tests, calls us with test results after hours and on the weekend. She sees me, my mom, my cousin and my aunt - who hadn't seen an OB in 20 YEARS previously because she was so uncomfortable. She diagnosed my hypothyroid before anyone else. Every doctor I currently see is because she recommended them. My previous GYN, who was the head of the department, apparently also retired. She said she's too old to start another practice so she's going to go into women's advocacy - something my state sorely needs - and volunteer with clinics. I fucking hate end-stage capitalism.